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Money & Mindset: Starting Over After Divorce

Season 2 Episode 9: Money & Mindset: Starting Over After Divorce What if the biggest thing standing between you and financial freedom isn't money at all? What if it's the story you've been telling yourself about money? In this conversation, Hannah sits down with entrepreneur, financial planning expert, Strategic Coach mentor, and single mom turned self-made success story, Colleen Bowler. After navigating a difficult divorce, raising her son on her own, and being handed $50,000 in debt, Colleen rebuilt her life and went on to build one of the top financial planning firms in the country. Together, Hannah and Colleen explore money, worthiness, agency, scarcity, abundance, and why divorce can become the moment a woman finally takes her financial power back. If you've ever felt overwhelmed by money, intimidated by financial planning, or worried about whether you'll be okay on your own, this episode is for you. You are more capable than you think. TIMESTAMPS 00:00 – Why women need to talk about money 03:00 – Meet Colleen Bowler 06:00 – Colleen’s childhood money story 08:30 – Divorce, debt, and the loss of the dream 11:30 – Becoming a single mom and finding her strength 15:00 – Starting a business during divorce 19:00 – The myth of balance 23:00 – Scarcity, abundance, and inherited money beliefs 27:00 – Why women give away financial power 31:00 – Money, worthiness, and “pick me” energy 35:00 – Getting out of the financial dark 38:00 – What mindset to bring into mediation 42:00 – The first financial step after divorce 45:00 – Agency, habits, and taking ownership 48:00 – Colleen’s message for women in Divorce Land CONNECT WITH HANNAH ⚖️ Hembree Bell Law Firm Helping women navigate divorce, custody, and life's next chapter. HembreeBell.com 💛 Join the Free Women's Circle A supportive community for women rebuilding after divorce and major life transitions. MyConfidentDivorce.com/Circle ✨ My Confident Divorce Courses, coaching, and resources to help you move through divorce with clarity and confidence. MyConfidentDivorce.com 📱 Connect with Hannah Instagram & TikTok: @HannahHembreeBell CONNECT WITH COLLEEN 💰 The Passport Package PassportPackage.com [PassportPackage.com] 📱 LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/colleen-bowler-cfp%C2%AE-09576796/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/colleen-bowler-cfp%C2%AE-09576796/] If this episode helped you, please subscribe, leave a review, and share it with a friend who needs to hear it.

The Dangerous Side of Selflessness

Season 2 Episode 8: The Dangerous Side of Selflessness For years, Kimber Hardick did everything she thought she was supposed to do. She was a wife. A mother. A helper. A caretaker. The person everyone could count on. From the outside, her life looked successful. Inside, she was disappearing. In this deeply honest conversation, Hannah sits down with author, speaker, and educator Kimber Hardick to talk about the quiet way so many women lose themselves while taking care of everyone else. After more than 30 years of marriage, Kimber found herself confronting a question she had spent decades avoiding: Who am I when I'm not taking care of everyone else? Together, Hannah and Kimber unpack the stories women are taught about self-sacrifice, why so many of us confuse being needed with being valued, and how years of putting ourselves last can leave us feeling invisible in our own lives. They also explore one of the most powerful concepts Hannah has discussed on the podcast: the difference between feeling your emotions and feeding them. Because healing doesn't happen by pretending you're fine. It happens when you stop running from what you're feeling long enough to listen to what it's trying to teach you. Whether you're navigating divorce, rebuilding after heartbreak, struggling with your identity, or simply wondering where the woman you used to be went, this conversation is an invitation to stop waiting for "later" and start coming home to yourself. TIMESTAMPS 00:00 – Meet Kimber Hardick 03:45 – How women lose themselves inside marriage and motherhood 08:20 – The belief that good women sacrifice themselves 13:15 – Feeling invisible while appearing successful 18:40 – Empty nesting, identity, and rediscovering yourself 24:10 – The wake-up call that changed everything 29:50 – What our children learn from our relationships 34:30 – Boundaries, people-pleasing, and proving your worth 40:15 – Why women stay longer than they want to 44:40 – Feeling vs. feeding your emotions 49:30 – The emotions wheel and emotional awareness 53:20 – Avoidance, capacity, and learning to sit with discomfort 56:30 – Why joy won't come until all emotions are welcome 59:00 – Kimber's advice for women rebuilding their lives CONNECT WITH HANNAH ⚖️ Hembree Bell Law Firm Helping women navigate divorce, custody, and life's next chapter. HembreeBell.com 💛 Join the Free Women's Circle A supportive community for women rebuilding after divorce and major life transitions. MyConfidentDivorce.com/Circle ✨ My Confident Divorce Courses, coaching, and resources to help you move through divorce with clarity and confidence. MyConfidentDivorce.com CONNECT WITH KIMBER HARDICK📱 Instagram@KimberLivingLife 📱 Facebook https://www.facebook.com/share/19EkV6N1od/?mibextid=wwXIfr🌐 WebsiteKimberHardick.comHer Skool Group https://www.skool.com/an-invitation-to-shine-9904/about The Emotions Wheel https://kimberhardick.netlify.app/tools/emotion-wheelThe Workbookhttps://a.co/d/0gy8JkXK📖 BookAn Invitation to ShineIf this episode helped you, please subscribe, leave a review, and share it with a friend who needs to hear it.

