Winning Inside with Cheddy Matthews

The Recovering People Pleaser

In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: * The predominance of people pleasing * Burnout and resentment from people pleasing * Saying "yes" becoming your identity Key takeaways: * What part of you is people pleasing benefiting? * Losing a part of you is a risk of people pleasing * 4 step process to assess people pleasing * Pause… * Say “no” as the first response (practice not apologizing). * Feel the discomfort that saying “no” makes you feel. * Allow it to be there; don’t resist it, change it, or deny it.    “People pleasers are wonderful human beings who have the quality of empathy and compassion. But they take that past the point, to the detriment of themselves and really losing their own authentic selves; because they are constantly deferring to other people.” -Michelle Wickman Contact Us: Website: www.WinningInside.io [http://www.winninginside.io/]  Michelle: www.WickmanWellness.com [http://www.wickmanwellness.com/]  Cheddy: www.CheddyMatthews.com [http://www.cheddymatthews.com/]  Email: WinningInsidePodcast@gmail.com [WinningInsidePodcast@gmail.com] Twitter: @winning_inside  Facebook: @WinningInside LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/company/winninginside [http://www.linkedin.com/company/winninginside]  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCoF6Rtked9jTNVdaVmARl6g [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCoF6Rtked9jTNVdaVmARl6g]

The #1 Skill to Thrive in Life

In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: * Michelle Wickman’s four components of self-leadership. * Hard skills vs Soft Skills in your career and life.  Key takeaways: * The four components of self-leadership are: * Self-Awareness * Self-Discipline * Emotional Intelligence * Personal Agency * We must invest the time to develop these soft skills. * If we are leaders, we must lead ourselves first!   “I think machines are easy. You learn a system, learn a process, and you make it go. But humans, we live in the grey area -we’re grey. And in that gray space, that’s where you need the soft skills.” -Cheddy Matthews   Contact Us: Website: www.WinningInside.io [http://www.winninginside.io/]  Michelle: www.WickmanWellness.com [http://www.wickmanwellness.com/]  Cheddy: www.CheddyMatthews.com [http://www.cheddymatthews.com/]  Email: WinningInsidePodcast@gmail.com [WinningInsidePodcast@gmail.com] Twitter: @winning_inside  Facebook: @WinningInside LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/company/winninginside [http://www.linkedin.com/company/winninginside]  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCoF6Rtked9jTNVdaVmARl6g [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCoF6Rtked9jTNVdaVmARl6g]

Procrastination On Ice!

In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: * A coach sees their client’s behaviour from the sideline; they can see the big picture from what the client is describing.  * Plan for “what ifs” while you’re taking the steps towards your goals.  * Choosing action over procrastination. Key takeaways: * Procrastination is a nice way of self-sabotage.  * Procrastination is based in fear and avoidance of a potential negative emotion.  * 3 ways to deal with procrastination in the moment.  * Take small steps towards another goal. * Recognize the emotion, focus and process it. * Ask the question, “is that true?” Then take action! “When you are taking those scary steps, when you are taking those scary actions towards goals, towards things that you love, that you desire in your life. It is that exhilarating and scary feeling all in one package. And then you get to assess ‘do I want to do that again?” And that's how you prepare yourself for the next obstacle, for the next step.” -Michelle Wickman   Contact Us: Website: www.WinningInside.io [http://www.winninginside.io/]  Michelle: www.WickmanWellness.com [http://www.wickmanwellness.com/]  Cheddy: www.CheddyMatthews.com [http://www.cheddymatthews.com/]  Email: WinningInsidePodcast@gmail.com [WinningInsidePodcast@gmail.com] Twitter: @winning_inside  Facebook: @WinningInside LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/company/winninginside [http://www.linkedin.com/company/winninginside]  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCoF6Rtked9jTNVdaVmARl6g [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCoF6Rtked9jTNVdaVmARl6g]

Do It Anyway

In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: * Finding a way to accomplish your goal. * Eliminating the option of changing course. * Understanding what serves your goal. Key takeaways: * Deciding to be “all in” will cause current discomfort, but it will yield future results. * Look for the shift to happen when you have no other options but to succeed. * Learning to say no to things that do not serve your greater purpose.   “All of your focus is on this one goal right, and so if your vision is consistently on that and you wake up with that vision in your mind, and you go to bed with that vision in your mind, and you walk around all day with that vision in your mind. When opportunities present themselves, you will notice them.” -Michelle Wickman   Contact Us: Website: www.WinningInside.io [http://www.winninginside.io/]  Michelle: www.WickmanWellness.com [http://www.wickmanwellness.com/]  Cheddy: www.CheddyMatthews.com [http://www.cheddymatthews.com/]  Email: WinningInsidePodcast@gmail.com [WinningInsidePodcast@gmail.com] Twitter: @winning_inside  Facebook: @WinningInside LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/company/winninginside [http://www.linkedin.com/company/winninginside]  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCoF6Rtked9jTNVdaVmARl6g [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCoF6Rtked9jTNVdaVmARl6g]

Small Wins

In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: * Small wins as steps to greater goals * Visualizing yourself winning like an athlete. * What is a small win? *   Recognizing other people’s wins    Key takeaways: * Schedule time to celebrate one small win per day. * The more you take time to celebrate small wins, the more you’ll recognize the opportunities to win. * Celebrating other people’s small wins is infectious * A small win today can be totally different than a small win tomorrow. * Don’t compare your win to other’s wins and don’t compare your own current win to your past wins.    “Consider the things in your life that you may think are mundane and routine -but those are actually wins. Whan you accomplish something that you set out to do, that's a win! when you do something that's hard and you complete it, that's a win!” -Cheddy Matthews   Website: www.WinningInside.io [http://www.winninginside.io/] Michelle: www.WickmanWellness.com [http://www.wickmanwellness.com/] Cheddy: www.CheddyMatthews.com [http://www.cheddymatthews.com/] Email: WinningInsidePodcast@gmail.com [WinningInsidePodcast@gmail.com]           Twitter: @winning_inside Facebook: @WinningInside LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/company/winninginside [http://www.linkedin.com/company/winninginside] YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCoF6Rtked9jTNVdaVmARl6g [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCoF6Rtked9jTNVdaVmARl6g]