Order of Man

Struggling with Feeling Weak, Recover From Betrayal, and Avoiding the Obvious | ASK ME ANYTHING

In this AMA episode, Ryan and Shawn tackle some of the most common struggles men face today - from disconnect with teenage sons to breaking destructive habits and overcoming betrayal. They explore why men avoid doing what they know they should, how ego gets in the way of growth, and why asking for help is actually a sign of strength - not weakness. The conversation dives deep into mindset shifts, discipline, and emotional resilience, offering practical frameworks for rebuilding trust, improving relationships, and taking ownership of your life. If you've ever felt stuck, isolated, or unsure of your next move, this episode delivers clarity and direction. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - Episode intro & Shawn joins 01:08 - Reconnecting with a distant teenage son 13:27 - Why men avoid doing what they know they should 25:52 - Admitting struggle without feeling weak 43:42 - Recovering from betrayal 57:30 - Iron Council & closing thoughts Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! [https://store.orderofman.com/products/order-of-man-annual-battle-planner] Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto [https://www.amazon.com/Masculinity-Manifesto-Establishes-Influence-Credibility/dp/1684513316/ref=tmm_hrd_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1665048672&sr=8-1]. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood [https://orderofman.link/iron-council]. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready [https://orderofman.link/battle-ready-0]

NICK FREITAS | Why Modern Men Are Deflated, and What to Do About It

In a world that profits from your confusion, real clarity is an act of rebellion. Today we're sitting down with a man who has spent his life in the arena (as a soldier, a statesman, and a straight-talker) to cut through the noise on masculinity, truth, and what it actually means to be free, Nick Freitas [http://instagram.com/nickjfreitas/]. We're talking logical fallacies, the Marxist oppressor/oppressed framework, and why so many men today are disgusted, deflated, and dangerously close to giving up. But this episode isn't a pity party, it's a plan of attack. We're going to talk about why masculinity is under assault, how to stop painting yourself as a victim, and why there is no virtue in suffering, only in overcoming it. If you're ready to trade your grievances for a mission and your excuses for a legacy, this one's for you. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - Reconnecting and General Reflections on Culture 00:54 - Post-Modernism and the Rejection of Objective Truth 01:50 - The Marxist Framework of Oppressor and Oppressed 03:43 - The Concerted Effort to Target Masculinity 04:45 - Debating Traditional Gender Roles and Credentials 06:41 - The Hijacking of Academia and Institutions 09:38 - Understanding the Appeal to Authority Fallacy 12:05 - Christianity and the Epistemological Question 13:57 - Miracles as Evidence for the Truth of Christ 16:21 - Historical Scrutiny and the Verification of Scripture 19:10 - The Relationship Between Love, Freedom, and Justice 21:27 - Logical and Philosophical Arguments for the Cross 22:28 - Responsibility as the True Path to Freedom 24:45 - Self-Actualization Within a Correct Worldview 26:01 - Integrity of Belief and the Misuse of Moral Words 28:34 - Gender Conversion and Affirming Biological Reality 31:52 - Intellectual Manipulation and the Victim Dynamic 34:39 - Critical Theory and the Expansion of State Power 36:54 - The Shift Toward Labeling Speech as Violence 38:56 - State-Run Healthcare and the Devaluation of Life 41:16 - Addressing the Denigration of Modern Men 45:18 - Reclaiming Leadership and Building Godly Families 49:35 - Overcoming Victimhood vs. Identifying as a Victim 51:40 - Overcoming Unjust Circumstances Through Resilience 53:56 - Finding True Identity Through Service to God 56:44 - The Radical Power of Forgiveness and Grace 59:45 - Humility, Maturity, and Leading as a Father 01:01:33 - "The Man Book": A Practical and Philosophical Guide 01:04:37 - Closing Encouragement for the Modern Man Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! [https://store.orderofman.com/products/order-of-man-annual-battle-planner] Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto [https://www.amazon.com/Masculinity-Manifesto-Establishes-Influence-Credibility/dp/1684513316/ref=tmm_hrd_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1665048672&sr=8-1]. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood [https://orderofman.link/iron-council]. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready [https://orderofman.link/battle-ready-0]

