Episode 94: Sobriety Journey Story: How One Phone Call Changed Randy Haveson’s Life

How Whitney Combs Learned to Stop Managing Her Drinking and Start Living Her Life

Today, Whitney Combs is helping women do something she spent years trying to figure out for herself: how to stop using alcohol as a coping tool and start building a life that feels manageable, authentic, and emotionally sustainable. As a sobriety coach and nervous system regulation expert, she teaches women practical skills for navigating stress, overwhelm, anxiety, and the challenges of everyday life without reaching for a drink. What makes Whitney’s work so compelling is that it grew directly out of her own experience. Before she was coaching others, she was a physician assistant, educator, wife, and mother of four who appeared to have everything under control. She was successful, highly accomplished, and deeply committed to the people she loved. Yet beneath the surface, she was carrying a tremendous amount of pressure. Like so many women, she had become accustomed to performing, achieving, and taking care of everyone around her while quietly struggling to take care of herself. During our conversation, what struck me most was how much of Whitney’s journey wasn’t really about alcohol at all. It was about perfectionism. It was about anxiety. It was about the exhausting belief that she always had to be “on,” always had to get things right, and always had to be everything to everyone. Alcohol simply became the tool she used to manage the impossible expectations she had placed on herself. https://youtu.be/YYyVBos0ZoI The Only Child Who Grew Up Feeling Like an Adult Whitney describes her childhood with genuine affection. She was raised by loving parents and speaks warmly about the home she grew up in. At the same time, she laughed about being an only child, joking that there were essentially three adults living in the house. Because she spent so much time around adults, she developed a level of maturity and responsibility very early in life. While those traits served her well in many ways, they also planted the seeds of perfectionism. As we talked, it became clear that Whitney spent much of her life believing she needed to do things correctly, perform well, and meet high expectations. She wasn’t someone who naturally gave herself permission to be messy, uncertain, or imperfect. Instead, she became the kind of person who worked harder, tried harder, and expected more from herself than anyone else ever could. By adulthood, those tendencies had become deeply ingrained. She had long struggled with depression and anxiety and had worked with mental health professionals throughout her life. But even with that support, the demands she faced continued to grow. She was teaching future physician assistants, raising four young children, managing a marriage, and trying to excel in every area of her life simultaneously. From the outside, it looked impressive. From the inside, it was exhausting. Like many high-achieving women, Whitney had learned how to function at a very high level while carrying an enormous amount of internal stress. She kept moving forward, checking boxes, and meeting responsibilities. But eventually, she needed a way to quiet the constant pressure she felt. That’s where alcohol entered the picture. When Drinking Becomes a Full-Time Mental Job One of the things I appreciated most about Whitney’s honesty was how clearly she described the mental gymnastics that accompanied her drinking. Because she was so determined not to let alcohol become a problem, she created rules. At first, she would only drink Thursday through Saturday. Then she imposed limits on the number of drinks she would have. Like so many people who are beginning to question their relationship with alcohol, she spent countless hours negotiating with herself, creating strategies, and trying to maintain control. The problem, of course, was that the rules rarely worked the way she hoped they would. Once drinking started, the carefully constructed plans often fell apart. The next morning would bring guilt, frustration, and renewed promises to do better next time. As Whitney reflected on those years, she laughed while sharing one of the most memorable stories from her journey. Determined to prevent herself from drinking impulsively, she actually locked her wine refrigerator and froze the key inside a block of ice. The plan seemed brilliant. Until it wasn’t. One night, she became so determined to get into the wine fridge that she found herself running to the garage in search of tools to pry it open rather than waiting for the ice to melt. It’s a funny story now, but it also captures something many people understand all too well. The problem wasn’t the wine fridge. The problem was the amount of mental energy she was spending trying to control something that no longer felt aligned with the life she wanted. “I was constantly negotiating with myself, and it was exhausting.” As the years passed, those negotiations became harder, more complicated, and less effective. Eventually, Whitney reached a point where she realized she didn’t want to spend the rest of her life managing alcohol. She wanted freedom from thinking about it altogether. Learning That Sobriety Doesn’t Solve Everything Like many people, Whitney initially believed that quitting drinking would solve most of her problems. What she discovered instead was both more challenging and ultimately more rewarding. After exploring different approaches and spending nearly nine months trying to figure out how to stop drinking for good, she finally committed to sobriety and joined a coaching program. Looking back, she credits that experience as one of the most important investments she made in herself. The reason had very little to do with alcohol itself. What the coaching program taught her was that removing alcohol doesn’t automatically remove the emotions that led you to drink in the first place. The anxiety is still there. The overwhelm is still there. The perfectionism is still there. The tendency to overfunction and overperform doesn’t magically disappear. Sobriety gave her clarity, but it also required her to develop new tools. That realization ultimately shaped the work she does today. “Just because you quit drinking doesn’t mean you stop having feelings.” Instead of numbing difficult emotions, Whitney