A Touch Of Gay #65: Keep Building Utopia

A Touch Of Gay #65: Keep Building Utopia

We Must Keep Moving Forward No Matter What Check In: * Camping weekend with the chosen family * SLATE EV pickup truck pre-order From “Surviving Anti-LGBT Politics Part 10”: Keep Building Utopia “During the darkest days of the AIDS crisis, we buried our friends in the morning, we protested in the afternoon, and we danced all night. The dance kept us in the fight because it was the dance we were fighting for. It didn’t look like we were going to win then and we did. It doesn’t feel like we’re going to win now but we could. Keep fighting, keep dancing.” -Dan Savage We Must Keep Moving Forward No Matter What For many of us there has always been a fight. For most of us there will be a fight ahead. We must have something worth fighting for, a win in our days worth the blood, sweat and tears. In the fight we must never forget to keep building our lives as we have always wanted them to be. We must not lose ourselves in the fight. Continue reaching for your dreams, knowing these trying times will cement them deep in your foundations of life. Take new opportunities to educate yourself, learn new skills, try new things – build your better self. Come out on the other side of these times with a stronger passion, skill set, purpose and direction. Keep building community. Build new alliances and friendships with the people we meet in the battles, share your passions and your energies with them. Join in the celebrations, the fights, and the communion of your brothers and sisters. Welcome new friends into these circles and give them the support they need too. We all need each other now more than ever. Never stop creating beauty and celebrating our culture. We are beautiful people who express our color and vibrancy in ways many on this earth wish they could. It’s our superpower, and the one many of those who oppose us are most afraid of. Art, culture, color and celebration of life is why we are who we are. Full speed ahead. Be who you are without shame or apology. Our beauty and capacity to love is the thing that makes us special. We need to be visible, vibrant, colorful and joyous. Our example of a good life is the one we must never hide, edit down, discount or put in the closet. Be seen, be heard, you are good. We deserve our place on this earth and in the fabric of society. We are worthy of equality, love, respect, freedom, and our place at the table of life. In this fight, keep your eyes on the main goal of your life and never top building toward your utopia. Please drop your comments on YouTube or email them to daddysam@atouchofgay.com [daddysam@atouchofgay.com] * Website: atouchofgay.com * Facebook, Instagram, Threads, Bluesky: atouchofgaypod * Audio Podcast drops on all major platforms every Sunday * YouTube Podcast drops a day early on Saturday * Our Podcast plays on GayPHX.com streaming radio every Monday at 10:00am This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit atouchofgay.substack.com [https://atouchofgay.substack.com?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_1]

A Touch Of Gay #64: Top 5 Reasons Cruising Is Making A Comeback

Why gay cruising is back, taking our pride back from the MAGA and the corporations. Daily Inspiration: Freeing yourself was one thing, claiming ownership of that freed self was another.” — Toni Morrison Social: Five Reasons Cruising Is Back – Leo Herrera Leo Herrera’s book “Analog Cruising”, a romantic ode to our sacred history and rite of cruising for sex outlines the top seasons cruising is back. We are in a sexual revolution, act accordingly. * Apps keep getting shittier * Weapons against disease * A new appreciation for IRL * A love for our history * Daddies Daddies Daddies Website: https://iftheylived.myshopify.com/ Instagram @herreraimages Pride Month: Will the corporations come back after MAGA? * Who the fuck cares! They are not our friends. They dumped us when the going got tough. We should not be seeking their money or their validation in the future. * We need to self fund and self organize. We have the capability to raise money within our own community, support our local organizations, and create our own opportunities. * We need to get back to our roots of protest and advocacy. Pride is about power, about unity, about progress, and about advocacy. It was never meant to be a circuit party. Pride Month: California county rejects Pride with Traditional Nuclear Family Month * On Tuesday, the Fresno County Board of Supervisors voted 3 to 2 in favor of the resolution, which defines the nuclear family as “consisting of one husband, one wife,” along with children, as “God’s design.” * The resolution was introduced by Chairman of the Board Garry Bredefeld, who announced the plan on June 6, the same day as the Fresno Pride Parade. * This resolution is modeled after similar measures in Republican-led states, including Indiana, Tennessee and Alabama, that celebrate the “traditional” nuclear family in June, despite the month long being associated with LGBTQ+ pride celebrations. * More at https://www.sfgate.com Event: Cumunion Summer * Cumunion sex parties all over the world, all the time * We are in a sexual revolution, act accordingly. * https://www.cumunion.com/ Please drop your comments on YouTube or email them to daddysam@atouchofgay.com [daddysam@atouchofgay.com] * Website: atouchofgay.com * Facebook, Instagram, Threads, Bluesky: atouchofgaypod * Audio Podcast drops on all major platforms every Sunday * YouTube Podcast drops a day early on Saturday * Our Podcast plays on GayPHX.com streaming radio every Monday at 10:00am This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit atouchofgay.substack.com [https://atouchofgay.substack.com?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_1]

