Conversations with a Dom

Chief and Moineau are back, answering your burning BDSM questions submitted via KinkyEvents.co.uk. Whether you're a solo submissive wondering how to start your journey, or struggling to find a dominant who’s more than just talk, they’ve got you covered. They provide candid advice on tackling BDSM as a solo submissive, ways to find a true dominant partner, overcoming challenges in kinky relationships, and dealing with anxieties and insecurities within the dynamic. Additionally, they discuss practical tips for integrating D/s dynamics discreetly in everyday life, handling dominance outside the bedroom, dealing with emotional drops after events, and the importance of clear communication in kinky relationships. Tune in for an engaging and insightful conversation filled with personal anecdotes, practical advice, and a touch of humor. 00:00 Introduction 01:02 Navigating Play Parties as a Solo Submissive Female 05:19 Listener's Personal Journey into BDSM 06:29 Challenges and Insecurities in Sexual Dynamics 14:49 Exploring Kink and Self-Acceptance 23:50 Advice for New Dominants 33:58 Overcoming Fear and Mistakes in Knot Tying 35:00 Navigating a Daddy-Sub Dynamic 39:28 Finding a Genuine Dominant Partner 46:04 Dealing with Event Drop and Polyamory Challenges 52:17 Expressing Desires for Mental Domination 54:30 Exploring Dirty Talk and Overcoming Nerves 58:40 Balancing Kink and Long-Term Relationships 01:11:05 Conclusion and Final Thoughts Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/1872778/support] -------------- Enjoyed the episode? Take your sex life to new heights and turn your fantasies into reality with my book and courses. Your dream dynamic is just a step away! The BDSM Bundle [https://courses.kinkyevents.co.uk/bundles/bdsm-bundle]: Get my two best selling digital courses, plus my ebook as a bonus (https://courses.kinkyevents.co.uk/bundles/bdsm-bundle). Sensational Scenes [https://kinkyevents.co.uk/sensational-scenes-book/?__s=xxxxxxx&utm_source=drip&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=Get+your+Dom+to+try+these+9+techniques+on+you]. Learn how to heighten arousal, induce subspace, and have mind-blowing sexual experiences. Pick up a copy of my ebook today (https://kinkyevents.co.uk/book). The Art of Submission. [https://kinkyevents.co.uk/the-art-of-submission/?__s=xxxxxxx&utm_source=drip&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=Get+your+Dom+to+try+these+9+techniques+on+you]Become a confident submissive and make your kinky fantasies a reality with our online video course for subs (https://kinkyevents.co.uk/aos). Sinful Shibari [https://kinkyevents.co.uk/community/sinful-shibari/]: Learn rope bondage for couples with our online video course (https://kinkyevents.co.uk/sinful-shibari). Freebies: Free ebook, sex menu template, and email content ... [https://kinkyevents.co.uk/free-resources-for-doms-and-subs/]

Chief and Moineau are back, answering more of your burning BDSM and relationship questions! Ever wondered what to do if impact play isn’t your thing? Or whether all Doms need a title? They break down alternatives for brats and subs who aren’t into spanking, and debate the role of labels in the Dom/sub dynamic. Plus, what’s the best way to meet a unicorn? Moineau shares an update on mastering the cowgirl position and Chief reveals his latest quest for the ultimate male sex toy - this time, an octopus-like vibrating stroker. Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/1872778/support] -------------- Enjoyed the episode? Take your sex life to new heights and turn your fantasies into reality with my book and courses. Your dream dynamic is just a step away! The BDSM Bundle [https://courses.kinkyevents.co.uk/bundles/bdsm-bundle]: Get my two best selling digital courses, plus my ebook as a bonus (https://courses.kinkyevents.co.uk/bundles/bdsm-bundle). Sensational Scenes [https://kinkyevents.co.uk/sensational-scenes-book/?__s=xxxxxxx&utm_source=drip&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=Get+your+Dom+to+try+these+9+techniques+on+you]. Learn how to heighten arousal, induce subspace, and have mind-blowing sexual experiences. Pick up a copy of my ebook today (https://kinkyevents.co.uk/book). The Art of Submission. [https://kinkyevents.co.uk/the-art-of-submission/?__s=xxxxxxx&utm_source=drip&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=Get+your+Dom+to+try+these+9+techniques+on+you]Become a confident submissive and make your kinky fantasies a reality with our online video course for subs (https://kinkyevents.co.uk/aos). Sinful Shibari [https://kinkyevents.co.uk/community/sinful-shibari/]: Learn rope bondage for couples with our online video course (https://kinkyevents.co.uk/sinful-shibari). Freebies: Free ebook, sex menu template, and email content ... [https://kinkyevents.co.uk/free-resources-for-doms-and-subs/]

