Why Healing Feels Worse Before It Feels Free: The Rumble Before the Roar

Your Weirdness Is Your Magic: A Midlife Woman’s Guide to Writing Her Own Creed

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2543536/fan_mail/new] You can recite everyone else's beliefs — their rules, their idea of a good woman. But your own? This week we go underneath the rules, down to the bedrock they've been standing on: your credo. What you actually believe. Because your quirks are your brand and your weirdness is your magic — and when you don't know what you believe, you end up living by everyone else's, quietly becoming the supporting character in your own life. That's Good Girl Ghosting at the foundational level. Let's write your own creed instead: three true things, in your own words. If you've felt lost or foggy about who you even are after years of taking care of everyone else, this is your gentle, joyful way home. Because when you don’t know what you believe, you live by everyone else’s — and quietly become the supporting character in your own life. That’s Good Girl Ghosting at the foundational level. Let’s write your own creed instead — three true things, in your own words. IN THIS EPISODE: - Why, when you don’t know what you believe, you live by everyone else’s - The credo that changed everything: “I deserve to be the leading lady” - Joy is a belief too — God is honored when you play and dance and giggle - The everyday fairy tale (four generations and one silly beach ball) - Your Rebel Practice: write three beliefs, in your own words CHAPTERS 0:32  The Creed I said for years before I wrote my own 2:27  When you don’t know what you believe, you live by everyone else’s 1:45  Good Girl Ghosting at the foundational level 1:56  “I deserve to be the leading lady” (The Holiday) 2:27  The belief that does the heavy lifting: introspection 3:01  Joy is a belief too — God is joy 4:05  The everyday fairy tale: four generations + a beach ball 4:37  Our quirks are our brand, our weirdness is our magic 5:13  Replace the inner critic with compassion 5:42  Your Rebel Practice: write three beliefs 6:31  Permission slips + your pinkie-toe step  A LINE TO KEEP:  “When you don’t know what you believe, you live by everyone else’s. You were never the supporting character. You’re the leading lady — you always were.” Resources: - Free Play: REBEL JOY Card Deck — Romanticize your life and reclaim your light — one tiny rebellion at a time. Seven print-and-keep cards, each with one brave, joyful prompt. Pick a card, set a 60-second timer, and play. Start Playing Again! https://rachel-harris-online.kit.com/72c327f4a4  - For the exact scripts for the next time you go blank or catch yourself saying an automatic yes, grab the Rebel Response Mini Kit here: https://rachelharrisonline.com/product-details/product/the-rebel-response-mini-kit - FREE: Are YOU a Good Girl Ghost? Free Guide: 5 Moments You're Abandoning Yourself (Without Even Realizing It) https://rachel-harris-online.kit.com/e6b737ec08 - Work with me on the Good Girl Ghost Reset — a single Rebel Hour, or the full Reset Mentorship: https://rachelharrisonline.com/work-with-me My Substack Page, Goodbye, Good Girl: https://joyfulrebel.substack.com/ Are YOU A Joyful Rebel? https://rachelharrisonline.com/joyful-rebel

Reclaim Your Joy: The Favorite Things List That Brings You Back in Midlife and Beyond

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2543536/fan_mail/new] You can name everyone else's favorites — your kid's, your husband's, your best friend's. But when someone asks you? You go blank. This week we fix that. If you've been feeling lost in midlife — foggy about who you even are anymore after years of taking care of everyone else — this episode is the fastest, most joyful map back to yourself I know. It starts with one question we haven't been asked since we were kids: what do you love? And it ends with a simple, do-it-on-a-receipt tool called the Favorite Things List.   Because your joys aren't fluff. They're breadcrumbs — the glittering fingerprints of the woman you actually are, the one no amount of shoulds ever fully erased.   IN THIS EPISODE: - Why you can't reclaim a self you never bothered to notice - The Favorite Things List: 3 little moves (Then / Now / the Through-Line) - How to get specific enough that the list reintroduces you to yourself - Why what delights you points straight at your God-given gifts - Your pinkie-toe step: reclaim ONE favorite thing this week Chapters * 0:00 — The handshake: meeting the woman you've been too busy to know * 0:23 — What today is about (and one embarrassing warning) * 1:20 — My favorite things (yes, I sing) * 2:17 — The one list I go back to more than any other * 3:03 — Joy Nugget: you can't reclaim a self you never noticed * 3:15 — Digging where the clues are buried: childhood * 4:14 — Your factory settings + the Favorite Things List (3 moves) * 5:40 — Then / Now / the Through-Line * 6:21 — A peek at my present-day list (glimpses of heaven) * 8:02 — Joy Nugget: what lights you up is your light * 8:57 — Your Rebel Move this week * 9:37 — The most honest prayer you've got * 10:23 — Your pinkie-toe step * 10:53 — Reclaim your JOY (free tools inside) A LINE TO KEEP: "Your joy was never a distraction from your purpose. Some days it's the most honest prayer you've got."   Welcome to the Rebellion. We've saved you a seat. Resources: - Free Play: REBEL JOY Card Deck — Romanticize your life and reclaim your light — one tiny rebellion at a time. Seven print-and-keep cards, each with one brave, joyful prompt. Pick a card, set a 60-second timer, and play. Start Playing Again! https://rachel-harris-online.kit.com/72c327f4a4  - For the exact scripts for the next time you go blank or catch yourself saying an automatic yes, grab the Rebel Response Mini Kit here: https://rachelharrisonline.com/product-details/product/the-rebel-response-mini-kit - FREE: Are YOU a Good Girl Ghost? Free Guide: 5 Moments You're Abandoning Yourself (Without Even Realizing It) https://rachel-harris-online.kit.com/e6b737ec08 - Work with me on the Good Girl Ghost Reset — a single Rebel Hour, or the full Reset Mentorship: https://rachelharrisonline.com/work-with-me My Substack Page, Goodbye, Good Girl: https://joyfulrebel.substack.com/ Are YOU A Joyful Rebel? https://rachelharrisonline.com/joyful-rebel

