I Love That For You!

Routines & Vices

Welcome back to I Love That For You! and HAPPY SUMMER, ALL! (To get you in the mood we even have birds chirping in the background of our mediocre audio we're still figuring out!) Today we're talking routines and vices and how sometimes they're one in the same. (Take a drink every time we use run club or running as an example!) But first, Sean and Kelly give their roses and thorns of the week before they dive into their own daily routines and vices and how the pandemic changed a lot of ours for the foreseeable future. Our first listener email deals with a listener who is wondering if he's the asshole for wanting his wife to change her extensive morning routine for a few days to accommodate family members staying over. Our next listener email asks for advice on how to change their well-worn habits and routines in their life in a way that won't be too disruptive to their current autopilot lifestyle. On We Think You'll Love This! we recommend A TON of resources to help you set / reset healthy habits and routines: - Atomic Habits by James Clear - The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg  - Dopamine Nation by Dr. Anna Lembke - Daily Rituals by Mason Currey - Drink: The Intimate Relationship Between Women and Alcohol by Anne Dowsett Johnston - 10 % Happier Podcast by Dan Harris - KCRW's Life Examined Podcast with Jonathan Bastian - Habitica App - Insight Timer App - I Am Sober App On We Hate This For You! we rate some triggering habit / vice situations (in way too many different / complicated methods!) that you wrote in to us about--giving you our best advice for coping along the way. Finally, we give some tips and tricks for healthy habit, routine and vice management going forward. Subscribe now wherever you listen to podcasts and be sure to email us your advice questions, ethical dilemmas and triggering scenarios to ilovethatforyoupod@gmail.com [ilovethatforyoupod@gmail.com] for a chance to be featured on the pod! Follow us @ilovethatforyoupod [https://www.instagram.com/ilovethatforyoupod/] and on our Facebook page! [https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61555141833227] Finally, be sure to follow us on our brand new YouTube Channel! [https://www.youtube.com/@ilovethatforyoupod]   Support Kelly's NYC Marathon Fundraising efforts here!  https://fundraisers.nyrr.org/kelly-lansing [https://fundraisers.nyrr.org/kelly-lansing]    Follow us on Substack! Kelly's Substack [http://kellylansing.substack.com] Sean's Substack [https://otikbot.substack.com/]   Show Credits Theme song: "Clothes and Cases" by Vaudeville  [https://otikrecords.bandcamp.com/album/vaudeville-vaudeville-aka-s-s-insomnia-2] Produced by: Kelly @kellylansing [https://www.instagram.com/kellylansing/] & Sean @otikrecords [https://www.instagram.com/otikrecords] Editing: Kelly   Social Media:  Kelly    Disclaimer I Love That For You! episodes present the opinions of the hosts. The views, thoughts, and opinions expressed on I Love That For You! are the speaker’s own and do not represent the views, thoughts, and opinions of the subjects of the episode. I Love That For You! has not done original reporting on these subjects and stories are based on existing material (listed in source material). Episodes may contain sensitive topics and some language may not be suitable for young listeners. Listener discretion is advised.

Attachment Style Evolution In Relationships: From First to Last Loves (And Everything in Between)

