Our Favorite Proverbs: Proverbs 17:17, God's Wisdom Creates Space for Relationships

Our Favorite Proverbs: Proverbs 17:17, God's Wisdom Creates Space for Relationships

by Marilynn Chadwick "A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for a time of adversity." Proverbs 17:17 NIV We've talked about how God's wisdom, including his creation of the Sabbath, improves our work/rest rhythm. It also strengthens our relationships. Over the years, our "Day Off" became a source of relational bonding for our family. All three of our now grown children especially looked forward to "Family Home Night." These were weekly times of shared togetherness at the close of our Sabbath and included special movies, family prayers, Bible stories, and make-your-own-pizzas. Sometimes, those family movies prompted spontaneous talking, laughing, and stories. But they also created space for the occasional troubling fear. The kids seemed to take this time to heart. They grew to eagerly anticipate the much-needed space set aside for rest and time with just our family. They felt renewed by the safe haven of home. Relationships tend to grow deeper when we take a day to rest. Perhaps that's why Sabbath and stories seem to naturally go together. This was especially evident during our missions travel to other cultures, where life often moved at a slower pace. The connection was even more profound in places where war or suffering had occurred. I remember my friend Ange, a young Rwandan mother and survivor of the horrific genocide years earlier. After we experienced a Sabbath worship service together, Ange opened up and shared her story of pain and ultimately healing. I was amazed by her courage and strength. We kept in touch for years, but it was a time of rest that opened the door for the sharing of stories and friendship. The Bible refers to the Sabbath day as "holy," which means "different or set apart." "Day Off" is unlike any other day of the week (Exodus 20:8-11). God must have realized when he created the Sabbath that it would enrich every area of our human life. Sabbath keeping goes against the grain of a world that is too busy to care. It is life in slower motion. For this reason, Sabbath encourages the sharing of our stories, dreams, fears, and even testimonies. That's why we were not created to experience Sabbath in isolation. I wonder if biblical Sabbath keeping could become a powerful, counter cultural strategy in a world which thirsts for freedom from overwork and isolation. In a world in desperate need of God and godly relationships. In a world that yearns for shalom.

Our Favorite Proverbs: Proverbs 3:21-24, God's Wisdom Calms Fear

by Marilynn Chadwick "My son, do not let wisdom and understanding out of your sight... When you lie down, you will not be afraid; when you lie down, your sleep will be sweet." Proverbs 3:21-24 NIV God's wisdom gives us practical tips on how to live well. His Sabbath command to take a day off each week not only provides rest but it can also decrease our worries. Did you know that in addition to "not working" on the Sabbath, the observant Jew also practices "not worrying?" Seriously. How does one "not worry?" A friend once coined this snappy little acronym: W.O.R.R.Y: "Worry Only Robs Rest from You." It's true. Worry is exhausting. After some honest reflection, I've come to realize that worry actually drains my energy way more than work does. Worry (translated as "I really, really care") seems more logical, even useful. I have plenty of excuses: I have a vivid imagination. I have lots to do. There are so many people I care about. Worry just comes with the territory, right? I've been reflected on the Apostle Paul's words about worry: "Don't worry about anything; instead, pray about everything." Next, he says to "Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done" (Phil 4:6 NLT). Training tips about worry from a guy in prison and in danger of getting killed. But look at the amazing promise that follows: "Then you will experience God's peace, which exceeds anything we can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus." Philippians 4:7 NLT As believers in Jesus, we're not obligated to keep Sabbath according to any particular formula or law. But Paul's method of prayer sounds like a much better use of my energy than worrying. I wonder if turning my "cares into prayers," in the words of Charles Spurgeon, might be the way to stop this pesky Sabbath thief at the door? Not worrying on the Sabbath—or any other day for that matter—is new territory. I truly want to learn to walk more solidly in my faith and drive out worry. Perhaps you have a few useful tips for how you deal with worry. Why not talk and share them with a family member or friend. Remember, we're all in this together. Let's encourage each other as we learn how to experience a worry-free Sabbath rest.

Our Favorite Proverbs: Proverbs 3:9,10 - God's Wisdom Comes with an Off Switch

by Marilynn Chadwick "Honor the Lord with your wealth, with the first fruits of all your crops; then your barns will be filled to overflowing, and your vats will brim over with new wine." Proverbs 3:9,10 NIV It's been said that Americans are the only people who worship our work, work at our play, and play at our worship. But according to the Bible, honoring God with the tithe of our finances, our "first fruits," comes with the promise of material provision. Similarly, taking a day off each week honors God with the "first fruits" of our time. We trust him to multiply our work, even as we rest. The word Sabbath, or sabat in Hebrew, means "to cease, desist, rest." Put another way, Sabbath simply means to stop working. The very first use of sabat in the Bible is in the Creation narrative: "By the seventh day God had finished the work he had been doing; so on the seventh day he rested from all his work. Then God blessed the seventh day and made it holy, because on it he rested from all the work of creating that he had done" (Genesis 2:2,3 NIV). Sabbath can be described as taking one day each week to rest from our work. Work six days and rest one, a rhythm which follows God's pattern as Creator. Work and rest are holy. Both are an example of what it means to be created in the image of God. Perhaps we can learn a few tips on Sabbath-keeping from observant Jews. Worship, rest, family time, taking a walk, and reading are among the activities considered good Sabbath practices for the faithful Jew. What is not good on the Sabbath can be summed up in three words: work, commerce [shopping and spending], and worry. When God gave Moses the law, he reminded him of how he brought the Israelites out of slavery. As if to say, "slaves cannot take a day off; only free people can" (Exodus 20:2). Sabbath rest is a weekly testimony against the perpetual grind of a slave's work. It gives us a picture of who God is and what it means to be created to be in his image. God's fourth commandment, "Remember the Sabbath day by keeping it holy" reminds us of Creation. More words are used to explain this one command than any of the other nine (Exodus 20: 8-11). Sabbath makes space for nurturing our families, our church, and our communities. Sabbath-keeping helps us care for our souls in an age when many are desperately thirsty for peace. Rest from our work is also a theological theme woven throughout the Bible. It describes the liberating life of grace for the believer who has found true rest in Christ's salvation. Perhaps St. Augustine could have been hinting at our need for Sabbath rest when he made this famous statement in his Confessions: "You have made us for yourself, O Lord, and our heart is restless until it rests in you."