Chief and Moineau dive headfirst into the first batch of juicy, reader-submitted questions about BDSM, dominance, submission, and everything in between. From spicing up oral with dominant energy to navigating long-distance D/s struggles, they tackle it all with humor, honesty, and practical advice. Ever felt your dominance wane? Wondering how to introduce kinks to a vanilla partner without freaking them out? Curious about the psychology behind impact play? They’ve got you covered. Expect candid discussions on pegging, face slapping, balancing desires in a D/s dynamic, and how to keep that dominant spark alive. With plenty of laughs, real talk, and insightful tips, this episode is packed with actionable advice to help you deepen your BDSM relationships and own your kink with confidence. 00:00 Introduction and episode overview  01:35 Chocolate and aphrodisiacs  02:16 Funny anecdotes and misunderstandings  03:19 First listener question: dominance during oral  05:53 Pros and cons of DS relationships  08:59 Losing dominance drive  12:32 Bringing up kinks with a new partner  14:10 Dealing with extreme kinks  23:45 Feeling like a fraud as a dom  30:07 Developing dominant skills  37:37 Navigating dominance and submission dynamics  38:09 Compromise and communication in kink  39:07 The rubber band analogy  39:49 Recommended reading: with sprinkles on top  40:50 Balancing desires in DS relationships  42:01 Exploring impact play and resistance  44:01 Discussing face slapping and personal limits  54:54 Spontaneity in BDSM  59:02 Finding time for DS scenes  01:09:07 Preparing for pegging Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/1872778/support] -------------- Enjoyed the episode? Take your sex life to new heights and turn your fantasies into reality with my book and courses. Your dream dynamic is just a step away! The BDSM Bundle [https://courses.kinkyevents.co.uk/bundles/bdsm-bundle]: Get my two best selling digital courses, plus my ebook as a bonus (https://courses.kinkyevents.co.uk/bundles/bdsm-bundle). Sensational Scenes [https://kinkyevents.co.uk/sensational-scenes-book/?__s=xxxxxxx&utm_source=drip&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=Get+your+Dom+to+try+these+9+techniques+on+you]. Learn how to heighten arousal, induce subspace, and have mind-blowing sexual experiences. Pick up a copy of my ebook today (https://kinkyevents.co.uk/book). The Art of Submission. [https://kinkyevents.co.uk/the-art-of-submission/?__s=xxxxxxx&utm_source=drip&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=Get+your+Dom+to+try+these+9+techniques+on+you]Become a confident submissive and make your kinky fantasies a reality with our online video course for subs (https://kinkyevents.co.uk/aos). Sinful Shibari [https://kinkyevents.co.uk/community/sinful-shibari/]: Learn rope bondage for couples with our online video course (https://kinkyevents.co.uk/sinful-shibari). Freebies: Free ebook, sex menu template, and email content ... [https://kinkyevents.co.uk/free-resources-for-doms-and-subs/]

Chief and Moineau discuss Stephanie Goerlich's book 'With Sprinkles on Top' and the importance of communication in bridging the gap between kinky and vanilla partners. We compare mental fantasies with real-world practicality (including threesome and more-some discussions!), as well as negotiating and compromising in relationships. We then try out two exercises from the book - a mad-lib style desire sharing exercise, and one to gauge our comfort levels with erotic language. If you're a kinky person looking for ways to improve your relationship and get more comfortable sharing your desires with a partner then this podcast is for you! Resources: Stephanie Goerlich's website: https://www.stefanigoerlich.com [https://www.stefanigoerlich.com] The PDF of exercises: https://www.stefanigoerlich.com/negotiationwkshts.html [https://www.stefanigoerlich.com/negotiationwkshts.html] Our website: https://kinkyevents.co.uk [https://kinkyevents.co.uk] Timestamps: 00:00 Introduction 00:58 Kinky Statistics 02:28 Introducing the Book: With Sprinkles on Top 04:39 Exploring Kink and Communication 06:50 Personal Kink Experiences and Fantasies 10:01 Discussing Threesomes and Boundaries 24:06 Fantasy Worksheet Exercise 33:42 Exploring Desires and Fantasies 34:19 Power Dynamics and Control 35:24 Communication and Connection 37:05 Erotic Vocabulary Exercise Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/1872778/support] -------------- Enjoyed the episode? Take your sex life to new heights and turn your fantasies into reality with my book and courses. Your dream dynamic is just a step away! The BDSM Bundle [https://courses.kinkyevents.co.uk/bundles/bdsm-bundle]: Get my two best selling digital courses, plus my ebook as a bonus (https://courses.kinkyevents.co.uk/bundles/bdsm-bundle). Sensational Scenes [https://kinkyevents.co.uk/sensational-scenes-book/?__s=xxxxxxx&utm_source=drip&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=Get+your+Dom+to+try+these+9+techniques+on+you]. Learn how to heighten arousal, induce subspace, and have mind-blowing sexual experiences. Pick up a copy of my ebook today (https://kinkyevents.co.uk/book). The Art of Submission. [https://kinkyevents.co.uk/the-art-of-submission/?__s=xxxxxxx&utm_source=drip&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=Get+your+Dom+to+try+these+9+techniques+on+you]Become a confident submissive and make your kinky fantasies a reality with our online video course for subs (https://kinkyevents.co.uk/aos). Sinful Shibari [https://kinkyevents.co.uk/community/sinful-shibari/]: Learn rope bondage for couples with our online video course (https://kinkyevents.co.uk/sinful-shibari). Freebies: Free ebook, sex menu template, and email content ... [https://kinkyevents.co.uk/free-resources-for-doms-and-subs/]

