ep 63: Everyone moving on, while you stand still

Ep 65: What if you've never felt safe?

FREE WEBINAR LINK No-one Prepared Me for Life After Cancer https://us02web.zoom.us/meeting/register/PJktLOu7Q_CCqvUNnFN1bg [https://us02web.zoom.us/meeting/register/PJktLOu7Q_CCqvUNnFN1bg] The episode delves into the impact of trauma and survival mode on life after cancer, highlighting the amplification of self-hate, anxiety, and trauma responses. It explores the struggle with safety and trust, the impact of an unsafe environment on the nervous system, and the process of nervous system healing with support. Takeaways * Amplification of self-hate and anxiety after cancer * Impact of an unsafe environment on the nervous system Chapters * 00:00 Survival Mode and Trauma * 08:33 Amplification of Self-Hate and Anxiety * 16:21 Struggle with Safety and Trust

Ep 64: I thought I'd be happier than this

The conversation explores the disparity between expectations and reality after cancer treatment, the process of rebuilding and recreating a new life, and the permission to embrace complexity and ambiguity in post-treatment life. Fleur shares her experience of feeling guilty about not feeling happier after treatment and the realization that recovery isn't about returning to the past. She emphasizes the importance of adapting to a new reality and granting oneself permission to be exactly who they want to be. Takeaways * Recovery isn't about returning to the past; it's about rebuilding and recreating a new life. * Embrace the complexity and ambiguity of post-treatment life and grant yourself permission to be exactly who you want to be. Chapters * 00:00 Expectations vs. Reality * 12:06 Rebuilding and Recreating * 27:23 Permission to Be Exactly Who You Want to Be

ep 63: Everyone moving on, while you stand still

Fleur celebrates her two-year cancer-free anniversary and reflects on the journey of healing and transformation. She discusses the silence surrounding life after cancer, the emotional impact, and the need for self-compassion and permission to process. Fleur emphasizes the importance of rebuilding and finding community in life after cancer. Takeaways * Celebrating milestones in the journey of healing and transformation * The need for self-compassion and permission to process in life after cancer Chapters * 00:00 Rebuilding and Finding Community in Life After Cancer

Ep 62: Why do I feel guilty all the time?

In this episode, Fleur discusses the pervasive feeling of guilt that many cancer survivors experience after treatment. She explores the various aspects of guilt, its origins, and the impact it has on survivors' lives. Fleur also emphasizes the importance of acknowledging and understanding this guilt, and the need to challenge the unrealistic expectations placed on survivors. Takeaways * Guilt is a pervasive and unexpected emotion experienced by many cancer survivors. * Survivors often feel guilty for not meeting unrealistic expectations and for their own struggles and successes. Chapters * 00:00 Understanding and Challenging Guilt

Ep 61: Fitness, Nutrition & our Nervous System after Cancer with Sherry Shaban

In this episode, Fleur welcomes special guest Sherry Shaban, an osteopath and anti-diet health and life coach. Sherry shares her inspiring journey of overcoming chronic pain and redefining her fitness identity. The conversation delves into the relationship between the nervous system and food, highlighting the impact of trauma and medical treatment on eating behaviors. The episode emphasizes the importance of understanding fitness as a journey and the role of the nervous system in shaping our relationship with food. The conversation delves into the concept of emotional eating and its connection to dysregulated emotions. It explores the impact of fear-mongering on health and the importance of mindset and identity shift in recovery. Practical steps for recovery and the significance of embracing change and self-compassion are also discussed. Takeaways * Fitness as a Journey * Nervous System and Food Relationship Emotional eating is a coping mechanism for dysregulated emotions. * Reconnecting with the inner child can help address emotional eating and past trauma. Chapters * 00:00 Nervous System and Food Relationship * 29:14 Understanding Emotional Eating * 35:02 Impact of Fear-Mongering on Health * 41:59 Mindset and Identity Shift * 48:22 Practical Steps for Recovery * 54:34 Embracing Change and Self-Compassion