EP 83: Hot and Cold Love: Breaking Your Addiction to Emotionally Unavailable Partners

EP 83: Hot and Cold Love: Breaking Your Addiction to Emotionally Unavailable Partners

Have you ever confused chemistry with chaos? Do you find yourself constantly chasing someone who gives you just enough attention to keep you hooked, only to pull away again? In this episode of the Beyond You Podcast, Samantha dives deep into the psychology behind hot and cold relationships, emotional unavailability, trauma bonds, anxious attachment, and why inconsistent love can feel so addictive. You'll learn: ✨ Why emotionally unavailable people feel so magnetic ✨ The neuroscience behind the hot-and-cold cycle ✨ How childhood experiences shape relationship patterns ✨ The difference between chemistry and emotional safety ✨ Why healthy love can initially feel "boring" ✨ Practical steps to break the cycle of emotional inconsistency ✨ How to build the capacity to receive secure, consistent love If you've ever wondered why you keep attracting emotionally unavailable partners or why letting go feels impossible, this episode will help you understand what's really happening beneath the surface, and how to start healing. --TIMESTAMPS: 00:00 Hot And Cold Hook 02:44 Signs Of Unavailability 05:44 Addicted Nervous System 07:29 Childhood And Codependency 10:20 Turn The Lens Inward 13:10 Practical Pattern Breaks 15:47 New Standards And Rituals 18:48 Closing Affirmation --#RelationshipAdvice #DatingAdvice #ToxicRelationships #HealthyRelationships #EmotionalHealing #AnxiousAttachment #AttachmentTheory #SelfLove #SelfWorth #MentalHealth #RelationshipAdvice #DatingAdvice #SelfLove #SelfWorth #MentalHealth #Healing #PersonalGrowth #SelfImprovement 🎧Tune in now! New journal: "I Miss Me: A Journal for the Version of You You've Been Neglecting" [https://stan.store/movingbeyondyou/p/i-miss-me-a-journal-for-the-version-of-you-youve]  New ebook with journal bundle: “Reclaiming You: The 3-Step Blueprint Every Woman Needs After a Toxic Love” [https://stan.store/movingbeyondyou/p/reclaiming-you-ebook--i-miss-me-journal-bundle] 💌 Ready to stop shrinking and start healing for real? Get on the VIP list for weekly content you can actually use: [bit.ly/fthjournal [http://bit.ly/fthjournal]] Curious if you're truly ready for love? Chat with our GPT [https://hustling-mover-691.kit.com/21c53a9d3e] and find out!  Connect with me: Youtube channel:⁠ ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@movingbeyondyou⁠⁠ [https://www.youtube.com/@movingbeyondyou] Instagram:⁠ ⁠https://www.instagram.com/iamsamantha.a/⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/iamsamantha.a/] Tiktok:⁠ ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@movingbeyondyou⁠⁠ [https://www.tiktok.com/@movingbeyondyou] Substack: ⁠https://substack.com/@movingbeyondyou⁠ [https://substack.com/@movingbeyondyou]

