Conversations with Vivian

The People-Pleasing Trap

22 min · 15 de jun de 2026
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Why is it so hard to disappoint people. Why do so many of us say yes when we mean no, stay silent when we want to speak, and sacrifice our own needs to keep everyone else comfortable. In this solo episode of Conversations with Vivian: Audio Series, Vivian explores the roots of people-pleasing, the fear of rejection that often drives it, and the emotional cost of constantly seeking approval. She unpacks the difference between kindness and self-abandonment, why boundaries often feel guilty at first, and how authenticity requires the courage to disappoint others sometimes. This is a conversation about identity, self-worth, and learning to stop earning love through performance. Because freedom begins when you no longer need everyone to agree with who you are. Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/conversations-with-vivian--6859957/support [https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/conversations-with-vivian--6859957/support?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=rss].

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The People-Pleasing Trap

Why is it so hard to disappoint people. Why do so many of us say yes when we mean no, stay silent when we want to speak, and sacrifice our own needs to keep everyone else comfortable. In this solo episode of Conversations with Vivian: Audio Series, Vivian explores the roots of people-pleasing, the fear of rejection that often drives it, and the emotional cost of constantly seeking approval. She unpacks the difference between kindness and self-abandonment, why boundaries often feel guilty at first, and how authenticity requires the courage to disappoint others sometimes. This is a conversation about identity, self-worth, and learning to stop earning love through performance. Because freedom begins when you no longer need everyone to agree with who you are. Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/conversations-with-vivian--6859957/support [https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/conversations-with-vivian--6859957/support?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=rss].

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Portada del episodio The People-Pleasing Trap

The People-Pleasing Trap

Why is it so hard to disappoint people. Why do so many of us say yes when we mean no, stay silent when we want to speak, and sacrifice our own needs to keep everyone else comfortable. In this solo episode of Conversations with Vivian: Audio Series, Vivian explores the roots of people-pleasing, the fear of rejection that often drives it, and the emotional cost of constantly seeking approval. She unpacks the difference between kindness and self-abandonment, why boundaries often feel guilty at first, and how authenticity requires the courage to disappoint others sometimes. This is a conversation about identity, self-worth, and learning to stop earning love through performance. Because freedom begins when you no longer need everyone to agree with who you are. Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/conversations-with-vivian--6859957/support [https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/conversations-with-vivian--6859957/support?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=rss].

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