No More Perfect Podcast with Jill Savage

The Hard and Holy Journey of Understanding Death with Yvette Maher | Episode 291

Talking about death can be a tender and uncomfortable subject, but our time on earth is temporary. Someday we will all leave this world, and many of us won’t get a warning of when that will occur. While fear may want to push us away from this topic, conversations like this one help us begin to normalize talking about death. When we bring something hard like this into the light, it starts to feel less big and scary—and a little more manageable. When we face the reality of death, we empower ourselves to live in the present, knowing what we are leaving behind: a meaningful legacy. Helping people broach the topic of death is something that my friend, Yvette Maher, is passionate about. Yvette is an end-of-life transition coach who supports individuals and families in this sacred, yet challenging space. In this episode, you’ll hear: * How preparing for death can help us live better today * Practical tips for getting your affairs in order * The importance of creating your legacy in advance * And more! I so appreciate Yvette’s willingness to approach this difficult topic with gentleness and understanding. Find resources mentioned and more in the show notes: jillsavage.org/yvette-maher-291 [https://jillsavage.org/yvette-maher-291/] Check out our other resources: * Mark and Jill’s Marriage Story [https://jillsavage.org/subscribe-10-day-nmpma-series/] * Marriage Coaching [https://jillsavage.org/marriagecoaching/] * Marriage 2.0 Intensives [https://jillsavage.org/hope-renewed-intensive-retreat/] * Speaking Schedule [https://jillsavage.org/events] * Book Mark and Jill to Speak [https://jillsavage.org/speaking-inquiries/] * Online Courses [https://jillsavage.org/courses/] * Books [https://jillsavage.org/books/]  Marriage Resources: * Infidelity Recovery [https://jillsavage.org/recovering-from-infidelity/] * For Happy Marriages [https://jillsavage.org/happy-marriages/] * For Hurting Marriages [https://jillsavage.org/hurting-marriages/] * For Marriages Where You’re the Only One Wanting to Get Help [https://jillsavage.org/finding-help-alone/]  Mom Resources: * New/Preschool Moms [https://jillsavage.org/newmoms/] * Moms with Gradeschoolers [https://jillsavage.org/gradeschool/] * Moms with Teens and Tweens [https://jillsavage.org/moms-of-tweens-teens/] * Moms with Kids Who Are Launching [https://jillsavage.org/launching/] * Empty Nest Moms [https://jillsavage.org/emptynest/]

God Stories from Uganda | Episode 290

Roosters, candy canes, thermometers, and antifungal cream.  These are just a few of the ordinary items we saw God use in extraordinary ways during our time in Uganda this February.  This journey of our ministry in Africa, which began with an untied shoelace on an Alabama sidewalk, continues to unfold in ways Mark and I never could have imagined. To hear how it all began, you can listen to Episode 135 [https://jillsavage.org/pastor-zachariah-135/] and 210 [https://jillsavage.org/uganda-again-210/]. Today, Mark and I are grateful and excited to share this special episode where we recap some of the highlights and God stories from our third and most recent trip to Uganda. Best of all, you get to hear from three of the team members who made the journey with us.  In this episode, you’ll hear: * Our team’s biggest takeaways from experiencing life in Uganda * How the school we’ve been building blew our expectations away * The God story of a big need met through a simple Amazon wishlist  * And more! Find resources mentioned and more in the show notes: https://jillsavage.org/god-stories-uganda-290/ [https://jillsavage.org/god-stories-uganda-290/] Check out our other resources: * Mark and Jill’s Marriage Story [https://jillsavage.org/subscribe-10-day-nmpma-series/] * Marriage Coaching [https://jillsavage.org/marriagecoaching/] * Marriage 2.0 Intensives [https://jillsavage.org/hope-renewed-intensive-retreat/] * Speaking Schedule [https://jillsavage.org/events] * Book Mark and Jill to Speak [https://jillsavage.org/speaking-inquiries/] * Online Courses [https://jillsavage.org/courses/] * Books [https://jillsavage.org/books/]  Marriage Resources: * Infidelity Recovery [https://jillsavage.org/recovering-from-infidelity/] * For Happy Marriages [https://jillsavage.org/happy-marriages/] * For Hurting Marriages [https://jillsavage.org/hurting-marriages/] * For Marriages Where You’re the Only One Wanting to Get Help [https://jillsavage.org/finding-help-alone/]  Mom Resources: * New/Preschool Moms [https://jillsavage.org/newmoms/] * Moms with Gradeschoolers [https://jillsavage.org/gradeschool/] * Moms with Teens and Tweens [https://jillsavage.org/moms-of-tweens-teens/] * Moms with Kids Who Are Launching [https://jillsavage.org/launching/] * Empty Nest Moms [https://jillsavage.org/emptynest/]

