What We Still Get Wrong About Happiness (Live at Dartmouth)

What We Still Get Wrong About Happiness (Live at Dartmouth)

In this special live episode, Dr. Laurie takes the stage at Dartmouth College for a conversation with happiness historian Darrin McMahon [https://darrinmcmahon.com/]. Together, they break down some of the biggest misconceptions about happiness in modern life, discuss the most effective (and often counterintuitive) ways to improve our wellbeing, and explore how smartphones, AI, and other new technologies may shape happiness in the years ahead. Experts Mentioned:  * Darrin McMahon [https://faculty-directory.dartmouth.edu/darrin-m-mcmahon], Professor of History at Dartmouth College * Martin Seligman [https://ppc.sas.upenn.edu/people/martin-ep-seligman], Professor of Psychology and Director of the Positive Psychology Center at the University of Pennsylvania * Lorraine Siggins [https://emeritus.yale.edu/fellows/lorraine-siggins], Director Emeritus of Mental Health and Counseling for Students at Yale Health * Ashley Whillans [https://www.hbs.edu/faculty/Pages/profile.aspx?facId=943704], Associate Professor of Business Administration at Harvard Business School * Sonja Lyubomirsky [https://sonjalyubomirsky.com/], Professor of Psychology at the University of California, Riverside * Carey Morewedge [https://www.careymorewedge.com/], Chair of the Marketing Department at Boston University’s Questrom School of Business * Gabriele Oettingen [https://woopmylife.org/en/contact], Professor of Psychology at New York University and the University of Hamburg * David Blanchflower [https://economics.dartmouth.edu/people/david-graham-blanchflower], Professor of Economics at Dartmouth College * Jean Twenge [https://www.jeantwenge.com/], Professor of Psychology at San Diego State University * Jonathan Haidt [https://www.jonathanhaidt.com/], Professor of Ethical Leadership and Professor of Business & Society at New York University Stern School of Business * Elizabeth Dunn [https://dunn.psych.ubc.ca/], Professor of Psychology at the University of British Columbia * Manoush Zomorodi [https://www.manoushz.com/], journalist, podcast host, and author * Robert Putnam [https://www.hks.harvard.edu/faculty/robert-d-putnam], Professor Emeritus of Public Policy at Harvard University * Kostadin Kushlev [https://www.kushlev.com/], Associate Professor of Psychology at Georgetown University * Catherine Price [https://catherineprice.com/], journalist and author  * Michael Inzlicht [https://michaelinzlicht.com/about], Professor of Psychology at the University of Toronto, with a cross-appointment in the Rotman School of Management * Adam Smith [https://plato.stanford.edu/entries/smith-moral-political/], Scottish economist and philosopher * Erzo Luttmer [https://economics.dartmouth.edu/people/erzo-fp-luttmer], Professor of Economics at Dartmouth College * Jan-Emmanuel De Neve [https://www.sbs.ox.ac.uk/about-us/people/jan-emmanuel-de-neve], Professor of Economics and Behavioural Science and Director of the Wellbeing Research Centre at the University of Oxford Resources Mentioned:  * The Descent of Man, and Selection in Relation to Sex [https://www.amazon.com/Descent-Selection-Relation-Princeton-Science/dp/0691023697], by Charles Darwin (1871) * “High Income Improves Evaluation of Life but Not Emotional Well-Being [https://www.pnas.org/doi/10.1073/pnas.1011492107?gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=21506599862&gbraid=0AAAAAqiPmCwrrBiN17xYWfJKFFM4_falq&gclid=Cj0KCQjw9ZLSBhCcARIsAEhGKgMg372wt7-O0WFwLAO6tZmuxJ47C2gaB6JCM7QVczHQp0gJhe7RojQaAqWrEALw_wcB],” by Daniel Kahneman and Angus Deaton (Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences, 2010) * “Income and Emotional Well-Being: A Conflict Resolved [https://www.pnas.org/doi/10.1073/pnas.2208661120],” by Matthew Killingsworth, Daniel Kahneman, and Barbra Mellers * Time Smart: How to Reclaim Your Time and Live a Happier Life [https://www.amazon.com/Time-Smart-Reclaim-Your-Happier/dp/1633698351], by Ashley Whillans (2020) * The How of Happiness: A New Approach to Getting the Life You Want [https://www.amazon.com/How-Happiness-Approach-Getting-Life/dp/0143114956], by Sonja Lyubomirsky (2007) * The Happiness Hypothesis: Finding Modern Truth in Ancient Wisdom [https://www.amazon.com/Happiness-Hypothesis-Finding-Modern-Ancient/dp/0465028020], by