Ep 99, Unforgiveness After Divorce, Why Your Soul Feels Exhausted

Ep 107, The Cave is no Longer Your Home! The Valley of Divorce Series

After divorce, it's natural to want to hide. Maybe you've pulled away from friends, stopped serving, or found yourself retreating into what feels like an emotional cave. If so, you're not alone—and you may be surprised to discover that God has a purpose for caves. In this episode of Redeemed Identity After Divorce, we're continuing our Valley of the Shadow of Divorce series by exploring how God often uses hidden places to protect us, restore us, and prepare us for what's next. Throughout Scripture, caves were places of refuge. David found shelter in the Cave of Adullam. Elijah encountered God's gentle voice in a cave. These weren't places of defeat—they were places of transformation. But there's also an important warning. The cave that once protected you can become the place that keeps you stuck. God never intended the cave to become your permanent address. If you've been hiding, healing, or wondering whether it's time to step back into life again, this episode is for you. In this episode, you'll discover: * Why God sometimes leads us into seasons of hiddenness * What David's Cave of Adullam teaches us about healing after divorce * The difference between resting and hiding * How God's provision can become our prison if we're not careful * Practical steps for recognizing when it's time to leave the cave and continue your journey with the Shepherd Key Scripture * 1 Samuel 22:1–2 * Psalm 57 * Romans 8:29 * 1 Kings 19 Truth Bombs 💣 God hides people He intends to heal—not people He intends to abandon. 💣 Resting in the cave is healthy. Building a house there is not. 💣 The Shepherd never calls you to stay where He only intended you to recover. If this episode encouraged you, please follow the podcast, leave a five-star review on Apple Podcasts, and share it with someone who may be walking through their own valley. Your review helps other hurting Christians discover hope and healing.   We are the fragrance of Christ, Dana   If this ministry has blessed you, you can buy me coffee through Ko-Fi: BUY ME COFFEE LINK: https://ko-fi.com/ribuymecoffeedonations [https://ko-fi.com/ribuymecoffeedonations]   LINK TREE: https://redeemed-identity.com/links/ [https://redeemed-identity.com/links/]   An encouraging word article: https://redeemed-identity.com/2024/02/19/a-word-of-encouragement-for-you/ [https://redeemed-identity.com/2024/02/19/a-word-of-encouragement-for-you/]   Embracing Christ's Design: https://redeemed-identity.com/2024/03/26/embracing-christs-design-amid-divorce/ [https://redeemed-identity.com/2024/03/26/embracing-christs-design-amid-divorce/]   SOCIAL MEDIA LINKS:   Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/redeemidentity/ [https://www.facebook.com/redeemidentity/] TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@redeemedidentity [http://www.tiktok.com/@redeemedidentity] Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/redeemedidentityafterdivorce/# [https://www.instagram.com/redeemedidentityafterdivorce/]   Free ebook: Who Am I After Divorce? Contact Dana@redeemed-identity.com. Are you a divorced Christian needing encouragement? Do you struggle with how to see yourself since your divorce? This free ebook will encourage you and remind you who and WHOSE you are!   Amazon: Healing After Divorce Paperback: https://a.co/d/8mjG6dp [https://a.co/d/8mjG6dp]   WHERE YOU CAN FIND THE SHOW:   PODCAST: APPLE: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/redeemed-identity-after-divorce-christian-divorce-encouragement/id1752761447 [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/redeemed-identity-after-divorce-christian-divorce-encouragement/id1752761447]   YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/@RedeemedIdentityAfterDivorce [https://www.youtube.com/@RedeemedIdentityAfterDivorce]   Guest Scheduling https://redeemed-identity.com/scheduling/ [https://redeemed-identity.com/scheduling/]

