Ep. 91: Surviving narcissistic abuse - my story, red flags, and 10 things I wish I knew sooner
I share how I survived narcissistic abuse, the red flags I missed, and the 10 things I wish I’d known sooner.
In this episode, I break down what narcissism actually is (it’s not just “being full of yourself”), how abuse shows up in friendships, romantic relationships, and family dynamics, and why confusion can be a red flag on its own.
From love bombing and gaslighting to smear campaigns and “flying monkeys,” I walk through the patterns I experienced - and how doing my own research and learning from survivors and experts helped me finally see the truth.
I also talk about how narcissistic abuse impacts your nervous system, why boundaries are non-negotiable, and how I’m using my healing journey to support others in the narcissistic abuse recovery community.
What you’ll hear in this episode:
* How I went from thinking it was “just a toxic relationship” to recognizing narcissistic abuse
* What narcissism really is, from Professor Sam Vaknin’s definition to modern psychology
* Red flags I ignored: love bombing, isolation, gaslighting, smear campaigns, and more
* How narcissistic abuse can show up in women, including physical abuse toward men
* The impact on my body, nervous system, and mental health
* The 10 things I wish I knew sooner (including why “no” is a full sentence)
* The role of faith and my relationship with God in my recovery
Resources & Experts Mentioned:
Professor Sam Vaknin [https://www.youtube.com/@samvaknin]
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/narcissismwithvaknin/
Book: https://www.amazon.com/Malignant-Self-Love-Narcissism-Sam-Vaknin/dp/8023833847
Dr. Ramani Durvasula [https://www.youtube.com/@DoctorRamani]
Podcast: https://www.iheart.com/podcast/1119-navigating-narcissism-wit-98632373/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/doctorramani/
Claire Auden [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-claire-auden-podcast/id1713271431]
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/claire_auden_/
Richard Grannon [https://www.richardgrannon.com]
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XXP941XRLUI
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/richard.grannon/
Coach Randy White
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/officialcoachrandywhite/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/coachrandywhite/
Psychology Today Article on the Greek myth of Narcissus [https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/transcending-the-past/201705/revisiting-the-myth-of-narcissus-and-healthy-narcissism]
Sponsor:
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