Chief presents 30 varied exercises designed to improve communication skills within BDSM and D/s relationships. These activities aim to deepen the connection, enhance understanding, and ultimately lead to a better sex life. Ranging from joint journaling and desire mapping to more elaborate setups like role-reversal games and fantasy sharing, each exercise builds upon the previous ones. Each exercise is discussed briefly, including instructions and several resources for each activity, emphasising the flexibility of the exercises to suit individual dynamics. The episode encourages couples to actively practice these exercises to foster trust, empathy, and a more satisfying relationship. 00:00 Introduction to 30 Communication Exercises 00:30 Why Communication Matters in D/s Relationships 01:28 How to Approach These Exercises 02:03 Week 1: Foundation of Communication 02:08 Day 1: Joint Journaling 02:28 Day 2: Desire Mapping 03:22 Day 3: Create Safe Words 03:44 Day 4: Daily Check-Ins 04:02 Day 5: Feedback Session 04:40 Day 6: Communication Games 06:11 Day 7: Weekly Reflection 06:30 Week 2: Exploration and Education 06:50 Day 8: Research Assignment 07:19 Day 9: Sensation Play Experiment 08:06 Day 10: Role Reversal 08:29 Day 11: Boundary Testing 09:35 Day 12: Kink Workshop or Webinar 10:38 Day 13: Fantasy Sharing 11:12 Day 14: Weekly Reflection 11:40 Week 3: Deepening Trust and Connection 11:47 Day 15: Trust Exercises 12:08 Day 16: Gratitude Lists 12:24 Day 17: Surprise Day 12:43 Day 18: Vulnerability Night 13:10 Day 19: D/s Day Out 13:46 Day 20: Aftercare Focus 14:06 Day 21: Weekly Reflection 14:41 Week 4: Integration and Future Planning 14:48 Day 22: Dynamic Goal Setting 15:18 Day 23: Contract Review/Creation 15:58 Day 24: Creative Play 16:31 Day 25: Self Care Day 16:47 Day 26: Community Engagement 17:15 Day 27: Legacy Letter 17:45 Day 28: Celebration Session 18:27 Day 29-30: Reflection and Relaxation 18:53 Conclusion and Final Thoughts Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/1872778/support] -------------- Enjoyed the episode? Take your sex life to new heights and turn your fantasies into reality with my book and courses. Your dream dynamic is just a step away! The BDSM Bundle [https://courses.kinkyevents.co.uk/bundles/bdsm-bundle]: Get my two best selling digital courses, plus my ebook as a bonus (https://courses.kinkyevents.co.uk/bundles/bdsm-bundle). Sensational Scenes [https://kinkyevents.co.uk/sensational-scenes-book/?__s=xxxxxxx&utm_source=drip&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=Get+your+Dom+to+try+these+9+techniques+on+you]. Learn how to heighten arousal, induce subspace, and have mind-blowing sexual experiences. Pick up a copy of my ebook today (https://kinkyevents.co.uk/book). The Art of Submission. [https://kinkyevents.co.uk/the-art-of-submission/?__s=xxxxxxx&utm_source=drip&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=Get+your+Dom+to+try+these+9+techniques+on+you]Become a confident submissive and make your kinky fantasies a reality with our online video course for subs (https://kinkyevents.co.uk/aos). Sinful Shibari [https://kinkyevents.co.uk/community/sinful-shibari/]: Learn rope bondage for couples with our online video course (https://kinkyevents.co.uk/sinful-shibari). Freebies: Free ebook, sex menu template, and email content ... [https://kinkyevents.co.uk/free-resources-for-doms-and-subs/]