Ep 101, The Valley of the Shadow of Divorce

Divorce can feel like a walk through the Valley of the Shadow of Death. Not because you have physically died, but because so much of life as you knew it has. Dreams. Plans. Identity. Security. Relationships. The future you thought you would have. In this powerful episode of Redeemed Identity After Divorce, we explore the famous words of Psalm 23 and uncover what the "Valley of the Shadow of Death" meant to those living in biblical times. We'll look at why valleys were places of danger, uncertainty, and vulnerability—and how those same realities often mirror the experience of divorce. If you've ever felt lost, abandoned, overwhelmed, or unsure how you'll make it through another day, this episode is for you. You'll discover: ✔️ What the Valley of the Shadow of Death represented in biblical culture ✔️ Why divorce often feels like a journey through a dark valley ✔️ The difference between living in a valley and getting stuck there ✔️ How God's presence changes everything, even when your circumstances haven't changed ✔️ Practical encouragement for navigating grief, loss, fear, and uncertainty ✔️ Why your valley is not your final destination The valley may be dark, but it is not permanent. The Good Shepherd never abandons His sheep, and He is with you every step of the journey. If you're walking through one of the hardest seasons of your life, this episode will remind you that God is still leading, still protecting, and still writing your story. Key Scripture: Psalm 23:4 "Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil, for You are with me; Your rod and Your staff, they comfort me." Resources Mentioned: 📖 Amazon:   Healing After Divorce Paperback: https://a.co/d/8mjG6dp [https://a.co/d/8mjG6dp] Dana Connect with Redeemed Identity After Divorce: 🎙 Podcast: Redeemed Identity After Divorce 📺 YouTube: Redeemed Identity After Divorce 🌐 Website: Redeemed-Identity.com Enjoying the podcast? Please follow, rate, and review the show on Apple Podcasts. Your review helps other divorced Christians find hope, healing, and biblical encouragement during one of life's most difficult journeys. #ChristianDivorce #DivorceRecovery #Psalm23 #ValleyOfTheShadowOfDeath #HealingAfterDivorce #FaithAfterDivorce #ChristianPodcast #RedeemedIdentityAfterDivorce #BiblicalHealing #DivorceSupport #ChristianEncouragement #HopeAfterDivorce #Psalm23Study #GodsPresence #EmotionalHealing

Ep 105, The Valley of Divorce: When God Feels Silent

Have you ever prayed for your marriage, your healing, or your future... only to be met with silence?   If you've wondered whether God has stopped listening—or worse, stopped caring—you're not alone.   In this episode of Redeemed Identity After Divorce, Dana continues the Valley of the Shadow of Divorce series by looking at the story of Elijah in 1 Kings 19. After one of the greatest victories of his life, Elijah found himself exhausted, afraid, isolated, and convinced he was alone. Yet it was in the quiet of the cave that God met him—not with wind, fire, or an earthquake, but with a gentle whisper.   Discover why God's silence is never the same as His absence, how fear distorts what faith once believed, and why your divorce has not canceled your calling. If you're walking through a season where Heaven feels quiet, this episode will remind you that the Good Shepherd never leaves the valley. In This Episode * Why fear tries to distort what faith just realized * How isolation magnifies emotional pain after divorce * The importance of allowing God to restore you before redirecting you * Why honest conversations with God deepen intimacy * What Elijah's cave teaches us about hearing God's voice * How God reframes our story and gives us a new assignment * Practical steps for trusting God when He feels silent Key Scriptures * 1 Kings 19:1–21 * Psalm 46:10 * Psalm 56:3–4 * Psalm 62:8 * Psalm 23:2–3 * Matthew 11:28–30 * John 10:27 * 2 Timothy 1:7 * Hebrews 4:15–16 * Hebrews 10:24–25 * 1 Peter 5:8–9 * Jeremiah 29:11 * Philippians 1:6 Truth to Remember * "God's silence is not God's absence." * "Fear tells you what might happen. Faith remembers what God already did." * "God isn't writing your obituary. He's writing your next assignment."   Identity Check The valley may change where you're walking, but it never changes whose you are. Your identity is not defined by divorce—it is rooted in Christ. If this episode encouraged you, please follow the podcast, leave a rating and written review on Apple Podcasts, and share this episode with someone who needs hope today. Your review helps more hurting hearts discover that healing and purpose are still possible after divorce.   We are the fragrance of Christ, Dana   If this ministry has blessed you, you can buy me coffee through Ko-Fi: BUY ME COFFEE LINK: https://ko-fi.com/ribuymecoffeedonations [https://ko-fi.com/ribuymecoffeedonations]   LINK TREE: https://redeemed-identity.com/links/ [https://redeemed-identity.com/links/] An encouraging word article: https://redeemed-identity.com/2024/02/19/a-word-of-encouragement-for-you/ [https://redeemed-identity.com/2024/02/19/a-word-of-encouragement-for-you/]   Embracing Christ's Design: https://redeemed-identity.com/2024/03/26/embracing-christs-design-amid-divorce/ [https://redeemed-identity.com/2024/03/26/embracing-christs-design-amid-divorce/]     SOCIAL MEDIA LINKS: Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/redeemidentity/ [https://www.facebook.com/redeemidentity/] TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@redeemedidentity [http://www.tiktok.com/@redeemedidentity] Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/redeemedidentityafterdivorce/# [https://www.instagram.com/redeemedidentityafterdivorce/]   Free ebook: Who Am I After Divorce? Contact Dana@redeemed-identity.com. Are you a divorced Christian needing encouragement? Do you struggle with how to see yourself since your divorce? This free ebook will encourage you and remind you who and WHOSE you are!   Amazon:   Healing After Divorce Paperback: https://a.co/d/8mjG6dp [https://a.co/d/8mjG6dp]   WHERE CAN YOU FIND THE SHOW:   PODCAST: APPLE: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/redeemed-identity-after-divorce-christian-divorce-encouragement/id1752761447 [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/redeemed-identity-after-divorce-christian-divorce-encouragement/id1752761447]   YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/@RedeemedIdentityAfterDivorce [https://www.youtube.com/@RedeemedIdentityAfterDivorce]

