And How Does That Make You Feel?™

How Trauma Changes Meaning & How Cognitive Processing Therapy Helps

Content note: This episode discusses trauma and PTSD. Listener discretion advised. For many people, trauma isn’t about remembering too much. It’s about believing the wrong things about themselves for too long. In this episode of And How Does That Make You Feel?, I sit down with Dr. Patricia Resick, the psychologist who created Cognitive Processing Therapy (CPT): One of the most effective, evidence-based treatments for PTSD used across the globe today. In this conversation, we explore: * How CPT was developed and why it was needed * Why trauma isn’t just about fear but often about meaning, responsibility, and self-judgment * The difference between thoughts, feelings, and facts (and why that distinction matters) * How CPT helps people heal without reliving the event * Why trauma recovery is possible even years or decades later Chapters: 00:00 Why Therapy Doesn’t Have to Mean Retelling Trauma Forever 02:55 Introducing Dr. Patricia Resick & Cognitive Processing Therapy (CPT) 05:11 From Clinician to Researcher: Dr. Resick’s Path Into Trauma Psychology 11:00 How Cognitive Processing Therapy (CPT) Was Born 15:25 Why PTSD Isn’t Just Fear: Shame, Guilt & Self-Blame 17:51 Flashbacks, “Why Me?”, and the Just World Belief 21:25 Erroneous Guilt: When Trauma Blames The Wrong Person 23:27 Trauma Responses People Mistake as Personal Failure 24:52 The Biggest Problem With PTSD 26:03 What CPT Actually Looks Like in Practice 27:45 Thoughts vs Feelings vs Facts (and Why It Changes Everything) 31:35 How CPT Changes the Brain & Nervous System 34:03 Why CPT Leads to Long-Term Relief (Not Just Coping) 38:10 Self-Help, Short-Term Therapy & Accessibility 39:36 How CPT Compares to Other Trauma Therapies 42:02 CPT as a Lifelong Tool, Not Just a Treatment 45:32 Who CPT Is (and Isn’t) For 48:59 CPT, Systemic Trauma & Oppression 52:30 Common Myths About PTSD & Trauma Recovery 58:59 Final Message: You Can Get Better 1:01:15 Closing Reflection & Listener Question _______________________ As an Amazon Associate, I may earn from qualifying purchases. Thank you for supporting the show! _______________________ ▶ Cognitive Processing Therapy Resources CPT Website | https://cptforptsd.com/ CPT Self-Help Book | Getting Unstuck from PTSD: https://amzn.to/49OeUDN CPT Therapist Manual | Cognitive Processing Therapy for PTSD (Second Edition): https://amzn.to/4khxXKb CPT Books (Package Deal) | https://www.guilford.com/view-cart CPT Book | Cognitive Processing Therapy for Rape Victims: https://bit.ly/4qMiILA _______________________ ▶ To become a sponsor of the AHDTMYF? podcast or for business inquiries, email business@storidaniel.com _______________________ ▶Use hashtag #AHDTMYF on all social media channels to join the conversation! _______________________ ▶ Connect with Stori & the AHDTMYF Community: TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@storileeann Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ahdtmyf _______________________ Remember To Be Kind To Yourself

Booze to Balance: A 30-Day Liver Reset to Cut Back Drinking

What if your nightly glass of wine, that mouthguard you have to use for jaw-clenching, or those sudden mood spikes are all pointing to the same root cause: Your liver? Dr. Kim Makoi, holistic chiropractor, NET practitioner, and author of Booze to Balance, returns to share how alcohol, sugar, stress, and liver health are connected in ways most of us never learned. If you’ve ever wondered, “Do I actually feel good… or am I just coping?”, this episode invites you to get curious, listen to your body, and see how good you can truly feel from the inside out. Chapters: 0:00 Introduction 4:40 The origin of the book: “Booze to Balance” 9:27 Liver’s Connection To Drinking 13:20 How The Liver Effects The Emotions 15:41 Generational trauma, Injustice, & Alcohol patterns 17:20 Physical Symptoms of Liver Imbalance (Jaw Tension, Shoulder Pain, Allergies) 20:20 Why Reducing Alcohol Consumption isn’t Always About Discipline 22:40 Why Extremes like Dry January Don’t Work 24:25 The Hidden Benefits of Having A Healthy, Balanced Liver (More Energy, Better Digestion, Better Focus) 25:17 Why THIS 30-Day Liver Reset Is Different 29:15 Foods That Are Good For Your Liver 33:15 Foods That Are Not Good For Your Liver 38:02 Why Your Eating Pace Matters 39:43 Why The Order In Which You Eat Your Food Matters 42:00 How To Support Your Body’s Natural Detox Abilities 44:05 The MAIN Thing Dr. Kim Wants You To Feel After This 30-Day Reset 45:40 What Drinking Does To The Body 46:11 The ‘A Glass A Day’ Myth BUSTED 49:55 Why This Reset Isn’t About Going Cold Turkey 51:10 Why NOW Is The Time To Take Control of Your Own Health 54:18 Final Reflections _______________________ As an Amazon Associate, I may earn from qualifying purchases. Thank you for supporting the show! _______________________ ▶ Purchase Book | Booze to Balance: A Chill 30-Day Liver-Healing Program: https://amzn.to/4isML7Z_______________________ ▶ Connect With Dr. Kim Makoi, DC, PhD Website: www.drkimsf.com LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kimmakoi/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@drkim94102 Youtube: http://www.youtube.com/@drkim94102 Email List | Daily, Simple Health Tips: https://drkimsf.com/dailynugget _______________________ ▶ To become a sponsor of the AHDTMYF? podcast or for business inquiries, email business@storidaniel.com _______________________ ▶Use hashtag #AHDTMYF on all social media channels to join the conversation! _______________________ ▶ Connect with Stori & the AHDTMYF Community: TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@storileeann Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ahdtmyf _______________________ Remember To Be Kind To Yourself