What is a Father Wound—and How Can We Heal It? with Rachelle Starr | Episode 289

A dad is foundational in every person’s life, but not everyone has a solid, stable father figure to rely on.  When Mark and I work with couples and individuals in our coaching sessions, we are often able to trace a person’s current challenges back to father wounds. So many people are still being negatively affected by the difficult relationship they had with their father growing up—many of them without even realizing it. As we help these people unpack the past, we can’t undo their experiences. But we can point to our Heavenly Father and remind them that there is incredible healing to be found in the unfailing, unconditional love that only God can provide. My guest today sees the effect of father wounds in her everyday ministry work. Rachelle Starr is the founder of Scarlet Hope and Freedom Signa, a ministry that reaches and disciples exploited women. She’s the author of the book Outrageous Obedience, and is passionate about reaching women with hope wherever they are. In this episode, you’ll hear: * How God used a home-cooked meal to start an entire ministry * Why it’s so important to understand that true healing takes time and patience * How the love of the Heavenly Father can heal wounds we receive from our earthly father * And more! I appreciated Rachelle’s story of how God led her to show up in the lives of these precious women, and the healing that has come to so many as a result. Find resources mentioned and more in the show notes: https://jillsavage.org/rachelle-starr-289/ [https://jillsavage.org/rachelle-starr-289/] Check out our other resources: * Mark and Jill’s Marriage Story [https://jillsavage.org/subscribe-10-day-nmpma-series/] * Marriage Coaching [https://jillsavage.org/marriagecoaching/] * Marriage 2.0 Intensives [https://jillsavage.org/hope-renewed-intensive-retreat/] * Speaking Schedule [https://jillsavage.org/events] * Book Mark and Jill to Speak [https://jillsavage.org/speaking-inquiries/] * Online Courses [https://jillsavage.org/courses/] * Books [https://jillsavage.org/books/]  Marriage Resources: * Infidelity Recovery [https://jillsavage.org/recovering-from-infidelity/] * For Happy Marriages [https://jillsavage.org/happy-marriages/] * For Hurting Marriages [https://jillsavage.org/hurting-marriages/] * For Marriages Where You’re the Only One Wanting to Get Help [https://jillsavage.org/finding-help-alone/]  Mom Resources: * New/Preschool Moms [https://jillsavage.org/newmoms/] * Moms with Gradeschoolers [https://jillsavage.org/gradeschool/] * Moms with Teens and Tweens [https://jillsavage.org/moms-of-tweens-teens/] * Moms with Kids Who Are Launching [https://jillsavage.org/launching/] * Empty Nest Moms [https://jillsavage.org/emptynest/]

