The Affair Recovery Podcast

Ep. 018 | Part of Me Wants to Stay. Part of Me Wants to Leave. Why?

If one part of you wants to stay and another wants to leave, you know how exhausting that inner standoff can be. Many people believe that making the decision will finally quiet the pain. In Episode 18, Wayne Baker, LPC, explores why it actually works the other way around, and how getting curious about your own "parts" helps you begin to move forward.  In this episode: * Why you feel pulled in opposite directions and “crazy” in the midst of the pain * "No bad parts": why even your anger has a good intention, though the behavior may not * Why you work through the feelings to find the clarity, and only then make the decision 👀 WATCH [https://www.affairrecovery.com/podcast/ep-018-part-me-wants-stay-part-me-wants-leave-why] the Episode 📞 +1 (737) 227-5014 [tel:+17372275014] Share a question for future episodes ‼️ Take the FREE Affair Analyzer [https://www.affairrecovery.com/affair-analyzer-0]: Understand your situation 🥾 Sign up for the FREE First Steps Bootcamp [https://www.affairrecovery.com/surviving-infidelity/first-steps-bootcamp]: Take the first step to heal 👥 Explore Our Courses [https://www.affairrecovery.com/programs-and-courses]: Get the support you need to recover ⚠️Disclaimer: Our resources are curated by experts but do not substitute for professional therapy. If you need personalized help, please seek out a qualified therapist or counselor. If you are in crisis, contact emergency services in your area. Transparency note: Some links above and in the comments may be affiliate links, which allow us to continue providing valuable resources for your recovery journey.

Bonus Episode | Why It Happened Again: An Unfaithful Man's Story of Real Recovery

Surviving the trauma isn't the same as truly healing what caused it. In this bonus episode, Jason sits down to tell his and Dara's full story: what was going on inside him across multiple betrayals, why the first round of help didn't create real change, and what finally broke through. In this episode: * Listen to Jason describe honestly what was driving the behavior — in his own words, without excuses * Learn why getting back to normal after the first discovery left the root cause untouched * Hear his wife's powerful words at a rock bottom moment in recovery 📞 +1 (737) 227-5014 [tel:+17372275014] Share a question for future episodes ‼️ Take the FREE Affair Analyzer [https://www.affairrecovery.com/affair-analyzer-0]: Understand your situation 🥾 Sign up for the FREE First Steps Bootcamp [https://www.affairrecovery.com/surviving-infidelity/first-steps-bootcamp]: Take the first step to heal 👥 Explore Our Courses [https://www.affairrecovery.com/programs-and-courses]: Get the support you need to recover ⚠️Disclaimer: Our resources are curated by experts but do not substitute for professional therapy. If you need personalized help, please seek out a qualified therapist or counselor. If you are in crisis, contact emergency services in your area. Transparency note: Some links above and in the comments may be affiliate links, which allow us to continue providing valuable resources for your recovery journey.

Ep. 017 | Trauma or Emotional Abuse? Gaslighting, deception, and lack of empathy with Dr. Hawkins

You've tried everything but nothing changes. You may be wondering whether something deeper is going on. Dr. David Hawkins, clinical psychologist and founder of the Marriage Recovery Center, joins our expert therapists in Episode 17 to unpack the spectrum from narcissism to emotional immaturity, clarify what real remorse actually looks like, and work through a key question: is my mate in a season of affair fog, or is what I'm seeing a pervasive pattern? In this episode: * The real difference between narcissism, emotional abuse, and emotional immaturity — and why it matters for your recovery * What real remorse actually looks like, and why an apology without accountability isn't one * How to find your own identity again after years of feeling like you're disappearing Dr. David Hawkins, Founder and Director of the Marriage Recovery Center and the Emotional Abuse Institute, has brought healing and restoration to thousands of marriages throughout his forty-plus-year career as a clinical psychologist, speaker, and best-selling author. Recognized as an expert in the field of treatment for narcissism and emotional abuse, he developed The Comprehensive Core, a one-of-a-kind program that has helped thousands of men heal from narcissism and emotional abuse.  He also offers training for mental health professionals on navigating narcissistic and emotionally abusive dynamics within the context of relationships. In addition to authoring more than 40 books on marriage and relationships, Dr. Hawkins is the host of the Marriage Rehab Podcast, available anywhere you get your podcasts. Connect with Dr. Hawkins: * 🌐 Website: https://marriagerecoverycenter.com/ [https://marriagerecoverycenter.com/]  * 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marriagerecoverycenter/ [https://www.instagram.com/marriagerecoverycenter/]  * 🎥 YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@drdavidbhawkins [https://www.youtube.com/@drdavidbhawkins]  * 👥 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/marriagerecoverycenter/ [https://www.facebook.com/marriagerecoverycenter/]  * 🎁 Free Quiz: IS HE/SHE A NARCISSIST? Take the quiz developed by Dr. Hawkins to find out: https://marriagerecoverycenter.com/NARCISSISM-QUIZ/ [https://marriagerecoverycenter.com/NARCISSISM-QUIZ/]  📞 +1 (737) 227-5014 [tel:+17372275014] Share a question for future episodes ‼️ Take the FREE Affair Analyzer [https://www.affairrecovery.com/affair-analyzer-0]: Understand your situation 🥾 Sign up for the FREE First Steps Bootcamp [https://www.affairrecovery.com/surviving-infidelity/first-steps-bootcamp]: Take the first step to heal 👥 Explore Our Courses [https://www.affairrecovery.com/programs-and-courses]: Get the support you need to recover ⚠️Disclaimer: Our resources are curated by experts but do not substitute for professional therapy. If you need personalized help, please seek out a qualified therapist or counselor. If you are in crisis, contact emergency services in your area. Transparency note: Some links above and in the comments may be affiliate links, which allow us to continue providing valuable resources for your recovery journey.

