The MOM Show with Courtney Doyle

212~When Your Past Shapes Your Parenting: Breaking the Cycle of Fear with Courtney

Have you ever walked through something hard with one child… and quietly feared it might happen again with another? After my conversation with Amy Loflin, I wanted to take a deeper look at something so many moms experience—but rarely name: anticipatory grief. In this solo episode, I'm sharing how our past pain can begin to shape our present relationships, causing us to expect the worst before it ever happens. When we're not careful, fear can slowly shift the way we see our children, leading us to parent from a place of anxiety instead of truth. I open up about my own experience—how a past unhealthy relationship distorted my understanding of love, and how I unknowingly carried those beliefs into a healthy one. It took time, awareness, and God's truth to begin separating what was real… from what I had come to expect. If you've ever found yourself bracing for something that hasn't even happened yet… this episode is for you. In This Episode, We Talk About: * What anticipatory grief is and how it shows up in motherhood * Why it's easy to expect the same struggles with other children * The difference between awareness and projection * How past experiences can distort our view of love and relationships * Why fear can create distance in the relationships that matter most * How to begin separating your past from your present Encouragement for You: Your past may explain your fear… but it does not get to define your relationships. You don't have to parent from fear. And just because something happened before… doesn't mean it will happen again. Connect with Courtney: Join the community: MOM 101 Facebook Group [https://www.facebook.com/groups/1346052689873597] Explore coaching + resources: Courtney Doyle Ministries [https://link.equipt360.com/widget/form/Gz3t91bSKGbtUd8MOWvN] Follow along on Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/courtneydoyle_8/]

211~ Breaking Free from Anticipated Grief with Amy Loflin

In today's episode, Courtney sits down with author, speaker, and life coach Amy Loflin for a deeply honest and powerful conversation about fear, grief, and the way past pain can quietly shape how we love. Amy shares a pivotal moment from her motherhood journey—a brief but life-altering experience on the beach when she couldn't find her young son. While everything turned out fine, what surfaced in her heart revealed something deeper: she had been living in a state of anticipated grief—expecting loss before it ever came. Together, Courtney and Amy unpack how unresolved grief, fear, and trauma can cause us to hold our loved ones at arm's length… even when we don't realize it. But this conversation doesn't stay in the struggle. Amy shares how God gently revealed these patterns, led her into healing, and invited her into a life of deeper connection—one where fear no longer calls the shots. If you've ever felt like you're waiting for the other shoe to drop… If fear has kept you from being fully present… Or if you've experienced loss that still lingers… This episode will meet you right where you are—and point you back to freedom in Christ. What We Talk About * What anticipated grief is and how it shows up in motherhood * How past loss can quietly affect how we love our families * The subtle ways fear steals connection * Letting go of control and perfectionism * Healing your identity and rooting it in Christ * Parenting without placing your children (or others) on a pedestal * The power of being fully present and "all in" with your family * Amy's book A Story Worth Living and the story of the bleeding woman * The invitation to step out of hiding and into healing Scripture Highlight "When she knew she could no longer stay hidden, she began to tremble and fell to her knees in front of Him." — Luke 8:47 (NLT) Connect with Amy * Instagram: @aoloflin [https://www.instagram.com/aoloflin/] * Facebook: Amy Otwell Loflin * Ministry: Echo Joy Collective [https://www.echojoycollective.com/?utm_source=ig&utm_medium=social&utm_content=link_in_bio&fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAc3J0YwZhcHBfaWQMMjU2MjgxMDQwNTU4AAGnSMrDRuklUtEGq5VJCIsI_NYvZxO4UV8oBfz-IS1ledIhS4a1fQ4QOt3tSZg_aem_6WabW6mAi8hlFrwGVAgiqQ] * Website: https://www.echojoycollective.com [https://www.echojoycollective.com] * Book: A Story Worth Living: Reclaim Your Confidence, Purpose, and Peace [https://amzn.to/4mVHb06] Connect with Courtney Instagram: @courtneydoyle_8 [https://www.instagram.com/courtneydoyle_8/] Website: www.courtneydoyleministries.com [http://www.courtneydoyleministries.com] Join the MOM 101 Facebook Group: Click here [https://www.facebook.com/groups/1346052689873597]