Welcome back to I Love That For You! Today we're talking attachment theory and how the four different attachment styles appear in romantic relationships--from first loves, to last loves, and everything in between. But first, Sean and Kelly give their peak and pits of the week before Kelly laments on how she misses local ad jingles! Next, Sean gives us a masterclass on attachment theory and the four different attachment styles before Kelly and Sean dive into which attachment styles they've found themselves in in past and present relationships. Our first listener email deals with how to reframe the bad rep that avoidant attachments style individuals get. Our next listener email asks for advice on dealing with an ultimatum that our listeners first love gave her that has her second guessing her life decisions.  On We Think You'll Love This! we recommend some fun resources to help you get into that loving spirit: -High Fidelity [https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0146882/] -Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations For A Lifetime of Love by Sue Johnson [https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/2153780.Hold_Me_Tight] -My Old Ass [https://www.imdb.com/title/tt18559464/] - Slate's Death, Sex and Money Podcast with Anna Sale [https://slate.com/podcasts/death-sex-money] - 1979 by The Smashing Pumpkins [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4aeETEoNfOg] - In Between Days [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=scif2vfg1ug]and Friday I'm In Love by The Cure [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mGgMZpGYiy8] On We Hate This For You! we rate some (very) triggering first love / attachment style related scenarios from you, dear listeners. (But not before Sean shares his own bummer of a We Hate This For You!) Finally, we give some tips and tricks for healthy attachment style application going forward. Subscribe now wherever you listen to podcasts and be sure to email us your advice questions, ethical dilemmas and triggering scenarios to ilovethatforyoupod@gmail.com [ilovethatforyoupod@gmail.com] for a chance to be featured on the pod! Follow us @ilovethatforyoupod [https://www.instagram.com/ilovethatforyoupod/] and on our Facebook page! [https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61555141833227] Finally, be sure to follow us on our brand new YouTube Channel! [https://www.youtube.com/@ilovethatforyoupod]   Support Kelly's NYC Marathon Fundraising efforts here!  https://fundraisers.nyrr.org/kelly-lansing [https://fundraisers.nyrr.org/kelly-lansing]    Follow us @ilovethatforyoupod [https://www.instagram.com/ilovethatforyoupod/] and on our Facebook page! [https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61555141833227]   Follow us on Substack! Kelly's Substack [http://kellylansing.substack.com] Sean's Substack [https://otikbot.substack.com/]   Show Credits Theme song: "Clothes and Cases" by Vaudeville  [https://otikrecords.bandcamp.com/album/vaudeville-vaudeville-aka-s-s-insomnia-2] Produced by: Kelly @kellylansing [https://www.instagram.com/kellylansing/] & Sean @otikrecords [https://www.instagram.com/otikrecords] Editing: Kelly   Social Media:  Kelly    Disclaimer I Love That For You! episodes present the opinions of the hosts. The views, thoughts, and opinions expressed on I Love That For You! are the speaker’s own and do not represent the views, thoughts, and opinions of the subjects of the episode. I Love That For You! has not done original reporting on these subjects and stories are based on existing material (listed in source material). Episodes may contain sensitive topics and some language may not be suitable for young listeners. Listener discretion is advised.

Getting meta about Meta

Welcome to the new I Love That For You! Today we're getting meta about Meta. First, we chat how the podcast in this new format came to be before diving into our own social media diets / habits. Then we dive into our listener email from Anxiously, Post Issues--dealing with freezing up and self-editing before posting and comparing and despairing. We walk our listener through some (hopefully) helpful tips and tricks on dealing with the compare and despair vicious cycle of social media. On We Think You'll Love This! we recommend two great resources to help you get offline just a little bit more: - Filterworld: How Algorithms Flattened Culture by Kyle Chayka [https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/695902/filterworld-by-kyle-chayka/] - Social Media Escape Club by Seth Werkhesier [https://socialmediaescapeclub.substack.com/] - Bonus: The Anxious Generation by Jonathan Haidt [https://www.anxiousgeneration.com/book] - The Honest Broker by Ted Giola [https://substack.com/@tedgioia] - Plan English with Derek Thompson - Is Pop Culture Worse Than Ever? [https://open.spotify.com/episode/7rgLU8T7anhPqQ7f56LnNm?si=VX3nXsO9Rr6w4HO1h9yIcw] On We Hate This For You! we rate some (very) triggering social media scenarios from you, dear listeners.  Finally we give some tips and tricks for healthy Meta use to go forward. Subscribe now wherever you listen to podcasts and be sure to email us your advice questions, ethical dilemmas and triggering scenarios to ilovethatforyoupod@gmail.com [ilovethatforyoupod@gmail.com] for a chance to be featured on the pod! Follow us @ilovethatforyoupod [https://www.instagram.com/ilovethatforyoupod/] and on our Facebook page! [https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61555141833227] Finally, be sure to follow us on our brand new YouTube Channel! [https://www.youtube.com/@ilovethatforyoupod]   Support Kelly's NYC Marathon Fundraising efforts here!  https://fundraisers.nyrr.org/kelly-lansing [https://fundraisers.nyrr.org/kelly-lansing]    Follow us @ilovethatforyoupod [https://www.instagram.com/ilovethatforyoupod/] and on our Facebook page! [https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61555141833227]   Follow us on Substack! Kelly's Substack [http://kellylansing.substack.com] Sean's Substack [https://otikbot.substack.com/]   Show Credits Theme song: "Clothes and Cases" by Vaudeville  [https://otikrecords.bandcamp.com/album/vaudeville-vaudeville-aka-s-s-insomnia-2] Produced by: Kelly @kellylansing [https://www.instagram.com/kellylansing/] & Sean @otikrecords [https://www.instagram.com/otikrecords] Editing: Kelly   Social Media:  Kelly & sometimes Red! @missredventure [https://www.instagram.com/missredventure]   Disclaimer I Love That For You! episodes present the opinions of the hosts. The views, thoughts, and opinions expressed on I Love That For You! are the speaker’s own and do not represent the views, thoughts, and opinions of the subjects of the episode. I Love That For You! has not done original reporting on these subjects and stories are based on existing material (listed in source material). Episodes may contain sensitive topics and some language may not be suitable for young listeners. Listener discretion is advised.