Jonathan Haidt (2006) * “Thought for Food: Imagined Consumption Reduces Actual Consumption [https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/21148388/],” by Carey K Morewedge, Young Eun Huh, and Joachim Vosgerau (Science, 2010) * Rethinking Positive Thinking: Inside the New Science of Motivation [https://www.amazon.com/Rethinking-Positive-Thinking-Science-Motivation/dp/1617230235], by Gabriele Oettingen (2014) * “Declining Life Satisfaction and Happiness Among Young Adults in Six English-Speaking Countries [https://www.nber.org/papers/w33490],” by Jean Twenge and David Blanchflower (NBER Working Paper Series, 2025) * “Smartphones Reduce Smiles Between Strangers [https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0747563218304643],” by Kostadin Kushlev, John Hunter, Jason Proulx, Sarah Pressman, and Elizabeth Dunn (Computers in Human Behavior, 2019) * Body Electric: The Hidden Health Costs of the Digital Age and New Science to Reclaim Your Well-Being [https://www.amazon.com/Body-Electric-Digital-Science-Well-Being/dp/1250411203], by Manoush Zomorodi (2026) * Bowling Alone: The Collapse and Revival of American Community [https://www.amazon.com/Bowling-Alone-Collapse-American-Community/dp/0743203046], by Robert Putnam (2000) * Four Days a Week: The Life-Changing Solution for Reducing Employee Stress, Improving Well-Being, and Working Smarter [https://www.amazon.com/Four-Days-Week-Life-Changing-Well-Being/dp/0063382431], by Juliet Schor (2025) * “Do Happy People Care About Society’s Problems? [https://static1.squarespace.com/static/57a40c19414fb54f51f8095f/t/64931bd01d517e1d9f25fa83/1687362512991/2019+Kushlevetal-Happy-People-Care.pdf],” by Kostadin Kushlev, Danielle M. Drummond, Samantha J. Heintzelman, and Ed Diener (The Journal of Positive Psychology, 2019) * “When Less Is More: Counterfactual Thinking and Satisfaction Among Olympic Medalists [https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/7473022/],” by Victoria Husted Medvec, Scott Madey, and Thomas Gilovich (Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 1995) * The Theory of Moral Sentiments [https://www.amazon.com/Theory-Moral-Sentiments-Adam-Smith/dp/1614279985], by Adam Smith (1759) * “Neighbors as Negatives: Relative Earnings and Well-Being [https://academic.oup.com/qje/article-abstract/120/3/963/1841496],” by Erzo Luttmer (The Quarterly Journal of Economics, 2005) * How to Break Up With Your Phone: The 30-Day Plan to Take Back Your Life [https://www.amazon.com/How-Break-Up-Your-Phone/dp/039958112X], by Catherine Price (2018) * “How Does Turning to AI for Companionship Predict Loneliness and Vice Versa? [https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/09567976261427747]”, by Dunigan Folk and Elizabeth Dunn (Psychological Science, 2026) * “Effort Feels Meaningful [https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/36272939/],” by Michael Inzlicht and Aidan Campbell (Trends in Cognitive Sciences, 2022) * Why Workplace Wellbeing Matters: The Science Behind Employee Happiness and Organizational Performance [https://www.amazon.com/Why-Workplace-Wellbeing-Matters-Organizational/dp/1647826357], by Jan-Emmanuel De Neve and George Ward (2025) * “Alysa Liu: ‘If I Didn’t Hit Rock Bottom, I Could Not Have Gone Up’ [https://www.rollingstone.com/culture/culture-features/alysa-liu-olympic-gold-medalist-interview-1235525804/],” by Alex Morris (Rolling Stone, 2026) Related Episodes:  * “Why the ‘Pursuit of Happiness’ Is a Bad Idea [https://www.pushkin.fm/podcasts/the-happiness-lab-with-dr-laurie-santos/why-the-pursuit-of-happiness-is-a-bad-idea]” * “What Screen Time Is Really Doing to Your Body with Manoush Zomorodi [https://www.pushkin.fm/podcasts/the-happiness-lab-with-dr-laurie-santos/what-screen-time-is-really-doing-to-your-body-with-manoush-zomorodi]” * “What is Social Media Doing to Kids? with Dr. Jean Twenge [https://www.pushkin.fm/podcasts/the-happiness-lab-with-dr-laurie-santos/what-is-social-media-doing-to-kids-with-dr-jean-twenge]” * “Take a Three-Day Weekend Without Losing Any Pay (with Juliet Schor) [https://www.pushkin.fm/podcasts/the-happiness-lab-with-dr-laurie-santos/take-a-three-day-weekend-without-losing-any-pay-with-juliet-schor]” See omnystudio.com/listener [https://omnystudio.com/listener] for privacy information.

