EP 35: When Loving Others Means Losing Yourself

EP 35: When Loving Others Means Losing Yourself

In this episode, Lori shares a personal part of her own boundary journey and reflects on insights she gained while reading I Choose Me by Jennie Garth. She explores the difference between codependence and healthy interdependence, explains the concept of self-abandonment through a biblical lens, and unpacks what Galatians 6 teaches about carrying one another's burdens without taking responsibility for someone else's life. If you've ever struggled with people-pleasing, trying to fix others, or feeling responsible for everyone else's happiness, this episode offers hope and practical encouragement to help you become deeply rooted in Christ while loving others without losing yourself. In This Episode * My personal journey with codependency and people-pleasing * The difference between codependence and healthy interdependence * The powerful illustration of tangled vines versus healthy trees * What self-abandonment looks like in everyday life * How these same patterns can show up in motherhood * The biblical difference between carrying someone's burden and carrying someone's load * Why healthy boundaries allow us to love people without losing ourselves * Three questions to help identify unhealthy responsibility QUESTIONS 1. Where in my life have I confused loving someone with carrying responsibilities that belong to them? 2. Have I slowly abandoned my own relationship with God, health, or calling while trying to take care of everyone else? 3. This week, what burden do I need to hand back to God instead of continuing to carry it myself? RELATED EPISODES EP: 29: Healthy Boundaries 101: What They Are and What They Are Not EP 30: The Midweek Reset: Healthy Boundaries Are More Yes Than No EP 31: Why Boundaries Are the Missing Piece of Organization RESOURCES & LINKS Purchase the book on Boundaries written by: Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend https://www.amazon.com/dp/0310351804?lv=shuf&channelId=500&plpRedirect=mhFallback Become a Healthy Boundaries for Moms Insider 🙌 Join the weekly newsletter for encouragement, practical strategies, boundaries support, organization tips, and Midweek Resets. Sign up for our Newsletter at: https://www.healthyboundariesformoms.com/connect [https://www.healthyboundariesformoms.com/connect] Join the Facebook Community: https://bit.ly/4t6aKyl [https://bit.ly/4t6aKyl] CONNECT WITH ME Website: www.healthyboundariesformoms.com [http://www.healthyboundariesformoms.com] Instagram: @healthyboundariesformoms TikTok: @healthyboundariesformoms Facebook Group: Healthy Boundaries for Moms👉 https://bit.ly/4t6aKyl Email: hello@healthyboundariesformoms.com PODCAST CREDITS Podcast: Healthy Boundaries for Moms with Lori Grimes Edited by William Grimes Music by JonasBlakewood from Pixabay

EP 34: The Midweek Reset: Stop Setting Boundaries Before Doing This

Have you ever made a decision in the heat of the moment that you later regretted? In this Midweek Reset, Lori shares a personal story about reacting out of feelings of rejection, disappointment, and anger—and how what felt like a boundary at the time was actually a reaction to pain. Many of us recognize when something feels off, but we skip an important step between identifying our feelings and setting a boundary. We react instead of pausing. We make quick decisions instead of seeking wisdom. In this episode, you'll learn why feelings are valuable messengers but poor decision-makers, how to create space between your emotions and your actions, and why prayer, discernment, and self-control are essential parts of healthy boundary-setting. If you've ever blocked someone, fired off a text, quit a commitment, or made a decision you later regretted, this episode will help you develop a healthier process: Feel. Pause. Pray. Proceed. In This Episode * Why feelings are important but shouldn't drive our decisions * The difference between a healthy boundary and a reactionary response * Lori's personal story of reacting out of hurt and later needing to apologize * How fear, disappointment, rejection, anger, resentment, and FOMO can signal a need for deeper reflection * Why prayer and discernment are critical before setting boundaries * Practical phrases to help you create space before responding * A simple framework for making wise boundary decisions QUESTIONS * Is there a recent situation where I reacted quickly instead of taking time to pause and process my emotions? * What feeling tends to trigger reactionary decisions for me—anger, rejection, disappointment, fear, resentment, or something else? * What would it look like for me to practice "Feel. Pause. Pray. Proceed." the next time I'm emotionally triggered?   RELATED EPISODES EP: 29: Healthy Boundaries 101: What They Are and What They Are Not EP 30: The Midweek Reset: Healthy Boundaries Are More Yes Than No EP 31: Why Boundaries Are the Missing Piece of Organization RESOURCES & LINKS Purchase the book on Boundaries written by: Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend https://www.amazon.com/dp/0310351804?lv=shuf&channelId=500&plpRedirect=mhFallback Become a Healthy Boundaries for Moms Insider 🙌 Join the weekly newsletter for encouragement, practical strategies, boundaries support, organization tips, and Midweek Resets. Sign up for our Newsletter at: https://www.healthyboundariesformoms.com/connect [https://www.healthyboundariesformoms.com/connect] Join the Facebook Community: https://bit.ly/4t6aKyl [https://bit.ly/4t6aKyl] CONNECT WITH ME Website: www.healthyboundariesformoms.com [http://www.healthyboundariesformoms.com] Instagram: @healthyboundariesformoms TikTok: @healthyboundariesformoms Facebook Group: Healthy Boundaries for Moms👉 https://bit.ly/4t6aKyl Email: hello@healthyboundariesformoms.com PODCAST CREDITS Podcast: Healthy Boundaries for Moms with Lori Grimes Edited by William Grimes Music by JonasBlakewood from Pixabay

