Stop Trying to Fit In: Choosing Alignment Over Approval

How Labels Define Us (And How to Change Them)

In this episode of The Power of Choosing, Claire and Trudi discuss how the labels we adopt, often from a young age, shape our identity, perceived limitations, and behaviour, and how rarely we question them.Claire shares her long-held label of “always late,” how joking about it reinforced the identity, and how she is now choosing a new label to support getting her child to school on time through planning and preparation.They explore how labels can be positive too, like Claire’s son being told he’s confident and able to talk to anyone, and how labelling other children as “shy” can create lasting identities.They challenge the phrase “that’s just the way I am,” share coaching examples of disrupting default patterns, and invite listeners to identify labels that no longer serve them and choose new ones.If you have any thoughts or questions please reach out, we would love to hear from you at thepowerofchoosing@gmail.com

The Power of Your Mind: What You Focus On Is What You See

Can Your Mind Shape Your Reality? In this episode of The Power of Choosing, the hosts explore how the mind filters reality based on what you focus on, using an example of only spotting what you are looking for to illustrate selective attention. They discuss how this shows up in daily life, like noticing more of a car model after buying it. They speak of how focusing on what’s “not working” can create a self-fulfilling spiral of a “bad day,” and suggest you can reframe it instead as a “bad moment.” They emphasize that slowing down and questioning can help shift perspective, and that fear-based thoughts like “you’re not good enough” often aim to keep you safe but don’t have to be believed.Practical tools include pausing, noticing patterns, positive self-talk, support from others, and coming back to center with a hand on the heart which can all help you move from reaction to response and look for what’s going right. We would love to hear what you think and what insights you got from this episode so please reach out to us at thepowerofchoosing@gmail.com

How to Get What You Want: Breaking Free From "That's Not for Me"

Do you ever catch yourself thinking "that's not for me" when it comes to the life you actually want? In this episode of The Power of Choosing Podcast, we're diving into how to get what you want and why the first step might not be what you think. We talk about: * Why so many of us have quietly decided we don't deserve more * A powerful question to help you reconnect with what truly lights you up * The difference between having a clear path vs. trusting a feeling and why both are important * How to start taking action even when the vision isn't fully formed yet * Why confidence follows action, not the other way around Whether you're stuck in a life that feels "safe but not quite right," or you're ready to start dreaming bigger, this episode is for you. 🎙️ Hosted by Claire & Trudi We would love to here from you.. email us at thepowerofchoosing@gmail.com and let us know what you wanted to be when you grew up! 🔔 Subscribe so you never miss an episode. #PowerOfChoosing #LifeCoaching #PersonalDevelopment #GetWhatYouWant #Mindset #SelfDiscovery #Podcast

The Beauty of Slowing Down - it has more benefits than you think.

In this episode of The Power of Choosing, Trudi and Claire explore the beauty of slowing down especially in a fast-paced world that rewards constant productivity. They highlight how rest, stillness, and “nothingness” are necessary for both body and mind and discuss how pushing through without pauses can lead to burnout,. They use examples from exercise, sleep deprivation, and the way stress often surfaces as illness or irritability when emotions are ignored. They also reflect on how instant-gratification culture and phone use disrupt silence and spaciousness and how pauses can be grounding and spark clarity. The conversation emphasizes that big life changes and grief take time to process, that feeling messy or uncertain in transition is normal, and that allowing emotions—joy, sorrow, anger, and more—supports a fuller human experience.Why this matters?: Our body keeps score so if we don't find time to rest and restore we will be made to anyway. Challenge: Try carving out 5 minutes of your day with no distractions, just stillness. If you would like to get it touch, we would love to hear from you thepowerofchoosing@gmail.com

The Importance of Boundaries (even when they seem hard)

In this episode of The Power of Choosing Podcast, Trudi and Claire explore emotional boundaries and how important they are even when they feel uncomfortable. They share a real moment where one host, stressed about a move, said “no” when asked what she wanted to do next, then later realized she’d been uncomfortable setting that boundary and spun stories about being judged, while the other host had simply heard the no, accepted it, and moved on.They discuss how “no is a complete sentence,” how boundaries often feel uncomfortable because of learned social rules (don’t upset people, don’t cry, be good, help everyone), and how our identity, especially for helpers, mothers, and service-based professionals, can make saying no feel threatening. They highlight that people often overthink boundaries while others aren’t focused on it, and suggest checking what someone needs (to vent or get advice), respecting boundaries without making them personal, and allowing space for feelings without rushing to fix them.Why this matters: because you matter and your feelings and needs are important. Challenge: Look out for times in your week where you are saying yes to things that you don't really want to do. Then if you are up for it, choose differently. If you would like to get in touch with either Claire or Trudi, you can reach us both at thepowerofchoosing@gmail.com