began learning how to regulate her nervous system and respond to stress in healthier ways. Over time, she discovered that lasting recovery wasn’t just about removing alcohol. It was about building the capacity to sit with discomfort, process emotions, and care for herself in ways she never had before. The Power of Nervous System Regulation Today, nervous system regulation sits at the center of Whitney’s coaching philosophy, and our conversation around this topic was one of my favorite parts of the episode. She explained that many people only think about coping skills when they’re already overwhelmed. In reality, she believes there are two different categories of nervous system care. The first involves daily practices that help keep us emotionally grounded and resilient. These are the habits that support our well-being before a crisis occurs. Meditation, yoga, journaling, movement, prayer, and mindfulness practices all fall into this category. They help create a stronger foundation so that life’s inevitable challenges don’t knock us completely off balance. The second category involves what Whitney calls rescue tools. These are strategies we can access in moments of acute stress, anxiety, or emotional overwhelm. Breathwork is one example. Naming and acknowledging emotions is another. She also shared a story about her daughter, who uses an ice wrap around the back of her neck when anxiety becomes intense. The cold sensation helps bring her attention back into her body and out of spiraling thoughts. What I loved about this conversation was how practical it felt. Rather than presenting recovery as some abstract concept, Whitney offered concrete examples of what it looks like to care for ourselves in real time. “This is not forever. This is for now.” That simple reminder can be incredibly powerful when we’re caught in the middle of a difficult moment. Finding the Courage to Share Her Story After completing her coaching program and stepping away from her work as a physician assistant educator, Whitney found herself asking a new question. What did she want to do next? The answer surprised her. She had become fascinated by everything she was learning about recovery, emotional wellness, and nervous system regulation. The more she explored these topics, the more passionate she became about helping others navigate the same challenges. She began discussing the possibility of coaching with her own coach and eventually started the process of becoming certified herself. Yet even as she stepped into this new chapter, there was still the question of whether she was ready to share her story publicly. One of the most emotionally difficult conversations came with her parents. Like many loving parents, they immediately worried that somehow they had caused her struggles. Whitney had to help them understand that this wasn’t about blame. It was simply about her own journey and her decision to create a healthier future. Once they worked through those emotions, however, she found that most people responded with tremendous support. About six months after deciding she wanted to become a coach, she had a moment of clarity while sitting at a water park. She decided it was time. That day, she went home and began sharing her sobriety journey publicly. Interestingly, she didn’t start by talking about the hardest moments. Instead, she focused on what she was gaining. She talked about freedom. She talked about peace. She talked about authenticity. She talked about how much better life felt. Because she framed the conversation around possibility rather than shame, people responded positively. “I wanted people to know how good life had become.” Sharing Your Story on Your Own Terms Toward the end of our conversation, I asked Whitney what advice she would give someone who wants to be more open about their sobriety but feels nervous about how others might respond. Her answer was thoughtful and empowering. She reminded listeners that not everyone automatically deserves access to their story. Vulnerability is important, but so are boundaries. Sharing doesn’t have to be all or nothing. “Not everybody deserves your story, but you deserve to show up as your whole self.” She encouraged people to start small. Share with trusted friends. Focus on the positive changes you’ve experienced. Talk about what you’re gaining rather than what you’re giving up. Most importantly, she reminded us that other people’s reactions are often more about them than they are about us. Sometimes discomfort arises because our choices force others to examine their own relationship with alcohol. That doesn’t mean we’ve done anything wrong. It simply means we’ve chosen authenticity. A Note from Margy One of the things I kept thinking about during my conversation with Whitney was how many women are walking around carrying impossible expectations. We tell ourselves we need to be better, do more, achieve more, and hold everything together. Then, when the pressure becomes unbearable, we criticize ourselves for looking for relief. Whitney’s story is such a beautiful reminder that the answer isn’t becoming more disciplined or more perfect. The answer is learning how to care for ourselves with the same compassion we offer everyone else. What stood out to me most was the freedom she found when she stopped trying to manage alcohol and started addressing what was underneath it. The anxiety. The overwhelm. The pressure. The belief that she always had to perform. If you’ve been questioning your own relationship with alcohol, I hope this conversation encourages you to get curious about what’s beneath the drinking. Sometimes the greatest transformation isn’t in what we stop doing. It’s in what we finally allow ourselves to feel, heal, and become. Keep Up With Whitney: Website: www.whitneycombs.com [http://www.whitneycombs.com/] Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/whitney.combs/ [https://www.instagram.com/whitney.combs/] LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/whitney-combs-27a108143/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/whitney-combs-27a108143/] The post How Whitney Combs Learned to Stop Managing Her Drinking and Start Living Her Life [https://soberliferocks.com/how-whitney-combs-learned-to-stop-managing-her-drinking-and-start-living-her-life/] first appeared on Sober Life Rocks [https://soberliferocks.com].

