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Patience: Emotional Strength in an Impatient World

30 min · 27. Mai 2026
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Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2051222/fan_mail/new] Today’s episode is on something I have been trying to work on for years, and honestly, I still struggle with it every day.  And that is the art of “Patience”. And I am not even going to pretend I have mastered this art because I absolutely. have. not. In fact, I am the most impatient person  I have ever met…and I am not joking. I have been struggling with patience for as long as I can remember. And yet somehow.. there is still not a day that goes by where I am not battling impatience in some area of my life. And the ironic part is.. Life has tried to teach me patience so many times, and in so many ways, but apparently I am a very slow learner when it comes to this lesson. What I have realized though, is that impatience does not just create  frustration, it creates stress, It affects relationships. It affects our mental state. It affects how we treat other people. And honestly, how we treat ourselves. And the older I get, I know that impatience has caused me far more damage than patience ever would have. I will tell you that  the most important lesson I have learned to date, is that.. patience is not just about waiting. It’s about how we behave while we wait.  I think it’s important to define patience. Patience: Is the ability to accept or tolerate delay, difficultly, inconvenience, or discomfort, without becoming anxious or irritable. It involves remaining calm and composed while waiting  for a desired outcome, enduring hardship, or dealing with challenging people or situations. Sounds simple. That is, until life starts testing it. Patients isn’t really tested when things are going our way. Patience is not just a personality trait, it is a mix of biology, psychology, life experience and environment  all working together. For a face paced mind, waiting doesn’t feel neutral, its feels uncomfortable. Almost like something is wrong that needs to be fixed.  When someone is living in a state of chronic stress, anxiety or overwhelm the nervous system is already under a lot of pressure, and in that state, even the smallest delays  or inconveniences feel amplified. A calm nervous system naturally has more space to tolerate waiting. And Another major factor is ‘learned behavior” We inherit emotional responses from our environment growing up. If you were raised in a fast paced, reactive, or high pressure environment, impatience can become a default response, we learn that urgency equals control. That speed equals safety. And that waiting equals discomfort. And overtime , that becomes automatic. Our brains are built around dopamine, the chemical involved in motivation and reward. When we repeatedly experience instant rewards our brain starts to expect instant outcomes. Overtime, delayed gratification feels more uncomfortable, not because we are weak, but because the brain has been trained toward instant satisfaction. And finally, Life Experience plays a huge role in patience. Some people develop patience through repetition- through our fitness, parenting, long term goals , healing, or situations where  we  learn that rushing doesn’t help. They may not have had as many experiences that have required long term waiting or emotional endurance. So when you combine all of this together;  temperament, stress levels, learned behaviors, brain conditioning, and life experience, you start to see why patients varies so much from person to person. NOT TO WORRY-Patience isn’t fixed. Even if someone is naturally more reactive  or fast paced, patience can still be strengthened overtime, Not perfectly. And by no means overnight. But gradually, through awareness, lifestyle changes and practice. Now, Patience is influenced by biology, environment, and stress and life experience. Impatience  comes from wanting certainty, movement, results and answers. When things feel unclear, delayed or out of our control, our minds naturally want resolution. It wants things to move forward. It wants closure. It wants speed. And our brain wants certaintyinstead of waiting in uncertainty. This is where impatience starts to build. But environment matters here  too. We now live in a time where almost everything is “instant satisfaction”. *instant entertainment *Instant communication *instant shopping And  *instant answers We barely have to wait for anything anymore. Even patient people are loving instant satisfaction. And overtime , I think that changes us psychologically. It lowers our tolerance for waiting, for effort, for uncertainty and even for boredom. The things that matter most, like  relationships, health, career growth, healing and trust, they all require time, repetition, and emotional endurance. Everything that once required patience, connection, effort, and emotional presence are now competing against instant forms of stimulation… even areas like intimacy and relationships, there are now forms of stimulation that offer immediate reward without the same emotional depth, connection, communication or patients that real human intimacy requires.. One huge example of this is pornography.  From a psychological perspective, pornography offers immediate reward with very little patience required. “Real intimacy is slooooower, and it requires all the things: But having instant stimulation(in this case) trains the brain differently. And honestly, I don’t think this only applies to porn- I think applies to modern life in general. We are constantly overstimulated and conditioned to expect speed. So when real life moves slower than technology does.. frustration shows itself. And when that happens across so many parts of your life , patience naturally becomes harder to sustain. Our brains are slowly losing tolerance for delayed results. Now that we are constantly surrounded by environments that encourage urgency, instant gratification, instant satisfaction, and emotional reactivity. I honestly think impatience is becoming a habit  for a lot of people, and they just assume it’s part of their personality. I do believe  that impatience can absolutely become habitual, because again, our brain learns thru repetition. *The more we rush *The more we react emotionally *The more we expect immediate movement, answers and results. The more our brain begins treating urgency as normal. Eventually impatience stops being an occasional reaction  and becomes an automatic response. You stop tolerating discomfort.. You stop allowing things to unfold naturally. Instead, everything starts feeling like it needs to happen NOW. And overtime, impatience slowly shapes  the way we move through life. We get everywhere faster *We get angry faster *Frustrated faster And we get Judgmental & lose empathy  faster.. because now our nervous system is conditioned  to constant urgency. And the hard part is that life reinforces this habit constantly. We don’t really practice waiting anymore so we are losing our tolerance for slowness, which actually makes impatience dangerous as a habit- because now it feels normal.  I have noticed how impatience has woven itself into our everyday life- not just in me, but everywhere around me . People interrupt constantly They react before thinking  We seem to be practicing  reactivity and not patience, and remember ; whatever we practice we strengthen. The good news is that if impatience can become a habit, patience can too. Impatience is stressful. Not just emotionally but physically too. Patience may be one of the hardest emotional skills to develop in this life. Our world is constantly pushing speed, urgency, instant gratification, and overstimulation. And overtime, that pressure affects our minds, our nervous systems, our relationships and our overall wellbeing. We are all becoming less tolerant of waiting, discomfort, uncertainty, inconvenience, and slowness- and  This is  exactly why patience  matters more than ever. We need to fight for patience again- it’s worth it. *Maybe we need to slow down a little. *Take better care of our bodies *Reduce your constant overstimulation * sleep better * practice emotional restraint * allow people to move differently than we do. * and we need to learn to tolerate inconvenience without immediately reacting. And maybe, most importantly, remembering that not everything meaningful in life is supposed to happen instantly. In many ways , patience may actually be one of the strongest forms of emotionally control left in a world that is constantly trying to speed us up. And while it may never be mastered, it can absolutely be practiced, one reaction at a time. And remember… patience is not weakness. -And Impatience does far more damages to us than the waiting itself. Enjoy! Joanne Demers The Aging Mask- A Lifestyle Medicine Podcast (949)236-1529 Follow along on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theagingmask