Ep. 016 | How to Heal the Anger That Won’t Let Go After Infidelity

The rage that comes after infidelity can make you feel like you've become someone you don't recognize, capable of words, actions, and emotional spirals you never thought possible. In Episode 16, our expert therapists, joined by EMS Weekend Clinical Contributor Brett Hart, LPC, open up with their own deeply personal stories of breaking down in anger and what they learned in the journey through it. If you're feeling stuck in anger you can't seem to shake, or watching it come out sideways in places it doesn't belong, this episode is a reminder that you're not crazy, you're not alone, and there is a way through. In this episode: * The raw, vulnerable stories of anger from our therapists themselves, before they had the tools * What's often sitting beneath the rage: fear, shame, grief, and trauma * Practical ways to channel anger without doing more damage to yourself or the people you love 👀 WATCH [https://www.affairrecovery.com/podcast/ep-016-how-heal-anger-wont-let-go-after-infidelity] the Episode 📞 +1 (737) 227-5014 [tel:+17372275014] Share a question for future episodes ‼️ Take the FREE Affair Analyzer [https://www.affairrecovery.com/affair-analyzer-0]: Understand your situation 🥾 Sign up for the FREE First Steps Bootcamp [https://www.affairrecovery.com/surviving-infidelity/first-steps-bootcamp]: Take the first step to heal 👥 Explore Our Courses [https://www.affairrecovery.com/programs-and-courses]: Get the support you need to recover ⚠️Disclaimer: Our resources are curated by experts but do not substitute for professional therapy. If you need personalized help, please seek out a qualified therapist or counselor. If you are in crisis, contact emergency services in your area. Transparency note: Some links above and in the comments may be affiliate links, which allow us to continue providing valuable resources for your recovery journey.

Ep. 015 | Therapy, Groups, and Intensives: What Actually Works After an Affair?

Not all therapy is created equal – and after an affair, finding the right kind of help can feel like searching in the dark. In Episode 15, our expert therapists are joined by special guest, Candace, to talk about what quality care actually looks like and what to think about the rising trend of AI therapy. We live in a world overflowing with content — but discover why community is what actually heals. * Learn what to look for in a therapist trained specifically for infidelity recovery and betrayal trauma — and the difference it makes * Discover holistic care beyond the therapy room: sleep, community, spiritual practices, and what to do when finances are a barrier * Find out why AI can't replace human connection in healing — and what real community offers that no chatbot ever can 📌 Download the Finding Quality Care [https://s3.us-east-1.amazonaws.com/media.affairrecovery.com/podcast/Finding+Quality+Care+-+Episode+15+Resource.pdf] guide 👀 WATCH [https://www.affairrecovery.com/podcast/ep-015-therapy-groups-and-intensives-what-actually-works-after-affair] the Episode 📞 +1 (737) 227-5014 [tel:+17372275014] Share a question for future episodes ‼️ Take the FREE Affair Analyzer [https://www.affairrecovery.com/affair-analyzer-0]: Understand your situation 🥾 Sign up for the FREE First Steps Bootcamp [https://www.affairrecovery.com/surviving-infidelity/first-steps-bootcamp]: Take the first step to heal 👥 Explore Our Courses [https://www.affairrecovery.com/programs-and-courses]: Get the support you need to recover ⚠️Disclaimer: Our resources are curated by experts but do not substitute for professional therapy. If you need personalized help, please seek out a qualified therapist or counselor. If you are in crisis, contact emergency services in your area. Transparency note: Some links above and in the comments may be affiliate links, which allow us to continue providing valuable resources for your recovery journey.