EP 82: How To Stop Self-Sabotage And Get What You Deserve

Do you find yourself pushing away love, support, or peace, even when it’s what you truly want? In this video, I discuss the real reason behind self-sabotage and how unhealed trauma, relationship patterns, and inner child wounds can sneak into your daily life, keeping you stuck in a cycle of self-protection. ✨ Start your healing journey today! Download the 'I MISS ME' journal and rediscover the woman you've been missing: https://stan.store/movingbeyondyou/p/i-miss-me-a-journal-for-the-version-of-you-youve But it doesn’t have to be this way. I walk you through why you might push healthy love away, how your past might be controlling your present, and how to break the cycle of self-sabotage for good.You’re not broken. You just haven’t been shown how to receive love and peace without fear. Let’s change that.In this video, I share:Why do you push love and peace How unhealed trauma and your inner child might be in Real signs of self-sabotage and how to stop How to create emotional safety within yourselfIf this resonates with you, drop a comment below, and let’s talk about how we can break free from self-sabotage and start living the life we deserve. 🎧Tune in now! New journal: "I Miss Me: A Journal for the Version of You You've Been Neglecting" [https://stan.store/movingbeyondyou/p/i-miss-me-a-journal-for-the-version-of-you-youve]  New ebook with journal bundle: “Reclaiming You: The 3-Step Blueprint Every Woman Needs After a Toxic Love” [https://stan.store/movingbeyondyou/p/reclaiming-you-ebook--i-miss-me-journal-bundle] 💌 Ready to stop shrinking and start healing for real? Get on the VIP list for weekly content you can actually use: [bit.ly/fthjournal [http://bit.ly/fthjournal]] Curious if you're truly ready for love? Chat with our GPT [https://hustling-mover-691.kit.com/21c53a9d3e] and find out!  Connect with me: Youtube channel:⁠ ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@movingbeyondyou⁠⁠ [https://www.youtube.com/@movingbeyondyou] Instagram:⁠ ⁠https://www.instagram.com/iamsamantha.a/⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/iamsamantha.a/] Tiktok:⁠ ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@movingbeyondyou⁠⁠ [https://www.tiktok.com/@movingbeyondyou] Substack: ⁠https://substack.com/@movingbeyondyou⁠ [https://substack.com/@movingbeyondyou]

EP 80: If I Wanted to Leave a Toxic Relationship, I'd Do This First

The hardest part of a toxic relationship isn’t the arguments, it’s the painful gap between knowing you need to leave and actually walking out the door. In this episode of the Beyond You Podcast, licensed therapist Samantha Saunders breaks down the hidden reasons why smart, self-aware women stay. If you are a high-functioning woman or a professional woman of color who is tired of "performing fine" while quietly disappearing inside a relationship that is costing you your peace, this episode is for you. No checklists, no lectures, just a raw, therapeutic blueprint on what to do first when you know it's over, how your nervous system traps you in the familiar, and how to finally come home to yourself. TIMESTAMP: 00:00 The Gap Between Knowing 01:54 Why This Episode Matters 03:30 Maya Story And The Truth 06:32 Step One Radical Honesty 11:17 Step Two Safe Container 16:47 Step Three Plan Your Exit 22:04 Step Four Stop Waiting 28:51 Closing Come Home To You 🎧Tune in now! New journal: "I Miss Me: A Journal for the Version of You You've Been Neglecting" [https://stan.store/movingbeyondyou/p/i-miss-me-a-journal-for-the-version-of-you-youve]  New ebook with journal bundle: “Reclaiming You: The 3-Step Blueprint Every Woman Needs After a Toxic Love” [https://stan.store/movingbeyondyou/p/reclaiming-you-ebook--i-miss-me-journal-bundle] 💌 Ready to stop shrinking and start healing for real? Get on the VIP list for weekly content you can actually use: [bit.ly/fthjournal [http://bit.ly/fthjournal]] Curious if you're truly ready for love? Chat with our GPT [https://hustling-mover-691.kit.com/21c53a9d3e] and find out!  Connect with me: Youtube channel:⁠ ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@movingbeyondyou⁠⁠ [https://www.youtube.com/@movingbeyondyou] Instagram:⁠ ⁠https://www.instagram.com/iamsamantha.a/⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/iamsamantha.a/] Tiktok:⁠ ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@movingbeyondyou⁠⁠ [https://www.tiktok.com/@movingbeyondyou] Substack: ⁠https://substack.com/@movingbeyondyou⁠ [https://substack.com/@movingbeyondyou] #ToxicRelationships #RelationshipAdvice #TraumaBond #PeoplePleasing #BreakupHealing #WomenOfColor #BeyondYouPodcast

