Adult Child

221 - The Perfect Daughter Trap: Learning Who You Are Without Them w/ Vevian Vozmediano

You don't know who you are because you were too busy being who she needed you to be. Viviana Vozmediano [https://www.vevianvoz.com/] is a trauma-informed coach who works with women who grew up with emotionally unavailable mothers - and she's speaking from experience. After spending her childhood as a Jehovah's Witness trying to be the perfect daughter to earn her mother's love, she was excommunicated and lost her entire community overnight.  ✨ What this episode explores ▪️Why Being the "Good One" Never Works — How becoming the easy, rule-following child was never about being good, but a strategy to earn love that was never available on those terms ▪️The Grief of Losing Someone Who's Still Alive — What it means to mourn a parent you can still call but can't actually reach, and why no one prepared you for that kind of loss ▪️When Your Whole Identity Belongs to Someone Else — How growing up performing for an emotionally unavailable parent can leave you with no idea who you are once the performance stops ▪️Why a Healthy Relationship Feels Like the Hardest Thing You've Ever Done — How finally being safe with someone can surface everything you suppressed to survive the relationships that weren't ▪️What Happens When You Lose Everyone Overnight — How being cut off from your entire world creates an abandonment wound so deep it keeps you in the next bad situation for years 🎧 If this episode resonated, you might also love: * Ep 136 | Healing the Mother Wound: Why It Hurts and How We Begin to Heal w/ Bethany Webster [https://redcircle.com/shows/6cbac788-c2a3-4eaa-bce9-06845e610d8a/episodes/61fabbb3-a972-4794-9781-6f430753d754] * Ep 103 | Religious Trauma & Abuse w/ Dr. Laura Anderson [https://redcircle.com/shows/6cbac788-c2a3-4eaa-bce9-06845e610d8a/episodes/fa43593a-ada2-4164-9cdf-46ffb7464481] * Ep 161 | Abandonment Trauma Expert Susan Anderson on Rejection and Equating Love with Insecurity Connects [https://redcircle.com/shows/6cbac788-c2a3-4eaa-bce9-06845e610d8a/episodes/53c0cd83-4975-4db6-afc2-36a1ef7b8978] ----------------------- ⚓JOIN THE SHITSHOW — The Adult Child Healing Community 6 weekly Zoom support groups · Discussion boards · Peer connection 👉 theshitshow.mn.co [http://theshitshow.mn.co/] 🗞️ SIGN UP FOR SHITSHOW NATION Get the newsletter for community updates, healing insights & early access to workshops. ➡️ Join here [https://adultchildpodcast.substack.com/] 💁‍♀️ SUPPORT THE POD ☕ Buy Me a Coffee [http://www.buymeacoffee.com/adultchild] – help Andrea (and her cats) eat 🛍️ Shop Shitshow Merch [http://www.adultchildpodcast.com/shop] 💬 CONNECT WITH ANDREA Instagram → @adultchildpod [https://www.instagram.com/adultchildpod] TikTok → @adultchildpod [http://www.tiktok.com/@adultchildpod] YouTube → @adultchildpod [https://www.youtube.com/@adultchildpod] SPONSORS Check out Time4Learning: https://www.time4learning.com [https://www.time4learning.com/] Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands [https://redcircle.com/brands] Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy [https://redcircle.com/privacy]

Shitshow Saturday #194 - Fear In All It's Forms

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220 - The Trauma You Didn't: Unconscious Wounds & Epigenetics w/ Mark Wolynn

