You Are the Answer

What Are We Really Seeking When We Pick Up A Screen?

Your screen time might not be a bad habit at all. It might be your nervous system trying to solve a real problem the fastest way it knows how. I’m Naomi Mills, chiropractor and host of You Are the Answer, and I’m inviting you to look at scrolling, gaming, and constant checking through the body’s wiring rather than through shame, guilt, or “just try harder” discipline.  We talk about what happens when your baseline stress response sits a little too high for a little too long. In that low-level fight or flight state, your brain craves both relief and stimulation, and screens deliver both on demand. We unpack dopamine, unpredictability, notifications, and why the next video, message, or like can feel irresistible even when it doesn’t genuinely make you feel good. This nervous system regulation perspective also explains why focus can feel harder offline, because real life isn’t designed around constant rewards.  If you’re a parent, we go deeper into why teens struggle more with smartphones and social media. The teenage brain’s reward and emotional centres develop earlier than the logical centres that support impulse control, and the prefrontal cortex keeps developing into the mid twenties. That doesn’t mean your child is weak or difficult. It means the environment matters, and the support needs to match their stage of development.  We finish with a practical shift that changes everything: regulation versus distraction. You’ll leave with kinder questions to ask yourself or your young person, plus real-world ideas that meet the underlying needs for safety, connection, soothing, and healthy stimulation. If this resonated, subscribe, share with someone you care about, and leave a review so more people can find their way back to their body. You can order your nervous system reset deck via my website: Products | You are the answer [https://youaretheanswer.co.uk/resources/products]

What Is Your Phone REALLY Doing To Your Nervous System?

Your phone isn’t just a tool in your hand, it can become the background environment your nervous system lives in. When that environment is filled with constant input, rapid topic switching, comparison, and fear-based headlines, your body can stay slightly on alert all day long and we end up calling it a “mindset problem”. I want to take the shame out of that and bring it back to something more honest and more workable: regulation starts in the body, not in perfect thoughts.  We talk about why modern screen time can leave you feeling tired but wired, why scrolling before bed or first thing in the morning primes your stress response, and how clickbait and negativity hook into survival wiring that doesn’t always know what is relevant to your real life. I also share the dopamine layer of social media and novelty, why stillness can feel oddly uncomfortable over time, and why even curated images can land in the body as a subtle signal of “I’m behind”.  Rather than pushing discipline or deleting everything, we explore a gentler, more sustainable path: creating space. Small pauses like a phone-free start to the day, a short walk without input, waiting in a queue without scrolling, or keeping your phone out of the bedroom can give your nervous system the gap it needs to settle. When your body softens, your thoughts often shift on their own.  If this resonates, listen, share it with someone you care about, and leave a review. Subscribe so you don’t miss next week, and tell me what you notice when you add a little more space to your day.

4 Cultural Myths About Mindset

Four phrases get repeated like gospel in self-help culture: “fake it till you make it”, “no pain, no gain”, “everything happens for a reason”, and “just think positive”. I’m not here to mock them, because each one holds a kernel of truth. I am here to slow them down and ask the missing question: what is your nervous system doing while you’re trying to live by that slogan? When we’re in fight or flight, advice that relies on controlling thoughts can feel impossible. That doesn’t mean you’re failing, it means your body is trying to protect you. We explore why confidence built on pretending can deepen disconnection, how growth requires discomfort but not pain, and why rushing to find meaning after a painful event can invalidate real emotion. We also name the subtle harm of toxic positivity, especially when we use it on ourselves, and why you can’t think your way out of a body that feels unsafe. You’ll leave with a calmer, more practical model for mindset: regulate first, then reframe. I share grounded nervous system regulation tools like gentle stretching of your comfort zone, integrating emotions through the body, journalling, movement, and a simple three-breath reset you can do anywhere. If this helped you, subscribe, share it with someone you care about, and leave a review so more people can find their way back to safety in their body.

What If The World Is Not The Trigger

Projection can make you certain you’re reacting to someone else, when you’re actually meeting your own fear, anger, or unmet need. I’m Naomi Mills, and I’m taking you into a moment from my firewalker instructor training where a trust fall goes wrong, the group panics, and one person’s distress gets pointed at the “obvious” problem. It becomes a clear mirror for how quickly our minds decide what something means and how fast our bodies follow. From there, I unpack projection in everyday life and in group healing spaces, where witnessing someone else’s release can stir up material we didn’t expect. I share the fable of the monk bumped by an “offending” boat that turns out to be empty, and we use it as a practical way to spot when a trigger is really an internal signal. When we miss that, the nervous system stays on guard, sleep and mood suffer, and we end up trying to control what was never ours to control. To bring things back to the ground, I walk you through the circle of control: what you control, what you can influence, and what is genuinely outside your reach. We talk nervous system regulation and simple self-care that actually supports resilience, from food and movement to meditation, nature, bodywork, and time with the people who steady you. I close with an embodiment prompt from my nervous system reset cards: healing starts when you notice, not when you fix. If this lands, subscribe, share the episode with someone you care about, and leave a review so more people can find their way back to their body.

Rethinking Productivity

Productivity sounds like a compliment until you notice what it is taking from you. I am Naomi Mills, chiropractor and healthcare professional, and I want to ask a sharper question than “What have you done today?”: is your health paying the price for your productivity? We start with a simple story about a fisherman and a businessman that exposes a modern mindset trap: working harder and harder to earn a future you can enjoy, while your nervous system struggles to cope in the present. I share how running a busy family chiropractic practice looked successful from the outside, but came with warning signs in my body, from sleep and mood to skin, digestion, and the constant feeling of pressure. When we do not pause to reflect, we can normalise stress and miss the cost until it becomes burnout. From there, we get practical. We talk about clues that you are overriding your needs, including numbing behaviours like scrolling, shopping, comfort eating, and filling every quiet moment because “just being” feels uncomfortable. I explain why living in fight or flight blocks the thriving work your body wants to do, including repair, resilience, and long-term wellbeing. You will also hear about simple resources on my website to help you spot signs of nervous system overwhelm. My favourite takeaway is a tool called ‘Your Many Hats’, a quick way to reveal the invisible work you are carrying and decide what to keep, what to drop, and what to outsource. Less doing is not laziness. It can be the most effective health strategy you make. If this resonates, subscribe, share the show with someone you care about, and leave a review so more people can find their way back to their body too.