#89. Why Keeping Promises to Yourself Changes Everything

#89. Why Keeping Promises to Yourself Changes Everything

Four days into my 5AM wake-up challenge, and I'm already noticing some surprising changes. In this episode of Mostly All Figured Out, I'm sharing the real-life experience of waking up at 5AM as a single mom, business owner, and person with ADHD. No miracle morning claims. No "I've completely transformed my life in a week" nonsense. Just an honest look at what's working, what's hard, and why keeping promises to yourself might be more powerful than any productivity hack. We talk about: • My day-by-day 5AM wake-up ratings • Why charging my phone across the room is a game-changer • The unexpected connection between self-trust and productivity • Lessons from Atomic Habits by James Clear, truly one of the best books I've ever read • How identity shapes our habits and behaviors • Why small actions can create massive change over time • Balancing personal goals, motherhood, business ownership, and a social life If you've ever struggled to stick with a new habit, hit snooze one too many times, or wondered whether changing your routine could help you become the person you want to be, this episode is for you. Follow along as I spend the next month testing whether waking up at 5AM actually leads to better focus, more consistency, business growth, and a life that feels more aligned with my goals. Because maybe the secret isn't waking up at 5AM. Maybe it's becoming someone who keeps promises to herself ✨ Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2037506/support] 💸 Want to support the pod? There’s a new listener support option now! Click the link above to be a part of the "Bunch of MAFOs"  and I'll love you forever. Thank you to the current bunch!! Paul F, Michael H, Bridget W, Sam S, Ben S, Lauren B, Maria Q, Lizzy, Brandon G, and Mama 💜 What to do now? * Subscribe to the channel! Episodes drop Thursdays. Usually.  * Follow us on Instagram: @mostlyallfiguredout [https://www.instagram.com/mostlyallfiguredout/] * To connect with me about event and fundraising consulting for your nonprofit, shoot me a DM on IG @inspiredeventscollective [https://www.instagram.com/inspiredeventscollective/]! * Subscribe to the YouTube Channel to watch the episodes:  @mostlyallfiguredout [https://www.youtube.com/@MostlyAllFiguredOutPodca-xf7tc] ‬ * Please rate and review the podcast! It really helps to get it in front of more people. And we love you for it. Show theme music by: @4thstringaudio [https://www.instagram.com/4stringaudio/] Thank you to our sponsor - Mercury Salon [https://mercury-salon.square.site/?fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAacTFLFzu0V_nqxWq4-PDMtj3IKezZ62tofyj-nS_xItP6JhMj8VmB56oz4R7A_aem_rbs5HknuQ1T-boS2Sse39A]! Head to Mercury at 43 Allen Street to see Felicia and have all of your hairy needs met. Call her to book an appointment: (716) 883-8800

#88. Wealthy women don't spiral, they pivot.

Hey babies, we're back!! It's been a minute.  I'm catching you up on everything: the resting era, the panic era, and the locked-in era I'm currently living in. We're talking divorce aftermath, selling the house, a boyfriend detour, a financial wake-up call that hit like a freight train, and how sheer desperation (as per usual) is what finally got me moving.  But the real thing I want to talk about today? What it actually means to decide. Not the Instagram "claim it in the comments!!" version of deciding - the real kind. The kind where you accidentally forget to cancel a $370 hotel you never stayed in, and instead of absolutely destroying yourself over it, you just... don't. Because you've already decided you're wealthy, and wealthy women don't spiral, they pivot. I'm also getting into my big money goals for 2026, what's actually working in my business (shoutout to my incredible contractors), and how my financial advisor pulled off a miracle I never could have dreamed up on my own. Plus: My dog Simon makes a quick cameo, Jackson's cardinal mug gets its moment, and I shout out basically everyone I've ever met. If you're a single mom running a business, figuring it out on your own, and tired of advice that sounds like it was written by ChatGPT - this one's for you. Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2037506/support] 💸 Want to support the pod? There’s a new listener support option now! Click the link above to be a part of the "Bunch of MAFOs"  and I'll love you forever. Thank you to the current bunch!! Paul F, Michael H, Bridget W, Sam S, Ben S, Lauren B, Maria Q, Lizzy, Brandon G, and Mama 💜 What to do now? * Subscribe to the channel! Episodes drop Thursdays. Usually.  * Follow us on Instagram: @mostlyallfiguredout [https://www.instagram.com/mostlyallfiguredout/] * To connect with me about event and fundraising consulting for your nonprofit, shoot me a DM on IG @inspiredeventscollective [https://www.instagram.com/inspiredeventscollective/]! * Subscribe to the YouTube Channel to watch the episodes:  @mostlyallfiguredout [https://www.youtube.com/@MostlyAllFiguredOutPodca-xf7tc] ‬ * Please rate and review the podcast! It really helps to get it in front of more people. And we love you for it. Show theme music by: @4thstringaudio [https://www.instagram.com/4stringaudio/] Thank you to our sponsor - Mercury Salon [https://mercury-salon.square.site/?fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAacTFLFzu0V_nqxWq4-PDMtj3IKezZ62tofyj-nS_xItP6JhMj8VmB56oz4R7A_aem_rbs5HknuQ1T-boS2Sse39A]! Head to Mercury at 43 Allen Street to see Felicia and have all of your hairy needs met. Call her to book an appointment: (716) 883-8800