How Jaime Andersen Found Freedom Beyond Alcohol

Today, Jaime Andersen is helping women around the world rethink their relationship with alcohol and create lives they genuinely love waking up to. As a sober coach, certified yoga teacher, retreat leader, and advocate for intentional living, she has built a thriving community centered on wellness, authenticity, and personal growth. After leaving a successful corporate career to pursue coaching full time, she now spends her days helping others discover what she wishes she had known years earlier: that sobriety isn’t the end of a good life. In many ways, it’s the beginning. Listening to Jaime speak now, it’s hard not to notice the energy she brings to the conversation. She is thoughtful, grounded, and deeply passionate about helping women find freedom from the exhausting cycle of questioning their drinking. Yet one of the things I appreciated most about our conversation was her honesty about how ordinary her story looked from the outside. There was no dramatic rock bottom. No single catastrophic event forced her to stop drinking. Instead, her journey began in a place that will feel familiar to countless women: she was successful, capable, overwhelmed, and quietly using alcohol as a way to cope with a life that felt increasingly exhausting. The Life That Looked Fine From the Outside When I asked Jaime who I would have met if I had known her a few years before she stopped drinking, she didn’t hesitate. She described a woman who was doing all the things so many high-achieving women do. She was working full time at Amazon in a demanding corporate role while also raising a family and managing the endless responsibilities that come with being a mother. Like many women, she became incredibly skilled at keeping all the plates spinning. She showed up, got things done, and kept moving forward. What few people saw was how depleted she felt underneath it all. She wasn’t drinking every day, which made it easy to dismiss concerns about alcohol. In fact, for a long time she told herself that because she could go several days without drinking, things couldn’t really be that bad. But the truth was more complicated. By the time Thursday rolled around each week, she found herself eagerly anticipating that first drink. Thursday through Sunday became her window to decompress, relax, and escape the relentless pressure she felt during the workweek. The issue wasn’t necessarily how often she drank. It was the role alcohol had begun to play in her life. It had become the reward for getting through the week. The thing she looked forward to. The way she managed stress. And once she started drinking, she often found it difficult to stop. “I would long for Thursday to come because I just needed some way to unwind from all the exhaustion.” As Jaime reflected on that period of her life, it became clear that alcohol wasn’t the root problem. The deeper issue was that she was exhausted, disconnected from herself, and carrying more than any one person was meant to carry. Alcohol simply became the coping mechanism that made that reality feel more manageable, at least temporarily. Over time, however, she began noticing moments that forced her to confront the truth. She could see that she wasn’t always showing up as the mother she wanted to be. She didn’t have the energy she wanted for the people and activities that mattered most. There was a growing sense that her priorities weren’t aligned with her values. While nothing looked disastrous from the outside, she knew something needed to change. A Simple Break That Changed Everything Like many people who eventually find lasting sobriety, Jaime didn’t start out intending to quit drinking forever. She simply decided to take a break. She had done alcohol-free challenges before and had successfully gone periods without drinking. Each time, however, she eventually returned to old habits. This break felt different, though she couldn’t have explained why at the time. Looking back now, she realizes the difference wasn’t willpower. It was connection. During those early weeks, Jaime discovered sober podcasts. The podcasts led her to sober Instagram accounts, and those accounts led her to online communities filled with people asking the same questions she had been asking herself. Suddenly, she was surrounded by stories from people who didn’t fit the stereotypical image of someone with a drinking problem. They were professionals, parents, entrepreneurs, and high achievers who simply wanted more from life than alcohol was allowing them to experience. For the first time, she realized she wasn’t alone. That realization became a turning point. Before finding those communities, Jaime believed she was navigating a unique problem. She knew drinking wasn’t serving her, but she also didn’t identify with traditional recovery narratives. Discovering thousands of people living in that same gray area was incredibly validating. She immersed herself in books, podcasts, social media content, and conversations with others who had walked the path ahead of her. “I consumed everything I could get my hands on because I finally realized there were other people just like me.” What struck me as she shared this part of her story was how often we underestimate the power of community. So many people struggle in silence because they believe they’re the only ones asking these questions. Jaime’s experience reminds us that healing often begins the moment we realize we’re not alone. The Surprising Joy of Life Without Alcohol As her thirty-day break progressed, Jaime noticed changes she hadn’t expected. She felt better physically, of course, but the improvements went far beyond that. Her energy increased. Her confidence grew. The constant mental negotiation around drinking began to disappear. Perhaps most importantly, she started building relationships with people who understood exactly what she was experiencing. When the thirty days ended, she found herself facing an unexpected realization. She didn’t want to go back. For years, she had assumed that life without alcohol would feel restrictive or boring. Like many people, she viewed drinking as an essential ingredient in fun, connection, and relaxation. What she discovered instead was that life was becoming bigger, not smaller. “I couldn’t believe this was what life felt like without drinking. I thought, if it’s this good, why doesn’t everybody know?” That question stayed with her. She found herself