Living Well with PMDD

The idea that, "If I do this now, it will make something else easier later," is sometimes true and sometimes NOT true. On this episode, Heidi explores three examples of when you may want to second guess your gut instinct to "do it now." She also encourages a trade-off perspective especially when your brain is telling you to do something now for a supposed future benefit. Take Aways * Example 1: Preparing to move from your current house by spending a lot of time downsizing, reorganizing, & cleaning  * Example 2: Preparing for the passing of a loved one by getting rid of items or divvy-ing them now vs later * Example 3: Preparing for college by writing extra papers now * We fall for this idea  because it masquerades as other things. It masquerades as preparation and planning, and we all know that there are benefits from planning and there are benefits from preparation. * Recognize when you feel driven to do something now for a future benefit * What's underneath that feeling? Not wanting to disappoint yourself? Not wanting to disappoint someone else? Wanting to look put together? Are you avoiding a feeling by staying in action and productivity? * Consider the trade-offs of this specific action. What are you giving up? In what ways will it impact your relationships? * If you still feel in a hurry to do the thing, pause and wait for peace to come in. Then do the thing if you want to.  * Don't put it on God. If you feel rushed or hasty to do something because "He wants me to" pause long enough to feel His love, peace, confidence, or reassurance. Then move forward. Visit Heidi Bradford Coaching [https://heidibradfordcoaching.com/] to find out how to work with Heidi. Download your "5 Ways To Feeling Better with PMDD" here [https://heidibradfordcoaching.kit.com/41fdb89034]. 5 Keys to Living Well with PMDD * Educate yourself * Get support * Try things * Track your symptoms (and period) * Accept grace Heidi's 5 Part Method for Getting Rid of PMDD 1. Mindset 2. Supplements 3. Tracking 4. Defaults 5. Personal development: Set and Achieve Goals Resources * Semaine PMS and Period Support Supplements [https://www.walmart.com/ip/Semaine-PMS-Period-Support-Supplement-40-Count-Helps-with-Cramps-Bloating-Balances-Mood-with-Ashwagandha/2364120078?athcpid=2364120078&athpgid=AthenaBrandPage&athcgid=null&athznid=ProductTileCollection_37ddb5de-ce95-372a-a1e1-7c9170f6c9b0_items&athieid=v0&athstid=CS020&athguid=0MgSl8gZk6HwHufg65STS4x4ncxSHsYpbs34&athancid=null&athena=true] Music * Music- Island Breeze by Surf House Productions | https://surf-house-productions.bandcamp.com [https://surf-house-productions.bandcamp.com/] * Music promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.com [https://www.free-stock-music.com/]

Heidi describes a new habit she's trying to create. She outlines elements that will help in successfully creating a new habit.  Take Aways * Six elements of creating a new habit: 1. Have a vision (but a vision alone is not enough) 2. Identify skills you will be building immediately 3. Follow through 4. Notice urges 5. Make it easy 6. Make it fun  Visit Heidi Bradford Coaching [https://heidibradfordcoaching.com/] to find out how to work with Heidi. Download your "5 Ways To Feeling Better with PMDD" here [https://heidibradfordcoaching.kit.com/41fdb89034]. 5 Keys to Living Well with PMDD * Educate yourself * Get support * Try things * Track your symptoms (and period) * Accept grace Heidi's 5 Part Method for Getting Rid of PMDD 1. Mindset 2. Supplements 3. Tracking 4. Defaults 5. Personal development: Set and Achieve Goals Resources * Semaine PMS and Period Support Supplements [https://www.walmart.com/ip/Semaine-PMS-Period-Support-Supplement-40-Count-Helps-with-Cramps-Bloating-Balances-Mood-with-Ashwagandha/2364120078?athcpid=2364120078&athpgid=AthenaBrandPage&athcgid=null&athznid=ProductTileCollection_37ddb5de-ce95-372a-a1e1-7c9170f6c9b0_items&athieid=v0&athstid=CS020&athguid=0MgSl8gZk6HwHufg65STS4x4ncxSHsYpbs34&athancid=null&athena=true] Music * Music- Island Breeze by Surf House Productions | https://surf-house-productions.bandcamp.com [https://surf-house-productions.bandcamp.com/] * Music promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.com [https://www.free-stock-music.com/]

Disapproval is something most of us feel from ourselves or from others on a consistent basis. What if you could feel the disapproval and still feel confident and be at peace with yourself? What if disapproval doesn't have to derail your day or keep you from moving forward with your goals? Today's episode outlines why it's hard to feel disapproval and a formula for working through disapproval when it comes. A printable episode guide is available here [https://heidibradfordcoaching.kit.com/allowingdiscomfort].  Take Aways * Disapproval is hard because we naturally desire to be "liked." * It also feels yucky when we initially feel disapproved of so we try to get out of that yucky feeling as fast as possible.  * You may also be worried about a possible long-term impact their disapproval could mean for you. That makes it complicated to know how to respond. * Disapproval of yourself comes up often because our brain is consistently looking for the bad and judging.  * Try to see the other side of things when you notice your brain offering negative after negative thoughts. * When you're feeling disapproved of it is NOT a good time for introspection. * Formula to allowing disapproval:  1. Recognize that you're feeling disapproved of and let yourself feel uncomfortable.  2. Pause. Hold back on lashing out immediately or running away from the situation. 3. Clarify. Fill in the blank: This doesn't mean that ______. 4. Clarify. Fill in the blank: It could mean that ______. 5. You'll feel a bit better. 6. Decide what to do or say next.  Visit Heidi Bradford Coaching [https://heidibradfordcoaching.com/] to find out how to work with Heidi. Download your "5 Ways To Feeling Better with PMDD" here [https://heidibradfordcoaching.kit.com/41fdb89034]. 5 Keys to Living Well with PMDD * Educate yourself * Get support * Try things * Track your symptoms (and period) * Accept grace Heidi's 5 Part Method for Getting Rid of PMDD 1. Mindset 2. Supplements 3. Tracking 4. Defaults 5. Personal development: Set and Achieve Goals Resources * Semaine PMS and Period Support Supplements [https://www.walmart.com/ip/Semaine-PMS-Period-Support-Supplement-40-Count-Helps-with-Cramps-Bloating-Balances-Mood-with-Ashwagandha/2364120078?athcpid=2364120078&athpgid=AthenaBrandPage&athcgid=null&athznid=ProductTileCollection_37ddb5de-ce95-372a-a1e1-7c9170f6c9b0_items&athieid=v0&athstid=CS020&athguid=0MgSl8gZk6HwHufg65STS4x4ncxSHsYpbs34&athancid=null&athena=true] Music * Music- Island Breeze by Surf House Productions | https://surf-house-productions.bandcamp.com [https://surf-house-productions.bandcamp.com/] * Music promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.com [https://www.free-stock-music.com/]