Who Told You That? — How to Catch the Silent Rules Running Your Life

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2543536/fan_mail/new] In this episode, I get honest about the rules we’re all living by — the ones nobody ever said out loud, that we never agreed to, that somehow still run our whole lives. I take you into my closet (the skirt-and-makeup rule I obeyed for thirty years without knowing it), into a bathroom in Houston where my dad re-caulked my tub before our move (and the completely wrong story my brain wrote about it), and into a practice I’m a little too excited about: writing your own personal commandments.  If you’ve ever paused and thought wait — where did that rule even come from? — this one’s for you. We're taking back the pen. In this episode: •  Why the rules we never questioned (some written when we were five) quietly steer our whole adult lives •  “Good girl ghosting in rulebook form” — the slow self-betrayal of obeying a code you never wrote •  The two-part question that cracks a rule open: Who told me that? and Is this Jesus or judgment? •  The Rule Breaker List — a 3-move practice you can do on the back of a receipt •  A handful of my own personal commandments (own my magic, run toward the roar, everything is information, act with integrity) •  The bathtub-caulk story: how my storyteller wrote the wrong script about my dad — and how I got to rewrite it on the spot •  Your pinkie-toe step and this week’s permission slips A few lines worth remembering: •  “A rule that you never said out loud can still run your whole life. So name it and write a better one.” •  “Same caulk, same muttering, completely different story. Only one of them was true.” •  “You’re allowed to ask, who told me that?” •  “I get to be soft and bright and feminine because I’m alive, not because I earned it.” •  "Your story isn’t prophecy unless you keep living it.” Resources: - Free Play: REBEL JOY Card Deck — Romanticize your life and reclaim your light — one tiny rebellion at a time. Seven print-and-keep cards, each with one brave, joyful prompt. Pick a card, set a 60-second timer, and play. Start Playing Again! https://rachel-harris-online.kit.com/72c327f4a4  - For the exact scripts for the next time you go blank or catch yourself saying an automatic yes, grab the Rebel Response Mini Kit here: https://rachelharrisonline.com/product-details/product/the-rebel-response-mini-kit - FREE: Are YOU a Good Girl Ghost? Free Guide: 5 Moments You're Abandoning Yourself (Without Even Realizing It) https://rachel-harris-online.kit.com/e6b737ec08 - Work with me on the Good Girl Ghost Reset — a single Rebel Hour, or the full Reset Mentorship: https://rachelharrisonline.com/work-with-me My Substack Page, Goodbye, Good Girl: https://joyfulrebel.substack.com/ Are YOU A Joyful Rebel? https://rachelharrisonline.com/joyful-rebel

The Values You Never Actually Chose — How to Find the Ones That Are Really Yours (and Not the Vision-Board Ones)