wanting to share what she was learning, not because she was trying to convince anyone else to quit drinking, but because she was genuinely excited about the changes she was experiencing. Within six months, she started an Instagram account where she began documenting her journey. At first, it felt like a public journal. She never imagined it would become a business, a career, or a platform that would eventually reach thousands of people. She was simply sharing her truth. Ironically, that honesty is exactly what drew people in. Women saw themselves in her story. They recognized the exhaustion. They understood the internal debate about alcohol. They related to the feeling of wondering whether life could be better without it. As her audience grew, so did her sense of purpose. What started as sharing her own experience gradually evolved into coaching, community building, and eventually a full-time career dedicated to helping others create lasting change. Today, Jaime often reflects on how different her life looks from the one she was living just a few years ago. The woman who once counted down the days until Thursday is now building retreats, teaching yoga, coaching clients, running races, and cultivating a life rooted in wellness and intention. None of that happened overnight. It happened because she became willing to ask a simple question: What if there’s more available to me than this? A NOTE FROM MARGY One of the reasons I wanted to share Jaime’s story is because so many people dismiss their own questions about alcohol simply because things haven’t gotten “bad enough.” They’re still showing up to work. Still taking care of their families. Still checking all the boxes. From the outside, everything looks fine. But Jaime reminds us that the goal isn’t simply to avoid disaster. The goal is to build a life that feels aligned, energized, and authentic. What resonated with me most was her realization that alcohol wasn’t really the problem she was trying to solve. Exhaustion was. Stress was. Disconnection was. Alcohol was simply the tool she had learned to use to cope with those feelings. I think many of us can relate to that, whether alcohol is involved or not. We all have habits, routines, and distractions that help us get through the day. The harder question is whether they’re helping us create the life we actually want. Jaime’s story is a powerful reminder that transformation doesn’t always begin with a crisis. Sometimes it begins with curiosity. A willingness to ask, “What if there’s more available to me than this?” And sometimes that single question can change everything. Stay Connected with Jamie: Website: https://www.amazinglyalcoholfree.com/ [https://www.amazinglyalcoholfree.com/] Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/amazinglyalcoholfree/ [https://www.instagram.com/amazinglyalcoholfree/] TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@amazinglyalcoholfree [https://www.tiktok.com/@amazinglyalcoholfree] YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@AmazinglyAlcoholFree [https://www.youtube.com/@AmazinglyAlcoholFree] LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaimeandersen/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaimeandersen/] The post How Jaime Andersen Found Freedom Beyond Alcohol [https://soberliferocks.com/how-jaime-andersen-found-freedom-beyond-alcohol/] first appeared on Sober Life Rocks [https://soberliferocks.com].

Kriya Lendzion’s Journey From College Recovery to National Prevention Leader

Today, Kriya Lendzion is one of the most respected voices in the field of youth substance use prevention. As a counselor, prevention specialist, educator, and keynote speaker, she has spent decades helping schools, parents, and communities understand how to better support young people as they navigate the pressures and realities of alcohol and drug use. Her work has impacted countless students and families, and her expertise is sought after by organizations across the country. What makes Kriya’s work so powerful, however, is that her knowledge isn’t purely academic. It is deeply personal. Long before she was leading workshops and speaking from conference stages, she was a teenager struggling with alcohol herself. During our conversation, she shared a story that was equal parts heartbreaking, inspiring, and hopeful. It is a story about family, identity, recovery, and discovering that the life waiting on the other side of alcohol can be far richer than the one we fear leaving behind. https://youtu.be/cRPa2TwlpCc Growing Up Between Fear and Fascination Kriya’s earliest understanding of alcohol was complicated. Her father struggled with alcoholism and was no longer present in her life after her mother made the difficult decision to remove him from the home because of his drinking. As a child, she understood alcohol as something dangerous, something capable of destroying relationships and disrupting families. Seeing the impact it had on her father left a lasting impression, and she remembers growing up with a firm determination that she would never follow that same path. At the same time, she was receiving a very different message from the world around her. Like so many children growing up in the 1980s and 1990s, she was surrounded by cultural images that portrayed drinking as glamorous, sophisticated, social, and fun. Her mother worked at a restaurant, and after school Kriya often spent time there. She remembers sitting at the bar doing homework while watching adults laugh together, celebrate, and socialize over drinks. To a young person observing from the sidelines, alcohol seemed connected to confidence, connection, and belonging. The contradiction was subtle but powerful. On one hand, alcohol had damaged her family. On the other hand, it appeared to be the thing that made adulthood exciting. Those mixed messages created a foundation that would later influence her own relationship with drinking. By the time she was around twelve years old, curiosity began to take over. Because alcohol was easily accessible both at home and in the restaurant environment, she started taking small exploratory sips. What began as experimentation quickly became something more significant because she immediately loved the way alcohol made her feel. “I loved the feeling of ease and calm. It seemed to take away the social anxiety and make everything feel easier.” Like many young people who later struggle with alcohol, Kriya wasn’t drinking