Trailer

Welcome to the new I Love That For You! This is a show all about cracking wise while cracking open the mind—whether it’s about comparing and despairing on social media, diving deep into messy family dynamics, coming to terms with your partners attachment style, or just dealing with that one annoying person that continues to piss you off everyday, we’re here to empathize and (hopefully) help. Each week we’ll be answering your advice questions and exploring what we humans do, and perhaps more importantly, why we do it, with a curious lens. Plus we’re going to be answering ethical dilemmas, playing games and a lot more fun stuff. We hope you’ll join us as we laugh it out, talk it through, love that for you! New episodes out Tuesday. Subscribe now wherever you listen to podcasts and be sure to email us your advice questions or ethical dilemmas to ilovethatforyoupod@gmail.com [ilovethatforyoupod@gmail.com] for a chance to be featured on the pod!   Support Kelly's NYC Marathon Fundraising efforts here!  https://fundraisers.nyrr.org/kelly-lansing [https://fundraisers.nyrr.org/kelly-lansing]    Follow us @ilovethatforyoupod [https://www.instagram.com/ilovethatforyoupod/] and on our Facebook page! [https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61555141833227]   Follow us on Substack! Kelly's Substack [http://kellylansing.substack.com] Sean's Substack [https://otikbot.substack.com/]   Show Credits Theme song: "Clothes and Cases" by Vaudeville  [https://otikrecords.bandcamp.com/album/vaudeville-vaudeville-aka-s-s-insomnia-2] Produced by: Kelly @kellylansing [https://www.instagram.com/kellylansing/] & Sean @otikrecords [https://www.instagram.com/otikrecords] Editing: Kelly   Social media help: Red @missredventure [https://www.instagram.com/missredventure]   Disclaimer I Love That For You episodes present the opinions of the hosts. The views, thoughts, and opinions expressed on I Love That For You are the speaker’s own and do not represent the views, thoughts, and opinions of the subjects of the episode. I Love That For You has not done original reporting on these subjects and stories are based on existing material (listed in source material). Episodes may contain sensitive topics and some language may not be suitable for young listeners. Listener discretion is advised.

We've Loved This For Us!

Kelly and Red make a big announcement. (Plus, psst--make sure you listen to the ENTIRE EPISODE.) We love you all!   Support Kelly's NYC Marathon Fundraising efforts here!  https://fundraisers.nyrr.org/kelly-lansing [https://fundraisers.nyrr.org/kelly-lansing]    Follow us @ilovethatforyoupod [https://www.instagram.com/ilovethatforyoupod/] and email us at ilovethatforyoupod@gmail.com [ilovethatforyoupod@gmail.com]and follow us on our Facebook page! [https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61555141833227]   Follow us on Substack! Kelly's Substack [http://kellylansing.substack.com] Red's Substack [https://osaycanyoueh.substack.com/]   Show Credits Theme song: "Busy Old Sun" by Vaudeville  [https://otikrecords.bandcamp.com/album/vaudeville-vaudeville-aka-s-s-insomnia-2] Cover Art: Jenny Lam @jennylamalam Editing: Kelly & Red  @kellylansing @missredventure   Disclaimer I Love That For You episodes present the opinions of the hosts. The views, thoughts, and opinions expressed on I Love That For You are the speaker’s own and do not represent the views, thoughts, and opinions of the subjects of the episode. I Love That For You has not done original reporting on these subjects and stories are based on existing material (listed in source material). Episodes may contain sensitive topics and some language may not be suitable for young listeners. Listener discretion is advised.