Why the “Pursuit of Happiness” Is a Bad Idea

The “pursuit of happiness” is one of America’s founding ideals. But what if chasing happiness is actually making us feel worse? In honor of the 250th anniversary of American independence, Dr. Laurie travels to Independence Hall in Philadelphia to explore what Thomas Jefferson and the founders really meant by “the pursuit of happiness” — and how that idea has changed over time. She speaks with historian Darrin McMahon [https://faculty-directory.dartmouth.edu/darrin-m-mcmahon] and psychologist Iris Mauss [https://psychology.berkeley.edu/people/iris-mauss] about Americans’ unique relationship with happiness, why striving for it can sometimes backfire, and why the best path to a good life may involve focusing less on ourselves and more on other people. For more content about the Declaration of Independence, and what we get wrong about it, check out the new Pushkin show, First America. Find First America wherever you get podcasts [http://lnk.to/FATHL]. Experts Mentioned: * Darrin McMahon [https://faculty-directory.dartmouth.edu/darrin-m-mcmahon], David W. Little Class of 1944 Professor of History at Dartmouth College * Iris Mauss [https://psychology.berkeley.edu/people/iris-mauss], Professor of Psychology at UC Berkeley and Director of the Emotion and Emotion Regulation Lab  * Lahnna Catalino [https://www.scrippscollege.edu/offices/profile/lahnna-catalino], Associate Professor of Psychology at Scripps College * Birgit Koopmann-Holm [https://www.scu.edu/cas/psychology/faculty-and-staff/birgit-koopmann-holm/], Associate Professor of Psychology at Santa Clara College of Arts and Sciences Resources Mentioned: * “Declaration of Independence [https://www.archives.gov/founding-docs/declaration-transcript],” (1776) * Happiness: A History [https://www.amazon.com/s?k=happiness+a+history&hvadid=694122845217&hvdev=c&hvexpln=67&hvlocphy=9004400&hvnetw=g&hvocijid=8289930300280046609--&hvqmt=e&hvrand=8289930300280046609&hvtargid=kwd-299429754950&hydadcr=15278_13517873&mcid=6edc0d09988a39e7a06307a2a77af1cb&tag=googhydr-20&ref=pd_sl_5fsx49g574_e_p67], by Darrin McMahon (2006) * A Dictionary of the English Language [https://www.amazon.com/Dictionary-English-Language-Anthology-Classics/dp/0141441577], by Samuel Johnson (1755) * Democracy in America [https://www.amazon.com/Democracy-America-Alexis-Tocqueville/dp/0226805360], by Alexis de Tocqueville (1835) * “The Pursuit of Happiness: Pitfalls and Promises [https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S1364661326000513?dgcid=author],” by Iris Mauss and Brett Ford * “Can Seeking Happiness Make People Happy? Paradoxical Effects of Valuing Happiness [https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC3160511/],” by Iris Mauss and colleagues (Emotion, 2011) * “Focusing on the Negative: Cultural Differences in Expressions of Sympathy [https://psycnet.apa.org/doiLanding?doi=10.1037%2Fa0037684],” by Birgit Koopmann-Holm and Jeanne Tsai (Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 2014) * “Prioritizing Positivity: An Effective Approach to Pursuing Happiness? [https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC5533095/],” by Lahnna Catalino, Sara Algoe, and Barbra Frederickson (Emotion, 2014) Related Episodes: * “Happiness Lessons From the Ancients: Aristotle [https://www.pushkin.fm/podcasts/the-happiness-lab-with-dr-laurie-santos/happiness-lessons-of-the-ancients-aristotle]” * "How to Identify Your Negative Emotions [https://www.pushkin.fm/podcasts/the-happiness-lab-with-dr-laurie-santos/how-to-identify-your-negative-emotions]" * “Stop Endlessly Chasing the ‘Next Big Thing’ in 2023 [https://www.pushkin.fm/podcasts/the-happiness-lab-with-dr-laurie-santos/stop-endlessly-chasing-the-next-big-thing-in-2023]” See omnystudio.com/listener [https://omnystudio.com/listener] for privacy information.