EP 33: Don't Make This Mistake When You Set Boundaries

Setting boundaries isn't something you master overnight—it's a skill that requires practice. In this episode, Lori shares her personal boundary journey that began in 2008 through recovery work for codependency and people-pleasing. She discusses how she once mistook anger for a boundary, only to discover that anger is often a warning light signaling that a healthy boundary is needed. Together, we'll explore practical ways to begin building your boundary muscle through baby steps, practicing with safe people, learning from others, and inviting trusted people into the process. You'll also learn why boundaries aren't a destination you arrive at but a lifelong practice that grows and changes with every season of life. If you've ever felt overwhelmed by the idea of setting boundaries, this episode will encourage you to start small, seek support, and trust that God often works through small beginnings. In This Episode * Lori's personal boundary journey that began in 2008 * Why anger is often a warning light rather than a boundary * The importance of practicing "baby no's" * How to identify safe people to practice boundaries with * Why community matters when learning boundary skills * How observing other people's boundaries can help you develop your own * Inviting trusted people into your growth process * Why healthy boundaries often give others permission to grow too * Understanding that boundaries are a lifelong practice, not a finish line * How to use the Healthy Boundaries for Moms Facebook community for support and accountability QUESTIONS 1. What is one small boundary, or "baby no," that you can practice this week? 2. Who is a safe person in your life that can support, encourage, or help hold you accountable as you work on healthier boundaries? 3. What is one area of your life where you may need to stop waiting until you're frustrated or overwhelmed and start communicating a boundary sooner?   RELATED EPISODES EP: 29: Healthy Boundaries 101: What They Are and What They Are Not EP 30: The Midweek Reset: Healthy Boundaries Are More Yes Than No EP 31: Why Boundaries Are the Missing Piece of Organization RESOURCES & LINKS Purchase the book on Boundaries written by: Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend https://www.amazon.com/dp/0310351804?lv=shuf&channelId=500&plpRedirect=mhFallback Become a Healthy Boundaries for Moms Insider 🙌 Join the weekly newsletter for encouragement, practical strategies, boundaries support, organization tips, and Midweek Resets. Sign up for our Newsletter at: https://www.healthyboundariesformoms.com/connect [https://www.healthyboundariesformoms.com/connect] Join the Facebook Community: https://bit.ly/4t6aKyl [https://bit.ly/4t6aKyl] CONNECT WITH ME Website: www.healthyboundariesformoms.com [http://www.healthyboundariesformoms.com] Instagram: @healthyboundariesformoms TikTok: @healthyboundariesformoms Facebook Group: Healthy Boundaries for Moms👉 https://bit.ly/4t6aKyl Email: hello@healthyboundariesformoms.com PODCAST CREDITS Podcast: Healthy Boundaries for Moms with Lori Grimes Edited by William Grimes Music by JonasBlakewood from Pixabay

EP 32: The Midweek Reset: What Are Your Warning Lights?