A Touch Of Gay #63: Sobriety During Pride Month, Remembering Regina

We remember dear friend Regina Wells (Regina Gazelle), navigating Pride Month sober, and July’s Up Your Alley event in San Francisco. Daily Inspiration: Accept no one’s definition of your life, define yourself – Harvey Fierstein * We were all programmed to some level by family and society to fit a mold * Parents, church, friends, work, school and media all tell us who we should be * Unsubscribe from all of that Check In: * Crazy season events * New high quality microphones Social: Remembering Regina * Regina Gazelle/Wells Health: Sobriety during Pride Month * Social pressure to be elevated * Pride doesn’t have to be about bars and clubs * Seek out sober friends, groups, and events. * If you’re in nightlife while in recovery: * Be honest about your triggers. * Go slowly. * Find ways to be useful instead of just there. * Keep a drink in your hand—it reduces pressure more than you’d think. * Sobriety doesn’t have to mean never going out again but it does mean learning when to leave. Event: Up Your Alley Fair – San Francisco – July 26th, 2026 * Dore Alley is a heavily authentic, sex-positive environment featuring rubber, sportswear, heavy leather, and BDSM gear. Legal nudity is permitted within the event footprint. * Streets are lined with dozens of adult vendors, multiple sound stages with live DJs, go-go dancers, and kink performance areas. * The main Sunday fair is accompanied by a massive weekend of related LGBTQ+ nightlife parties, leather events, and club takeovers running from Friday through Monday. * https://www.folsomstreet.org/up-your-alley [https://www.folsomstreet.org/up-your-alley] Please drop your comments on YouTube or email them to daddysam@atouchofgay.com [daddysam@atouchofgay.com] * Website: atouchofgay.com * Facebook, Instagram, Threads, Bluesky: atouchofgaypod * Audio Podcast drops on all major platforms every Sunday * YouTube Podcast drops a day early on Saturday * Our Podcast plays on GayPHX.com streaming radio every Monday at 10:00am This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit atouchofgay.substack.com [https://atouchofgay.substack.com?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_1]

A Touch Of Gay #62: Pride That Fucks Shit Up

Sparkling takes on Pride month including wisdom from Brian Hettler, upcoming Atlanta Leather Pride weekend in July. Daily Inspiration: Pride is good * Definition: Pride is a primary emotion characterized by a sense of security with one’s identity, performance, and/or accomplishments. * It is sometimes considered the opposite of shame. * Depending on the context, pride may be viewed as either a virtue or a vice. * Typically, pride arises from praise, independent self-reflection, or a fulfilled feeling of belonging. Check In: Weathering the shit show * Disassociating from the white noise of social wars, trying to focus on what’s in front of me. The Pride That Fucks Shit Up – Brian Hettler Happy Pride. Not the corporate Pride. Not the sanitized Pride. Not the Pride that fits neatly into a sponsorship deck or sits politely on a panel discussion while everyone nods at each other and pretends they aren’t terrified of being disliked. I mean loud Pride. The inconvenient Pride. The Pride that shows up wearing six pounds of leather, glitter in places glitter was never meant to go, and enough confidence to make a room full of strangers uncomfortable. The Pride that fucks shits up. Wear the thing. Sing the song. Dance badly. Start the fundraiser. Ask for the five dollars. Get on the microphone. Wave the flag. Make the sign. Thrown the party. Build the organization. Join the board. Volunteer for the shift. Tell the truth. Love your people loudly. Be embarrassingly enthusiastic about making the world better. Instagram @midasheart [https://www.instagram.com/midasheart/] Event: Atlanta Leather Pride – July 24-25 – Atlanta Eagle * Traditional leather contest weekend at historic Atlanta Eagle. * Applications are currently open for those interested in entering * A a focused celebration of leather culture and community standards. * https://atlantaeagle.com/events/atlanta-leather-pride-2026/ [https://atlantaeagle.com/events/atlanta-leather-pride-2026/] Please drop your comments on YouTube or email them to daddysam@atouchofgay.com [daddysam@atouchofgay.com] * Website: atouchofgay.com * Facebook, Instagram, Threads, Bluesky: atouchofgaypod * Audio Podcast drops on all major platforms every Sunday * YouTube Podcast drops a day early on Saturday * Our Podcast plays on GayPHX.com streaming radio every Monday at 10:00am This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit atouchofgay.substack.com [https://atouchofgay.substack.com?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_1]

A Touch Of Gay #61: IMLBB Wrap Up, Pride Month Begins

We congratulate winners of IMLBB 2026, encourage support of local pride celebrations, and more! Daily Inspiration: Brotherhood has no dress code * There is no hard code to be included in the leather or any LGBTQ+ community * Communities are a living, breathing, and evolving body that is never constant * Change happens whether you participation in it or not – doesn’t need your permission Check In: After IMLBB 2026 * Event drop from elation, sexual energy, and inspiration * Bringing spirit and inspiration of event to daily life * No title needed to support your communities Congratulations to IMLBB Winners * Honey Davenport – Mr. Palm Springs Leather * Sgt Alex – Mr Cincinatti Leather * Denzel Belin - Mr. Twin Cities Leather 2026 * Atlas Rose - Route 66 Bootblack 2025 * Jimmy Basset - Northeast Drummer Bootblack 2017 * Pup Verde - Texas Bootblack Pride Month: Support your local community * June is Pride Month across the nation * Pride events and organizations struggling * Support events wherever possible * Pride events calendar on our website: https://atouchofgay.com/events/ [https://atouchofgay.com/events/] Event: Big Bear Romp – August 13-16 – Big Bear, CA * Mountains of Men & Mischief at Big Bear Lake, CA * The Lodge at Big Bear Lake * Thursday to Sunday with events, pools, parties, contests and vendors * Passes available and hotel reservations open now * https://www.bigbearromp.com/ [https://www.bigbearromp.com/] Please drop your comments on YouTube or email them to daddysam@atouchofgay.com [daddysam@atouchofgay.com] * Website: atouchofgay.com * Facebook, Instagram, Threads, Bluesky: atouchofgaypod * Audio Podcast drops on all major platforms every Sunday * YouTube Podcast drops a day early on Saturday * Our Podcast plays on GayPHX.com streaming radio every Monday at 10:00am This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit atouchofgay.substack.com [https://atouchofgay.substack.com?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_1]