Ep 104, The Valley of Divorce has Bandits

There are bandits hiding in the valley of divorce—and they're after more than your marriage.   Fear whispers that your future is over. Shame tells you you'll never recover. Guilt keeps replaying yesterday, and lies slowly begin to sound like truth.   In this episode of Redeemed Identity After Divorce, we're continuing our Valley of the Shadow of Death series by exposing the spiritual bandits that try to steal your identity while you're walking through one of life's deepest valleys. Psalm 23 reminds us that God never intended for us to build a home in the valley. We are called to walk through it—with the Good Shepherd leading every step.   Together we'll uncover: • Why divorce often feels like walking through the valley of the shadow of death • The four "bandits" that try to rob you of hope after divorce • How fear, shame, guilt, and lies work together to redefine your identity • What Scripture says about who you really are • Practical prayers to help you keep moving forward • How to stop camping in the valley and begin walking toward healing   No matter what you've lost, your identity has never been determined by your divorce. It has always been determined by Christ.   If you've been feeling trapped in the cave, discouraged by the journey, or wondering if you'll ever feel like yourself again, this episode is for you.   Scriptures Mentioned: • Psalm 23 • Psalm 27:1 • Isaiah 43:2 • Romans 8:1 • Ephesians 1   Resources Healing After Divorce: 35 Prayers Rooted in God's Word for Divorced Christians   If this episode encouraged you, would you take a moment to follow the podcast, leave a review, and share it with someone who needs hope today? Every share helps another hurting heart discover that healing—and identity—can be found in Christ.   We are the fragrance of Christ, Dana   If this ministry has blessed you, you can buy me coffee through Ko-Fi:   BUY ME COFFEE LINK: https://ko-fi.com/ribuymecoffeedonations [https://ko-fi.com/ribuymecoffeedonations]   LINK TREE: https://redeemed-identity.com/links/ [https://redeemed-identity.com/links/] An encouraging word article: https://redeemed-identity.com/2024/02/19/a-word-of-encouragement-for-you/ [https://redeemed-identity.com/2024/02/19/a-word-of-encouragement-for-you/]   Embracing Christ's Design: https://redeemed-identity.com/2024/03/26/embracing-christs-design-amid-divorce/ [https://redeemed-identity.com/2024/03/26/embracing-christs-design-amid-divorce/]   SOCIAL MEDIA LINKS: Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/redeemidentity/ [https://www.facebook.com/redeemidentity/] TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@redeemedidentity [http://www.tiktok.com/@redeemedidentity] Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/redeemedidentityafterdivorce/# [https://www.instagram.com/redeemedidentityafterdivorce/]   Are you a divorced Christian needing encouragement? Do you struggle with how to see yourself since your divorce? This free ebook will encourage you and remind you who and WHOSE you are!   Amazon: Healing After Divorce Paperback: https://a.co/d/8mjG6dp [https://a.co/d/8mjG6dp]   WHERE CAN YOU FIND THE SHOW:   PODCAST: APPLE: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/redeemed-identity-after-divorce-christian-divorce-encouragement/id1752761447 [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/redeemed-identity-after-divorce-christian-divorce-encouragement/id1752761447]   YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/@RedeemedIdentityAfterDivorce [https://www.youtube.com/@RedeemedIdentityAfterDivorce]   Guest Scheduling https://redeemed-identity.com/scheduling/ [https://redeemed-identity.com/scheduling/]   FOR MUSIC "SMILE": Music I use: Bensound.com Funny Song License code: DM5CQOZKF0EUTN1L   Hashtags: #divorcedlife, #christiandivorce, #divorce, #divorcedchristian