because she wanted to create problems in her life. She was drinking because, at first, alcohol seemed to solve problems. It quieted insecurities, reduced awkwardness, and helped her feel more comfortable in social situations. As she moved through middle school and high school, alcohol became less about the drink itself and more about the identity she was building around it. She began to cultivate a reputation as the person who brought energy into every room. She loved being the friend everyone was excited to see arrive at a party. She loved hearing people say, “Now the party can start.” Over time, that role became part of how she saw herself. Being the life of the party wasn’t just something she did. It became who she believed she was. When the Consequences Became Impossible to Ignore The problem with building an identity around alcohol is that eventually alcohol begins taking more than it gives. What initially felt empowering slowly became limiting, though it took time for Kriya to fully recognize it. By the age of nineteen, the consequences of her drinking had become serious. She had already developed an ulcer, her academic performance was suffering, and she was failing out of college. The life she envisioned for herself was beginning to slip away, and she found herself facing a reality she never imagined. The cautionary tale she had grown up hearing about her father no longer felt distant. For the first time, she could see similarities between her own path and the one she had promised herself she would never follow. That realization led her to make a courageous decision. She entered an intensive outpatient treatment program while continuing to attend college. Looking back, it would have been understandable if she had chosen to withdraw from campus life entirely while focusing on recovery. Instead, she did something far more challenging. She decided she was going to learn how to live sober in the very environment where she had spent years drinking. As a member of a sorority, she was surrounded by parties, social events, and a college culture where alcohol was deeply ingrained. Rather than isolating herself, she chose radical honesty. She simply began telling people the truth. “I’m not drinking anymore. I’m in treatment.” Today, that kind of openness may not seem particularly unusual. In 1990, it was almost unheard of. Recovery conversations weren’t happening publicly. There were no sober social media communities, recovery podcasts, or alcohol-free movements gaining mainstream attention. Most people simply didn’t talk openly about seeking treatment. The response she received revealed something important about relationships. Some people were uncomfortable because her decision challenged their own assumptions about drinking. Others immediately stepped forward to support her. Those supporters became an essential part of her recovery journey. “My real friends became invested in my success.” At parties and social gatherings, they would surround her with encouragement and protection. If someone handed her a drink, a friend might quietly take it and redirect it elsewhere. They understood what she was trying to accomplish and wanted to help her succeed. What surprised Kriya most was that sobriety didn’t require her to abandon her personality. She still danced. She still sang karaoke. She still brought energy and enthusiasm into social situations. The difference was that she was finally learning that those qualities had belonged to her all along. They had never belonged to alcohol. “I discovered I could still be the fun person. I just wasn’t drinking anymore.” Finding Purpose Through Service As Kriya became more comfortable sharing her story, something unexpected began to happen. Other people started sharing theirs. Students would approach her at parties and confide concerns about their own drinking. Friends would quietly tell her about family members who struggled with alcohol. Others would ask questions about treatment, recovery, and what it meant to change their relationship with substances. Word spread that she was someone who would listen without judgment. Over time, she became a trusted resource not only for students but for the university itself. She was invited to speak with incoming freshmen about her experiences and help educate students about alcohol use. Faculty members sought her perspective on how to support students who might be struggling. She helped create peer counseling initiatives and alcohol awareness programs that gave students a safe place to seek guidance. What began as a personal recovery journey gradually transformed into something much bigger. Her willingness to be honest about her own experiences created opportunities to help countless others. By the time she graduated, she had become a recognized student leader and received significant recognition for the impact she had made on campus. Yet the most important reward wasn’t the award itself. It was the realization that her greatest struggle had become the foundation for her life’s purpose. A Note From Margy One of the things I loved most about this conversation with Kriya is that it challenges a belief so many of us carry: that alcohol is what makes us fun, interesting, confident, or connected. Kriya built an entire identity around being the life of the party. She wasn’t drinking because she wanted to create problems in her life. She was drinking because alcohol seemed to solve them. And yet, when she removed alcohol, something remarkable happened. She discovered that the qualities she valued most about herself hadn’t disappeared. They had been hers all along. I think that’s a lesson that extends far beyond recovery. How many of us hold onto things that no longer serve us because we’re afraid of who we’ll be without them? A job title. A relationship. A role we’ve played for years. A version of ourselves we’ve outgrown. What Kriya’s story reminds me is that growth often begins when we’re willing to find out who we are without the crutch, the mask, or the story we’ve been telling ourselves. And sometimes, what we discover is even better than we imagined. Keep Up With Kriya: @KriyaCounselor on IG, FB, Tik Tok and YouTube Website: KriyaLendzion.com  The post Kriya Lendzion’s Journey From College Recovery to National Prevention Leader [https://soberliferocks.com/kriya-lendzions-journey-from-college-recovery-to-national-prevention-leader/] first appeared on Sober Life Rocks [https://soberliferocks.com].