Original Grief: Tracing the First Wound with Dr. Sophia Caudle

Some grief is loud. The kind marked by goodbyes, tears, and endings. But other grief hides quietly beneath the surface: the ache of unmet needs, of love that never arrived, of moments that shaped us before we even knew what loss was. In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Sophia Caudle, founder of The Original Grief, a deep healing framework that explores how our earliest experiences with caregivers shape the way we love, cope, and connect. Dr. Caudle awakens up to this first loss and how uncovering these early wounds allows us to create space for genuine connection, lasting joy, and deeper peace. _______________________ ▶ Connect with Dr. Sophia Caudle:Website: https://queencityhealthysexandrelationships.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sessionswithdrsophia/ _______________________ ▶ Guest Resources: Work with Dr. Sophia | Original Grief Workshop: https://be8c-sophia.systeme.io/original-grief-workshop Work with Dr. Sophia | Original Grief Intensive: https://queencityhealthysexandrelationships.com/original-grief-intensive/ Guest Workshops | Dr. Sophia's Healing Shop: https://be8c-sophia.systeme.io/healing-shop Guest Podcast | Queen City Healthy Sex and Relationships: http://bit.ly/43qI209 _______________________ ▶ To become a sponsor of the AHDTMYF? podcast or for business inquiries, email business@storidaniel.com ▶Use hashtag #AHDTMYF on all social media channels to join the conversation! ▶ Connect with Stori & the AHDTMYF Community:TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@storileeannInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/ahdtmyf

Beyond Punishment: How Restorative Justice Transforms Kids

What if, instead of punishing kids, we asked why they act out? In this episode, retired educator and restorative justice educator Renee King shares how restorative practices transformed her school, cutting suspensions in half and replacing punishment with empathy, accountability, and connection. Together, they explore what restorative justice really means, how teachers and parents can create healing spaces for kids, and why community, not control, is the foundation of change. Chapters: 0:00 Introduction 3:57 What is Restorative Justice? 6:08 Renee King’s Journey Towards Restorative Justice 15:30 Why Students Act Out (and What They Really Need) 17:36 Teaching Teachers: Building Restorative Classrooms 22:19 How Educators Can Start Practicing Restoration 25:04 How To Lead A Restorative Restorative Circle in Class 26:54 Why Community Changes Behavior 27:59 How to Repair Harm After Conflict 31:25 Restorative Justice at Home: Tools for Parents 34:19 Why Punishment Alone Doesn’t Work 38:49 Restorative Practices Beyond Schools & Into Society 46:14 Resources for Educators & Parents on Restorative Justice 47:40 Anyone Can Be Restorative: The Mindset Shift 54:47 Closing Reflections: Choosing Restoration Over Punishment _______________________ ▶ BREATHWORK WORKSHOPS: Website: https://5elementsbreathwork.com [https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqbjZkMGoxa2hGSHU4cTNqM3lBMnc0SG5GbGpnZ3xBQ3Jtc0trZHVJLUlBQXpnaHFkM09NRHpSTnFHeURPTmNnam1xVGNSVmFmSERFV3RNM3N2RTBOUWc4dTlIdlh5LVRsUktjNldmTXN6QWlvQWdLM20yUXJ1NXdiRHpCUUVfclFDV19FZUxyaS1rMzl4blJBRmwxYw&q=https%3A%2F%2F5elementsbreathwork.com%2F&v=Bbpg7I4e960]Attend Houston, TX | Saturday, November 8th: http://bit.ly/47g1i2W [https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqbllkcExaMnhTR0diMkRXRnlrajhyX1E3M2NMUXxBQ3Jtc0tuOXRRdTh0NFpreng0MnNoMHd6TVJBSXYzbUtwZWxYUE9JYThSazJMRDR2ck9VVEVERHNLR245TVduZDdhVS1uZjZQZ25uYUwtVzdRVkdtODJUcy1lOGp3SUdlU0RNbEJySjFIVVVYM1ZXdURMUWNzZw&q=http%3A%2F%2Fbit.ly%2F47g1i2W&v=Bbpg7I4e960]Attend Boston, MA | Saturday, November 15th: https://bit.ly/4nzp4f3 [https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqbUtOTlBFbjdzSjhScFFHOTd1STFXYVgzT3NoQXxBQ3Jtc0ttXzl6ZzFtdVBUZ2tWX2RHNlJNT1lud3VZNVdVNW1ydElsdWFjSG5zTzhZZnpnZmE4c2ZTZ0lOcXZQb0NyN2dZOTc0aUw0WHQtbVVoWlhhRzF2MVRHQUo1cGctR0tzaHNZQkE3Nl9ZQ1ZnbEdvc1hKSQ&q=https%3A%2F%2Fbit.ly%2F4nzp4f3&v=Bbpg7I4e960] _______________________ ▶ Guest Resources: As an Amazon Associate, I earn from qualifying purchases on the below links. Thank you for supporting the podcast! Book | The Big Book of Restorative Justice: Four Classic Justice & Peacebuilding Books in One Volume: https://amzn.to/47nYoYA Book | The Restorative Practices Handbook for Teachers, Disciplinarians, and Administrators (Second Edition): https://amzn.to/4odfe3G Book | Circle in the Square: Building Community and Repairing Harm in School: https://amzn.to/4nqKUkP _______________________ ▶ To become a sponsor of the AHDTMYF? podcast or for business inquiries, email business@storidaniel.com _______________________ ▶Use hashtag #AHDTMYF on all social media channels to join the conversation! _______________________ ▶ Connect with Stori & the AHDTMYF Community:TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@storileeannInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/ahdtmyf _______________________ Remember To Be Kind To Yourself

