Women Are Redefining Success (And Honestly, It’s About Time)

The Perfectionism Trap | Why "Perfect" Is Never Actually About You

Are you trying to behave in a certain way to maximize outside approval? In this episode of Brave Moves, Julie DeLucca-Collins unpacks why perfectionism isn't a high standard — it's a rejection of your true self, and a symptom of chasing an outside standard instead of trusting the inner perfection that already exists within you. Julie breaks down the difference between the perfectionist voice, obsessed with how things look to others, and the self-trusting voice, guided by inner authenticity and self-worth. She explores why striving for outer perfection is a recipe for misery and powerlessness, how perfectionism quietly spreads to our expectations of those around us, and what it actually looks like to live a self-directed life rather than an approval-driven one. If you've ever felt like nothing you do is ever quite enough, this episode offers a research-informed, deeply practical reframe on perfectionism, self-worth, and authenticity,  plus a free tool to help you find where outer-approval perfectionism might be shrinking your voice. In this episode: * Why perfectionism is an outside standard, not a high standard * The link between perfectionism and authenticity * Two internal voices: outer approval vs. inner trust * Why perfectionism leads to misery and powerlessness * How perfectionism spreads to the people around you * Moving from approval-driven to self-directed living * This week's Brave Move + free Thought Leadership Assessment [https://goconfidentlyservices.myflodesk.com/tlvagapaudit] If you loved this episode, text me and let me know what you though. [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2542996/fan_mail/new] Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2542996/support] Join the Community [https://www.skool.com/confident-you-rawconversations-4533/about] Brave Moves is a daily confidence and personal growth podcast for ambitious women, women entrepreneurs, and leaders who are ready to overcome self-doubt, build resilience, and take bold action in business and life. Each short, practical episode blends mindset science, decision-making psychology, and real-life stories to help you strengthen your confidence, rewire negative thought patterns, and create meaningful forward momentum. If you are navigating career pivots, burnout, reinvention, or leadership growth, Brave Moves gives you the tools to think differently, act bravely, and design a future aligned with your values and vision. Because confidence isn’t something you’re born with. It’s something you build, one brave move at a time. Liked this episode? Share it with your midlife woman, entrepreneur friends! Love this show? Let us know how we helped you increase your confidence by leaving a review. For more about me and what I do, check out my website [https://goconfidentlycoaching.com/]. If you’re looking for support to grow your business faster, be positioned as an authority in your industry, and impact the masses, schedule a call [https://calendly.com/goconfidentlycoaching/coaching-call] to explore if you’d be a good fit for one of my coaching programs. Fo...

What Your Posture Is Really Telling You

Have you ever noticed how your posture changes depending on who's in the room? In this episode of Brave Moves, Julie DeLucca-Collins breaks down why posture is one of the most honest indicators of self-worth, self-trust, and confidence — and why it has almost nothing to do with how you look. Julie explores how body language shifts across different relationships and circumstances, why the posture we hold when no one's watching reveals our true relationship with ourselves, and how shrinking physically often mirrors shrinking in our voice, visibility, and thought leadership. She connects the dots between body language, self-worth, and personal branding, showing how the same nervous-system pattern that makes us slouch around an intimidating boss also makes us downplay our expertise, hedge our message, and give away our authority. This episode is a practical, research-informed look at nonverbal confidence cues and how to reclaim your presence — starting with your body. In this episode: * Why posture shifts depending on who's in the room * Posture as a mirror of your relationship with yourself * The link between body language and self-worth * How physical "shrinking" shows up in your visibility and voice * Why the body leads, and confidence follows * This week's Brave Move + free Thought Leadership Assessment [https://goconfidentlyservices.myflodesk.com/tlvagapaudit] If you loved this episode, text me and let me know what you though. [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2542996/fan_mail/new] Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2542996/support] Join the Community [https://www.skool.com/confident-you-rawconversations-4533/about] Brave Moves is a daily confidence and personal growth podcast for ambitious women, women entrepreneurs, and leaders who are ready to overcome self-doubt, build resilience, and take bold action in business and life. Each short, practical episode blends mindset science, decision-making psychology, and real-life stories to help you strengthen your confidence, rewire negative thought patterns, and create meaningful forward momentum. If you are navigating career pivots, burnout, reinvention, or leadership growth, Brave Moves gives you the tools to think differently, act bravely, and design a future aligned with your values and vision. Because confidence isn’t something you’re born with. It’s something you build, one brave move at a time. Liked this episode? Share it with your midlife woman, entrepreneur friends! Love this show? Let us know how we helped you increase your confidence by leaving a review. For more about me and what I do, check out my website [https://goconfidentlycoaching.com/]. If you’re looking for support to grow your business faster, be positioned as an authority in your industry, and impact the masses, schedule a call [https://calendly.com/goconfidentlycoaching/coaching-call] to explore if you’d be a good fit for one of my coaching programs. Fo...

