Untethering Shame

In this episode of Untethering Shame, host Kyira Wackett engages in a heartfelt conversation with Lisa Boehm, a certified grief educator and author, about the profound and isolating experience of child loss. Lisa shares her personal journey of navigating grief after the sudden death of her daughter, Katie, and discusses the societal misconceptions surrounding grief. The conversation explores the complexities of living with grief, the importance of community support, and the possibility of finding joy amidst sorrow. Lisa emphasizes that grief is not a linear process and that it is possible to honor a loved one while also embracing moments of happiness. Through their dialogue, they aim to destigmatize conversations about grief and encourage others to seek support and share their experiences. We covered: * Grief is a complex and ongoing journey. * Society often misunderstands the nature of grief. * It's important to talk openly about grief. * Finding community can be a game changer in healing. * Grief and joy can coexist in our lives. * We need to normalize conversations about loss. * It's okay to seek help and support from others. * Living for those we've lost can bring meaning. * Grief does not have a timeline; it's personal. * Sharing our stories can help others feel less alone. More about Lisa: Lisa K. Boehm’s life changed forever when her 17 year old daughter died suddenly in a car accident. She quickly discovered that our society struggles with death, loss, and grieving and has made it her mission to change that. In her book Journey to HEALING: A Mother’s Guide to Navigating Child Loss, she shares her experience with grief and her way back to a meaningful life.Now she focuses on gratitude and living intentionally as a way of honouring her daughter’s memory. Lisa is an author, speaker, and certified grief educator who shares the power of hope and human connection in her presentations, workshops, and book. Connect with Lisa: * Website [https://www.griefsupportformoms.com/] * Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/griefsupportformoms] Resources Mentioned: * Lisa’s Book [https://amzn.to/3Vnmeyv] Ready to take the next step? * Download the FREE handout, "5 Things Shame Resilient People Do Every Day [http://www.adversityrising.com/become-shame-resilient]" and start making those daily shifts to break that shame cycle that's keeping you stuck in that negative headspace. * Book a free 25-minute discovery call [https://calendly.com/adversityrising/discovery-call] to discuss different program options and find the support best fits your needs. Stay Connected: * Subscribe to the podcast on Spotify [https://open.spotify.com/show/2AouludJr7EweOkMIN9s42?si=d8cdfcb925ce4c9c] or Apple [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/untethering-shame/id1691795543] Podcasts and be sure to leave a review to let us know your thoughts on this episode. * YouTube [www.youtube.com/@adversityrising] * Website [www.adversityrising.com] Chapters: * 00:00 - Navigating the Depths of Grief * 05:14 - The Journey from Grief to Healing * 12:44 - The Loneliness of Grief * 18:40 - The Weight of Expectations * 24:48 - Finding Community in Grief * 30:34 - The Duality of Grief and Joy * 36:51 - Living for Those We Lost --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kyira-wackett/support [https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kyira-wackett/support]

In this conversation, Kyira Wackett and Tracy Piper explore themes of authenticity, mental health, and the power of art as a means of self-expression and healing. Tracy shares her journey from feeling unseen and unworthy to embracing her identity as an artist and community builder. They discuss the importance of vulnerability, the impact of personal struggles on creativity, and the significance of finding support and connection in a world that often feels isolating. The conversation emphasizes the beauty of imperfection and the necessity of self-love and acceptance. Takeaways * Authenticity is crucial in both art and life. * Art can serve as a powerful form of therapy. * Community plays a vital role in personal growth. * Vulnerability allows for deeper connections with others. * Self-worth is essential for overcoming adversity. * Finding joy in the messiness of life is important. * Mental health struggles can shape our identities and choices. * It's okay to seek support and