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2543536/fan_mail/new] Identifying your core values at midlife is one of the first steps toward creating a life that is YOURS -- not someone else's. Stop chasing goals that don't fit your life! In this episode, I get honest about something a little embarrassing: for most of my life I could tell you exactly what everyone around me valued — my kids, my husband, my closest friends — and then go completely blank on my own. So today I’m walking you through the exact practice I used to find my real core values. Not the aspirational, vision-board, sounds-good-on-a-job-application ones. The ones that, when you violate them, make you feel like a stranger in your own skin — and when you honor them, make you feel like you. I share the night I read my finished list from top to bottom, got chills, and cried — not because I’d accomplished something, but because I felt seen by myself for maybe the first time ever. I talk about why two people can write the exact same word and still hold completely different values (your fingerprint lives in the story behind the word, not the word). And I give you the practice, step by step, so you can start today. In this episode: •             Why most of us think we know our values — and don’t — and what that gap quietly costs us •             The difference between a value you inherited and a value that’s actually yours •             How living by values you never chose has a name: Good Girl Ghosting •             The novelist’s secret I used on my own values (the blinking cursor that’s never perfectionism — it’s listening) •             The two-step practice: name three, then write the paragraph that gives you goosebumps •             How every named value gives you a cleaner answer to the only question that matters in the moment A few lines worth remembering: •             “You can’t live what you haven’t named.” •             “Two people can share a value. Only you carry your version of it.” •             “Your values aren’t rules. They’re a description of who you already are when fear isn’t making the decisions.” •             “Do I respect myself here, or do I betray myself here?” Next steps: •             Naming your values alone is powerful. Naming them in a room full of women deciding the same brave thing is a whole different kind of alive — that’s the Good Girl Ghosting Reset, and I’m opening it to a small founding group of Founding Sisters. Find me on Instagram @RachelHarrisOnline and DM me the word RESET for the details. •             Want a gentle place to start? DM me MY STORY, or grab the free guide, 5 Moments You’re Abandoning Yourself (Without Even Realizing It) — link in the show notes. #GoodGirlGhosting #JoyfulRebel #midlifewomen #corevalues #midlifeidentity #selfdiscovery #christianwomen Resources: - Free Play: REBEL JOY Card Deck — Romanticize your life and reclaim your light — one tiny rebellion at a time. Seven print-and-keep cards, each with one brave, joyful prompt. Pick a card, set a 60-second timer, and play. Start Playing Again! https://rachel-harris-online.kit.com/72c327f4a4  - For the exact scripts for the next time you go blank or catch yourself saying an automatic yes, grab the Rebel Response Mini Kit here: https://rachelharrisonline.com/product-details/product/the-rebel-response-mini-kit - FREE: Are YOU a Good Girl Ghost? Free Guide: 5 Moments You're Abandoning Yourself (Without Even Realizing It) https://rachel-harris-online.kit.com/e6b737ec08 - Work with me on the Good Girl Ghost Reset — a single Rebel Hour, or the full Reset Mentorship: https://rachelharrisonline.com/work-with-me My Substack Page, Goodbye, Good Girl: https://joyfulrebel.substack.com/ Are YOU A Joyful Rebel? https://rachelharrisonline.com/joyful-rebel

The Half-Second Where You Disappear — and the One Sentence That Brings You Back

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2543536/fan_mail/new] There's that moment. You know the one — and your body knows it even better. Someone asks, and before you've decided anything, you feel it: the drop in your stomach, your shoulders tightening a half-inch. Your body tells the truth… and your mouth says "sure, of course, it's fine, no worries." Smooth. Warm. A little too fast. I called it being easygoing for most of my life. What it actually was: me handing myself away in real time, one half-second at a time, until I'd disappeared from my own life without ever leaving the room. In this episode I want you to hear the part that finally set me free: you don't disappear in one dramatic scene — you disappear in the moments nobody names (the yes you didn't mean, the opinion you swallowed, the burnt corner of the casserole you took). And you can't choose a different response if you've never been handed one. So the win and the practice isn't being braver in the moment — it's deciding ahead of time what you'll reach for. I'll give you one clean sentence that needs no apology after it, and a permission slip to say the thing once and let it stand. Not loudly. Just a whisper truer than feels comfortable. What I made you: the Rebel Response Mini Kit ($7) — seven real-life moments, the exact words for each, a word bank for when you go blank, and a courage practice you can start today. Link wherever you're listening → www.RachelHarrisOnline.com/Kit Doors are open: the Good Girl Ghosting Reset founding round is live. Founding Sisters get the lowest price it'll ever be and a real voice in what we build. Link in the shownotes, or DM me the word RESET on socials and I'll send you everything. You don't have to become a different person to stop disappearing. You just have to have something to reach for. And now you do. The Joyful Rebel • Good Girl Ghosting™ | Rachel Harris  #GoodGirlGhosting #JoyfulRebel #over40women #peoplepleasing #midlifewomen #boundaries  Resources: - Free Play: REBEL JOY Card Deck — Romanticize your life and reclaim your light — one tiny rebellion at a time. Seven print-and-keep cards, each with one brave, joyful prompt. Pick a card, set a 60-second timer, and play. Start Playing Again! https://rachel-harris-online.kit.com/72c327f4a4  - For the exact scripts for the next time you go blank or catch yourself saying an automatic yes, grab the Rebel Response Mini Kit here: https://rachelharrisonline.com/product-details/product/the-rebel-response-mini-kit - FREE: Are YOU a Good Girl Ghost? Free Guide: 5 Moments You're Abandoning Yourself (Without Even Realizing It) https://rachel-harris-online.kit.com/e6b737ec08 - Work with me on the Good Girl Ghost Reset — a single Rebel Hour, or the full Reset Mentorship: https://rachelharrisonline.com/work-with-me My Substack Page, Goodbye, Good Girl: https://joyfulrebel.substack.com/ Are YOU A Joyful Rebel? https://rachelharrisonline.com/joyful-rebel