This Isn't Manhood | FRIDAY FIELD NOTES

In this episode, Ryan Michler breaks down one of the most influential-and dangerous-movements shaping modern men: the manosphere. While much of its message contains elements of truth-strength, discipline, success-it ultimately promotes a distorted version of masculinity rooted in ego, domination, and consumption. Ryan draws a critical distinction between masculinity (amoral traits) and manliness (moral responsibility), arguing that strength without character leads to destruction, not leadership. He challenges men to reject surface-level success metrics-money, women, status-and instead focus on what truly defines a man: what he builds, carries, and gives. This episode is a call to step away from performative masculinity and toward a life of purpose, discipline, and service-to become the kind of man others can depend on. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - The Manosphere Is Shaping a Generation 02:10 - Why the Message Is So Seductive 04:32 - The Rise of Performative Masculinity 06:52 - Strength Without Character Is Dangerous 09:17 - Masculinity vs. Manliness Explained 12:29 - What Actually Defines a Man 14:25 - Why Success Doesn't Equal Fulfillment 16:31 - How Culture Is Failing Young Men 18:17 - The True Measure of a Man 21:26 - Men Are Starving for Direction 22:39 - A Question Every Man Must Answer 24:49 - What Real Masculinity Looks Like 26:48 - Iron Council & Final Thoughts Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! [https://store.orderofman.com/products/order-of-man-annual-battle-planner] Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto [https://www.amazon.com/Masculinity-Manifesto-Establishes-Influence-Credibility/dp/1684513316/ref=tmm_hrd_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1665048672&sr=8-1]. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood [https://orderofman.link/iron-council]. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready [https://orderofman.link/battle-ready-0]

Fix This or Stay Single | ASK ME ANYTHING

In this AMA episode, Ryan and Kipp dive deep into personal growth, relationships, and modern masculinity. They explore lessons from Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu, including humility, grit, and knowing when to "tap" in life before things spiral. The conversation tackles real listener questions on anger, marriage struggles, dating challenges, fatherhood, and leadership at home. They also break down the concept of the "integrity gap" and how misalignment between who you are and who you want to be creates frustration. This episode is a practical guide to self-mastery, emotional awareness, and becoming a more intentional man. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - Intro & Weekend Recap 03:12 - Jiu-Jitsu Lessons for Life 08:29 - The "Tap" vs Life Crisis Analogy 12:59 - Peptides Discussion 14:13 - Low-Level Anger Explained 22:59 - What It Means to Be a Man Today 26:49 - Fixing Emotional Distance in Marriage 32:22 - Dating Without Becoming Cynical 39:21 - Leading a Stronger Partner 45:11 - Connecting with a Distant Teen 55:05 - Patience with Kids vs Strangers 01:02:59 - Feeling Stuck Without Direction Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! [https://store.orderofman.com/products/order-of-man-annual-battle-planner] Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto [https://www.amazon.com/Masculinity-Manifesto-Establishes-Influence-Credibility/dp/1684513316/ref=tmm_hrd_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1665048672&sr=8-1]. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood [https://orderofman.link/iron-council]. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready [https://orderofman.link/battle-ready-0]

RYAN D. LEE | This is Why Most Men Stay Broke

Men, one of the greatest lies of our time is that if you just work hard enough, everything will somehow work itself out. Yet too many men are grinding every day and still feel trapped by debt, fear, and the pressure of provision. They're earning, but they're not building. They're surviving, but they're not creating freedom. Today, I'm joined by Ryan Lee [https://www.instagram.com/theryandlee/] from Cashflow Tactics [https://cashflowtactics.com/], and we're talking about what it really means to take command of your financial life as a man. This is bigger than money. It's about leadership, stewardship, and refusing to stay dependent on a system that keeps men stuck. We break down the mindsets that sabotage wealth, the principles that actually create it, and how to give every dollar a job so you can build real assets, real cash flow, and real security for your family. If you've ever felt the weight of responsibility or wondered whether you're truly leading well in this area of your life, this conversation will challenge you. Because this isn't about getting rich. It's about becoming the kind of man who builds, protects, and leaves something that lasts. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:01 - Intro & podcast setup 00:34 - The burden of being a provider 02:56 - The moment responsibility becomes real 04:25 - Money mindset vs tactics 06:43 - Identifying money "demons" 07:44 - The power of a "major definite aim" 10:55 - Life as a game & learning the rules 13:43 - First financial rule: create value 15:20 - Discovering your unique abilities 19:40 - Fear of failure holding men back 21:36 - The "let's find out" mindset 23:08 - Rule #2: keep the money you make 24:43 - Awareness of spending habits 29:34 - Recording interruption / reset 30:00 - Aligning money with values 32:21 - Why investing advice is broken 33:17 - Cash flow vs net worth 36:12 - Dependency vs ownership economy 38:54 - 2008 wake-up call story 40:24 - Real estate as a wealth builder 44:11 - The 4 wealth forces explained 47:47 - Opportunity cost & leverage 49:02 - Critique of traditional financial advice 50:12 - Building income independent of time 51:52 - Book breakdown & final thoughts Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! [https://store.orderofman.com/products/order-of-man-annual-battle-planner] Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto [https://www.amazon.com/Masculinity-Manifesto-Establishes-Influence-Credibility/dp/1684513316/ref=tmm_hrd_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1665048672&sr=8-1]. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood [https://orderofman.link/iron-council]. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready [https://orderofman.link/battle-ready-0]