not have all the answers. * Celebrating diversity in art reflects the beauty of humanity. * Embracing imperfection can lead to greater self-acceptance. More about Tracy: THE TRACY PIPER (b. Oakland, CA, 1987) is a contemporary painter, muralist, author and art activist. Best known for her vibrant portraits and figurative acrylic paintings, Piper’s illustrative work tackles social constructs in an abstract-realist style. She has shown at SCOPE and SELECT in Miami, FL; stARTup Art Fair in San Francisco and Los Angeles, CA; SCOPE New York, NY; and exhibits internationally. In 2017 Tracy competed on the GSNTV show “Skin Wars: Fresh Paint” and emerged victorious! Tracy’s murals span both coasts with a focus on positive and inclusive messaging. Her debut book “Worthy,” along with the latest “SEEN,” “SEEN Vol. 2,” and “SEEN Vol. 3,” are available through Voss Gallery Books. She holds a Bachelor of Arts in Illustration from California College of the Arts and is represented by Voss Gallery. Connect with Tracy: * Website [https://thetracypiper.com/] * Instagram [https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=channel_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqazJQUHlTOFBzTmxPMkVLWFVidFpYNnhmRlQ2QXxBQ3Jtc0ttaUc4OHBYSUd5XzlVZzZrdm9xM013bVJLUFVEZEQwYy1VOUVvcmV3aUFIWDlCc2hkTUF0bFowTDJvZkE3cXJWSENuZnVhaHFQV0xXNFNER2xGTmNSZVdEV09haGNDRS12YXhfdUx1aGZ3OW0tcmtEWQ&q=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.instagram.com%2Fthetracypiper%2F] * Voss Gallery [https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=channel_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqbnI4eGk1Z2F3aGgxeFhFeUlOS0tiYWxlWFVnUXxBQ3Jtc0ttVzJtaFp6RTNQbHFRSlJUUVQ3Qmh2QXBHaXJILXRIQ2Njd19FSFNGS09rc0w0dHNjUDc5Y1doTnZhT004SjhyWHRGWEZkMWtzb3lEbG9aYWVELVE0Q1Jib2hVU1hrb1g1NEJVZlAwYk5HNUdfbTZyUQ&q=https%3A%2F%2Fvossgallery.art%2Fcollections%2Fthe-tracy-piper] Ready to take the next step? * Download the FREE handout, "5 Things Shame Resilient People Do Every Day [http://www.adversityrising.com/become-shame-resilient]" and start making those daily shifts to break that shame cycle that's keeping you stuck in that negative headspace. * Book a free 25-minute discovery call [https://calendly.com/adversityrising/discovery-call] to discuss different program options and find the support best fits your needs. Stay Connected: * Subscribe to the podcast on Spotify [https://open.spotify.com/show/2AouludJr7EweOkMIN9s42?si=d8cdfcb925ce4c9c] or Apple [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/untethering-shame/id1691795543] Podcasts and be sure to leave a review to let us know your thoughts on this episode. * YouTube [www.youtube.com/@adversityrising] * Website [www.adversityrising.com] Chapters * 00:00 - Introduction and Connection * 02:53 - The Journey to Authenticity * 05:56 - Art as a Reflection of Self * 08:57 - Finding Community in the Circus * 12:01 - Overcoming Adversity and Finding Strength * 15:03 - The Impact of Mental Health on Life Choices * 17:58 - The Importance of Self-Worth * 20:57 - Navigating Relationships and Support * 23:57 - The Role of Art in Healing * 26:55 - Creating a Sense of Belonging * 30:02 - The Power of Vulnerability * 32:59 - Embracing Imperfection * 36:00 - Messages to Younger Selves * 38:59 - The Intersection of Fame and Authenticity * 41:59 - Final Thoughts and Reflections --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kyira-wackett/support [https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kyira-wackett/support]

In this week's solo episode, we are about control and what it is that makes it hard for us to navigate our relationship with it. Resources: * Drama Triangle [https://open.spotify.com/episode/6G4jvsAPtFctDLGoyBVBzz?si=63c9f3515a004f1c] Podcast Episode * Control Wheel [https://adversityrising.com/handouts-all/control-wheel] Handout Ready to take the next step? * Download the FREE handout, "5 Things Shame Resilient People do Every Day [www.adversityrising.com/become-shame-resilient]" and start making those daily shifts to break that shame cycle that's keeping you stuck in that negative headspace. * Book a free 25-minute discovery call [https://calendly.com/adversityrising/discovery-call] to discuss different program options and find the support best fits your needs. Stay Connected: * Subscribe to the podcast on Spotify [https://open.spotify.com/show/2AouludJr7EweOkMIN9s42?si=d8cdfcb925ce4c9c] or Apple [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/untethering-shame/id1691795543] Podcasts and be sure to leave a review to let us know your thoughts on this episode. * YouTube [www.youtube.com/@adversityrising] * Website [www.adversityrising.com] --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kyira-wackett/support [https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kyira-wackett/support]

