Heal From the Ground Up

Do you feel guilt and an immense responsibility for others? Do you put yourself last because you fear taking care of yourself will take away from your ability to take care of others? All of this can be due to having narcissistic parents who treat you as an extension of themselves. Listen to this coaching session with Dustin and learn how your resistance to self-care is rooted in your childhood trauma.

Tia feels lost as an entrepreneur, since recently leaving a steady job. She fears if she will fail or not, but the real issue is Tia not feeling in control. Tia gets angry with her daughter because she bought her enough clothes to wear a different outfit for three weeks in a row. Her daughter will wear one outfit Monday and wear the same exact outfit Wednesday, which makes Tia lose it. Where does Tia's feeling of powerlessness come from? Well when Tia was 1 year old, her mother's sister was murdered by her husband who also was a serial killer. Tia's pain of powerlessness was actually the trauma of the entire family who were completely blindsided by their loved one being killed by her very own husband. This summary will help understand how much of the session points to this underlying intergenerational trauma but Tia didn't know the connection which is why she felt so lost in both sadness and anger.

Suppressing our emotions and feelings is dangerous because our unresolved feelings are emotional wounds and if we suppress them by avoiding them, they only grow and eventually consume us without even us being conscious of it. Parents who suppress their emotions and feelings pass down their unresolved feelings to their children in a dangerous way because the child grows up completely oblivious to it all since the parent consciously suppresses their feelings but the child subconsciously feels every bit of it as if they are feeling it themselves. Listen to Michael coach Stacey Gross of the Two Moms Day Drinking Podcast [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/id1491786090] (a podcast about every parent's unique journey within parenting) and get to the root of her social and performance anxiety. For private sessions with Michael, online courses and our online YATFS (You are the F*cking Sh*t) community visit www.healfromthegroundup.com [http://www.healfromthegroundup.com] or contact michael@healfromthegroundup.com

With the economy crashing due to Covid-19, Xavier has the constant fear that he will be let go since he is only a new hiree. What's happening now in the world is bringing up our worst fears so we can uncover and heal our unresolved deep-seated feelings. As always, "Problems bring up feelings in us that existed before the problem ever happened." In this coaching session, we go to the core of the core and see what Xavier's fear of losing his job and thereby losing his ability to make money is all about, and where it all comes from. Xavier is the host of the Pretty Normal Podcast [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/a-pretty-normal-podcast/id1467838141], which is a podcast talking about the thought provoking moments that happen in our everyday lives, allowing us to re-imagine what society considers normal. Register for your free "Feeling is Healing" course, or arrange private sessions with Michael at www.healfromthegroundup.com [http://www.healfromthegroundup.com] If you want to learn more about our Heal From the Ground Up Support community which will be launched in two weeks (first two weeks are free) email michael@healfromthegroundup.com [michael@healfromthegroundup.com] .

You may have all kinds of emotions, feelings, and thoughts racing through you because of all that is happening right now.  All of this may be eliciting one of the darkest times of your life.  Through all of this, despite how bad it may be, I want you to first center yourself with the mantra that "Problems bring up feelings in us that existed before the problem ever happened." This is not to illegitimize the severity of what is going on right now, but if what is going on right now is bring up feelings of anxiety, anger or depression in you, that means what is happening is bringing up feelings in you that existed before the problem ever happened. You may have lost your job due to the Coronavirus. Your worst fear may be that you become homeless or that you contract the virus and die or kill others by transferring to them. You see, the thinking mind, tells us you need to prevent the worst fear from happening because if it were to happen it would bring up a core negative feeling. But the truth is, the core negative feeling is not only not caused by your worst fears coming true but it actually existed before the problem ever existed. For example, you may have lost your job due to Coronavirus and feel worthless because of it. But feeling worthless is what you feel all the time. Although, it is obviously not true about who you really are, but you must identify your feelings and cut the head off the snake. The head of the snake is your "thinking mind" that a certain negative problem (i.e. losing a job due to the coronavirus) is causing your feelings of worthlessness. As we discussed before this feeling of worthlessness is often rooted in some intergenerational trauma. That is why we create and fixate on certain fears because we are unknowingly holding onto pain that does not belong to us. In my Emotional Strength F.I.S.T. Masterclass [https://www.healfromthegroundup.com/masterclass/], I have a sample coaching session where Jagrit, a 22 year old college student, is so terrified of driving that he has only driven twice and that was in parking lots. His fear of death is actually rooted in the intergenerational trauma of his great-grandparents who lived in a world of death, violence and murder and he was just reliving their experiences as his own in his fear of driving. Listen to today's episode to "FIND YOUR PEACE DURING A PANDEMIC." To heal your anxiety, anger and depression from the ground up join our masterclass on Michael's breakthrough Emotional Strength F.I.S.T. Process [https://www.healfromthegroundup.com/masterclass/] The masterclass not only details a step-by-step process on how to heal your anxiety, anger and depression from the ground up through intergenerational healing, but also includes four video call sessions with clients going through the process and using it to heal their negative emotions, feelings and problems from the ground up through intergenerational healing so you can learn how to apply to yourself. Email michael@healfromthegroundup.com [michael@healfromthegroundup.com] for any questions