What Brad McLeod Learned About Recovery, Reinvention, and Simply Showing Up

If you’ve spent any time in the recovery space, there’s a good chance you’ve heard of Brad McLeod. As the founder of a thriving online recovery community and the host of a podcast that has reached thousands of people seeking support and connection, Brad has become a familiar and trusted voice for those navigating sobriety. Through honest conversations and a commitment to showing up consistently, he’s helped create spaces where people feel less alone in their recovery journeys. But what struck me most during our conversation wasn’t the community he’s built or the success he’s achieved. It was the path that brought him there. Because before Brad was helping others find hope, he was searching for it himself. His story includes addiction, jail time, prison, deportation, and a lifetime ban from the United States. Looking at where he is today, it’s hard not to be inspired by how dramatically his life has changed. Yet as he shared his journey, I was reminded of something I hear often in recovery circles: transformation rarely happens all at once. It happens one decision, one lesson, and one imperfect step at a time. And perhaps that’s what made this conversation so powerful. Beneath the story of recovery is a much bigger lesson about purpose, resilience, and the courage to begin before you feel ready. https://youtu.be/Da1Rwg59jNI When Chaos Feels Normal Brad’s early years were marked by instability. He moved frequently, spending different seasons of his childhood living with his grandparents and then with his parents. The constant changes created an environment where chaos felt familiar and uncertainty became part of daily life. For many people, those experiences leave lasting effects. When life feels unpredictable from the beginning, it can be difficult to develop a sense of stability or belonging. Looking back, Brad can see how those early circumstances shaped some of the choices he would later make. Like many stories of addiction, substances didn’t enter his life all at once. It began with drinking during his teenage years. At first, alcohol seemed to offer an escape, a way to fit in, or simply a way to quiet some of the internal noise. But over time, drinking led to drugs, and drugs eventually led to harder substances. The progression wasn’t dramatic overnight. It rarely is. Instead, it was a series of small decisions that gradually pushed him further away from the life he wanted and deeper into consequences he never expected. There were arrests. There were stints in jail. There were moments when life became increasingly difficult to manage. Yet addiction has a remarkable way of convincing us that tomorrow will somehow be different. We tell ourselves we’ll stop later. We’ll figure things out eventually. We’ll make changes after one more weekend, one more mistake, one more chance. For Brad, that illusion finally came to an end during a trip back to the United States. At the time, he was living in Canada and had returned to visit family and friends. Instead of being welcomed home, he was met at the airport by law enforcement officers executing an outstanding warrant related to selling drugs to an undercover police officer. What followed was a year in prison. After serving his sentence, he was deported back to Canada and permanently banned from re-entering the United States. For many people, a moment like that would feel like rock bottom. The consequences were undeniable. The chaos had finally caught up with him. And in some ways, that’s exactly what made change possible. “The gig was up. I couldn’t keep living the way I had been living.” Starting Over and Finding Purpose One of the things I appreciate about recovery stories is that they don’t end when someone gets sober. In many ways, that’s where the real work begins. Once the substances are removed, we have to learn how to build a life. We have to discover who we are without our coping mechanisms. We have to figure out what matters, what we value, and how we want to spend our time moving forward. For Brad, that process included returning to school and earning a degree. He eventually entered the field of addiction counseling, a path many people in recovery feel drawn toward. After experiencing firsthand how life-changing recovery can be, it’s natural to want to help others find the same freedom. For a while, the work felt meaningful and aligned with his purpose. He understood the struggles his clients faced because he had lived them himself. He knew the fear, the shame, the setbacks, and the hope. But helping people through addiction recovery comes with an emotional cost that often goes unseen. Counselors, sponsors, coaches, and recovery advocates invest deeply in the people they serve. They celebrate victories, support people through relapses, and carry the weight of difficult outcomes. Over time, that weight began to take its toll. The turning point came when two people he had worked closely with died from overdoses. The losses hit hard. Despite all the effort, care, and energy invested in helping them, they were gone. The grief was profound, and it forced Brad to take an honest look at what the work was doing to him emotionally. At the same time, he and his wife were preparing to welcome their first child. Standing at that crossroads, he made a decision that felt both frightening and necessary. He walked away. Without another source of income. Without a clear roadmap. Without knowing exactly what would come next. “Sometimes the bravest thing you can do is acknowledge that something isn’t sustainable anymore.” Building Something Before He Felt Ready What happened next is one of my favorite parts of Brad’s story because it’s a reminder that many meaningful things begin in very ordinary ways. About eight years ago, he started a Facebook group focused on early recovery. There was no business plan. No marketing strategy. No grand vision for what it might become. There was simply a desire to create a place where people could connect and support one another. One person joined. Then another. Then another. People shared the group with friends who shared it with other friends. Slowly, the community began to grow. Over time, it evolved into a vibrant recovery network