Learn how and why it's a good idea to push back on some of your thoughts. Take Aways * It's common to believe thoughts that come to mind. * You don't HAVE to believe all the thoughts that come naturally. * We CHOOSE to believe things. * Reasons to push back on thoughts: they're keeping you stuck, they're creating confusion, they're in the way of achieving a goal, & for fun. * Examples of thoughts you could push back on: I always say yes. Seeing food makes me want it. It's a pattern for me to... I can't hear God. (And lots more.) * How to push back is... GENTLY. Offer "Maybe," "Sometimes," "And...," "Actually," or "Not really." Visit Heidi Bradford Coaching [https://heidibradfordcoaching.com/] to find out how to work with Heidi. Download your "5 Ways To Feeling Better with PMDD" here [https://heidibradfordcoaching.kit.com/41fdb89034]. 5 Keys to Living Well with PMDD * Educate yourself * Get support * Try things * Track your symptoms (and period) * Accept grace Heidi's 5 Part Method for Getting Rid of PMDD 1. Mindset 2. Supplements 3. Tracking 4. Defaults 5. Personal development: Set and Achieve Goals Resources * Semaine PMS and Period Support Supplements [https://www.walmart.com/ip/Semaine-PMS-Period-Support-Supplement-40-Count-Helps-with-Cramps-Bloating-Balances-Mood-with-Ashwagandha/2364120078?athcpid=2364120078&athpgid=AthenaBrandPage&athcgid=null&athznid=ProductTileCollection_37ddb5de-ce95-372a-a1e1-7c9170f6c9b0_items&athieid=v0&athstid=CS020&athguid=0MgSl8gZk6HwHufg65STS4x4ncxSHsYpbs34&athancid=null&athena=true] Music * Music- Island Breeze by Surf House Productions | https://surf-house-productions.bandcamp.com [https://surf-house-productions.bandcamp.com/] * Music promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.com [https://www.free-stock-music.com/]

A concept I've been pondering is living in expectation vs living with agreements. Part one of this episode is a review of this concept as explained by Steve Chandler. Part 2 is applying this to our relationship with ourself. I think we have a lot of joy to experience by shifting to a life of agreements instead of a life full of expectations. Take Aways * Expectations are toxic. They lead to disappointment. They invite disappointment. * Agreements are a better approach. They invite creativity and to both parties being satisfied. Both parties having a say. * Agreements are stronger than expectations. * C.S. Lewis stated, " It comes the very moment you wake up each morning, all your wishes and hopes for the day rush at you like wild animals. And the first job each morning consists simply in shoving them all back in, listening to that other voice, taking that other point of view, letting that other larger, stronger, quieter life come flowing in and so on all day. Standing back from all your natural fussings and fretting. Coming in out of the wind."  * The idea that things won't get done unless we have expectations is incorrect. The freedom we feel being untethered from expectation leads to productivity, fun, and feeling surprised. * Here's the audio talk by Steve Chandler that this podcast episode is based on: https://app.box.com/s/8e86836b244bee19323a [https://app.box.com/s/8e86836b244bee19323a] Visit Heidi Bradford Coaching [https://heidibradfordcoaching.com/] to find out how to work with Heidi. Download your "5 Ways To Feeling Better with PMDD" here [https://heidibradfordcoaching.kit.com/41fdb89034]. 5 Keys to Living Well with PMDD * Educate yourself * Get support * Try things * Track your symptoms (and period) * Accept grace Heidi's 5 Part Method for Getting Rid of PMDD 1. Mindset 2. Supplements 3. Tracking 4. Defaults 5. Personal development: Set and Achieve Goals Resources * Semaine PMS and Period Support Supplements [https://www.walmart.com/ip/Semaine-PMS-Period-Support-Supplement-40-Count-Helps-with-Cramps-Bloating-Balances-Mood-with-Ashwagandha/2364120078?athcpid=2364120078&athpgid=AthenaBrandPage&athcgid=null&athznid=ProductTileCollection_37ddb5de-ce95-372a-a1e1-7c9170f6c9b0_items&athieid=v0&athstid=CS020&athguid=0MgSl8gZk6HwHufg65STS4x4ncxSHsYpbs34&athancid=null&athena=true] Music * Music- Island Breeze by Surf House Productions | https://surf-house-productions.bandcamp.com [https://surf-house-productions.bandcamp.com/] * Music promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.com [https://www.free-stock-music.com/]