The Breakup Debrief Podcast

#52 One Year of the Podcast; Kelly's Brother Tells All (P.1)

One year, 52 episodes & to celebrate Kelly's brought in her favourite guest- baby bro Ian 🎉 This is the episode you didn't know you needed. Equal parts chaotic, hilarious, emotional & genuinely insightful because who better to give you the real story on Kelly's breakup journey than the person who had front row seats to all of it? In Part 1 of this special one year episode, Kelly & Ian get into Kelly's breakup history from Ian's perspective, what it was really like supporting her from the inside & Ian's own breakup & healing journey earlier this year. You'll hear: ✨ Ian's honest take on Kelly's exes- including which one he liked least ✨ The "I told you so" moment Ian had been sitting on & the story that goes with it ✨ What supporting Kelly through her breakups was actually like from the inside ✨ What Ian would tell anyone who is supporting a loved one through a breakup right now ✨ What it was like going through a breakup with a sister who is a Breakup Empowerment Coach & whether it actually helped ✨ How Ian handled telling people about his breakup when he wanted to keep it private ✨ The moment Ian sat Kelly down & kept saying "it gets worse"- and it kept getting worse ✨ How Ian coped in the early stages of his own breakup- spoiler: not well 😂 Part 2 coming next week & trust us, you'll want to tune in for that one too 💚 Links & Resources 📧 Share your story for the "Where Is She Now?" segment: info@kellyskoaching.com [info@kellyskoaching.com] 📲 Follow Kelly on Instagram & TikTok: @kellyskoaching [https://www.instagram.com/kellyskoaching/] 🔗 Explore all links & resources: Linktree [https://linktr.ee/kellys_koaching]

#51 Seeking Male Validation After a Breakup- Why We Do It & How to Stop

Okay, be honest. After your breakup, did you jump back on the apps not because you were ready to date, but because you just needed someone to find you attractive? Did you post that selfie & spend the next hour checking who'd seen it? Did you find yourself flirting with someone you weren't even interested in, just for the attention? No judgment here. Kelly has been there too and this week she's getting into all of it. Episode 50 is the male validation episode- how we seek it, why we seek it & most importantly how we stop needing it from everyone else & start giving it to ourselves instead. You'll hear: ✨ The subtle ways seeking male validation shows up & why it doesn't always look like what you think ✨ Why your dopamine & oxytocin crash after a breakup makes validation-seeking completely understandable & what your brain is actually trying to do ✨ Why external validation is like a sugar rush & why it will never actually fill the gap ✨ How chasing validation from men is quietly delaying your healing without you even realising it ✨ Why the right person cannot fix a validation wound & what happens when you make them try ✨ The self-awareness tool that is always the first step ✨ Practical ways to start validating yourself- including the affirmation you can use even if the big ones feel like a lie right now ✨ The difference between enjoying a compliment & depending on one You knew you looked good in that photo. That's why you posted it. This episode is your reminder that you don't need anyone else to confirm it 💚 Also, Kelly introduces something new in this episode. The Breakup Clarity Call. A 90-minute one-to-one call for anyone who isn't sure about full coaching yet but needs some guidance, a bit of a chin wag & a clear action plan for what comes next. Details on Instagram. Links & Resources 📧 Share your story for the "Where Is She Now?" segment: info@kellyskoaching.com 📲 Follow Kelly on Instagram & TikTok: @kellyskoaching 🔗 Explore all links & resources: Linktree [https://linktr.ee/kellys_koaching]