What if the anxiety you feel didn’t start with you at all? This episode uncovers how inherited trauma and unconscious patterns shape our lives, Mark Wolynn [https://markwolynn.com/] is a leading expert in inherited family trauma and director of the Family Constellation Institute. , and author of the acclaimed ‘It Didn’t Start with You. He recently published a revised and updated edition of his international bestseller It Didn’t Start with You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle [https://www.amazon.com/It-Didnt-Start-with-You-audiobook/dp/B01ELP3ACY/ref=sr_1_1?crid=298Y6LU3VISJL&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.8yTHvvZ2AeMC_HSpDLHlnLGT0_2C_QVsGD8zwfo7oF20wTHrGIQcwOppoh7zShz-_7egTGNkdlNzFVA7hHHVOvhI4s8PuwNkBCP8kZqhYeyKWrdJee2nMFG659Vk9G-2NvlVAqvMGDqz9Q_jVUGJPkE2jC1fswYV1Ke45PNYLQ5-4xMqG5F2Hy0UERWrTKisdNG9XWuipBgWgrKIrPLMqUFaDBQ9QQWOhGTkZWMKd0s.8dwfwGOy45ZqGS3EkvYr1N7wciL6vZDwEkvcbgeufEM&dib_tag=se&keywords=it+didn%26%2339%3Bt+start+with+you+book&qid=1772601032&sprefix=it+didnt+sta%2Caps%2C183&sr=8-1], along with The Official It Didn't Start with You Workbook [https://www.amazon.com/Official-Didnt-Start-You-Workbook/dp/B0FBHM5QKH/ref=sr_1_2?crid=298Y6LU3VISJL&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.8yTHvvZ2AeMC_HSpDLHlnLGT0_2C_QVsGD8zwfo7oF20wTHrGIQcwOppoh7zShz-_7egTGNkdlNzFVA7hHHVOvhI4s8PuwNkBCP8kZqhYeyKWrdJee2nMFG659Vk9G-2NvlVAqvMGDqz9Q_jVUGJPkE2jC1fswYV1Ke45PNYLQ5-4xMqG5F2Hy0UERWrTKisdNG9XWuipBgWgrKIrPLMqUFaDBQ9QQWOhGTkZWMKd0s.8dwfwGOy45ZqGS3EkvYr1N7wciL6vZDwEkvcbgeufEM&dib_tag=se&keywords=it+didn%26%2339%3Bt+start+with+you+book&qid=1772601032&sprefix=it+didnt+sta%2Caps%2C183&sr=8-2]. * The 4 Unconscious Themes — The most common ways we carry or repeat family trauma without knowing it * The Latest in Epigenetics — What new research shows about inherited trauma * Your Core Trauma Language — How the key to healing often lies hidden in your own words * What You Carried From the Womb: How in-utero trauma shapes your nervous system * The Break in Early Attachment: Why not feeling seen, known, or soothed by your mother qualifies as big T trauma ----------------------- ⚓JOIN THE SHITSHOW — The Adult Child Healing Community 6 weekly Zoom support groups · Discussion boards · Peer connection 👉 theshitshow.mn.co [http://theshitshow.mn.co/] 🗞️ SIGN UP FOR SHITSHOW NATION Get the newsletter for community updates, healing insights & early access to workshops. ➡️ Join here [https://adultchildpodcast.substack.com/] 💁‍♀️ SUPPORT THE POD ☕ Buy Me a Coffee [http://www.buymeacoffee.com/adultchild] – help Andrea (and her cats) eat 🛍️ Shop Shitshow Merch [http://www.adultchildpodcast.com/shop] 💬 CONNECT WITH ANDREA Instagram → @adultchildpod [https://www.instagram.com/adultchildpod] TikTok → @adultchildpod [http://www.tiktok.com/@adultchildpod] YouTube → @adultchildpod [https://www.youtube.com/@adultchildpod] SPONSORS Check out Time4Learning: https://www.time4learning.com [https://www.time4learning.com/] Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands [https://redcircle.com/brands] Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy [https://redcircle.com/privacy]

Shitshow Saturday #193 - What Breathe to Heal Broke Open

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219 - Phone Addiction Through the Lens of Trauma: The Truth Behind Your Screen Time

This is an epidemic no one is talking about: adult phone addiction. Millions of people are struggling worldwide—and most don’t realize how much it’s impacting their focus, mood, relationships, and ability to be present. In this episode, I break down 8 manifestations of compulsive phone behavior, how to tell when you’re in it, and why “just stop” doesn’t work when your phone has become your nervous system’s fastest relief. 1. Device checking compulsion 2. Social media compulsion (passive scrolling + active participation) 3. Mobile gaming 4. Information/content compulsion (news, rabbit holes, constant consuming) 5. Online shopping 6. Dating apps 7. Work/productivity compulsion 8. Fitness/biometric tracking compulsion Internet and Technology Addicts Anonymous [https://internetaddictsanonymous.org/?] Irresistible: The Rise of Addictive Technology and the Business of Keeping Us Hooked by Adam Alter [https://www.amazon.com/Irresistible-Addictive-Technology-Business-Keeping/dp/1594206643] ----------------------- ⚓JOIN THE SHITSHOW — The Adult Child Healing Community 6 weekly Zoom support groups · Discussion boards · Peer connection 👉 theshitshow.mn.co [http://theshitshow.mn.co/] 🗞️ SIGN UP FOR SHITSHOW NATION Get the newsletter for community updates, healing insights & early access to workshops. ➡️ Join here [https://adultchildpodcast.substack.com/] 💁‍♀️ SUPPORT THE POD ☕ Buy Me a Coffee [http://www.buymeacoffee.com/adultchild] – help Andrea (and her cats) eat 🛍️ Shop Shitshow Merch [http://www.adultchildpodcast.com/shop] 💬 CONNECT WITH ANDREA Instagram → @adultchildpod [https://www.instagram.com/adultchildpod] TikTok → @adultchildpod [http://www.tiktok.com/@adultchildpod] YouTube → @adultchildpod [https://www.youtube.com/@adultchildpod] SPONSORS Check out Time4Learning: https://www.time4learning.com [https://www.time4learning.com/] Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands [https://redcircle.com/brands] Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy [https://redcircle.com/privacy]