Is the False Consensus Effect Hurting Your Marriage?

Speaking Up in the Bedroom: The Cost of Pretending and Faking

In this episode Paul explains how silence, pretending, and failing to ask for what you need damage sex and marriage. He covers why people fake orgasms, why foreplay and clear feedback matter for both partners, and how embarrassment or fear of rejection keeps couples stuck. Paul urges listeners to open the dialogue about desires and needs so sex can be better for both partners and the marriage can heal and grow.

When "I'm Sorry" Isn't Enough: Responding to a Spouse Who Won't Let Go

This episode explores what to do when a spouse refuses to forgive, exaggerates past wrongs, or uses them to manipulate and gain sympathy. It explains common patterns—blown-up accusations, assigned intentions, and repeated rehashing—and why these behaviors harm the relationship. Practical guidance includes apologizing and repenting when necessary, setting calm boundaries, refusing to be drawn into manipulation, and insisting that past issues already dealt with be left behind. The message: acknowledge wrongs, then protect the marriage by refusing to play the game of ongoing blame.

The Sidetrack Trap: Deflecting Questions Damages Communication

This episode explains how sidetracking and deflecting derail communication in marriage, with common examples like counter-questions, “you did it too,” and unrelated attacks. Learn simple, practical steps to redirect the conversation, assert your right to be heard, and lead by example so both partners can resolve issues respectfully.

Why Letting Bad Tactics Work Damages Your Marriage

In this episode of Doing Marriage Well (June 9, 2026), Paul explains how allowing manipulative tactics—anger, threats, the silent treatment, or emotional blackmail—to work damages marriages, using a personal story to illustrate the dynamics. He outlines clear responses: refuse to tolerate harmful tactics, set firm boundaries (walk away or get help), involve trusted third parties when threats or danger are possible, and seek professional support to change entrenched patterns.

Broken Behaviours: Tolerating Bad Treatment Isn’t Loving

This episode examines "broken behaviours"—patterns where one spouse tolerates mistreatment instead of setting limits. Using the image of a man calmly walking out when his wife attacks him, Paul explains that leaving is sometimes a healthy, loving choice that teaches boundaries. Listeners will learn why accepting bad treatment is not loving, how broken behaviours form, and one practical step to stop them: decide not to endure harmful behaviour and remove yourself when it begins. Ignoring bad behaviour isn’t doing marriage well.