Confidence Isn't Waiting on the Other Side of Success

Most people believe confidence is something waiting for them on the other side of success: after the launch, the sale, the promotion, the win. In this episode of Brave Moves, Julie DeLucca-Collins breaks down why that belief is backward, using Albert Bandura's landmark research in psychology on fear and self-efficacy to show how confidence is actually built, not found. Julie unpacks the real difference between confidence and self-trust, and shares the three specific things that build lasting self-trust: keeping small promises, developing proof of integrity, and learning proof of recovery, a concept rooted in Martin Seligman's research on resilience and learned optimism. She also breaks down why taking risks only works when they're sized, limited, and diversified, and why selling is never about tactics; it's about credibility. If you've ever felt like confidence is just out of reach, this episode gives you a practical, research-backed path to build it starting today, plus a free assessment to help you find your own credibility gap and next brave move. In this episode: * Why confidence isn't a feeling you wait for * The Bandura fear study and what it reveals about self-efficacy * Confidence vs. self-trust — the critical difference * The 3 pillars of self-trust: kept promises, proof of integrity, proof of recovery * How to size, limit, and diversify risk * Why selling is about credibility, not tactics * This week's Brave Move + free Thought Leadership Assessment Take the Free Thought Leadership Assessment Here [https://goconfidentlyservices.myflodesk.com/tlvagapaudit] If you loved this episode, text me and let me know what you though. [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2542996/fan_mail/new] Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2542996/support] Join the Community [https://www.skool.com/confident-you-rawconversations-4533/about] Brave Moves is a daily confidence and personal growth podcast for ambitious women, women entrepreneurs, and leaders who are ready to overcome self-doubt, build resilience, and take bold action in business and life. Each short, practical episode blends mindset science, decision-making psychology, and real-life stories to help you strengthen your confidence, rewire negative thought patterns, and create meaningful forward momentum. If you are navigating career pivots, burnout, reinvention, or leadership growth, Brave Moves gives you the tools to think differently, act bravely, and design a future aligned with your values and vision. Because confidence isn’t something you’re born with. It’s something you build, one brave move at a time. Liked this episode? Share it with your midlife woman, entrepreneur friends! Love this show? Let us know how we helped you increase your confidence by leaving a review. For more about me and what I do, check out my website [https://goconfidentlycoaching.com/]. If you’re looking for support to grow your business faster, be positioned as an authority in your industry, and impact the masses, schedule a call [https://calendly.com/goconfidentlycoaching/coaching-call] to explore if you’d be a good fit for one of my coaching programs. Fo...

Did You Have to Earn Love? Healing Conditional Love and Learning to Love Yourself

