Sasha DiGiulian on Bullying, Body Image & Becoming a Champion

Coming Out Later in Life: Healing Trauma, Finding Queer Identity & Living Authentically

Coming Out Later in Life: Healing Trauma, Finding Queer Identity & Living Authentically | Valerie Wittman FREE Anxiety vs Red Flag DBT Guide - www.therapykay.com/therapykay What happens when you stop living according to who the world expects you to be and start listening to who you truly are? In this special Pride Month episode of the Not So Dumb Blonde Podcast, therapist, author, and advocate Valerie Wittman shares her powerful journey of healing from trauma, discovering her queer identity, and embracing authenticity later in life. Valerie opens up about navigating the intersection of being both a therapist and memoir writer, the vulnerability required to share your story, and how writing became a tool for healing. Together, we explore complex PTSD, people-pleasing, self-trust, narrative therapy, and the courage it takes to challenge societal expectations and live authentically. Whether you're exploring your own identity, healing from childhood trauma, questioning long-held beliefs, or simply looking for permission to be more yourself, this conversation offers hope, validation, and practical wisdom for your journey. 00:00 Introduction 01:15 Author vs. Therapist: Navigating Vulnerability and Professional Boundaries 03:20 Why Sharing Your Story Can Help Others Heal 05:10 Healing Through Writing and Memoir 07:35 Complex PTSD Recovery and Reclaiming Your Narrative 10:15 Narrative Therapy: Rewriting the Story You Were Given 13:05 How Childhood Experiences Shape Identity 16:20 Learning to Trust Your Body and Inner Knowing 20:10 People-Pleasing as a Trauma Response 24:45 The Impact of Societal Expectations and Heteronormativity 29:30 Discovering Queer Identity and Coming Out Later in Life 35:20 Living Authentically and Improving Mental Health 40:15 Boundaries, Self-Respect, and Emotional Healing 44:30 Self-Care as a Foundation for Recovery 48:20 Vulnerability, Connection, and Human Resilience 52:15 The Inspiration Behind Lost on Purpose 56:30 Advice for Anyone Beginning Their Healing Journey 59:45 Closing Thoughts and Where to Connect with Valerie • Coming out later in life and embracing queer identity • Healing from complex PTSD and childhood trauma • The relationship between authenticity and mental health • How heteronormative expectations influence identity development • People-pleasing, perfectionism, and trauma responses • Trusting your intuition and inner wisdom • Narrative therapy and reclaiming your story • The healing power of vulnerability and self-disclosure • Writing as a tool for self-discovery and recovery • Boundaries, self-care, and emotional well-being • Living authentically during Pride Month and beyond "Our scars don't disqualify us, they make us." "Trust your body and your inner knowing." "Healing is nonlinear and part of growth." Valerie Wittman is a therapist, author, and advocate whose work focuses on trauma recovery, identity development, authenticity, and personal transformation. Through counseling and storytelling, she helps others reconnect with themselves, challenge limiting beliefs, and create lives aligned with who they truly are. 📖 Lost on Purpose by Valerie Wittman 📖 The Power of Vulnerability by Brené Brown 📖 Untamed by Glennon Doyle 📸 Connect with Valerie: @midnite.musing [https://www.instagram.com/valeriewittman/] www.oldsoulsearching.com Topics Covered: Queer Identity, LGBTQ Mental Health, Coming Out Later in Life, Pride Month, Complex PTSD, Trauma Recovery, Authenticity, Self-Discovery, Narrative Therapy, People-Pleasing, Childhood Trauma, Personal Growth, Boundaries, Self-Trust, Memoir Writing, Emotional Healing, Mental Health, Therapy, Vulnerability, Self-Acceptance. ChaptersIn This Episode We Discuss:Memorable QuotesAbout Valerie WittmanResources & Links