Our Favorite Proverbs: Proverbs 3:5,6 - God's Wisdom Brings Peace

by Marilynn Chadwick "Trust in the Lord with all your heart and do not lean on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight." Proverbs 3:5,6 Trusting God's wisdom influences how we work and how we rest. Yesterday, we saw how taking a day off, a Sabbath, is a tangible way of relying on God's provision rather than on our own continuous labor. Plus, it's simply good for us as humans. I've recently noticed both men and women who are increasingly overwhelmed by their workload, as they balance jobs, caring for families, housework, exercise, and even church. Work hours and stress are up, and sleep and family time are down for all classes of employed Americans, according to recent studies. The book of Proverbs speaks about the work/rest rhythm ordained by God. As we trust the Lord with every area of life, he promises to make our "paths straight." How does Sabbath keeping, this once-a-week rest, bring much needed peace to those who embrace it? I've been drawn to Jesus's promise of rest after observing some very "exhausted souls" lately. Exhaustion can manifest itself as anxiety, depression, illness, or addiction. You may be working harder, running faster, accomplishing more, but who's watching out for your soul? Let's take a moment to reflect on these words from Jesus himself: "Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light" (Matthew 11:28-30). Since the time of ancient Israel, Sabbath-keeping has been life-giving for God's people. I wonder if Sabbath-keeping—in whatever ways we choose to practice it—might help set us free from the weight of unhealthy expectations and lessen the anxieties of fast-paced living? Sabbath is more than just a ritual or regulation. For Christians, Sabbath is designed by God to be a way of life. "So then, there remains a Sabbath rest for the people of God, for whoever has entered God's rest has also rested from his works as God did from his. Let us therefore strive to enter that rest, so that no one may fall by the same sort of disobedience" (Hebrews 4:9-11). Sabbath makes space for nurturing our families, our church, and our communities. Sabbath-keeping also helps us care for our souls in an age when many are thirsty for inner peace. And just maybe it could help us reconnect with God and with one another.

Our Favorite Proverbs: Proverbs 9:10, God's Wisdom Gives Rest

by Marilynn Chadwick "The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom, and knowledge of the Holy One is understanding." Proverbs 9:10 NIV The "fear of the Lord" brings wisdom that far exceeds our understanding. After all, God knows humans better than anyone. From the very beginning, he ordained a Sabbath. So, it would make sense that living according to God's wisdom and taking one day off every week would strengthen every area of life—our work, our rest, and our relationships. I'm reminded of the time David and I were invited to teach a marriage seminar to a gathering of young couples. We each made a separate list of our "Top Ten Marriage Tips." However, we decided not to reveal the results of our lists to one another until the moment we actually presented the message. It was fun to compare the different habits and insights we each felt had strengthened our marriage. When it came time for "the reveal," turns out David and I had chosen exactly the same "Number One Marriage Tip." It was simply this: Take one day off together every week. In other words, "Keep your Sabbath." Ironically, this was the very same advice our first ministry-couple mentors had shared with us way back when we were newlyweds. We took their advice to heart and many years later, we still take our day off together each week. If you factor it over our 48 years of marriage and ministry, together, that's well over 2000 Sabbaths! We have landed on some practices which make this day special, fun, even holy. We look forward to our weekly ritual of enjoying our favorite coffee in a quiet setting surrounded by nature. Often, we journal our specific prayer needs and give thanks for answers to prayer. Sometimes we enjoy a great movie and special treats. But it's more about the regularity of our Sabbath than any specific ritual. God seems so very present on those sacred, sanctified, set apart days. Our weekly Day Off has become more than simply time away from work— it is a "want to," not a "have to." A gift of grace. God knew what he was doing when he created Sabbath rest. Over the years, as we have followed his wisdom and not our own, these weekly Sabbaths provided life-giving boundaries and created space for our marriage and children to flourish. What are some practical ways you can begin to practice God's "rhythm of rest?" For more inspiration and insight on how to cultivate a flourishing marriage click here [https://www.momentsofhopechurch.org/books] to download a free copy of 8 Great Ways to Honor your Wife by David Chadwick and 8 Great Ways to Honor your Husband by Marilynn Chadwick.