#87. Messy Middle Energy - 2026 So Far

In this episode, I’m giving an update on where I’m at right now - two and a half months into 2026, chasing big goals, managing ADHD, running a business, and trying to level up my income as a single mom. My word of the year is money… and let me tell you, that has forced me to look at everything - how I work, how I charge, how I think, and honestly, how much I’ve been playing small. I share what’s actually been going on behind the scenes in my business, including how I’m working toward a $250K year, what’s already shifting, and the mindset blocks I’ve had to call myself out on (hi, undercharging and overgiving 🙃). We also get into: * Why “expanders” are more powerful than generic advice * The reality of building a business with ADHD * Learning to receive money - harder than it sounds * Holding two truths at once - gratitude and burnout * The mindset shifts helping me grow faster this year * And how I’m learning to regulate my nervous system while still going after big goals This episode is messy, honest, and hopefully exactly what you need if you’re in your own “figuring it out” era. If you’ve ever felt like you know you’re capable of more, but can’t quite get out of your own way, this one’s for you. Let’s figure it out together 💛 Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2037506/support] 💸 Want to support the pod? There’s a new listener support option now! Click the link above to be a part of the "Bunch of MAFOs"  and I'll love you forever. Thank you to the current bunch!! Paul F, Michael H, Bridget W, Sam S, Ben S, Lauren B, Maria Q, Lizzy, Brandon G, and Mama 💜 What to do now? * Subscribe to the channel! Episodes drop Thursdays. Usually.  * Follow us on Instagram: @mostlyallfiguredout [https://www.instagram.com/mostlyallfiguredout/] * To connect with me about event and fundraising consulting for your nonprofit, shoot me a DM on IG @inspiredeventscollective [https://www.instagram.com/inspiredeventscollective/]! * Subscribe to the YouTube Channel to watch the episodes:  @mostlyallfiguredout [https://www.youtube.com/@MostlyAllFiguredOutPodca-xf7tc] ‬ * Please rate and review the podcast! It really helps to get it in front of more people. And we love you for it. Show theme music by: @4thstringaudio [https://www.instagram.com/4stringaudio/] Thank you to our sponsor - Mercury Salon [https://mercury-salon.square.site/?fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAacTFLFzu0V_nqxWq4-PDMtj3IKezZ62tofyj-nS_xItP6JhMj8VmB56oz4R7A_aem_rbs5HknuQ1T-boS2Sse39A]! Head to Mercury at 43 Allen Street to see Felicia and have all of your hairy needs met. Call her to book an appointment: (716) 883-8800

#86. How to Stop Caring What People Think (And Start Living Authentically) with Leighton Jones

