Intentional Living with Ben Robins

You're Not Self Sabotaging. This Is What's Actually Happening

Work with me =========================== My website [https://ben-robins.com/?utm_source=spotify&utm_medium=videodescription&utm_campaign=intentional-living] - https://ben-robins.com/ [https://ben-robins.com/?utm_source=spotify&utm_medium=videodescription&utm_campaign=intentional-living] LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/in/ben-robins-coaching/] - https://www.linkedin.com/in/ben-robins-coaching/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/ben-robins-coaching/] =========================== Most people think they struggle with self-sabotage - that invisible force that shows up right when things start going well. But what if that’s not what’s actually happening? In this video, I’ll unpack why self-sabotage isn’t really the problem - and what’s actually driving the behaviours that keep you stuck, even when you know exactly what you should be doing. From identity patterns formed long before you had a choice, to hidden benefits behind “bad” habits, this video looks at how your actions are not random, broken, or against you; but deeply logical once you understand what they’re protecting. If you’ve ever felt like you’re working against yourself, this will completely change how you see your behaviour. In this video, you’ll discover: * Why self-sabotage is often a misleading label that hides the real issue * How identity acts like an internal “autopilot” that shapes your behaviour * Why you keep repeating patterns that don’t serve you * The hidden logic behind habits that look destructive on the surface * Why every behaviour is actually solving a problem for you * How unconscious stories about yourself keep you stuck * The link between identity and the “benefits” behind your habits * How to question the story you’ve been proving without realising it * Why change becomes easier when you stop seeing yourself as the problem ⏰ Timestamps: ⏰ 00:00 - Introduction 01:45 - Why self-sabotage might not exist 02:26 - The two sides to being stuck 02:38 - Side one: The identity you didn’t choose 05:01 - Protecting yourself from a potential loss 05:23 - Side two: Is “bad” behaviour your solution? 07:06 - There’s a benefit to everything – even smoking! 08:03 - Identity, habits and the real connection 08:51 - The story your behaviour is protecting 09:11 - How to finally change what’s stuck This video was produced by the team at Zapods Podcast Agency [https://zapods.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=shownotes&utm_campaign=ben-robins]: https://www.zapods.com [https://zapods.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=shownotes&utm_campaign=ben-robins]

How To Speak Like A Top 1% Leader

Work with me =========================== My website [https://ben-robins.com/?utm_source=spotify&utm_medium=videodescription&utm_campaign=intentional-living] - https://ben-robins.com/ [https://ben-robins.com/?utm_source=spotify&utm_medium=videodescription&utm_campaign=intentional-living] LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/in/ben-robins-coaching/] - https://www.linkedin.com/in/ben-robins-coaching/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/ben-robins-coaching/] =========================== Most communication advice tells you to do more. Better stories, stronger body language, more confidence. This video is about doing less. If you've ever felt like people overlook your ideas, tune out when you speak, or fail to recognise your value - the problem probably isn't what you're missing. It's what you're doing that's getting in the way. Drawing from years of working with leaders at Google, Meta and Samsung, I'll break down the five things that undermine your ability to communicate with influence and clarity - even when you're intelligent, experienced, and capable. Small changes in identity, clarity, and curiosity can completely change how people respond to you. Whether you're leading a team, navigating a difficult conversation, or trying to get traction in a meeting - this will help you become someone people genuinely listen to. In this video, you’ll discover: * Why communication problems often start with identity, not skill * How self-doubt changes the way people hear you * Why overexplaining weakens your message * The hidden reason inconsistent leaders lose trust * How to communicate clearly without saying more * Why great leaders ask better questions * The mistake most people make in difficult conversations * How to speak in a way people actually care about * Why curiosity is one of the most powerful leadership skills * The five communication habits that make people listen ⏰ Timestamps: ⏰ 00:00 - Introduction 01:03 - Why some people naturally command attention 01:27 - The five things good communicators have stopped doing 01:29 - The first thing: Why identity shapes how people hear you 03:13 - The second thing: The stories that sabotage how consistently you communicate 04:52 - The third thing: Why clear thinking matters most 06:53 - The fourth thing: How great leaders stay curious 08:15 - The fifth thing: Understand what they value 09:52 - The five changes that make people listen to you This video was produced by the team at Zapods Podcast Agency [https://zapods.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=shownotes&utm_campaign=ben-robins]: https://www.zapods.com [https://zapods.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=shownotes&utm_campaign=ben-robins]

You Know What To Do. So Why Aren’t You Doing It?

