GurlSeeksTribe Podcast

GST EP. 9 Burnout Culture and Break Revelations with Gary L. Davis

We talk a lot about rest like it's something we can take whenever, but this episode is about the other kind — the burnout that doesn't ask politely. The kind that makes you stop, break down, and rebuild yourself from the ground up. GST sits down with Gary Lamont Davis — People and Inclusion Strategist and founder of Equanimity, a wellness community for BIPOC professionals — for an honest conversation about burnout and the revelations waiting on the other side of the break. For so many of us — especially those who've spent a lifetime code-switching, over-functioning, and holding it all together for everyone else — burnout isn't a buzzword. It's a breaking point. But sometimes the break is also the breakthrough. Sometimes you have to fall apart to find out who you actually are underneath all that performing. IN THIS EPISODE, WE EXPLORE: * What burnout actually looks like (beyond "I'm tired") * The break that forced a reckoning * Why high-achievers and helpers burn out hardest * The revelations that only come when you finally stop * How Equanimity was born from the journey * Rebuilding on your own terms — and what grounds you now If you've ever pushed yourself past empty trying to be everything for everyone, this conversation is for you. Connect with Gary at: healingisahabit.substack.com [http://healingisahabit.substack.com]  gary.davis@equanimity.work CONNECT WITH GURLSEEKSTRIBE: Website: www.gurlseekstribe.com Email: gurlseekstribenyc@proton.me  Instagram: @gurlseekstribe TikTok: @gurlseekstribe SUBSCRIBE: Never miss an episode. New episodes bi-weekly. Your story belongs here.  Subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you listen. JOIN THE TRIBE: Visit gurlseekstribe.com to join our community, attend workshops, and connect with others seeking their tribe.  This episode includes AI-generated content.

GST EP. 7.5 Where I've Been (A Letter to the Tribe)

Life has been LIFE-ing. Before the return episode with Chelsea, GurlSeeksTribe host Afiya aka Alja sat down and recorded a few honest minutes about where she's been these last couple of months. It didn't make the original edit — but it always belonged to the tribe. So here it is. This is the first letter to the tribe — a laid-back, occasional community post in a format that feels more like a voice note than a full-on conversation. Consider it a personal audio from the host in between the bigger conversations.  In this letter, Alja lets us know where she's been for the last few months, what she's learned about relationships in the silence, and what she hopes to explore with GST soon.  No guest. No polish. No over-explaining. Just a check-in, tribe to tribe. Tell us what you think about this check-in, then --> LISTEN NEXT: → GST EP 7: "The Relief of Being Understood" Part 1 (w/ Chelsea Marquis) → GST EP 8: "The Relief of Being Understood" Part 2 (w/ Chelsea Marquis) → COMING TUESDAY: "Burnout Break Revelations" (w/ Gary Lamont Davis) CONNECT WITH GURLSEEKSTRIBE: Website: www.gurlseekstribe.com Email: gurlseekstribenyc@proton.me  Instagram: @gurlseekstribe TikTok: @gurlseekstribe SUBSCRIBE: Never miss an episode. New episodes bi-weekly. Your story belongs here.  Subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you listen. JOIN THE TRIBE: Visit gurlseekstribe.com to join our community, attend workshops, and connect with others seeking their tribe.  This episode includes AI-generated content.

GST EP 8. "The Relief of Being Understood" Part 2 w. Special Guest Chelsea M

We're continuing our conversation with Honorary Tribe Member Chelsea Marquis in Part 2 of "The Relief of Being Understood." In Part 1, we talked about the difference between being "understood" and being "tolerated" — and the pain of being fooled by someone who you thought got you but really didn't. Now, in Part 2, we go deeper into the RELIEF. What it actually feels like when someone truly sees you. How to recognize your Vivaldi people when you find them. And what it means to BE that relief for someone else. If you haven't listened to Part 1 yet, both parts dropped today — go back and start there. This conversation builds. IN PART 2, WE EXPLORE: * The relief of being understood — what it actually feels like * Finding your people who just GET it (without explanation) * How to recognize your Vivaldi people * What it means to be someone else's relief * Advice for those still searching for their people * Tribe Scribes: Rapid-fire with Chelsea This is the conversation we wish we'd had years ago. We're so glad you're here for it. CHELSEA'S PREVIOUS GST EPISODES: GST EP 4 "When You're Too Little and Too Much at the Same Time" Part 1 [https://www.spreaker.com/episode/gst-ep-4-when-you-re-too-much-and-too-little-at-the-same-time-part-1-w-special-guest-chelsea-m--70292520] GST EP 5 "When You're Too Little and Too Much at the Same Time" Part 2 [https://www.spreaker.com/episode/gst-ep-5-when-you-re-too-much-and-too-little-at-the-same-time-part-2-w-special-guest-chelsea-m--70292945] GST EP 6 "The Exhaustion of Explaining Yourself" [https://www.spreaker.com/episode/gst-ep-6-the-exhaustion-of-explaining-yourself-w-special-guest-chelsea-m--70575789] GST EP 7: "The Relief of Being Understood" Part 1 [https://www.spreaker.com/episode/gst-ep-7-the-relief-of-being-understood-part-1-w-special-guest-chelsea-m--72373054] CONNECT WITH GURLSEEKSTRIBE: Website: www.gurlseekstribe.com Email: gurlseekstribenyc@proton.me  Instagram: @gurlseekstribe TikTok: @gurlseekstribe SUBSCRIBE: Never miss an episode. New episodes bi-weekly. Your story belongs here.  Subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you listen. JOIN THE TRIBE: Visit gurlseekstribe.com to join our community, attend workshops, and connect with others seeking their tribe.  This episode includes AI-generated content.

