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Decoding Attachment Styles

Podcast by Annalisa Bahadur

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About Decoding Attachment Styles

Why you keep picking the same fights. Why you feel so needy or so smothered. Let's talk about why your relationships play out the way they do, and what you can actually do about it.I’m your host, Annalisa Bahadur. I have a psychology degree, I’m a coach, and most importantly, I’ve been in the trenches. I used to have major anxious attachment. I know what it's like to feel that constant anxiety, to need reassurance, to feel like the relationship is always on the brink of collapse.But I did the work to move toward secure. And I’m now almost five years into a happy, stable relationship with a recovering avoidant. I’m not talking theory from a textbook. I’m talking about what actually worked for me and my clients.This podcast is about attachment theory, stripped down to the basics. No fluff, no fancy language. Just straight talk about how your early wiring affects your adult relationships.In each episode, we break down the four attachment styles - Secure, Anxious, Avoidant, and Fearful-Avoidant. We'll look at how they show up in your dating life, your friendships, and even at work. You'll hear real stories and get practical steps you can use right now.We focus on two main tools: empathy and boundaries.Empathy to understand why you and the people you love act the way they do.Boundaries to protect your own energy and stop cycles of drama and hurt.This isn't about blaming your parents or your exes. It's about giving you a roadmap to better relationships. You'll learn how to identify your patterns, communicate what you really need, and build connections that feel solid, not stressful.If you're tired of the same old problems and you're ready for real change, you're in the right place.Bonus- every Thursday you'll have a chance to listen in on real people as they share their struggles as I coach them through their challenges. Each individual has agreed to have these session recorded using a pseudonym, and aired for your benefit.

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88 episodes
episode What to Look For In The First 90 Days Of Dating artwork

What to Look For In The First 90 Days Of Dating

I wish someone had told me this when I first started dating.  I made so many mistakes that landed me in some questionable relationships. The tips I share here has helped me choose a partner I enjoy life with.  I'm breaking down the red flags to look out for, the green ones to pay attention to, the pace to move at so you don't end up with someone who blindsides you.  This would help if you've been dating someone for a while or if you're now getting into the dating work.  I would love to hear your thoughts on this episode. [https://www.buzzsprout.com/twilio/text_messages/2001000/open_sms] Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2001000/support]

2 Feb 2026 - 1 h 20 min
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Long Distance Romance With Avoidant Attached

What happens when you've been in a long distance romance with an avoidant attached person and it feels intense even if you've just met a handful of times? You want answers... What is happening here?  Can this be anything more?  Why do they ghost me and return?  As Sarah shares her stories, we try to find her answers that would soothe her troubles heart.  I would love to hear your thoughts on this episode. [https://www.buzzsprout.com/twilio/text_messages/2001000/open_sms] Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2001000/support]

29 Jan 2026 - 57 min
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How To Move On After Being Blindsided - Pre-recorded Session

What happens when you have been friends for what seems like forever - you lose each other and find each other and in your older years decide to date but then to be blindsided by the avoidants pull away??? Sarah shares her journey through friendship to falling in love with her friend and then the heartbreaking pulling away that started a journey into examining her anxious attachment style and healing.  This is for you if you've ever been confused about your relationship going great and then suddenly coming to a halt.  I would love to hear your thoughts on this episode. [https://www.buzzsprout.com/twilio/text_messages/2001000/open_sms] Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2001000/support]

23 Jan 2026 - 1 h 4 min
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Breaking the Protest-Withdrawal Cycle Between Anxious-Avoidant Dynamic

Social media will tell you that anxious-avoidant relationships are doomed. That avoidants are narcissists. That anxious people are just codependent. I'm here to tell you that's oversimplified BS that keeps people stuck. In this episode, I'm breaking down the anxious-avoidant dynamic with the nuance it actually deserves. After healing my own anxious attachment and being in a relationship with someone who's fearful-avoidant and has been actively working in therapy for over three years, I've learned that this isn't about finding a villain - it's about two nervous systems trying to feel safe in completely different ways. We're covering: * The protest-withdrawal cycle: what it actually looks like and why it happens * 4 damaging myths social media spreads about this dynamic (and why they're wrong) * What secure attachment would actually do in these moments - not as theory, but as a real, usable framework * How to hold both empathy AND boundaries at the same time * The real questions to ask yourself if you're in this cycle right now * Why "just stop chasing" and "just communicate better" aren't solutions -they're oversimplifications This episode doesn't tell you to leave or stay. It gives you the tools to make that decision from a grounded, informed place. Because you deserve relationships that feel secure, and you're capable of creating that - but only if you're willing to do your own work. Whether you're anxious, avoidant, or watching this pattern play out in your relationship, this one's for you. I would love to hear your thoughts on this episode. [https://www.buzzsprout.com/twilio/text_messages/2001000/open_sms] Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2001000/support]

19 Jan 2026 - 51 min
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What To Do When A Partner Breaks-Up With You

Annalisa answers followers questions.  I would love to hear your thoughts on this episode. [https://www.buzzsprout.com/twilio/text_messages/2001000/open_sms] Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2001000/support]

16 Jan 2026 - 20 min
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