If you've been struggling with procrastination, self-sabotage, or motivation, this video will change how you see yourself, and why you're actually stuck. In this episode, I'll break down the real reasons you're not taking action on the things you know you want to do. Whether it's starting a business, having a difficult conversation, or finally tackling the goal that's been sitting on your list for months. It might surprise you, but the answer isn't more discipline or motivation. It almost never is. The personal development industry has spent decades handing out labels - procrastinator, self-saboteur, someone with limiting beliefs - and calling it an answer. But labels keep you managing a problem rather than resolving it at the root. Once you understand what's actually going on underneath, you stop fighting yourself and start moving. I'll walk you through the three root causes that keep most people stuck, why willpower alone will never fix them, and what to ask yourself instead, so you can finally stop putting off the things that matter most. In this video, you'll discover: * Why motivation and discipline aren't the real problem * The truth about labels like ‘procrastination’ and ‘self-sabotage’ * The three real reasons you're not taking action * How your own hidden logic might be working against you * Why unclear or uninspiring goals keep you paralysed * The unseen benefits of staying stuck - and how to address them * How to find the root cause and stop fighting the wrong thing * What to ask yourself instead of ‘why can't I just do it?’ ⏰ Timestamps: ⏰ 00:00 - You know what to do. So why aren’t you doing it? 00:57 - Why motivation and discipline aren’t the real problem 01:24 - The problem with labels (procrastinator, self-saboteur, indecisive, lazy) 02:13 - The three real reasons you’re stuck 02:16 - Reason 1: The story you’ve been telling yourself 04:09 - Reason 2: The goal itself is unclear or uninspiring 05:04 - Reason 3: The hidden benefits of not doing the thing 06:16 - Why willpower will never be enough 07:06 - Why labels keep you stuck (instead of helping) 07:23 - Why a coach helps you see what you’re too close to see 08:23 - What to do once you understand the root cause Connect with me =========================== My website [https://ben-robins.com/?utm_source=spotify&utm_medium=videodescription&utm_campaign=intentional-living] - https://ben-robins.com/ [https://ben-robins.com/?utm_source=spotify&utm_medium=videodescription&utm_campaign=intentional-living] LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/in/ben-robins-coaching/] - https://www.linkedin.com/in/ben-robins-coaching/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/ben-robins-coaching/] This video was produced by the team at Zapods Podcast Agency [https://zapods.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=shownotes&utm_campaign=ben-robins]: https://www.zapods.com [https://zapods.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=shownotes&utm_campaign=ben-robins]

You Only Have 20 Years of Free Time. Here's How to Use Them Intentionally

If you've been feeling stretched, reactive, or like your week just happens to you, this will give you a simple, practical way to take it back. In this video, I'll walk you through the life control panel: a way of thinking about your time, energy, and priorities that puts you back in the driver's seat. Instead of reacting to your inbox, your schedule, or other people's urgencies, this is about intentionally deciding what gets more of you, and what gets less. From health and wealth, to relationships and happiness, this approach helps you design a life around what genuinely matters to you, rather than defaulting to someone else's version of success. The control panel will help you design your life intentionally and on your own terms.  We’ll be exploring: * Why "work-life balance" is the wrong goal (and what to focus on instead) * How to stop living reactively and start designing your life intentionally * The life control panel concept and how it works * How to approach health, wealth, relationships, and happiness deliberately * Why vagueness about what matters is costing you years of your life * How to make one small change this week that actually sticks * Designing your weeks around what actually matters to you ⏰ Timestamps: ⏰ 00:00 - Why work-life balance isn't the real problem 00:39 - The life control panel: how it works 02:05 - The 4 dials: Health, Wealth, Relationships, Happiness 02:15 - Dial 1: Health (are you building it in, or hoping it happens?) 02:57 - Dial 2: Wealth (is your career happening TO you?) 03:42 - Dial 3: Relationships (are you present, or just there?) 04:15 - Dial 4: Happiness (what lights you up?) 05:33 - How to set your dials (where to start) 06:31 - How to use this in real life (seasons, adjustments, consistency) Connect with me =========================== My website [https://ben-robins.com/?utm_source=spotify&utm_medium=videodescription&utm_campaign=intentional-living] - https://ben-robins.com/ [https://ben-robins.com/?utm_source=spotify&utm_medium=videodescription&utm_campaign=intentional-living] LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/in/ben-robins-coaching/] - https://www.linkedin.com/in/ben-robins-coaching/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/ben-robins-coaching/] This video was produced by the team at Zapods Podcast Agency [https://zapods.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=shownotes&utm_campaign=ben-robins]: https://www.zapods.com [https://zapods.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=shownotes&utm_campaign=ben-robins]

What It’s Like to Work With Me as your Life and Executive Coach

People often ask me what it’s actually like to work with me as their life and executive coach.  In this video, I break down exactly who I work with, how the process works, and what you can expect from my coaching. This is for people who know something needs to change. Not someday, but right now. Whether you’ve hit a plateau, stepped into a bigger role, or simply feel like there’s more available to you, I’m here to help build the next version of your life with clarity and intention. From getting specific on what you actually want, to removing what’s holding you back, to creating real, measurable change, this is a look at how coaching works when it’s done properly. We’ll be exploring: * How life coaching actually works * Who coaching is (and isn’t) for * Why clarity is the starting point for meaningful change * Removing what’s holding you back before adding more * How to create real, measurable results in your life and career * What to expect from working closely with me * Why having someone in your corner changes everything ⏰ Timestamps: ⏰ 00:00 Introduction 00:34 Getting clarity on what you want 01:18 Removing before adding 02:11 The results 02:53 How coaching actually works 04:00 My role in your life 04:28 Conclusion Connect with me =========================== My website [https://ben-robins.com/?utm_source=spotify&utm_medium=videodescription&utm_campaign=intentional-living] - https://ben-robins.com/ [https://ben-robins.com/?utm_source=spotify&utm_medium=videodescription&utm_campaign=intentional-living] LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/in/ben-robins-coaching/] - https://www.linkedin.com/in/ben-robins-coaching/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/ben-robins-coaching/] This video was produced by the team at Zapods Podcast Agency [https://zapods.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=shownotes&utm_campaign=ben-robins]: https://www.zapods.com [https://zapods.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=shownotes&utm_campaign=ben-robins]