#50 Off Campus & What It Taught Us About the Relationships We Actually Deserve

Have you watched Off Campus yet? Because if you haven't, go & watch it and then come back. This week Kelly is talking about the show that has taken over the internet & more importantly, the conversation it's opened up about healthy relationships, what we've been conditioned to expect from men & why so many of us were sitting watching it fully braced for the worst. ⚠️ Spoiler warning: this episode does discuss specific scenes from the show. You'll hear: ✨ Why Off Campus has been described online as a form of generational therapy ✨ The moments in the show where viewers were expecting toxicity, drama & blow-ups- & what it means that we were so ready for it ✨ How years of TV shows & movies have quietly taught us that jealousy means love, moodiness is romantic & chaos is passion ✨ The specific green flags in the show that felt radical but really shouldn't be ✨ Why "are you okay?" instead of a blow-up should be the standard, not the exception ✨ What it means if you watched this show & felt genuinely healed by it ✨ Kelly's comparison to Nobody Wants This- another show getting it right ✨ Why these men do actually exist & what to do if you haven't found yours yet ✨ A teaser for an upcoming episode with a very special guest (hint: he's single, thriving & smashing the gym 😂) The bar is not high, girls. Garrett Graham is not an impossibly perfect man. He just communicates, doesn't make everything about his ego & treats the woman he's with like she matters. That's it. That's the standard & this episode is your reminder to stop settling for anything less 💚 Links & Resources 📧 Share your story for the "Where Is She Now?" segment: info@kellyskoaching.com 📲 Follow Kelly on Instagram & TikTok: @kellyskoaching 🔗 Explore all links & resources: Linktree [https://linktr.ee/kellys_koaching]

#49 Why You're Addicted to the Situationship & How to Finally Walk Away

You know it's going nowhere. You've known for months. Your friends have told you. You've told yourself. And yet, here you still are. This week Kelly is talking about the situationship. Not to tell you what to do- she's not going to sit here and say "know your worth" & expect that to magically fix anything. She knows it's not that simple. Some of these guys have a GRIP! And today she's explaining exactly why. You'll hear: ✨ Why situationships can be a form of addiction and the psychology behind why you literally cannot logic your way out of them ✨ Intermittent reinforcement- the most powerful psychological hook there is & why it's the exact reason his three-day silence followed by one text sends you into a tizzy✨ Why the butterflies you feel in a situationship are actually anxiety in disguise ✨ The attachment style connection- why anxiously attached women are the most likely to end up in situationships & the least likely to thrive in them ✨ How the situationship becomes a form of self-sabotage & why it's easier to blame his unavailability than face the real fear underneath ✨ The danger of potential- why you're not in love with him, you're in love with who he could be ✨ The sunk cost trap & why "I'm already ten months in" is never a good enough reason to stay ✨ How to actually get yourself out of the loop- the honest, practical, no-fluff version ✨ Why consistency might feel boring at first & why that's important information about your attachment style, not your compatibility You are not silly for being in this. But you do deserve so much more than an almost & this episode is your reminder of that! ❤️‍🔥 Links & Resources📧 Share your story for the "Where Is She Now?" segment: info@kellyskoaching.com📲 Follow Kelly on Instagram & TikTok: @kellyskoaching🔗 Explore all links & resources: Linktree [https://linktr.ee/kellys_koaching?utm_source=linktree_profile_share<sid=b67dd8fd-00bc-472e-88a7-303345f72586]

#48 Are You Actually Healed Or Are You Just Numb?

You've stopped crying. You've deleted the photos. You haven't checked his Instagram in three whole weeks. You're going to the gym, seeing your friends, getting on with life. So why does something still feel just… off? In this week's episode, Kelly asks the question that nobody else is asking: are you actually healed or are you just numb? Because numb is not the destination, girls. Life is for living. You'll hear: ✨ What healing actually looks like and more importantly, what it doesn't ✨ The difference between being genuinely over it and being dismissive of a whole chapter of your life ✨ The signs that you might be numb rather than healed — and why it is not your fault ✨ Why your nervous system can go into full shutdown mode after prolonged stress or trauma — and the science behind why it turns everything down, not just the pain ✨ The Vampire Diaries analogy nobody asked for but absolutely needed 🧛 ✨ Five questions to ask yourself to figure out which one you're actually in ✨ Why hustle culture and social media are making it harder to actually heal — and easier to perform healing instead ✨ Practical ways to gently reactivate your nervous system and come back to yourself ✨ Why you have to go backwards before you can go forwards This episode might confirm that you're doing better than you think. Or it might be the thing that finally helps you name what's been going on. Either way, you deserve to feel your life to its full extent. And this is your reminder that you can get there ❤️‍🔥 Links & Resources 📧 Share your story for the "Where Is She Now?" segment: info@kellyskoaching.com 📲 Follow Kelly on Instagram & TikTok: @kellyskoaching 🔗 Explore all links & resources: Linktree