In this episode of Untethering Shame, host Kyira Wackett and guest Diane Manser delve into the emotional complexities of teaching. They discuss the often-overlooked emotional load that teachers carry, the challenges they face in the classroom, and the importance of self-awareness and emotional regulation. Diane shares her personal experiences and insights from her 19 years in education, emphasizing the need for support and understanding within the teaching community. The conversation highlights the impact of expectations, the role of self-care, and the importance of creating a supportive environment for both teachers and students. Key Takeaways: * Teaching is not just about lesson plans; it's about emotional energy. * Teachers often feel responsible for their students' emotional well-being. * The first day of teaching can be overwhelming and filled with unexpected challenges. * Self-awareness is crucial for teachers to navigate their emotions. * Expectations can lead to feelings of inadequacy and shame. * Teacher self-care should not shift the responsibility for systemic issues back onto teachers. * Building a supportive community among teachers is essential. * Teachers experience a range of emotions that can impact their performance. * Empowerment comes from understanding and processing emotions. * Teaching is a journey of self-discovery and growth. More about Diane: I am a current 18-year veteran high school English teacher. I have written and published a book about the emotional challenges of teaching and how teachers can move themselves to empowerment. I have founded a business called Teaching is Emotional, and my goal is to build a community where we can share our emotional challenges and we can learn from each other’s empowerment strategies. I am also a mom and wife, I love reading nonfiction, I laugh easily, and feel joy and pride in my personal growth. I return to my WHY as often as possible to stay centered and focused. Connect with Diane: * Diane’s book, “I didn’t sign up for this [https://amzn.to/3APpf3w]” * Website [www.teachingisemotional.com] * TikTok [https://www.tiktok.com/@teachingisemotional] * Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/teachingisemotional/] * Facebook Group: “Teaching is Emotional” Ready to take the next step? * Download the FREE handout, "5 Things Shame Resilient People Do Every Day [http://www.adversityrising.com/become-shame-resilient]" and start making those daily shifts to break that shame cycle that's keeping you stuck in that negative headspace. * Book a free 25-minute discovery call [https://calendly.com/adversityrising/discovery-call] to discuss different program options and find the support best fits your needs. Stay Connected: * Subscribe to the podcast on Spotify [https://open.spotify.com/show/2AouludJr7EweOkMIN9s42?si=d8cdfcb925ce4c9c] or Apple [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/untethering-shame/id1691795543] Podcasts and be sure to leave a review to let us know your thoughts on this episode. * YouTube [www.youtube.com/@adversityrising] * Website [www.adversityrising.com] Chapters: * 00:00 - The Emotional Load of Teaching * 02:53 - Navigating Teacher Emotions * 05:58 - The First Day Experience * 09:07 - Understanding Teacher Reactions * 11:52 - The Impact of Expectations * 14:56 - The Role of Self-Care * 18:04 - Shame and Teaching * 20:53 - The Loneliness of Teaching * 23:50 - Paths of Teacher Experience * 27:03 - Creating Supportive Environments * 30:09 - Empowerment Through Understanding * 33:00 - The Importance of Connection * 35:58 - Finding Balance in Teaching * 38:49 - The Journey of Self-Discovery * 42:05 - The Future of Teaching --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kyira-wackett/support [https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kyira-wackett/support]

