Untangled Mind™, LLC hosted by Piper Harris

S7 Ep 82 Offended: Your Secret Superpower for Real Growth

What if the sting of criticism or feedback wasn’t something to avoid, but your greatest tool for personal growth? In this episode, I share how a single piece of honest feedback from a recent counselor training (that could have derailed me years ago) barely phased me this time, and why that shift matters. I open up about a grad school professor whose constant nitpicking once felt like a personal attack, only to become one of my most valuable mentors. Along the way, we dive deep into the psychology of offense: why we get so defensive, the cognitive biases (like self-serving bias, confirmation bias, and negativity bias) that fuel it, and how shifting from a fixed to a growth mindset can turn those uncomfortable moments into powerful opportunities for change. You’ll walk away with practical questions to ask when offense hits, tools to build quiet, resilient confidence, and a new way to see feedback, not as a threat, but as data that helps you level up without the emotional baggage. If you’ve ever replayed a critical comment, gotten defensive in a meeting, or struggled to receive tough feedback, this episode will help you flip the script. Tune in and discover how to use offense as your secret superpower. #untangledmindllc #UMpathway #UMPodcast #offense #mentalhealthhelp

Season 7 Ep 81 Part TWO with Dr. Emily Ferrara Comfortable but Not Changing: The Three Signs You’re in Stalled Therapy

You like your therapist.The sessions feel safe and supportive. But deep down, you know nothing is really changing. If you’ve ever left therapy thinking “I feel heard… but why am I still stuck?” this next episode is for you. This Friday, Emily Ferrara and I sit down to talk about what happens when therapy becomes comfortable… but not effective. We pull from Abigail Shrier’s Bad Therapy and get honest about the quiet ways people stay stalled for months or years. No fluff. Just practical truths about when it’s time to reassess. Episode drops early next week. Have you ever felt stuck in “good enough” therapy? Drop a comment or 🔥 below, you’re not alone. #untangledmindllc #UMPathway #UMPodcast

S7 Ep80 The Filter at the Table

You've done the deep work in therapy: unpacked trauma, rewired thoughts, set boundaries, and felt real growth. So why do those old, nagging beliefs ("I'm not enough," "I don't belong," "They're just being nice") still sneak in and tint how you see yourself in everyday moments? In this episode, we explore a common experience for people who've committed to serious personal work: the lingering "filter" of outdated self-beliefs. Even with new insights and tools, these core views act like tinted glasses, turning neutral interactions into proof of unworthiness, exclusion, or failure. Using a powerful reminder shared in session: "Be careful to make a judgment about your place at the table rather than other people’s manners at the table, "we unpack why it's often not about them, but how you see yourself. #untangledmindllc #UMPathway #UMpodcast #anxietycounseling #traumatherapist #IntegrativeCBT

S7 Ep 79 What is Good Therapy?

What is Good Therapy? This is a candid, standards-based conversation about what effective therapy actually looks like.In this series, I’m joined by Dr. Emily Ferrara of Simplify Life Counseling and Coaching. Our professional dialogue began around a shared concern: the growing gap between what therapy should be and what many clients are experiencing.Together, we explore:• How to identify a competent, structured therapist• Why some therapy feels vague or stalled• What to do when you’re not seeing progress• Why skepticism toward therapy exists, and how to evaluate it intelligentlyThis series is not about criticizing the field. It’s about elevating it. Therapy should include clear goals, defined methods, measurable progress, and an understanding of when treatment is complete. Clients deserve to know what they are entering into and how to assess whether it’s working.To support that, I’m providing a free listener guide:A structured list of questions to ask during therapist consultations so you can make informed decisions and pursue effective care.https://www.untangledmind.net/how-to-choose-the-right-therapistIf you are considering therapy or are currently in it and unsure whether it’s working, this series is designed to give you clarity, language, and direction.#untangledmindllc #premiercounseling #integrativeCBT #traumatherapist #anxietycounseling #EMDR #prolongedexposure #PTSD #GAD #therapythatworks #datadriven #Georgiacounselor #umpodcast

S7 Ep 78 The Intruder

In this episode, I examine a subtle but increasingly common boundary violation: when strangers use moral or spiritual language to create unsolicited intimacy. This conversation is not about faith or intention. It is about psychology. I break down the behavioral pattern behind forced significance, why these interactions often provoke disgust rather than fear, and why women experience them disproportionately in public spaces. I also explore the broader cultural forces that enable this behavior, including the erosion of private meaning, the confusion of expression with virtue, and the growing discomfort with restraint. If you’ve ever left an interaction thinking, “That felt off, but I couldn’t explain why,” this episode gives language and psychological clarity to that experience. #untangledmindllc #premiercounseling #integrativeCBT #traumatherapist #UMpodcast