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"That's Just Not For Me"

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2051222/fan_mail/new] Have you ever forced yourself to like something just to avoid the guilt of admitting you don't? In this episode, I open up about a conversation with my girlfriend that completely changed how I think about "self honesty".  We were talking about the Podcast when she said out loud and very matter of fact " I don't like the Ayurveda stuff you talk about it. Ayurveda, or however you pronounce it, is not for me, I don't like it". I am not going to lie, I was taken back, she didn't say it  It wasn’t rude, it was just a matter of fact, she wasn’t apologizing, she was just simply telling me that Ayurveda is not for her, she doesn’t like it. I had to laugh because this is also a woman who doesn’t like massages!  We clearly have different tastes. Anyway, I talk about why we feel guilty for disliking things, why elimination deserves to be celebrated just as much as addition, and how clarity about your dislikes actually helps the people who love you know the real you. I also get into lifestyle, your weekends your health habits, social life, and why you cant built a sustainable lifestyle around things you secretly don't like. The goal is never to like everything. The goal is to know yourself enough to know what you don't like, what isn't for you. I’ve come to  really appreciate people who know themselves enough to know ,and say out loud, what they don’t like.   At first it may catch you off guard, but when you see it for what it is; Its self-awareness, its confidence , and it’s an honesty that most of us never get comfortable with. Remember; Not liking something isn’t a flaw in your personality, it’s a Data Point. Its Clarity. I’ve come to  really appreciate people who know themselves enough to know, and say out loud, what they don’t like.   At first it may catch you off guard, but when you see it for what it is; Its self-awareness, its confidence , and it’s an honesty that most of us never get comfortable with. Remember; Not liking something isn’t a flaw in your personality, it’s a Data Point. Its Clarity. Guilt will tell you that you should like more things. But the goal is not about liking everything. The goal is to know yourself. And part of knowing yourself is being honest about what doesn’t fit, without apologizing for it. We celebrate discovery. We should start celebrating discernment too. Because Liking everything makes you agreeable .  But, Knowing yourself makes you knowable. My friend was not rejecting Ayurveda.  She was accepting herself. She knew it wasn’t for her and there is something really peaceful about that. One of the healthiest relationships you will ever have is the one you build with yourself. And that relationship begins the moment you're honest about what fits you, and what doesn't. If you need permission to stop pretending you like things you don’t.  Say out loud.. That’s not for me.  And say it..  _without guilt _without apology _and Without feeling like you have to explain yourself. You don’t need anyone’s permission. But, if you are waiting for it..This is it. Enjoy! Joanne Demers The Aging Mask- A lifestyle Medicine Podcast (949) 236-1529 Follow along on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theagingmask

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Head to Toe: Did You Know?