serving people from all walks of life. Then came another unexpected leap. About four years ago, Brad decided to start a podcast. The funny part is that he didn’t really know how to podcast. In fact, he told me that his parents had given him podcast equipment years earlier, and it had mostly sat unused. When he finally pulled it out, he couldn’t even get it working properly. It’s a story many creators can relate to. We imagine that successful people started with expertise, confidence, and perfect systems. More often than not, they started exactly where Brad did: confused, uncertain, and learning as they went. Eventually, he figured out enough to record an episode. Then another. Then another. And somewhere along the way, the podcast became something much bigger than he imagined. “You don’t have to be perfect to begin. You just have to begin.” The Impact We Never Get to Measure One of the most meaningful parts of our conversation centered around something many people struggle with, whether they’re podcasters, writers, entrepreneurs, or simply people trying to make a difference. How do you know if what you’re doing matters? We live in a culture that loves metrics. Downloads. Followers. Subscribers. Shares. Comments. But recovery communities don’t always operate according to those measurements. Many people listen quietly. Many people never comment. Many people never publicly engage because anonymity feels safer. As a result, it can be difficult to know whether your efforts are reaching anyone at all. Brad shared a beautiful story about receiving an email from a listener whose life had been impacted by something they heard on his show. That single message reminded him that the most important effects of our work are often invisible. We don’t always get to see the ripple effects. We don’t always hear the stories. We don’t always know who needed to hear exactly what we had to say on a particular day. Yet that doesn’t mean the impact isn’t real. “We never really know how our words or actions might affect someone else’s life.” I think that’s a lesson all of us need to hear. Whether you’re sharing your recovery story, encouraging a friend, volunteering, writing, creating, or simply trying to show up as a good human being, much of your influence will happen beyond your view. Sometimes the most meaningful contribution we can make is simply continuing to show up. Why the Journey Matters as Much as the Outcome As Brad and I talked about podcasting, we found ourselves returning to a theme that had very little to do with audience growth. The greatest gift hasn’t been the numbers. It’s been the relationships. Every conversation introduces you to someone new. Every guest offers a different perspective. Every story teaches you something about resilience, courage, healing, or humanity. In many ways, the process itself becomes transformative. Brad shared how much his own life has been enriched through the people he’s met and the conversations he’s been fortunate enough to have. I could relate completely. One of the unexpected gifts of hosting this podcast has been the opportunity to sit across from incredible people and hear the stories they carry. Time and again, I’m reminded that recovery isn’t just about stopping drinking or using. It’s about becoming more connected to ourselves and to others. That connection is where so much growth happens. It’s where empathy grows. It’s where understanding deepens. And it’s often where purpose emerges. “The people you meet and the conversations you have can completely change your life.” Just Start If there was one message that kept surfacing throughout our conversation, it was this: Just start. Not when you’re ready. Not when you’re perfect. Not when you have everything figured out. Start now. Whether that’s writing a book, launching a podcast, joining a recovery community, sharing your story, or pursuing a dream you’ve been putting off for years, the first step matters more than the perfect plan. Too many people spend years comparing themselves to others. We assume someone else is already doing it better. We tell ourselves we’re not qualified enough, experienced enough, or interesting enough. But there is room for all of us. The recovery community doesn’t need more perfection. It needs more authenticity. It needs more people willing to share honestly, connect deeply, and contribute in whatever way they can. That’s exactly what Brad did. He didn’t know where a Facebook group would lead. He didn’t know whether anyone would listen to his podcast. He simply showed up. And that decision changed his life. “You don’t have to compete with anyone. You just have to be willing to show up.” A Note from Margy One of the reasons this conversation stayed with me is because it speaks to something I see over and over again, both in recovery and in life. So many of us are waiting. We’re waiting until we feel more confident. We’re waiting until we have more experience. We’re waiting until we know exactly how everything will turn out. But Brad’s story reminds us that growth rarely works that way. He didn’t have a perfect plan when he got sober. He didn’t know exactly what career path he would follow. He didn’t know that a Facebook group would grow into a thriving community or that a podcast would connect him with thousands of people. He simply took the next step. Then the next one. Then the next. If you’re reading this and feeling called toward something, whether that’s recovery, creativity, service, or personal growth, I hope you’ll remember that you don’t need to have the entire journey mapped out. You only need enough courage for the next step. Trust that showing up matters. Trust that your story matters. Trust that the life you’re building today may eventually become the encouragement someone else needs tomorrow. And if Brad’s journey teaches us anything, it’s that our greatest purpose often emerges from the very struggles we once thought would define us. Stay Connected to Brad: www.sobermotivation.com [http://www.sobermotivation.com/] The post What Brad McLeod Learned About Recovery, Reinvention, and Simply Showing Up [https://soberliferocks.com/what-brad-mcleod-learned-about-recovery-reinvention-and-simply-showing-up/] first appeared on Sober Life Rocks [https://soberliferocks.com].