Ep 103, Lies and Echoes in the Valley of Divorce

The divorce may be over, but the voices often remain. In this episode, Dana explores one of the most overlooked realities of life after divorce: the echoes that linger long after the event itself has ended. Old accusations, painful memories, labels, rejection, shame, and fear can continue to reverberate through our minds, influencing how we see ourselves and our future. Drawing from Psalm 23 and the ongoing Valley of the Shadow of Death of Divorce (VOSOD) series, you'll discover why echoes are so powerful, how they shape identity, and how to recognize the difference between the voices of the past and the voice of the Shepherd. If you've ever found yourself replaying old conversations, reliving painful moments, or struggling to silence the accusations that follow relational loss, this episode is for you. In This Episode: * Why the valley of divorce has echoes * How old wounds continue speaking into the present * The difference between an echo and the voice of truth * Recognizing the lies that shape identity * Learning to hear the Shepherd above the noise Identity Check: * What voices from your past still influence how you see yourself? * Are you listening to an echo or to truth? * What labels have you accepted that God never gave you? * Whose voice has the greatest authority in your life today? Key Scripture: Psalm 23 The valley may contain echoes, but the Shepherd's voice is still greater. Blessings, Dana   BUY ME COFFEE LINK: If this ministry has blessed you, you can buy me coffee through Ko-Fi: BUY ME COFFEE LINK: https://ko-fi.com/ribuymecoffeedonations [https://ko-fi.com/ribuymecoffeedonations]   WEBSITE: www.redeemed-identity.com [http://www.redeemed-identity.com] LINK TREE: https://redeemed-identity.com/links/ [https://redeemed-identity.com/links/]   SOCIAL MEDIA LINKS: Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/redeemidentity/ [https://www.facebook.com/redeemidentity/] TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@redeemedidentity [http://www.tiktok.com/@redeemedidentity] Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/redeemedidentityafterdivorce/# [https://www.instagram.com/redeemedidentityafterdivorce/] Amazon: Healing After Divorce Paperback: https://a.co/d/8mjG6dp [https://a.co/d/8mjG6dp]   Healing After Divorce ebook https://a.co/d/etcpVyR [https://a.co/d/etcpVyR]     WHERE CAN YOU FIND THE SHOW:   PODCAST:   APPLE: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/redeemed-identity-after-divorce-christian-divorce-encouragement/id1752761447 [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/redeemed-identity-after-divorce-christian-divorce-encouragement/id1752761447]   YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/@RedeemedIdentityAfterDivorce [https://www.youtube.com/@RedeemedIdentityAfterDivorce]