Why “No Regrets” Is Bad Advice

We’ve all had moments we wish we could do over: the relationship we stayed in too long, the opportunity we didn’t take, the thing we said that we can’t unsay. Regret can feel awful. So it’s no surprise that “no regrets” has become a popular life motto. But what if regret isn't actually the enemy? In this episode from The Happiness Lab archives, Dr. Laurie explores the surprising science of regret with authors Daniel Pink [https://www.danpink.com/] and Liz Fosslien [https://www.fosslien.com/]. Together, they explain why our biggest regrets can reveal what we value most, help us make better decisions, and even point us toward a happier future. If you've ever found yourself stuck replaying an old mistake, this episode offers a more productive way to look back. Experts Mentioned: * Daniel Pink [https://www.danpink.com/], non-fiction author * Liz Fosslien [https://www.fosslien.com/], author, illustrator, and expert in workplace culture and emotions * Mollie West Duffy [https://molliewestduffy.com/], author, illustrator, and expert in organizational development * Augusten Burroughs [https://www.augusten.com/], author and memoirist * Bronnie Ware [https://bronnieware.com/], author and palliative carer  Resources Mentioned: * “Liz + Mollie [https://www.lizandmollie.com/]” * Big Feelings: How to Be Okay When Things Are  Not Okay [https://www.amazon.com/Big-Feelings-Okay-When-Things/dp/0593418239], by Liz Fosslien and Mollie West Duffy (2022) * Power of Regret: How Looking Backward Moves Us Forward [https://www.amazon.com/Power-Regret-Looking-Backward-Forward/dp/0735210659], by Daniel Pink (2022) * The Top Five Regrets of the Dying:  A Life Transformed by the Dearly Departing [https://www.amazon.com/Top-Five-Regrets-Dying-Transformed/dp/140194065X], by Bronnie Ware (2011) * “Making Up for Lost Opportunities: The Protective Role of Downward Social Comparisons for Coping With Regrets Across Adulthood [https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/pdf/10.1177/0146167210393256?casa_token=wr3_gS7VSLIAAAAA:xVdemmc-HfadLq9Q7yuYv6pSVBsjJSd2VYOZcLoqn_FtS34AyKPqCM9b-RcnTaWqr4qZdkBM-gk],” by Isabelle Bauer and Carsten Wrosch (2011)  Related Episodes  * “How to Identify Your Negative Emotions [https://www.pushkin.fm/podcasts/the-happiness-lab-with-dr-laurie-santos/how-to-identify-your-negative-emotions]” * “How to Be Angry Better [https://www.pushkin.fm/podcasts/the-happiness-lab-with-dr-laurie-santos/how-to-be-angry-better]” * “Why Nostalgia Ain't So Rosy [https://www.pushkin.fm/podcasts/the-happiness-lab-with-dr-laurie-santos/why-nostalgia-aint-so-rosy]” See omnystudio.com/listener [https://omnystudio.com/listener] for privacy information.

Are Kids Today Really Worse Off?

We hear a lot about rising rates of anxiety, depression, and fragility among kids today. But when Harvard researcher Alexis Redding [https://www.gse.harvard.edu/directory/faculty/alexis-redding] uncovered a forgotten trove of interviews with college students from the 1970s, she found something surprising: their emotional struggles and developmental challenges sounded nearly identical to those of students today. Dr. Laurie also talks with psychologist Adam Mastroianni [https://www.adammastroianni.com/] about why our minds are so quick to believe that young people are getting worse over time. Together, they explore what we get wrong about “kids these days,” and how historical perspective can help us respond to young people with a little more compassion. Experts Mentioned:  * Alexis Redding [https://www.gse.harvard.edu/directory/faculty/alexis-redding], developmental psychologist and Co-Chair of Higher Education at the Harvard Graduate School of Education * William Perry [https://www.thecrimson.com/article/1998/1/28/bureau-of-study-counsel-founder-dies/], professor of education at the Harvard Graduate School of Education * Adam Mastroianni [https://www.adammastroianni.com/], writer and social psychologist * Nancy Hill [https://www.gse.harvard.edu/directory/faculty/nancy-hill], Charles Bigelow Professor of Education at the Harvard Graduate School of Education Resources Mentioned: * Mental Health in College: What Research Tells Us About Supporting Students [https://www.amazon.com/Mental-Health-College-Research-Supporting/dp/B0FQ9HXNB6], by Alexis Redding (2026) * Forms of Ethical and Intellectual Development in the College Years: A Scheme [https://www.amazon.com/Forms-Ethical-Intellectual-Development-College/dp/0787941182], by William Perry (1968) * “The Illusion of Moral Decline [https://www.nature.com/articles/s41586-023-06137-x]” by Adam Mastroianni and Dan Gilbert (Nature, 2023) Related Episodes:  * “How to Make America's Young People Happier Again [https://www.pushkin.fm/podcasts/the-happiness-lab-with-dr-laurie-santos/how-to-make-americas-young-people-happier-again]” * “What is Social Media Doing to Kids? [https://www.pushkin.fm/podcasts/the-happiness-lab-with-dr-laurie-santos/what-is-social-media-doing-to-kids-with-dr-jean-twenge]” * “How Smartphones Changed Childhood (And What to Do About It) [https://www.pushkin.fm/podcasts/the-happiness-lab-with-dr-laurie-santos/how-smartphones-changed-childhood-and-what-to-do-about-it]” See omnystudio.com/listener [https://omnystudio.com/listener] for privacy information.