The Secret To Making A Blended Family Work

Season 2 Episode 7: The Secret To Making A Blended Family Work Everyone wants the blended family to feel like a family immediately. But that's not how real life works. In this deeply personal episode, Hannah sits down with her husband, Drew Bell, to talk honestly about what happened after the engagement, the wedding, and the excitement wore off. How do you actually blend a family after divorce? What happens when one partner has children and the other doesn't? How do you build trust with kids who have already experienced so much change? And how do you create a family without forcing it? Together, Hannah and Drew share the lessons they learned while building a family of seven, including what worked, what didn't, and why patience may be the most underrated parenting tool in a blended family. If you're dating after divorce, remarried, engaged, or trying to navigate life in a blended family, this episode will remind you that healthy families aren't built overnight. They are built one relationship at a time. TIMESTAMPS 00:00 – Why blended families take time 02:20 – How Hannah and Drew's story began 06:00 – Moving in together and blending five lives 11:00 – Why easing into a blended family helped 15:00 – When a house starts feeling like a family 20:00 – The role of a stepparent in a child's life 25:00 – Why Hannah never expected instant parenthood 34:00 – Letting relationships develop naturally 41:00 – Building trust with children after divorce 49:00 – The challenge of being a stepparent 57:00 – Why patience matters more than control 01:05:00 – Creating traditions as a family 01:12:00 – Family dinners, gratitude, and connection 01:18:00 – Navigating custody and transitions 01:25:00 – Advice for dating and remarriage after divorce 01:34:00 – What they would do differently 01:45:00 – Stepparents, boundaries, and humility 02:00:00 – Final lessons on building a healthy blended family CONNECT WITH HANNAH ⚖️ Hembree Bell Law Firm Helping women navigate divorce, custody, and life's next chapter. HembreeBell.com 💛 Join the Free Women's Circle A supportive community for women rebuilding after divorce and major life transitions. MyConfidentDivorce.com/Circle ✨ My Confident Divorce Courses, coaching, and resources to help you move through divorce with clarity and confidence. MyConfidentDivorce.com 📱 Connect with Hannah Instagram & TikTok: @HannahHembreeBell If this episode helped you, please subscribe, leave a review, and share it with a friend who needs to hear it.

