Your Partner is Trans
“There are ways you can mess up without even meaning to, and you don’t figure that out until it happens. And there’s only so much you can do to prepare and only so much you can do to educate yourself. And it’s also a very emotional thing. I think it was important to tell a story rather than to use terminology.”
Key topics include queer relationships, supporting and advocating through gender transition, and relationship and family dynamics.
CONTENT WARNINGS:
- References to misgendering and misuse of pronouns
- Brief mention of death and grief
RESOURCES:
The Trevor Project: https://www.thetrevorproject.org/ [https://www.thetrevorproject.org/]
24/7 crisis support for LGBTQ+ youth and young adults via text, chat, or phone.
Trans Lifeline: https://translifeline.org/ [https://translifeline.org/]
A peer-run hotline staffed entirely by trans people for trans people. They also offer name-change microgrants.
PFLAG: https://pflag.org/ [https://pflag.org/]
Support, education, and community for families, partners, and allies.
GLAAD — Transgender FAQ: https://www.glaad.org/transgender/transfaq [https://www.glaad.org/transgender/transfaq]
Clear, accessible explanations of terminology and respectful language.
National Center for Transgender Equality (NCTE): https://transequality.org/ [https://transequality.org/]
Policy, rights information, and practical resources for navigating documentation changes.
Gender Spectrum – Healthy Relationships: https://genderspectrum.org/ [https://genderspectrum.org/]
Guidance on communication, identity, and navigating relationship changes.
OurPath (formerly Straight Spouse Network): https://ourpath.org/ [https://ourpath.org/]
Peer support for partners navigating shifts in understanding around gender and orientation.
Transgender Law Center (TLC): https://transgenderlawcenter.org/ [https://transgenderlawcenter.org/]
The largest trans-led civil rights organization in the U.S. offering legal support, advocacy, and community-led solutions.
Black LGBTQIA+ Migrant Project (BLMP): https://blmp.org/ [https://blmp.org/]
A Black trans- and queer-led collective supporting Black LGBTQ+ migrants through community building, organizing, and mutual aid.
Human Rights Campaign (HRC) — Coming Out as Transgender: https://www.hrc.org/resources/coming-out-as-transgender [https://www.hrc.org/resources/coming-out-as-transgender]
A practical, accessible guide for those navigating disclosure or supporting someone who is.
PFLAG — Transgender Allies Guide: https://pflag.org/allies [https://pflag.org/allies]
Straightforward, beginner-friendly guidance for anyone wanting to support a trans loved one with respect and care.
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Created, produced, written, and edited by: Tonya Pieske
All music composed and performed by: Hexteria
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