Modern Manifesting with Kimberley Roles ~ Why Didnt they teach us this in School?
Episode 30:The Biology of Loss: A Map for Navigating Life’s Major Transitions
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So today, I want to walk you through the stages of grief after a breakup. And here is the thing……this doesn’tjust apply to a relationship breakup...... Key takeaway notes I want you to remember:Core Reframe: You aren't "getting over" someone; you are withdrawing from a biological bond.Healing doesn't mean it didn't hurt—it means it didn't destroy you. The Takeaway:Any time a "future you imagined" is taken away, your biology goesthrough this process. It isn't a sign of weakness; it’s a sign of a brain attempting to recalibrate. The 5 Stages of Transition Grief: • Stage 1: Shock and Denial o The Feeling: Numbness, strange calmness, or total disbelief. o The Science: Your nervous system is protecting you from being overexposed to pain all at once. o What Helps: Sticking to basic routines (work, gym, eating regularly) and avoiding life-altering decisions. • Stage 2: Bargaining and Obsession o The Feeling: Replaying "if only" scenarios and obsessively checking social media or old messages. o The Science: Your brain is trying to "detox" from a chemical addiction (dopamine/oxytocin) to the partner. o What Helps: Writing thoughts down to see their flaws and maintaining strict "No Contact" to stop the highlight reel. • Stage 3: Anger and Protest o The Feeling: A shift from sadness to frustration, aggression, or a need to "tell them off." o The Science: This is actually self-respect returning. You are finally acknowledging that the way you were treated wasn't okay. o What Helps: Physical movement and expressing anger safely to a friend or therapist rather than the ex. • Stage 4: Sadness and Depression o The Feeling: Heaviness, emptiness, and the fear that you will never love like this again. o The Science: A significant drop in bonding chemicals makes life feel slow and motivation disappear. o What Helps: Radical self-compassion, rest, and understanding that you are processing reality, not avoiding it. • Stage 5: Acceptance and Meaning o The Feeling: Stabilized identity and the return of self-trust. o The Science: This is "post-traumatic growth" where the past stops defining the present. o What Helps: Reflecting on what the relationship taught you and setting better boundaries for the future. Daily Groundedness Checklist (For Any Major Loss) • Morning: Establish "Micro-Certainty" o Pick one small thing that is 100% under your control (making the bed, a specific coffee order, a 5-minute stretch). When your future feels uncertain, these small anchors tell your brain it is safe. • Mid-Day: The "Highlight Reel" Reality Check o If you find yourself bargaining or over-idealizing what you lost, stop and list three difficult truths about that situation. It’s not about being bitter; it’s about giving your brain the "whole truth" so it can stop trying to go back. • Afternoon: Movement as Medicine o Anger and stress live in the body. Do 10–20 minutes of something physical—walk, run, or even just deep, heavy breathing. Move the energy out so it doesn't turn into "shame" or "stuckness." • Evening: Digital/Emotional Boundaries o Set a "sunset" time for checking news, social media, or old messages. Your nervous system is most vulnerable at night; don't feed it the "chemicals" of the past right before you try to sleep. • Before Bed: Meaning Over Memory o Instead of thinking about what happened, ask: "What version of myself am I building now?" Focus on the self-respect you are gaining by choosing to walk through this pain instead of running from it. Connect with Kimberley: * Website: KimberleyRoles.com [https://kimberleyroles.com/] * Courses: Explore the Courses [https://kimberleyroles.com/courses] * My Book: Grab your copy on Amazon [https://a.co/d/gBCr61m] #Manifestation #ModernManifesting #NervousSystemHealing #Spirituality
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