How to Spot a Narcissist

Season 2 Episode 6 : How to Spot a Narcissist What if the problem wasn’t that you were too sensitive… …but that you were being taught to doubt your own reality? In this episode of Not Saving It For Later, Hannah sits down with retired clinical psychologist Dr. Kerry McAvoy to unpack one of the most misunderstood and overused words in modern relationships: narcissist. Because not every difficult partner is a narcissist. And not every narcissist looks the way you think. This conversation moves beyond social media buzzwords and into the real psychology behind narcissistic behavior, manipulation, power, and emotional control. Dr. Kerry brings both clinical expertise and personal experience to this conversation, helping listeners understand not only what narcissism is — but why smart, capable, loving women so often find themselves trapped inside these relationships. If you have ever felt confused… blamed… emotionally exhausted… or like you were slowly disappearing inside your relationship… this conversation may help you make sense of what you’ve been living. This Conversation Covers: • What narcissism actually means according to the DSM • Why narcissism is often confused with selfishness or being a jerk • The core traits narcissists share • Manipulation, entitlement, and lack of empathy • Why narcissists often see relationships as competition and control • How love bombing and “compliance testing” work • Why smart women still fall into these dynamics • The role of self-betrayal and emotional conditioning • Why narcissists struggle to change • What emotional detachment can look like inside marriage • How manipulation escalates when you begin pulling your power back • Why staying “for the kids” may not protect them the way you hope • Practical ways to begin recognizing patterns and protecting yourself One truth from this episode that hit hard: "The people who benefited from you giving away your power will freak out when you call it back." If this conversation feels painfully familiar, please hear this: You are not crazy. You are not weak. And you are not doomed to stay stuck in dynamics that require you to abandon yourself to survive. TIMESTAMPS: 00:00 – Introduction + Meet Dr. Kerry McAvoy 02:15 – What Narcissism Actually Means 06:30 – Narcissist vs. “Just an Asshole” 11:40 – DSM Criteria + Core Traits Explained 18:15 – Jealousy, Entitlement & Lack of Empathy 24:20 – Are Narcissists Born or Made? 31:10 – Family Patterns + Genetic Components 38:00 – Why Narcissists Feel Superior Yet Empty 45:15 – Power, Control & Competition in Relationships 52:30 – Why Women End Up With Narcissists 58:10 – Love Bombing + The Mask They Wear 1:04:20 – How Compliance Testing Works 1:12:00 – Self-Betrayal, Attachment & People Pleasing 1:19:45 – Pulling Your Power Back 1:27:30 – Why Leaving Is So Hard 1:35:10 – Staying for the Kids + The Cost of Survival Mode 1:43:40 – Emotional Healing + Building Back Better 1:51:15 – Divorce, Labels & Why Caution Matters 1:59:20 – Not Saving It For Later CONNECT WITH DR. KERRY MCAVOY: Website: https://www.kerrymcavoyphd.com/ Instagram: @kerrymcavoyphd Facebook: Dr. Kerry McAvoy CONNECT WITH HANNAH + HEMBREE BELL: Website: www.hembreebell.com Website: HannahHembreebell.com Instagram: @hannahhembreebell Instagram: @hembreebelllaw Facebook: Hannah Hembree Bell TikTok: @hannahhembreebell

Are Your Kids Being Used as Weapons in Your Divorce?

Season 2 Episode 5: Are Your Kids Being Used as Weapons in Your Divorce? High Conflict Divorce Explained What happens when divorce stops being about resolution… and starts becoming about control? In this  episode of Not Saving It For Later, Hannah sits down with psychologist Dr. Mary Alvarez to unpack the painful reality of high conflict divorce and custody cases — and the devastating impact conflict can have on children. If communication feels impossible… if you feel like you’re constantly walking on eggshells… if co-parenting feels more like surviving than parenting… this conversation is for you. Dr. Alvarez brings decades of experience working inside high conflict family systems and explains what many parents quietly live through but struggle to put words around. This conversation covers: • What actually qualifies as high conflict divorce • Why conflict is often about power and control—not parenting • Co-parenting vs. parallel parenting • How children become emotional weapons in custody battles • Why tight custody orders matter • How toxic conflict impacts children’s brains and development • The emotional toll on the healthier parent • Self-care, regulation, and surviving without losing yourself • Whether children eventually “figure it out” One truth from this episode that hit hard: "It’s not the divorce that harms children. It’s the ongoing conflict." If you are navigating divorce or custody conflict, we hope this conversation helps you feel less alone — and more equipped. TIMESTAMPS: 00:00 – Introduction + Why This Conversation Matters 02:15 – Meet Dr. Mary Alvarez + Understanding Her Role 07:40 – What High Conflict Divorce Actually Means 14:10 – Why Progress Can Feel Unsafe During Litigation 20:05 – Co-Parenting vs Parallel Parenting 27:35 – Why Tight Custody Orders Matter 34:50 – How High Conflict Personalities Operate 41:15 – When Children Become Weapons 48:20 – Why Moms Often Feel Pressure to Be “Perfect” 54:10 – Trauma, Emotional Regulation & Self-Care 1:01:30 – Mental Health, Therapy & Divorce Stigma 1:08:45 – Learning Emotional Skills During Divorce 1:14:20 – Choosing Which Hills to Die On 1:20:10 – Do Kids Eventually Figure It Out? 1:27:15 – Healing, Hope & Leaving the Door Open CONNECT WITH DR. MARY ALVAREZ: Website: https://drmaryalvarez.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mary-alvarez-ph-d-4028836b/ CONNECT WITH HANNAH + HEMBREE BELL: Website: www.hembreebell.com Website: HannahHembreebell.com Instagram: @hannahhembreebell Instagram: @hembreebelllaw Facebook: Hannah Hembree Bell TikTok: @hannahhembreebell