What The Bachelor Taught Me About Conversations We Avoid

Married Magician Reveals The Lie About Modern Love

A professional magician of over two decades explains why he spent 15 years chasing the grand gestures he thought love was supposed to be, what a $40 bag of firewood in Vermont taught him about the difference between the honeymoon and the marriage, and the one thing he now believes actually holds a relationship together. Because real love, he's decided, has less to do with the fireworks or the airport reunion, and more to do with laughing at a stupid mouse video on the couch after the baby's finally down. Song: Ethereal Composer: Punch Deck Website: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC3M9CX5HWSw25k5QL3FkDEA License: Creative Commons (BY 3.0) https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/3.0/ Music powered by BreakingCopyright: https://breakingcopyright.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices [https://megaphone.fm/adchoices]

The One Question Every Couple Avoids Until It's Too Late

A woman who always put her relationship first and prided herself on meeting her partner in the middle explains why all that compromising slowly turned her into someone she didn't recognize, what a stack of movies she never wanted to watch had to do with it, and the one question she now asks before deciding a relationship is worth saving. What makes love sustainable, she's decided, has nothing to do with how much of yourself you're willing to give up. Song: EtherealComposer: Punch DeckWebsite: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC3M9CX5HWSw25k5QL3FkDEALicense: Creative Commons (BY 3.0) https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/3.0/Music powered by BreakingCopyright: https://breakingcopyright.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices [https://megaphone.fm/adchoices]

The Difference Between Love that Looks Right and Feels Right

A lifelong romantic who built vision boards of red-carpet weddings and prayed for the Romeo-and-Juliet kind of love explains why the relationship that looked like "couple goals" from the outside felt like a campaign from the inside, what a teddy bear's baptism taught her about being loved without having to beg, and the lightness she felt three days after it all ended. What makes love real, she's decided, has nothing to do with how good you look on paper. Song: EtherealComposer: Punch DeckWebsite: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC3M9CX5HWSw25k5QL3FkDEALicense: Creative Commons (BY 3.0) https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/3.0/Music powered by BreakingCopyright: https://breakingcopyright.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices [https://megaphone.fm/adchoices]

Married 21 Years: Don't Create a Safe Space

Timm Chiusano, who's been married 21 years, explains why the instinct to protect your relationship, building a safe little room around it and shutting the doors, might be the exact thing slowly killing it, what a cat that wandered through his Brooklyn house had to do with it, and the quiet moment his wife told him he was wrong that changed everything. What makes love last, he's decided, has nothing to do with how safe you keep it. Song: EtherealComposer: Punch DeckWebsite: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC3M9CX5HWSw25k5QL3FkDEALicense: Creative Commons (BY 3.0) https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/3.0/Music powered by BreakingCopyright: https://breakingcopyright.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices [https://megaphone.fm/adchoices]

Why Trying To Be Loved Is Pushing People Away

A lifelong people pleaser who befriended everyone from her classmates to the nurse drawing her blood explains why being liked by everyone left her feeling known by no one, what a $3,000 trip to Iceland she didn't even want had to do with it, and the quiet thing she now reaches for instead of grand gestures. What makes love real, she's decided, has nothing to do with how much you're willing to sacrifice. Song: Ethereal Composer: Punch Deck Website: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC3M9CX5HWSw25k5QL3FkDEA [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC3M9CX5HWSw25k5QL3FkDEA] License: Creative Commons (BY 3.0) https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/3.0/ [https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/3.0/] Music powered by BreakingCopyright: https://breakingcopyright.com [https://breakingcopyright.com] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices [https://megaphone.fm/adchoices]