Okay. This episode? It’s one of those conversations that stays with you. This week on Mostly All Figured Out, I’m sitting down with my incredible friend Leighton Jones - dancer, nurse, immigrant, political advocate, community builder, and one of the most fearless humans I know. We talk about what it actually means and looks like to stop caring what people think… and why that’s way harder than Instagram makes it look. Leighton shares his story of immigrating from Jamaica to the U.S. at 19, growing up in a country where being gay is illegal, surviving bullying and violence, and choosing - over and over again - to live authentically anyway. And let me tell you… this conversation will make you rethink what bravery really looks like. We get into: * Why your reaction is your power * How to stop people-pleasing (especially when it’s your default) * The difference between online connection and real-life community * Immigrant resilience and the trauma people don’t talk about * Facing fears around money, business, and asking for what you’re worth * What it looks like to choose joy on purpose There’s laughter. There’s real talk. There are uncomfortable truths. There’s a moment where I get lovingly called out (and honestly? I needed it). If you’ve ever: * Held yourself back because you were afraid of being judged * Struggled to show up authentically online * Felt torn between who you are and who people expect you to be * Needed permission to choose yourself This one’s for you. We’re stepping into 2026 with courage, boundaries, bold energy, and way less caring about what the wrong people think. Let’s get into it 💛 Follow Leighton for all the details on dance classes and what he's up to next on IG @leejay____ [https://www.instagram.com/leejay____/] Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2037506/support] 💸 Want to support the pod? There’s a new listener support option now! Click the link above to be a part of the "Bunch of MAFOs"  and I'll love you forever. Thank you to the current bunch!! Paul F, Michael H, Bridget W, Sam S, Ben S, Lauren B, Maria Q, Lizzy, Brandon G, and Mama 💜 What to do now? * Subscribe to the channel! Episodes drop Thursdays. Usually.  * Follow us on Instagram: @mostlyallfiguredout [https://www.instagram.com/mostlyallfiguredout/] * To connect with me about event and fundraising consulting for your nonprofit, shoot me a DM on IG @inspiredeventscollective [https://www.instagram.com/inspiredeventscollective/]! * Subscribe to the YouTube Channel to watch the episodes:  @mostlyallfiguredout [https://www.youtube.com/@MostlyAllFiguredOutPodca-xf7tc] ‬ * Please rate and review the podcast! It really helps to get it in front of more people. And we love you for it. Show theme music by: @4thstringaudio [https://www.instagram.com/4stringaudio/] Thank you to our sponsor - Mercury Salon [https://mercury-salon.square.site/?fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAacTFLFzu0V_nqxWq4-PDMtj3IKezZ62tofyj-nS_xItP6JhMj8VmB56oz4R7A_aem_rbs5HknuQ1T-boS2Sse39A]! Head to Mercury at 43 Allen Street to see Felicia and have all of your hairy needs met. Call her to book an appointment: (716) 883-8800

#85. Quarter-Milli Energy: How I Set Goals for 2026

It’s 2026, babies, and you know what that means. It’s goal-setting time. In this solo episode, I’m sharing exactly how I’m planning my year, my goals (big and tiny), and what actually worked for me in 2025. From ADHD chaos to hair loss hell to realizing I’ve been emotionally held hostage by one lipstick comment since 2013 -this one’s a full-on heart-to-heart. I talk about quitting Adderall, reorganizing my office mid-spiral, the reason behind my word of the year (MONEYYY), and building real systems to actually follow through on goals. If you’re a neurodivergent human, a chronically overextended woman, or just tired of setting resolutions that flop by February - this one’s for you. You’ll leave with a tangible, doable system for setting goals that make sense (and stick), plus a reminder that you’re not alone in trying to figure it all out. Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2037506/support] 💸 Want to support the pod? There’s a new listener support option now! Click the link above to be a part of the "Bunch of MAFOs"  and I'll love you forever. Thank you to the current bunch!! Paul F, Michael H, Bridget W, Sam S, Ben S, Lauren B, Maria Q, Lizzy, Brandon G, and Mama 💜 What to do now? * Subscribe to the channel! Episodes drop Thursdays. Usually.  * Follow us on Instagram: @mostlyallfiguredout [https://www.instagram.com/mostlyallfiguredout/] * To connect with me about event and fundraising consulting for your nonprofit, shoot me a DM on IG @inspiredeventscollective [https://www.instagram.com/inspiredeventscollective/]! * Subscribe to the YouTube Channel to watch the episodes:  @mostlyallfiguredout [https://www.youtube.com/@MostlyAllFiguredOutPodca-xf7tc] ‬ * Please rate and review the podcast! It really helps to get it in front of more people. And we love you for it. Show theme music by: @4thstringaudio [https://www.instagram.com/4stringaudio/] Thank you to our sponsor - Mercury Salon [https://mercury-salon.square.site/?fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAacTFLFzu0V_nqxWq4-PDMtj3IKezZ62tofyj-nS_xItP6JhMj8VmB56oz4R7A_aem_rbs5HknuQ1T-boS2Sse39A]! Head to Mercury at 43 Allen Street to see Felicia and have all of your hairy needs met. Call her to book an appointment: (716) 883-8800