Episode 435 - How to Build Deep Community When You Want to Hide from Your Pain with Toni Collier

Episode 435 - How to Build Deep Community When You Want to Hide from Your Pain with Toni Collier

How do we find people who can help us carry the weight of our stories? How do we learn to experience safety in community when relationships themselves have often been the source of deep pain? Author, speaker, and podcaster Toni Collier has endured profound hardship throughout her life, including caring for a parent at a young age, surviving an abusive marriage, experiencing sexual betrayal, enduring sexual manipulation as a child, walking through two divorces, and more. Learning to trust others with the deepest parts of her story did not come easily. Yet through the healing power of what she calls a Confessional Community, Toni began experiencing layers of healing and freedom she never thought possible. In her latest book, Don't Try This Alone: How to Build Deep Community When You Want to Hide from Your Pain, Toni shares how authentic, vulnerable community can become one of the primary ways God brings healing through suffering. In this episode, Davey and Toni talk about why confession and vulnerability are such essential parts of healing, how we can become safe people that others trust with their pain, and the emotional and spiritual dangers of isolation and hidden suffering. If opening up to others has felt difficult—especially in seasons of pain, disappointment, or heartbreak—this conversation will remind you that healing was never meant to happen alone and that God often uses deep, authentic community as part of the restoration process He wants to invite you into. Website: https://www.tonijcollier.com/ [https://www.tonijcollier.com/] Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tonijcollier/ [https://www.instagram.com/tonijcollier/] Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/colliertoni [https://www.facebook.com/colliertoni] Other: Episode 326 https://www.nothingiswasted.com/podcast1/episode-326 [https://www.nothingiswasted.com/podcast1/episode-326] Book: Don't Try This Alone: How to Build Deep Community When You Want to Hide from Your Pain https://amzn.to/4mSMgED [https://amzn.to/4mSMgED] Not living the story you expected? Pain changes us but doesn't have to define us. Discover where you are on your healing journey and get a personalized pathway for your next steps: nothingiswasted.com/starthere [http://nothingiswasted.com/starthere] Looking for help in navigating the valley of pain and trauma? Our Nothing is Wasted coaches can help: nothingiswasted.com/coaching [http://nothingiswasted.com/coaching] The Wonder Project: Subscriber support makes more great content like I Gotta Ask with Annie F. Downs possible. The Wonder Project subscription on Prime Video is available in the U.S. for $8.99/month or $89.99/year after a 7-day free trial.Visit IGottaAsk.com to learn more! https://tinyurl.com/NIWIGottaAsk [https://tinyurl.com/NIWIGottaAsk] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices [https://megaphone.fm/adchoices]

Episode 434 - Healing Trauma Through Somatic Practices with Lacey Jervis, Part 2

How can you tell the difference between big emotions that are part of the human experience and true dysregulation connected to past trauma? What does it look like to safely move the energy of anxiety, fear, and stress out of the body? Lacey Jervis helps countless women recognize the ways their physiological responses impact how they show up in everyday life, relationships, and faith. Through her work, she offers a pathway toward greater safety, regulation, and emotional security by helping women better understand the connection between trauma, the nervous system, and the body. In this special part two episode, Davey and Lacey continue their conversation by exploring practical somatic practices that can support healing and restore a sense of safety within the body. They discuss how to recognize the difference between a survival response and a normal response to life’s challenges, why unresolved trauma can remain stored in the body long after an event has passed, and practical ways to help the nervous system return to regulation and peace. If you are looking for practical wisdom on how to calm your body’s physiological responses after trauma, this conversation will offer grounded, accessible tools you can begin practicing right now and will teach you ways to move the energy of fear, anxiety, and pain through the body so that you can more fully show up to your life, relationships, faith, and calling from a place of calm, safety, and presence. Website: https://www.daughtershouse.co/ [https://www.daughtershouse.co/] Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/laceyjervis [https://www.instagram.com/laceyjervis] Not living the story you expected? Pain changes us but doesn't have to define us. Find out how to begin your healing journey today: nothingiswasted.com/starthere [http://nothingiswasted.com/starthere] Looking for help in navigating the valley of pain and trauma? Our Nothing is Wasted coaches can help: nothingiswasted.com/coaching [http://nothingiswasted.com/coaching] Looking for a way to connect with others who understand? Join the Nothing is Wasted Community: nothingiswasted.com/community [http://nothingiswasted.com/community] The Wonder Project: Subscriber support makes more great content like I Gotta Ask with Annie F. Downs possible. The Wonder Project subscription on Prime Video is available in the U.S. for $8.99/month or $89.99/year after a 7-day free trial.Visit IGottaAsk.com to learn more! https://tinyurl.com/NIWIGottaAsk [https://tinyurl.com/NIWIGottaAsk] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices [https://megaphone.fm/adchoices]

