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Marriage Therapist: The Skill That Makes Love Last
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Saying "I love you" isn't proof you love someone. Proof is what you do when staying connected is the hardest thing in the room. Vienna Pharaon, marriage and family therapist of 19 years and author of The Origins of You, sat down with us to talk about what it actually means to choose someone, especially when your nervous system is screaming at you to do anything but. She grew up an only child in the middle of her parents' nine-year divorce, with a father who could out-argue anyone in the room and a mother who couldn't keep up. The lesson her body absorbed: being right is safety, being wrong is danger. So when she started dating her now-husband, she became a "point prover", doubling down, tripling down, unable to let a fight go even when he was already waving the white flag. The work of the last decade has been undoing that, and what she's found on the other side is that real love isn't winning the argument. It's the willingness to look at the parts of yourself you don't want to look at, so you can stop disconnecting from the person right in front of you. A few things we get into: the out-of-body moment in an early fight when she watched herself spiraling and couldn't stop, why "if you loved me, you'd stay in this conversation right now" is manipulation and not love, losing their dog six weeks after her son was born, the death of her husband's mother, and the actual mechanics of repair, stop, take space, regulate, look at your part, then come back. This one is for anyone who has ever needed to be right to feel safe, who shuts down the second feedback enters the room, or who has quietly wondered whether their partner is someone they can really go through the hard with. Follow for more honest conversations about love, relationships, and what it really means to be human. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices [https://megaphone.fm/adchoices]
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