Many of us carry a quiet, painful belief we've never said out loud: that we were loved conditionally, by a parent, a partner, or both. In this episode of Brave Moves, Julie DeLucca-Collins unpacks what unconditional love actually is (hint: it's not the absence of boundaries), why so few of us experienced it fully, and why that pain was never proof that something was wrong with us. Julie shares a personal story about her own experience with conditional love, then walks through why the deepest, most reliable unconditional love you'll ever find has to start inside your own being. This episode closes with a Tiny Habits-based Brave Move Challenge anchored to something you already do every day: catching your own reflection in the mirror. If you've spent your life trying to earn love through performance, achievement, or being easy to be around, this episode is your invitation to stop waiting for someone else to hand you your worth. Key Takeaways * Unconditional love isn't the absence of boundaries — it's a felt sense that your essence, not your performance, is good and lovable. * If you experienced conditional love growing up, the pain you carry isn't proof something is wrong with you. It's proof something was limited in the love you were given. * Truly unconditional love is rare to find fully from another person — the most reliable source of it is the relationship you build with yourself. * Self-love isn't a personality trait some people have, and others don't. It's a practice you can build in small, repeatable moments. Brave Move Challenge (Tiny Habits Edition) After I see my reflection in the mirror, I will pause for three seconds and say one true, kind thing to myself about my essence — not my appearance. Small, repeatable, anchored to something you already do every day. Quotable Moments * "The pain wasn't proof that something was wrong with you. The pain was proof that something was wrong with the love you were given." * "You cannot outsource this one." * "Unconditional love is a felt sense, deep in your body, that your essence is good." If you loved this episode, text me and let me know what you though. [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2542996/fan_mail/new] Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2542996/support] Join the Community [https://www.skool.com/confident-you-rawconversations-4533/about] Brave Moves is a daily confidence and personal growth podcast for ambitious women, women entrepreneurs, and leaders who are ready to overcome self-doubt, build resilience, and take bold action in business and life. Each short, practical episode blends mindset science, decision-making psychology, and real-life stories to help you strengthen your confidence, rewire negative thought patterns, and create meaningful forward momentum. If you are navigating career pivots, burnout, reinvention, or leadership growth, Brave Moves gives you the tools to think differently, act bravely, and design a future aligned with your values and vision. Because confidence isn’t something you’re born with. It’s something you build, one brave move at a time. Liked this episode? Share it with your midlife woman, entrepreneur friends! Love this show? Let us know how we helped you increase your confidence by leaving a review. For more about me and what I do, check out my website [https://goconfidentlycoaching.com/]. If you’re looking for support to grow your business faster, be positioned as an authority in your industry, and impact the masses, schedule a call [https://calendly.com/goconfidentlycoaching/coaching-call] to explore if you’d be a good fit for one of my coaching programs. Fo...

Why Being Liked Isn't the Same as Being Loved (And How to Stop Confusing Them)

Being liked and being loved are not the same thing, and for years Julie DeLucca-Collins confused the two. In this episode of Brave Moves, Julie unpacks the real root of people-pleasing: not kindness, but fear. Drawing from her own corporate career, where being "the reliable one" quietly became her entire sense of self-worth, Julie breaks down why people-pleasing keeps your goodness trapped outside of you, in the hands of a jury that never stops deliberating. You'll learn the one question that can start untangling people-pleasing patterns in real time, why approval-seeking behavior can never actually deliver the peace it promises, and how to begin separating genuine generosity from fear-based giving. This episode closes with a practical, three-second Brave Move Challenge you can start using today. If you've ever felt exhausted from being "the good one," this episode is your permission slip to stop auditioning for a role you never needed in the first place. Key Takeaways People-pleasing and genuine kindness look identical from the outside but come from opposite places on the inside: fear versus fullness. * When your sense of worth depends on other people's approval, you never actually own your own goodness — you rent it, one compliment at a time. * Everyone judging your "goodness" is operating from their own history, moods, and bad days — which means their opinion was never a reliable verdict on you. * Noticing the pattern in real time is the first step to changing it. You can't shift what you haven't caught. Brave Move Challenge Before saying yes to something this week, pause for three seconds and ask: "Am I doing this because I want to, or because I need them to think I'm good?" Just notice the answer. That's the whole assignment. Quotable Moments * "Being liked and being loved are not the same thing." * "Love gives from fullness. People-pleasing gives from fear." * "You've made your worth dependent on a jury that never stops deliberating." * "Your goodness was never up for a vote." If you loved this episode, text me and let me know what you though. [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2542996/fan_mail/new] Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2542996/support] Join the Community [https://www.skool.com/confident-you-rawconversations-4533/about] Brave Moves is a daily confidence and personal growth podcast for ambitious women, women entrepreneurs, and leaders who are ready to overcome self-doubt, build resilience, and take bold action in business and life. Each short, practical episode blends mindset science, decision-making psychology, and real-life stories to help you strengthen your confidence, rewire negative thought patterns, and create meaningful forward momentum. If you are navigating career pivots, burnout, reinvention, or leadership growth, Brave Moves gives you the tools to think differently, act bravely, and design a future aligned with your values and vision. Because confidence isn’t something you’re born with. It’s something you build, one brave move at a time. Liked this episode? Share it with your midlife woman, entrepreneur friends! Love this show? Let us know how we helped you increase your confidence by leaving a review. For more about me and what I do, check out my website [https://goconfidentlycoaching.com/]. If you’re looking for support to grow your business faster, be positioned as an authority in your industry, and impact the masses, schedule a call [https://calendly.com/goconfidentlycoaching/coaching-call] to explore if you’d be a good fit for one of my coaching programs. Fo...