The Power of Play: How Play Therapy Helps Kids Heal & Communicate

Play therapy gives kids a voice when words fall short. In this episode, I’m joined by licensed counselor, play therapist, and drama therapist Katie Lear to explore how play helps children heal and communicate, and, how parents can use PRIDE skills at home with everyday play like drawing, dolls, or blocks. We also dive into how role-play can be a powerful therapeutic tool not only for kids, but also for teens and adults: whether it’s helping neurodivergent individuals practice social cues, or supporting someone in exploring new behaviors and inner strengths through imaginative characters. This episode is practical, playful, and deeply human, offering tools for parents, caregivers, and anyone curious about how creativity can open new doors for healing and connection. Chapters: 0:00 An Introduction to The Power of Play 7:38 Katie’s Journey 15:57 What is Play Therapy? 19:35 What is Drama Therapy? 25:43 Role Theory 34:42 Therapeutic Benefits of Dungeons and Dragons 40:18 Therapeutic Benefits of Role-Playing & Play 48:41 What’s in a Play Therapy Room: Understanding Play Therapy Techniques 54:01 Parent Child Interaction Therapy (PCIT) 55:41 P.R.I.D.E Skills: How Parents Can Play with Their Kid(s) 56:41 Defining Praise 58:41 Defining Reflect 59:53 Defining Imitate 1:00:26 Defining Describe 1:02:17 Defining Enjoy 1:11:46 The ONE thing A Child Therapist Wants Parents To Know 1:16:12 Nurture or Nature? 1:18:34 Connect with Katie 1:19:27 And How Does That Make You Feel, Katie? 1:20:40 Episode Journal Prompt _______________________ Connect with Katie Lear: Website: www.katielear.com [http://www.katielear.com] Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/katielearcounselor [https://www.instagram.com/katielearcounselor] Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/katielearcounselor [https://www.facebook.com/katielearcounselor] _______________________ Guest Resources: Overview | PRIDE Skills (Do’s & Don’ts): https://pcit.ucdavis.edu/wp-content/uploads/2020/05/42_PRIDEskills-visual-learners5.16.pdf [https://pcit.ucdavis.edu/wp-content/uploads/2020/05/42_PRIDEskills-visual-learners5.16.pdf] Visual Examples | PRIDE Skills in Action: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eZDEF2AHwV8 [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eZDEF2AHwV8] Resource List | Most Common Play Therapy Toys: https://cpt.unt.edu/recommended-toy-list [https://cpt.unt.edu/recommended-toy-list] Book | A Parent's Guide to Managing Childhood Grief:  https://www.amazon.com/Parents-Guide-Managing-Childhood-Grief/dp/1507218370 [https://www.amazon.com/Parents-Guide-Managing-Childhood-Grief/dp/1507218370] Dungeons & Dragons Group | Young Dragon Slayers: Website: www.youngdragonslayers.com [http://www.youngdragonslayers.com] Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/youngdragonslayers [https://www.facebook.com/youngdragonslayers] Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/youngdragonslayers [https://www.instagram.com/youngdragonslayers] Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@youngdragonslayers [https://www.youtube.com/@youngdragonslayers] Article | How D&D Improves Social-Emotional Skills: https://www.youngdragonslayers.com/d-and-d-video-blog/dnd-social-emotional-skills [https://www.youngdragonslayers.com/d-and-d-video-blog/dnd-social-emotional-skills] _______________________ To become a sponsor of the AHDTMYF? podcast or for business inquiries, email business@storidaniel.com _______________________ Use hashtag #AHDTMYF [https://www.youtube.com/hashtag/ahdtmyf] on all social media channels to join the conversation! _______________________ Connect with Stori & the AHDTMYF Community: TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@storileeann Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ahdtmyf _______________________ Remember To Be Kind To Yourself