The Surprising Case for Oversharing

We’re kicking off a new season of The Happiness Lab with some happiness hot takes — bold claims that challenge conventional wisdom about what it really takes to feel happier. Today's hot take is all about oversharing. We’re usually told that revealing too much is cringe-worthy. That it demonstrates social ignorance. That when it comes to overly personal information, save it for your therapist, because less is usually more. Dr. Laurie argues that revealing more than feels comfortable can actually strengthen our social connections and boost our wellbeing. She speaks with Harvard Business School professor Leslie John [https://www.hbs.edu/faculty/Pages/profile.aspx?facId=589473], author of Revealing [https://www.amazon.com/Revealing-Underrated-Oversharing-Leslie-John/dp/0593545389], about why TLI (too little information) is often more dangerous than TMI, and chats with University of Chicago psychologist Nick Epley [https://www.nicholasepley.com/], author of A Little More Social [https://www.amazon.com/Little-More-Social-Unexpected-Connection/dp/0593319540], about what “embracing the cringe” can teach us about connection, vulnerability, and trust.  Together, they explore the line between sharing and oversharing, and explain why what feels like “too much information” is often just information. Experts Mentioned:  * Leslie John [https://www.proflesliejohn.com/about], James. E. Burke Professor of Business Administration at Harvard Business School * Nick Epley [https://www.nicholasepley.com/], John Templeton Keller Distinguished Service Professor of Behavioral Science and Faculty Director of the Roman Family Center for Decision Research at the University of Chicago Booth School of Business * Bronnie Ware [https://bronnieware.com/], author and palliative carer  Resources Mentioned: * Revealing: The Underrated Power of Oversharing [https://www.amazon.com/Revealing-Underrated-Oversharing-Leslie-John/dp/0593545389], by Leslie John (2026) * “Putting feelings into words: Affect labeling as implicit emotion regulation [https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/1754073917742706]” by Jared Torre and Matthew Lieberman (Emotion Review, 2018) * The Top Five Regrets of the Dying: A Life Transformed by the Dearly Departing [https://www.amazon.com/Top-Five-Regrets-Dying-Transformed/dp/140194065X], by Bronnie Ware (2011) * A Little More Social: How Small Choices Create Unexpected Happiness, Health, and Connection [https://www.amazon.com/Little-More-Social-Unexpected-Connection/dp/0593319540], by Nick Epley (2026) * “Undervaluing gratitude: Expressers misunderstand the consequences of showing appreciation [https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/0956797618772506],” by Amit Kumar and Nick Epley (Psychological Science, 2018) * “Insufficiently complimentary?: Underestimating the positive impact of compliments creates a barrier to expressing them [https://psycnet.apa.org/record/2021-92058-001]” by Xuan Zhao and Nick Epley (Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 2021) Related Episodes:  * “The Secret to Making Friends as an Adult [https://www.pushkin.fm/podcasts/the-happiness-lab-with-dr-laurie-santos/the-secret-to-making-friends-as-an-adult]” * “Why Giving is a Great Daily Habit [https://www.pushkin.fm/podcasts/the-happiness-lab-with-dr-laurie-santos/why-giving-is-a-great-daily-habit]” * “Caring What You’re Sharing [https://www.pushkin.fm/podcasts/the-happiness-lab-with-dr-laurie-santos/caring-what-youre-sharing]” See omnystudio.com/listener [https://omnystudio.com/listener] for privacy information.