Episode 433 - God Is Not Disappointed in Your Humanity with Lacey Jervis, Part 1

How do we reconcile our dysregulation after trauma when it comes to our faith? What is the connection between our physiological experience and God? It was through Lacey Jervis own experience with trauma that she began to understand the profound impact the body’s physical responses can have after loss. After losing her dad to a heart attack at a young age while she was home with him, Lacey began to recognize how deeply trauma affects both the nervous system and our perception of ourselves, others, and even God. That journey eventually led her to help others navigate the complex relationship between trauma, the body, and faith. Through her work with women as a Somatic Therapist, Lacey began helping clients untangle their physiological responses from what they often assumed were spiritual failures. As she guided them toward understanding the body’s reactions and equipped them with tools to restore safety and regulation, many began to realize that what they believed was a faith issue was often a physiological response rooted in trauma. In this episode, Davey and Lacey journey through her story of losing her dad and explore the lasting ways trauma impacts the body, the physiological responses that can remain long after a traumatic event and why it is so important to understand the difference between dysregulation and disobedience. If you have ever felt like your faith was weak because of the ways your body becomes dysregulated after trauma, this conversation will remind you that God is not disappointed in your dysregulation. Instead, there is an invitation to holiness through your humanity. Website: https://www.daughtershouse.co/ [https://www.daughtershouse.co/] Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/laceyjervis [https://www.instagram.com/laceyjervis] Not living the story you expected? Pain changes us but doesn't have to define us. Find out how to begin your healing journey today: nothingiswasted.com/starthere [http://nothingiswasted.com/starthere] Looking for help in navigating the valley of pain and trauma? Our Nothing is Wasted coaches can help: nothingiswasted.com/coaching [http://nothingiswasted.com/coaching] The Wonder Project: Subscriber support makes more great content like I Gotta Ask with Annie F. Downs possible. The Wonder Project subscription on Prime Video is available in the U.S. for $8.99/month or $89.99/year after a 7-day free trial.Visit IGottaAsk.com to learn more! https://tinyurl.com/NIWIGottaAsk [https://tinyurl.com/NIWIGottaAsk] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices [https://megaphone.fm/adchoices]

Episode 432 - The Divine Counselor with Alex Seeley

How can we partner with the Holy Spirit in our own journey toward healing? What role does the Spirit of God play in breaking strongholds in our lives? For author and pastor Alex Seeley, it was her own experience of healing through the power of the Holy Spirit that revealed how important—and often overlooked—the Holy Spirit is in the modern Church. After walking through breakthrough from a childhood marked by abuse and struggles with disordered eating, Alex also witnessed countless others find true freedom through deep encounters with the Holy Spirit. In her book The Divine Counselor, she explores the incredible role and invitation the Holy Spirit offers in the healing God desires for us. In this episode, Davey and Alex discuss why obedience to the Spirit matters, how the Holy Spirit meets us in our pain and strongholds, and the connection between spiritual and physical healing. If you’ve ever struggled to understand how God wants to meet you through His Spirit, this conversation will encourage you that the Lord’s power is closer than you may realize—ready to lead you into deeper renewal, healing, and purpose than you’ve ever experienced. Website: https://www.alexseeley.com/ [https://www.alexseeley.com/] Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alexseeley [https://www.instagram.com/alexseeley] Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/officialalexseeley [https://www.facebook.com/officialalexseeley] Book: The Divine Counselor: Renew Your Mind, Heal Your Soul, and Discover Your Purpose Through the Guidance of the Holy Spirit https://amzn.to/3PQ4v2V [https://amzn.to/3PQ4v2V] Not living the story you expected? Pain changes us but doesn't have to define us. Find out how to begin your healing journey today: nothingiswasted.com/starthere [http://nothingiswasted.com/starthere] Looking for help in navigating the valley of pain and trauma? Our Nothing is Wasted coaches can help: nothingiswasted.com/coaching [http://nothingiswasted.com/coaching] The Wonder Project: Subscriber support makes more great content like I Gotta Ask with Annie F. Downs possible. The Wonder Project subscription on Prime Video is available in the U.S. for $8.99/month or $89.99/year after a 7-day free trial.Visit IGottaAsk.com to learn more! https://tinyurl.com/NIWIGottaAsk [https://tinyurl.com/NIWIGottaAsk] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices [https://megaphone.fm/adchoices]

Episode 431 - Finding Lasting Freedom from Pornography Addiction with Drew Boa

Warning: This episode discusses pornography addiction and may not be suitable for all listeners. How do we break the stronghold of addiction when it becomes deeply attached to our lives? What do we do when the pain of our past resurfaces through patterns of addiction? Drew Boa didn’t fully realize how much pain he was carrying beneath the surface until his struggle with pornography began to threaten the relationships he valued most. As he started to uncover and process that pain, he recognized how often he had looked for healing and identity in places other than God. It was through surrendering both his pain and identity to God that the grip of pornography on his life began to loosen. Over time, he experienced genuine freedom. His book, Outgrow Porn: Find Lasting Freedom Without Fighting an Exhausting Battle—A Man’s Guide to Healing, offers men a pathway toward that same kind of lasting transformation. In this episode, Davey and Drew explore the deeper roots of sexual addiction, the vital role of compassion and self-awareness in the healing process, and why authentic community is so powerful in breaking cycles of addiction. If you or someone you love has struggled to find freedom from pornography, this conversation offers hope—reminding us that lasting freedom begins by understanding our identity in Jesus. Website: https://www.drewboa.com/ [https://www.drewboa.com/] Book: Outgrow Porn: Find Lasting Freedom Without Fighting an Exhausting Battle—A Man's Guide to Healing https://amzn.to/4jNhIUU [https://amzn.to/4jNhIUU] Not living the story you expected? Pain changes us but doesn't have to define us. Find out how to begin your healing journey today: nothingiswasted.com/starthere [http://nothingiswasted.com/starthere] Looking for help in navigating the valley of pain and trauma? Our Nothing is Wasted coaches can help: nothingiswasted.com/coaching [http://nothingiswasted.com/coaching] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices [https://megaphone.fm/adchoices]