GST EP 7. "The Relief of Being Understood" Part 1 w. Special Guest Chelsea M

GurlSeeksTribe makes its return, with a new conversation with Honorary Tribe Member Chelsea Marquis, who joins GST for yet another conversation about something that feels more real than we can put into words.  Continuing from our last chat on "The Exhaustion of Explaining Yourself," or the burnout of constantly translating who you are for people who just... don't get it, we dig into the RELIEF of finally being understood. You know, the moment when someone just GETS it. Straight recognition without much explanation. If you've ever been tired of feeling like you always have to explain - and craving the relief of being truly seen, then this two-part episode is for you.  In Part 1, WE EXPLORE:  * A quick check-in with Chelsea to see where she's been * What it means to be "understood" vs. "tolerated."  * Being "Fooled" by someone's understanding nature * The Vivaldi moment - when someone finally understands Be sure to listen on for Part 2 of this thoughtful conversation  CHELSEA'S FIRST EPISODE: GST EP 4 "When You're Too Little and Too Much at the Same Time" Part 1 [https://www.spreaker.com/episode/gst-ep-4-when-you-re-too-much-and-too-little-at-the-same-time-part-1-w-special-guest-chelsea-m--70292520] GST EP 5 "When You're Too Little and Too Much at the Same Time" Part 2 [https://www.spreaker.com/episode/gst-ep-5-when-you-re-too-much-and-too-little-at-the-same-time-part-2-w-special-guest-chelsea-m--70292945] GST EP 6 "The Exhaustion of Explaining Yourself" [https://www.spreaker.com/episode/gst-ep-6-the-exhaustion-of-explaining-yourself-w-special-guest-chelsea-m--70575789] CONNECT WITH CHELSEA MARQUIS: @Chelz_222  CONNECT WITH GURLSEEKSTRIBE: Website: www.gurlseekstribe.com Email: gurlseekstribenyc@proton.me  Instagram: @gurlseekstribe TikTok: @gurlseekstribe SUBSCRIBE: Never miss an episode. New episodes bi-weekly. Your story belongs here.  Subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you listen. JOIN THE TRIBE: Visit gurlseekstribe.com to join our community, attend workshops, and connect with others seeking their tribe.  This episode includes AI-generated content.

GST EP 6. "The Exhaustion of Explaining Yourself" w. Special Guest Chelsea M.

Chelsea Marquis returns to GurlSeeksTribe to discuss the weight we carry when we're constantly explaining who we are. From family who should know us by now, to friends and peers who still don't quite get it, and to our colleagues and strangers who expect us to translate ourselves into something more digestible. This episode is about that exhaustion. The toll of translation. The burnout of always being the one who has to make themselves understood. If you've ever felt like you needed to take a break from explaining yourself because you're just so damn tired, well, this episode sees you. WE EXPLORE: - The burnout of explaining yourself over and over - The toll of constant code-switching and translation - What gets lost when you're always making yourself palatable - How to protect your energy when you're depleted - Finding pockets of rest in the exhaustion - Permission to stop explaining CHELSEA'S FIRST EPISODE: → "When You're Too Much and Too Little" Part 1 [Link [https://www.spreaker.com/episode/gst-ep-4-when-you-re-too-much-and-too-little-at-the-same-time-part-1-w-special-guest-chelsea-m--70292520]] → "When You're Too Much and Too Little" Part 2 [Link [https://www.spreaker.com/episode/gst-ep-5-when-you-re-too-much-and-too-little-at-the-same-time-part-2-w-special-guest-chelsea-m--70292945]] CONNECT WITH CHELSEA MARQUIS: @Chelz_222 CONNECT WITH GURLSEEKSTRIBE: Website: www.gurlseekstribe.com Email: gurlseekstribenyc@proton.me  Instagram: @gurlseekstribe TikTok: @gurlseekstribe SUBSCRIBE: Never miss an episode. New episodes bi-weekly. Your story belongs here.  Subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you listen. JOIN THE TRIBE: Visit gurlseekstribe.com to join our community, attend workshops, and connect with others seeking their tribe.  This episode includes AI-generated content.