Episode 99: Alcohol-Free Living for Women: How Dupe Witherick Found a Better Life Beyond Alcohol

Alcohol-free living for women is often less about hitting rock bottom and more about realizing that alcohol no longer supports the life you want to create. In this episode of the Sober Life Rocks Podcast, Dupe Witherick shares how she moved from corporate success, wine culture, and quiet exhaustion into clarity, energy, purpose, and a more aligned way of living. WHEN DRINKING FELT LIKE PART OF A SUCCESSFUL LIFE Before she stopped drinking, Dupe’s life looked polished and successful. She had built an impressive corporate career, navigated leadership roles, and enjoyed a lifestyle filled with dinner parties, wine tasting, and celebration. Alcohol did not feel like a problem. It felt sophisticated, social, and completely normal. “I considered myself to be a normal drinker. There wasn’t some huge rock bottom. It was just time.” WHEN HER BODY STARTED SAYING NO Over time, Dupe noticed her body responding differently to alcohol. The red wines she once loved started causing headaches and stomach pain. She tried switching drinks, adjusting what she consumed, and finding alternatives that still allowed her to participate in the same rituals. But eventually, she could not ignore the truth: something no longer felt right. THE PANDEMIC WAKE-UP CALL During the pandemic, Dupe’s demanding corporate role moved fully online. The boundaries between work, stress, rest, and home disappeared. Her days became a cycle of working, pouring a drink, collapsing into bed, waking up exhausted, and doing it all over again. “I was telling everyone else to take care of themselves, but I wasn’t doing any of it myself.” That contradiction became impossible to ignore. THE 21-DAY FAST THAT CHANGED EVERYTHING After trying Dry January, Sober October, and other temporary breaks, Dupe decided to participate in a 21-day fast through her church. The night before the fast began, she opened a bottle of champagne. But something had changed. “My body was basically saying, ‘No. We can’t do this anymore.’” Once she moved through the first few weeks alcohol-free, she noticed better sleep, clearer thinking, more energy, and emotional lightness. “Once I started feeling better, I didn’t want to go back.” LEARNING TO NAVIGATE SOCIAL LIFE ALCOHOL-FREE Choosing alcohol-free living did not mean life suddenly became easy. Dupe had to navigate dinner parties, work events, and social settings where alcohol had always been expected. At first, she worried people would judge her or assume she had a serious problem. But gradually, she discovered that many people were supportive, curious, or completely unfazed. FINDING RITUAL WITHOUT ALCOHOL One important part of Dupe’s journey was discovering non-alcoholic alternatives that still felt elegant and enjoyable. “I realized I could still feel glamorous holding a beautiful drink in a glass. It just didn’t need alcohol in it.” That realization helped her understand that what she truly wanted was connection, ritual, beauty, and presence. Alcohol had simply been the thing society taught her to attach to those experiences. A NEW CONVERSATION AROUND ALCOHOL Today, more people are questioning alcohol through the lens of wellness, mental health, hormones, sleep, anxiety, and longevity. “Things are changing. People understand so much more now about what alcohol actually does to our bodies.” For women who do not identify with traditional recovery narratives, this shift creates permission to reevaluate drinking without shame. CREATING A BIGGER LIFE BEYOND ALCOHOL After stepping away from alcohol, Dupe began helping other women do the same. Through coaching, speaking, writing, podcasting, and Human Design work, she now helps women create lives that feel intentional, aligned, and fulfilling. Her message is not simply about removing alcohol. It is about creating a better quality of life. A FINAL REFLECTION Dupe Witherick’s story is a reminder that you do not need to wait for your life to fall apart before choosing something better. You are allowed to want more peace, energy, clarity, and joy. Sometimes the bravest thing you can do is listen to the whisper before it becomes a scream. The post Episode 99: Alcohol-Free Living for Women: How Dupe Witherick Found a Better Life Beyond Alcohol [https://soberliferocks.com/alcohol-free-living-for-women-dupe-witherick/] first appeared on Sober Life Rocks [https://soberliferocks.com].