3 Things That Get Confused for Forgiveness with Tim Tedder | Episode 288

Forgiveness. It’s one of the most powerful tools God gives us in marriage. Yet, when infidelity shatters trust, the path forward can feel confusing. What does real forgiveness actually look like? And how do you know if you’re doing it in a healthy way? My guest today, Tim Tedder, is a licensed counselor and coach who has spent more than 20 years helping individuals and couples recover after infidelity. Tim’s work is shaped not only by professional training, but also by personal experience. After walking through the devastation of infidelity in his own life, God eventually led him into a calling of helping others find healing and hope. In this conversation, Tim shares the freedom that comes from genuine forgiveness. He also explains three common ways people try to forgive that actually keep them stuck, along with two forms of forgiveness that truly help people move forward. In this episode, you’ll hear: * Three common substitutes people mistake for forgiveness * The difference between decisional forgiveness and emotional forgiveness * Why forgiveness does not automatically restore trust * How genuine forgiveness can bring freedom, even if a relationship is not restored * And more! I was moved by Tim’s honesty about his story and the healing journey that brought him here. I hope you find this conversation as encouraging and clarifying as I did! Find resources mentioned and more in the show notes: jillsavage.org/tim-tedder-288 [https://www.jillsavage.org/tim-tedder-288] Check out our other resources: * Mark and Jill’s Marriage Story [https://jillsavage.org/subscribe-10-day-nmpma-series/] * Marriage Coaching [https://jillsavage.org/marriagecoaching/] * Marriage 2.0 Intensives [https://jillsavage.org/hope-renewed-intensive-retreat/] * Speaking Schedule [https://jillsavage.org/events] * Book Mark and Jill to Speak [https://jillsavage.org/speaking-inquiries/] * Online Courses [https://jillsavage.org/courses/] * Books [https://jillsavage.org/books/]  Marriage Resources: * Infidelity Recovery [https://jillsavage.org/recovering-from-infidelity/] * For Happy Marriages [https://jillsavage.org/happy-marriages/] * For Hurting Marriages [https://jillsavage.org/hurting-marriages/] * For Marriages Where You’re the Only One Wanting to Get Help [https://jillsavage.org/finding-help-alone/]  Mom Resources: * New/Preschool Moms [https://jillsavage.org/newmoms/] * Moms with Gradeschoolers [https://jillsavage.org/gradeschool/] * Moms with Teens and Tweens [https://jillsavage.org/moms-of-tweens-teens/] * Moms with Kids Who Are Launching [https://jillsavage.org/launching/] * Empty Nest Moms [https://jillsavage.org/emptynest/]

The Healing Journey of Marriage After Betrayal with Matthew and Joanna Raabsmith | Episode 287

The chaos that betrayal can cause in a marriage is unlike almost anything else we experience as humans. When trust is shattered, everything feels unstable. Questions swirl. Emotions run high. And the path forward can feel confusing and painfully slow. Mark and I know what that broken place feels like. And so does the couple joining us today. Matthew and Joanna Raabsmith—known as The Raabsmith Team—are co-authors of Building True Intimacy. Together, they have developed practical tools to help couples rebuild trust and create lasting connection. Matthew is a Professional Certified Coach and Restoration Coach with more than 15 years of experience in addiction recovery, betrayal trauma, and leadership development. Joanna is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist who specializes in trauma, betrayal trauma, and relationship healing. In this honest and hope-filled conversation, we talk about how God brought each of us to the other side of betrayal. We share some of the insights we wish we had known when we were in the middle of our own messy healing journeys. There were setbacks. There was deep pain. But there were also small moments where hope began to rise again. In this episode, you’ll hear: * Why healing begins with the individuals, not just the couple * How family upbringing shapes the way we show up in marriage * Why a betrayed spouse may still feel unsafe, even after behavior changes * And more! If you’re trying to find your footing after betrayal, you may want to lean in and take notes. Our prayer is that this conversation brings understanding and a renewed sense of hope! Find resources mentioned and more in the show notes: jillsavage.org/matthew-joanna-raabsmith-287 [https://jillsavage.org/matthew-joanna-raabsmith-287] Check out our other resources: * Mark and Jill’s Marriage Story [https://jillsavage.org/subscribe-10-day-nmpma-series/] * Marriage Coaching [https://jillsavage.org/marriagecoaching/] * Marriage 2.0 Intensives [https://jillsavage.org/hope-renewed-intensive-retreat/] * Speaking Schedule [https://jillsavage.org/events] * Book Mark and Jill to Speak [https://jillsavage.org/speaking-inquiries/] * Online Courses [https://jillsavage.org/courses/] * Books [https://jillsavage.org/books/]  Marriage Resources: * Infidelity Recovery [https://jillsavage.org/recovering-from-infidelity/] * For Happy Marriages [https://jillsavage.org/happy-marriages/] * For Hurting Marriages [https://jillsavage.org/hurting-marriages/] * For Marriages Where You’re the Only One Wanting to Get Help [https://jillsavage.org/finding-help-alone/]  Mom Resources: * New/Preschool Moms [https://jillsavage.org/newmoms/] * Moms with Gradeschoolers [https://jillsavage.org/gradeschool/] * Moms with Teens and Tweens [https://jillsavage.org/moms-of-tweens-teens/] * Moms with Kids Who Are Launching [https://jillsavage.org/launching/] * Empty Nest Moms [https://jillsavage.org/emptynest/]