EP 79: How Your Relationships Impact Who You're Becoming with Patrice Washington

🎙️ Can toxic relationships be keeping you broke? In this powerful episode of Beyond You Podcast, Samantha sits down with wealth expert and bestselling author Patrice Washington to uncover the surprising connection between relationships, healing, boundaries, and building lasting wealth. Most people think wealth is only about money, but Patrice reveals why your relationships, environment, mindset, and emotional well-being directly impact your financial success. Together, they explore how toxic relationships, people-pleasing, family expectations, unhealthy marriages, and misaligned friendships can silently sabotage your goals, finances, and future. If you've been doing the work to heal, set boundaries, and choose yourself, this conversation will help you understand that you're not just protecting your peace, you're building wealth. 🎧Tune in now! ✨Check out Patrice Washington's page: https://patricewashington.com/ New journal: "I Miss Me: A Journal for the Version of You You've Been Neglecting" [https://stan.store/movingbeyondyou/p/i-miss-me-a-journal-for-the-version-of-you-youve]  New ebook with journal bundle: “Reclaiming You: The 3-Step Blueprint Every Woman Needs After a Toxic Love” [https://stan.store/movingbeyondyou/p/reclaiming-you-ebook--i-miss-me-journal-bundle] 💌 Ready to stop shrinking and start healing for real? Get on the VIP list for weekly content you can actually use: [bit.ly/fthjournal [http://bit.ly/fthjournal]] Curious if you're truly ready for love? Chat with our GPT [https://hustling-mover-691.kit.com/21c53a9d3e] and find out!  Connect with me: Youtube channel:⁠ ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@movingbeyondyou⁠⁠ [https://www.youtube.com/@movingbeyondyou] Instagram:⁠ ⁠https://www.instagram.com/iamsamantha.a/⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/iamsamantha.a/] Tiktok:⁠ ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@movingbeyondyou⁠⁠ [https://www.tiktok.com/@movingbeyondyou] Substack: ⁠https://substack.com/@movingbeyondyou⁠ [https://substack.com/@movingbeyondyou] #BeyondYouPodcast #PatriceWashington #WealthBuilding #FinancialFreedom #ToxicRelationships #Boundaries #PersonalGrowth #SelfWorth #WomenEmpowerment #HealingJourney #FinancialPsychology #RelationshipAdvice #MindsetShift #HealthyRelationships #EmotionalHealing #MoneyMindset #PersonalDevelopment #MentalHealthAwareness #SelfGrowth #RedefiningWealth

EP 78: Forgiveness vs. Moving On: What It Actually Takes to Heal

What if you never forgive them? What if you move on, build an amazing life, heal completely, and you still never forgive what they did? In this episode, Samantha challenges the cultural and religious pressure of "forgiveness culture" and reveals a truth nobody is talking about: forgiveness and moving on are not the same thing. If you’ve been trapped in a guilt loop trying to force a feeling you don't genuinely have, this conversation is your permission slip to stop. We break down the sneaky way forced forgiveness protects harm doers, why cultural and family expectations keep you stuck, and the practical 5-step roadmap to completely reclaim your life, space, and peace, all without ever handing out an apology they didn't earn. You aren't bitter; you're boundaried. Let's talk about what you actually need to be free. 🎧Tune in now! New journal: "I Miss Me: A Journal for the Version of You You've Been Neglecting" [https://stan.store/movingbeyondyou/p/i-miss-me-a-journal-for-the-version-of-you-youve]  New ebook with journal bundle: “Reclaiming You: The 3-Step Blueprint Every Woman Needs After a Toxic Love” [https://stan.store/movingbeyondyou/p/reclaiming-you-ebook--i-miss-me-journal-bundle] 💌 Ready to stop shrinking and start healing for real? Get on the VIP list for weekly content you can actually use: [bit.ly/fthjournal [http://bit.ly/fthjournal]] Curious if you're truly ready for love? Chat with our GPT [https://hustling-mover-691.kit.com/21c53a9d3e] and find out!  Connect with me: Youtube channel:⁠ ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@movingbeyondyou⁠⁠ [https://www.youtube.com/@movingbeyondyou] Instagram:⁠ ⁠https://www.instagram.com/iamsamantha.a/⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/iamsamantha.a/] Tiktok:⁠ ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@movingbeyondyou⁠⁠ [https://www.tiktok.com/@movingbeyondyou] Substack: ⁠https://substack.com/@movingbeyondyou⁠ [https://substack.com/@movingbeyondyou] #Forgiveness #MovingOn #HealingJourney #RelationshipAdvice #BreakupRecovery #LettingGo #SelfGrowth #PodcastRecommendation #MentalHealthMatters #Closure