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2051222/fan_mail/new] We are going to take a journey that I call “Top of your head to the tip of your toes Did you know” Journey. I will share some of the many things I found about our bodies that  at one time or another really stuck with me, and have made me stop and appreciate what a miracle our body is. Every part of us was built for a specific reason, not one thing on us or in us  goes to waste, and there isn’t a part of us that doesn’t have a very hard and taxing job. Alright, let’s start this journey with hair. First- is your HAIR I think it is safe to say that most of us have a love hate relationship with our hair which is why we panic the minute we see large amounts of our hair in the shower and on our combs and brushes. BUT, before you sound the alarm, you should know that  most of us naturally lose about 50- 100 hairs every day, and it’s absolutely normal. 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Its inexpensive, and it conditions your lashes and your brows making them look healthier and fuller. Remember I am not an ophthalmologist, so if you have an eye condition, or your eyes are sensitive, check with your eye doctor before using anything  in or around your eyes. Nose- Let’s travel down to the nose. We don’t really appreciate our noses. Every breath you take passes through your nose, where the air is filtered, warmed and humidified before it ever reaches your lungs. And while our human sense of smell is pretty amazing, it is still no match for a dog’s. It is estimated that humans have around 5-6 million scent receptors, while a lot of dogs have close to 300 million. And depending on the breed, a dog's sense of smell is 10k-100k times more sensitive than ours. Did you know that your nose doesn’t actually use both nostrils equally all day long. Instead, it follows something called the nasal cycle. Every few hours, one of your nostrils becomes slightly more open while the other becomes a little more congested- then they switch- turns every couple of hours. And then theMucus. Your nose and sinuses produce about  1 to 2 quarts of mucus every day. That’s equivalent to a standard 32-ounce carton of milk every single day, that to me is mind blowing- we don’t even notice it as  Most of it drains down the back of your throat, and you swallow it without ever noticing it.  That mucus is not there by accident- It is constantly trapping dust, pollen, bacteria, viruses and other tiny particles before they can make their way deeper into your body. When you have a cold or allergies, your body simply makes more mucus to help flush out whatever its trying to get rid of…so next time you need to blow your nose- just know your body is protecting you. Aging mask Takeaway Whenever possible, try breathing through your nose instead of your mouth- Your nose was designed to filter, warm and humidify  the air before it reaches your lungs and that’s important.  And don’t forget to stay hydrated!! Water helps keep your mucus thin so it can do its job of  protecting your airways without becoming thick or uncomfortable. Glutes- Butt cheeks Most of us think about our glutes from a cosmetic/ Aesthetic  standpoint.. We want them bigger, firmer, stronger, but glutes are about so much more than appearance. The gluteus maximus (its true name) is the largest muscle in your entire body…that’s right.. the biggest muscle you have is the one you are probably sitting on right now, and it’s not just designed for sitting… your glutes are designed to  power some of our most important movements. Every time you stand up from a chair, climb stairs, walk uphill, lift something off the floor, or simply maintain your balance.. your glutes are hard at work. When your glutes are strong, they help- keep your body moving efficiently, but when they are weak, other muscles have to compensate, which puts extra stress on your hips, knees and especially your lower back. So take note that weak glutes don’t just affect your butt cheeks, they affect the way your entire body moves. The Aging mask takeaway.. As we age, one of the biggest gifts we can give ourselves is strong glute muscles. If you spend a lot of time sitting, make it a habit to stand up and move throughout the day. Walking, climbing stairs, squats, step ups, and resistance exercises all help keep your glutes strong. Again, Strong glutes  aren’t just about looking good- they help protect your knees, support your hips, stabilize  your pelvis, and reduce strain on your lower back.. if you have pain in any of those areas, check your glutes before going in for tests. Take care of them, keep them strong and give them love for everything they do to keep you standing, walking and living an active life. We end the tour today with one of the hardest working parts of your body- your Achilles Tendon. It’s the thick, strong tendon at the back of your ankle that connects your calf muscles to your heel bone. Every time you walk, climb stairs, stand on your tippy toes, or push off to take a step, your Achilles is hard at work. And it is the strongest and largest tendon in your body. It is capable of handling incredible amounts of force, when you walk, run, or jump. and yet despite its strength, it is also one of the tendons that gets injured most. Aging Mask lifestyle tip-    Your Achilles tendon works every time  you take a step so you want to make sure that you take care of it the best you can… and the best way is to keep your calve muscles flexible and strong is by doing calve stretches, heel raises, and of course walkingas much as possible, these will keep those Achilles healthy. However; if you suddenly feel pain, swelling or tightness in the back of your heel, don’t ignore it. Ease up on the activity causing it, give it a little rest. If you feel a “pop” don’t wait, go get it looked at. Tendons usually appreciate a gradual load, not sudden overload.  Your Achilles is the strongest tendon in your body, but even the strongest can get hurt once in a while. So take care of them, you need them. Stretch your calves regularly to keep your Achilles flexible. That was the end of our head to toe journey. I know we only scratched the surface. There are hundreds of amazing things our body does everyday, and these were just a few that I find the most interesting, and honestly, they are ones I have had the most personal experience with. Enjoy! Joanne Demers The Aging Mask- A Lifestyle Medicine Podcast (949)236-1529 Follow along on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theagingmask

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