In this conversation, Kyira Wackett and Andrea Barr discuss the topic of ambition. They explore their personal definitions of ambition and how it has evolved over time. They also delve into the challenges and fears associated with pursuing ambitious goals, including the fear of failure and the fear of judgment from others. They touch on the concept of premature identity foreclosure, where individuals feel pressured to choose one path and stick to it, potentially leading to unhappiness and a lack of exploration. They also discuss the importance of informing others about their ambitions and not seeking permission or approval. The conversation highlights the need to redefine ambition beyond traditional career success and to prioritize personal fulfillment and happiness. In this conversation, Kyira and Andrea discuss the importance of making intentional decisions in life and not just letting life happen to you. They emphasize the need to prioritize personal wants and values, rather than seeking approval or validation from others. They also explore the concept of ambition and how it can be redefined as a slow burn rather than a fast race. They discuss the importance of finding balance and fulfillment in different areas of life, and the value of trying new things and exploring different interests. Overall, the conversation encourages listeners to embrace their authentic selves and make choices that align with their own values and desires. Takeaways * Ambition is an internal drive that energizes and excites individuals to pursue specific goals or dreams. * Ambition can be hindered by the fear of failure, the fear of judgment from others, and the pressure to choose one path and stick to it. * It is important to redefine ambition beyond traditional career success and prioritize personal fulfillment and happiness. * Informing others about one's ambitions and goals can help create accountability and support. * Exploration and the willingness to change and adapt are essential for personal growth and fulfillment. Make decisions with intentionality and confidence, considering all the permutations and processes involved. * Prioritize personal wants and values over seeking approval or validation from others. * Redefine ambition as a slow burn rather than a fast race, focusing on personal satisfaction and fulfillment. * Find balance and fulfillment in different areas of life, exploring different interests and trying new things. * Embrace your authentic self and make choices that align with your own values and desires. More about Andrea: ICF Certified Coach who helps parents figure out their work life rhythms, creating more quality time with their families while continuing to grow personally and professionally. She hosts the All Figured Out podcast, coaches clients 1:1, and hosts events online and in Vancouver, Canada. Connect with Andrea: * ⁠Instagram⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/andreabarrcoaching/] * ⁠Website⁠ [https://andreabarrcoaching.com/] * Check out Ep. 57 "⁠Coping with shame and guilt as a parent with Kyira Wackett⁠ [https://www.notion.so/%E2%81%A0https://link.chtbl.com/vBBEosPT?utm_campaign=page&utm_medium=%2Fpodcast&utm_source=andreabarr.com%E2%81%A0]" Ready to take the next step? * Download the FREE handout, "5 Things Shame Resilient People Do Every Day [http://www.adversityrising.com/become-shame-resilient]" and start making those daily shifts to break that shame cycle that's keeping you stuck in that negative headspace. * Book a free 25-minute discovery call [https://calendly.com/adversityrising/discovery-call] to discuss different program options and find the support best fits your needs. Stay Connected: * Subscribe to the podcast on Spotify [https://open.spotify.com/show/2AouludJr7EweOkMIN9s42?si=d8cdfcb925ce4c9c] or Apple [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/untethering-shame/id1691795543] Podcasts and be sure to leave a review to let us know your thoughts on this episode. * YouTube [www.youtube.com/@adversityrising] * Website [www.adversityrising.com] Chapters * 00:00 - Introduction and Excitement * 03:00 - Redefining Ambition * 10:02 - The Fear Factor * 13:53 - Premature Identity Foreclosure * 17:00 - Informing vs. Asking Permission * 19:55 - Exploration and Adaptation * 28:20 - Making Decisions with Intentionality * 31:46 - Redefining Ambition * 34:21 - Finding Balance and Fulfillment * 39:08 - Embracing Your Authentic Self --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kyira-wackett/support [https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kyira-wackett/support]