The SOFT LIFE Chronicles.

Expressing Desire = Fulfillment

If you like stories and you are puzzled about finding fulfillment in your life, then this episode is for you. In this podcast episode I share a story of how I got stood up going for sex, and how me leading with expressing my desires led me to understand how desire is linked to fulfillment. Enjoy.

Coming Correct & Creating Safe Spaces.

Coming Correct is simply leading with respect. It is respecting your values and choices and also respecting other people’s values and choices. Coming correct is essential in creating a safe space for yourself, within yourself, and for those around you. In this episode, I take you along my year-long journey of navigating challenges, integrating different parts of myself, practicing self-awareness and mindfulness, and being a better friend to myself. I hope that in sharing more of my story and my journey, you listening out there can get to see yourself in me, gain some insight from my story thus far, learn to take better care of yourself by coming correct and creating safer spaces for yourself and those around you, and simply start or continue being a better friend to yourself. There is a difference between loving yourself and loving being yourself. One is conditional on you showing up in a certain way and appealing to a certain aesthetic, while the other is unconditional and gives you the permission to ebb and flow and change and love every bit of the process of becoming you. So do you love yourself or do you love being yourself?

Shame Is The Door: How To Deal With Your Avoidance and Stop Doom Scrolling In Less Than 14 Minutes.

Procrastination like doom scrolling are all variations of Avoidance. In this video, we look at where your avoidance comes from, how shame influences the whole process, and how to begin the journey of better self-management. Toni Morrison Interview clip courtesy of Thames TV - https://youtu.be/UAqB1SgVaC4?si=9rS6f0EL-lUc2-fb Link to my TikTok page for more unlearning and relearning content - https://www.tiktok.com/@erick.m.k?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc

To Be Yourself, You Must First See Yourself: "Question All The Definitions You Have Of Yourself."

Distorted truths lead to distorted perceptions of ourselves, others, our world, and most importantly, our lives. In this video, we begin with the truth of what we actually are, making every other definition of ourselves suspicious/ questionable. Link to Ehima Ora interview by Michell C. Clark, " Aren't I Also Divine? " = https://youtu.be/Wc8xa_68DtY?si=05z7d_SzPgML8f0U Link to Toni Morrison's interview courtesy of Thames Tv = https://youtu.be/UAqB1SgVaC4?si=77T7fvLLX38VmOxj Link to Millicent Odhiambo's remarks courtesy of NTV = https://youtu.be/QftqkBzyyFg?si=HiRcZjK2PmUo9ttf Link to my podcast " The SoftLife Chronicles " = https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-soft-life-chronicles/id1560638776 = https://open.spotify.com/episode/2rs5OgAxhobT3UmTspx3rJ?si=96d864d97b234f99 = https://rephonic.com/podcasts/the-soft-life-chronicles = https://pod.link/1560638776

Getting What You Want In Love, Sex and Relationships

In this video, I go about breaking down the steps I am applying and have been testing to get what I want in love, sex, and relationships. If you are not sure where to begin or what it is you actually want in this realm, fear not I got you covered. Below is a link to my TikTok channel where I did a video on playing with choice that I have referenced in this video = https://www.tiktok.com/@erick.m.k/video/7351426413427313925?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc&web_id=7334053363301205509 Below is a list of links to the added videos used to make my video, courtesy of Pexels Licence. Video by cottonbro studio: https://www.pexels.com/video/black-male-meeting-his-date-7339422/ Video by Artem Podrez: https://www.pexels.com/video/man-drinking-red-wine-while-video-calling-someone-from-his-laptop-6585541/ step 1: Cultivate a relationship with yourself Video by Pat Whelen: https://www.pexels.com/video/a-man-standing-over-the-cliff-edge-5658056/ step 2: Start by coming back to reality Video by Tima Miroshnichenko: https://www.pexels.com/video/woman-looking-on-the-mirror-5124225/ step 3: Be Honest with yourself about what you want and don't want Video by Tony Schnagl: https://www.pexels.com/video/profile-of-a-young-man-sitting-in-a-sofa-5527756/ step 4: Keep the course: Sit Don't Settle Video by Tima Miroshnichenko: https://www.pexels.com/video/group-of-people-having-a-therapy-session-5712757/ Video by RDNE Stock project: https://www.pexels.com/video/women-dancing-in-celebration-of-african-holidays-6193112/ Video by RDNE Stock project: https://www.pexels.com/video/women-supporting-each-other-from-abuse-5993575/ Video by PNW Production: https://www.pexels.com/video/two-girls-playing-musical-instrument-7603815/ Video by cottonbro studio: https://www.pexels.com/video/man-taking-a-bite-of-apple-6810200/ Video by Ketut Subiyanto: https://www.pexels.com/video/video-of-man-climbing-up-the-stairs-4804834/ Video by Monstera Production: https://www.pexels.com/video/three-people-meditating-outdoors-5390478/ Video by Ketut Subiyanto: https://www.pexels.com/video/friends-having-a-conversation-5051954/ Video by Vlada Karpovich: https://www.pexels.com/video/woman-stretching-in-a-kneeling-position-4608976/Video by Ketut Subiyanto: https://www.pexels.com/video/close-up-view-of-a-person-touching-another-person-s-hand-4701511/ Step 5: Support System