The Reforming Pessimist

The Labels You Carry When You STOP People Pleasing & Choose Yourself

I have been feeling like a disappointment lately after choosing myself over others. I have always struggled with the image of being a villain however I also realised that there is safety, peace and healing in not fighting to defend yourself. On this week’s episode 🎙️ I talk about my experiences of seeing myself and internationalising people’s disappointment in me and the fear of being the Villain after I started to stop people I hope my openness, laughter and vulnerability reach you and provides validation through your healing/ Life journey. 🤗 💜 Love, Abanga Lydia. Reach out with your stories and journey on reforming pessimism at; Email - reformingpessimist@gmail.com Insta - the_reformingpessimist TikTok - reformingpessimist

So The Future is Bleak... What Can We Do

I wake up everyday taking a deep breath to face the crazy world we are now living in. It feels like depending on where you are coming from in society the future can really look bleak and impossible. On this week’s episode 🎙️joins me as I reflect on my thoughts on “DOC - EMERGENCY DEBATE, THEY LIED TO YOU ABOUT THE ECONOMY RECOVERING”. How I am choosing to approach life and the future even though it can seem impossible. I hope my openness, laughter and vulnerability reach you and provides validation through your healing/ Life journey. 🤗 💜 Love, Abanga Lydia. Reach out with your stories and journey on reforming pessimism at; Email - reformingpessimist@gmail.com Insta - the_reformingpessimist TikTok - reformingpessimist

YES I AM BITTER!... What does Forgiveness look like After Violation

YES I AM BITTER!... Now What?Have been called 'bitter' because you were standing up for yourself and acknowledging your hurt/pain? On this week’s episode 🎙️joins me to explore my process after being called 'bitter' and being told to forgive by a loved one and the conclusion I came to after processing this perspective.I hope my openness, laughter and vulnerability reach you and provides validation through your healing journey. 🤗 💜Love, Abanga Lydia. Reach out with your stories and journey on reforming pessimism at;Email - reformingpessimist@gmail.comInsta - the_reformingpessimistTikTok - reformingpessimist

'Alternative Black' with JABZ... How Blackness and Africaness is not a Monolith!

What does blackness or being African mean to you? On this weeks episode 🎙️ Jabz (@jabalouujabz ) joins me to talk about our individual journey to getting to a place of confidence in our blackness and Africaness.This is part of the 'We Are Not A Monolith' Series where we discuss alternative experiences that may be familiar to a lot but not seem like the norm. I hope you find some joy and validation in this episode❤️❤️😃.Love, Abanga Lydia & JabzReach out with your stories and journey on reforming pessimism at;Email - reformingpessimist@gmail.comInsta - the_reformingpessimistTikTok - reformingpessimistJabz Charity- Same Ground https://www.instagram.com/samegroundtanzania?igsh=MXNzdzRnMHQ2ZnI3Mg==

Your Friends Are Not your Therapist!

Thank you for tuning into this week’s episode. Your close people are not your therapist!, A lesson I have come to learn the hard way. This week episode 🎙️ I drag myself for being an over-sharer with some empathy and humour of course 😂. I hope my openness, laughter and vulnerability reach you and provides validation through your healing journey. 🤗 💜 Love, Abanga Lydia. Reach out with your stories and journey on reforming pessimism at; Email - reformingpessimist@gmail.com Insta - the_reformingpessimist TikTok - reformingpessimist