What if the emotions you're struggling with aren't the problem at all? In this Midweek Reset, Lori explores how feelings such as anger, resentment, overwhelm, and frustration can serve as warning lights that alert us when a boundary needs attention. Using the analogy of a vehicle dashboard, she explains how emotions provide valuable information—not direction—and how Scripture encourages us to respond with wisdom rather than reaction. Drawing from James 1:19-20, Ephesians 4:15, and Ephesians 4:26, this episode challenges listeners to stop ignoring the warning lights and start asking better questions. Instead of asking, "What's wrong with me?" Lori encourages moms to ask, "What is this feeling trying to tell me?" and "What boundary needs attention?" Listeners will walk away with practical ways to identify emotional warning lights, evaluate their responsibilities and priorities, and create healthier boundaries rooted in truth, wisdom, and biblical stewardship. Key Points 1. Boundaries Come With Warning Lights * God designed us with emotional indicators. * Feelings are not meant to drive our decisions. * Feelings can provide valuable information. * The goal is not to ignore the warning light. * The goal is to investigate it. 2. Anger Is a Messenger, Not a Manager * Anger is not automatically sinful. * Paul acknowledges anger will happen. * Anger should not control our responses. * Anger often points to an issue that needs attention. 3. Common Boundary Warning Lights * Anger * Frustration * Resentment * Overwhelm * Exhaustion * Irritability 4. What Warning Lights Might Be Telling Us * You've said yes too many times. * You're carrying responsibilities that belong to someone else. * You've neglected an important conversation. * Your schedule is crowded with good things. * You've prioritized everyone else's needs while ignoring your own God-given responsibilities. 5. Healthy Boundaries Are Built From Wisdom * Healthy boundaries tell the truth. * Healthy boundaries honor relationships. * Healthy boundaries communicate expectations. * Healthy boundaries protect what God has entrusted to us. QUESTIONS 1. What warning light has been flashing in my life lately? 2. What emotion have I been ignoring? 3. What boundary needs attention? RELATED EPISODES EP: 29: Healthy Boundaries 101: What They Are and What They Are Not EP 30: The Midweek Reset: Healthy Boundaries Are More Yes Than No EP 31: Why Boundaries Are the Missing Piece of Organization RESOURCES & LINKS Become a Healthy Boundaries for Moms Insider 🙌 Join the weekly newsletter for encouragement, practical strategies, boundaries support, organization tips, and Midweek Resets. Sign up for our Newsletter at: https://www.healthyboundariesformoms.com/connect [https://www.healthyboundariesformoms.com/connect] Join the Facebook Community: https://bit.ly/4t6aKyl [https://bit.ly/4t6aKyl] CONNECT WITH ME Website: www.healthyboundariesformoms.com [http://www.healthyboundariesformoms.com] Instagram: @healthyboundariesformoms TikTok: @healthyboundariesformoms Facebook Group: Healthy Boundaries for Moms👉 https://bit.ly/4t6aKyl Email: hello@healthyboundariesformoms.com PODCAST CREDITS Podcast: Healthy Boundaries for Moms with Lori Grimes Edited by William Grimes Music by JonasBlakewood from Pixabay

EP 31: Why Boundaries Are the Missing Piece of Organization

Have you ever felt like no matter how many planners, calendars, apps, or routines you try, life still feels overwhelming? The problem may not be your organization system. In this episode, we're exploring why healthy boundaries are the foundation of organization. Because before you can organize your time, you have to decide what deserves a place on your calendar in the first place. We'll discuss how boundaries protect your priorities, reduce overwhelm, create margin, and help bring your schedule back into alignment with what matters most. If you're tired of feeling scattered, stretched thin, and constantly trying to catch up, this episode will help you see organization through a completely different lens. In This Episode, You'll Learn: ✔ Why organization starts with boundaries, not planners ✔ How healthy boundaries act like walls that protect your time and energy ✔ The surprising math behind "small yeses" ✔ Why saying yes to everything creates chaos ✔ How boundaries help align your calendar with your priorities ✔ One practical question to help you identify where a boundary is missing QUESTIONS 1. What area of your life currently feels the most chaotic? 2. What boundary might help bring more order to that area? 3. Do your calendar and commitments reflect your actual priorities? RELATED EPISODES EP: 10: Do You Wish You Felt More Peaceful and In Control? Here's Why You're Not Holding Your Boundaries EP: 12: Feeling Guilty Setting Boundaries? What the Bible Really Says About Boundaries, Peace, and People-Pleasing EP: 29: Healthy Boundaries 101: What They Are and What They Are Not RESOURCES & LINKS Become a Healthy Boundaries for Moms Insider 🙌 Join the weekly newsletter for encouragement, practical strategies, boundaries support, organization tips, and Midweek Resets. Sign up for our Newsletter at: https://www.healthyboundariesformoms.com/connect [https://www.healthyboundariesformoms.com/connect] Join the Facebook Community: https://bit.ly/4t6aKyl [https://bit.ly/4t6aKyl] CONNECT WITH ME Website: www.healthyboundariesformoms.com [http://www.healthyboundariesformoms.com] Instagram: @healthyboundariesformoms TikTok: @healthyboundariesformoms Facebook Group: Healthy Boundaries for Moms👉 https://bit.ly/4t6aKyl Email: hello@healthyboundariesformoms.com PODCAST CREDITS Podcast: Healthy Boundaries for Moms with Lori Grimes Edited by William Grimes Music by JonasBlakewood from Pixabay