210~Tough Love & Tender Hearts with Courtney

If you've ever watched your child struggle and felt unsure of what to do… this episode is for you. After my conversation with Amber Lia, I wanted to take a moment to speak directly to the mom who is sitting in that tension—wanting to help, but not knowing how. In this solo episode, I'm sharing what it looks like to stay present without pressure, create safety instead of rushing to solutions, and walk the line between supporting your child and trying to control the outcome. We'll talk about tough love, trusting your instincts when something feels off, and why sometimes the most powerful thing you can do… is simply refuse to walk away. In This Episode, We Talk About: * What to do when your child is struggling and you can't "fix it" * The difference between control and healthy support * Why tough love is sometimes necessary—and how to do it well * Creating a safe space for your child while still setting boundaries * Trusting God with what is ultimately out of your control ✨ Encouragement for You: You don't have to have all the answers. You are not failing. And you are not alone. Connect with Courtney: Join the community: MOM 101 Facebook Group [https://www.facebook.com/groups/1346052689873597] Explore coaching + resources: Courtney Doyle Ministries [https://link.equipt360.com/widget/form/Gz3t91bSKGbtUd8MOWvN] Follow along on Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/courtneydoyle_8/]

209~You Are Seen: Helping Your Teen (and Yourself) Through Anxiety with Amber Lia

If you've ever watched your child struggle and felt completely helpless… this episode is for you. Today, I'm joined by author and speaker Amber Lia, and we are having a real, honest conversation about what it looks like when anxiety and depression show up in your home—and you don't know how to fix it. Amber shares the story of her son Ollie's battle with anxiety and depression, and the journey their family walked through together. From the early signs of withdrawal… to feeling shut out as a mom… to learning how to support without controlling—this conversation is full of wisdom, encouragement, and practical tools. If you are in a season where your child is struggling… or you feel like you're carrying anxiety yourself… you are not alone. You are seen. And there is hope. In This Episode, We Talk About: * How to recognize when something is actually wrong vs. typical teen behavior * What it feels like as a mom when your child is hurting—and you can't fix it * How to support your teen without controlling or pushing them away * The balance between faith, practical tools, and professional help * Why it's not about "trying harder," but learning to rest in God's presence * How to create a safe space for your child—even when they shut you out * The importance of loving boundaries (especially with counseling) * Practical tools like the 5-4-3-2-1 grounding method for anxiety * How to care for your other children during a difficult season * Why both moms and teens are struggling with feeling unseen Resources Mentioned * You Are Seen: 90 Devotions to Encourage Stressed Teens by Amber Lia & Ollie Lia https://amzn.to/4vH8Gyk [https://amzn.to/4vH8Gyk] Connect with Amber & Ollie * Website: https://amberlia.com/ [https://amberlia.com/] * Instagram: @therealamberlia [https://www.instagram.com/therealamberlia/] * Ollie's Instagram: @walkin.with.ollie [https://www.instagram.com/walkin.with.ollie/] Connect with Courtney: Instagram: @courtneydoyle_8 [https://www.instagram.com/courtneydoyle_8/] Website: www.courtneydoyleministries.com [http://www.courtneydoyleministries.com] Join the MOM 101 Facebook Group: Click here [https://www.facebook.com/groups/1346052689873597]

208~When You Can't Be Everywhere at Once

Some seasons of motherhood don't just feel full… they feel impossible. In this episode, I'm sharing a very real and personal look at what it feels like to be stretched across multiple moments at once, wanting to show up fully for each child, each milestone, each once-in-a-lifetime moment… and realizing you simply can't be everywhere at the same time. After last week's conversation with Meagan Hansen about "white knuckling motherhood," I couldn't shake that phrase. Because if I'm honest, I've been living that out in my own life lately. Gripping tightly, trying to plan and control what was never mine to carry. Between a daughter about to give birth, another walking through life-changing decisions, and a son graduating college… the tension is real. And maybe you're feeling it too. In This Episode, We Talk About: * What it looks like to "white knuckle" motherhood—and why we do it * The pressure moms feel to be everything for everyone * The anxiety of "what if I miss something?" * A powerful shift from control to surrender * How to stay present in the moments that matter most Truth to Hold Onto You cannot be everywhere at once. But God can. He is already in the moments you're worried about. Already making space. Already going before you. Connect with Courtney: Instagram: @courtneydoyle_8 [https://www.instagram.com/courtneydoyle_8/] Website: www.courtneydoyleministries.com [http://www.courtneydoyleministries.com/] Join the MOM 101 Facebook Group: Click here [https://www.facebook.com/groups/1346052689873597]