How to Trust Yourself in Relationships Using DBT Wise Mind

Have you ever looked back on a relationship and wondered: "Why didn't I trust myself?" In this episode of Not So Dumb Blonde, Kaytlyn Gilner, M.A., MSW Candidate, explores one of the most powerful skills from Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT): Wise Mind. If you've ever struggled with relationship anxiety, overthinking, emotional reactivity, anxious attachment, trauma responses, or trusting your own judgment in relationships, this episode is for you. Many people believe they have to choose between following their emotions or ignoring them and focusing only on the facts. DBT teaches something different. Wise Mind is the integration of both emotion and logic, helping you make healthier relationship decisions without getting stuck in anxiety, black-and-white thinking, or impulsive reactions. In this episode, you'll learn: • The difference between Emotion Mind, Reasonable Mind, and Wise Mind • Why black-and-white thinking can fuel relationship anxiety and emotional spirals • How trauma impacts decision-making and emotional regulation • Practical ways to access Wise Mind during difficult relationship situations • How to stop overreacting without suppressing your emotions • Real-life examples of using Wise Mind when dating and navigating relationship uncertainty Whether you're healing from a breakup, working through attachment wounds, learning to regulate your emotions, or simply trying to build healthier relationships, this DBT skill can help you develop greater self-awareness, emotional balance, and self-trust. Chapters: 00:00 Why We Ignore Red Flags in Relationships 01:05 What Is DBT Wise Mind? 02:15 Emotion Mind vs. Reasonable Mind 04:00 How Trauma Fuels Black-and-White Thinking 05:10 Relationship Example: Someone Cancels Plans Three Times 06:45 How to Access Wise Mind in Real Life 07:40 Anxiety or Red Flag? Learning to Trust Yourself Key Takeaway: Wise Mind isn't about choosing emotion over logic or logic over emotion. It's about learning to integrate both so you can respond effectively instead of reacting impulsively. Resources: 🎁 Free Guide: Anxiety or Red Flag? https://www.therapykay.com/freebie [https://www.therapykay.com/freebie] Connect with Therapy Kay for more content on relationships, attachment styles, trauma recovery, emotional regulation, DBT skills, self-trust, and mental health. Topics Covered: DBT, Wise Mind, Dialectical Behavior Therapy, Relationship Anxiety, Attachment Styles, Emotional Regulation, Self-Trust, Trauma Recovery, Healthy Relationships, Relationship Psychology, Dating, Mental Health, Personal Growth, Anxiety, Decision Making

Sasha DiGiulian on Bullying, Body Image & Becoming a Champion

Sasha DiGiulian on Bullying, Body Image & Becoming a Champion What does it take to overcome bullying, recover from an eating disorder, and become one of the world's most accomplished athletes? In this episode of the Not So Dumb Blonde Podcast, I sit down with world champion rock climber, entrepreneur, speaker, and author Sasha DiGiulian to discuss the challenges that shaped her journey—from navigating body image struggles and public criticism to breaking barriers in a male-dominated sport. Sasha shares how she built resilience through adversity, learned to embrace both her femininity and athletic identity, and found the confidence to pursue ambitious goals despite setbacks, injuries, and self-doubt. We also dive into mental health, social media, entrepreneurship, leadership, women supporting women, and what it really means to stay authentic while building a successful career. Whether you're an athlete, entrepreneur, student, or simply navigating your own personal challenges, Sasha's story offers powerful lessons on self-trust, perseverance, and growth. 🎁 FREE GUIDE: Anxiety or Red Flag? Download here: www.therapykay.com/freebie [http://www.therapykay.com/freebie] In this episode: • Overcoming bullying and eating disorders • Building confidence and resilience • Mental health in elite athletics • Women in sports and breaking stereotypes • Recovering from injuries and identity shifts • Social media and public criticism • Entrepreneurship and founding Send Bars • Embracing femininity in competitive spaces • Leadership, authenticity, and personal growth • The importance of community and women supporting women Connect with Sasha: Instagram: @sashadigiulian Send Bars: sendbars.com Connect with Therapy Kay: Instagram: @itstherapykay TikTok: @itstherapykay YouTube: @TherapyKay If you enjoyed this episode, please follow, rate, and share the podcast. Your support helps us continue bringing meaningful conversations about mental health, relationships, personal growth, and resilience to more people.

4 Surprising Signs of Dismissive Avoidant Attachment

Have you ever met someone who seemed incredibly loving, attentive, and all-in at the beginning of a relationship—only to become distant once things got serious? In this episode of Not So Dumb Blonde, Kaytlyn Gilner breaks down four surprising signs of dismissive avoidant attachment that often get missed in dating and relationships. Many people assume avoidant attachment looks like emotional distance from day one. In reality, dismissive avoidants can initially appear affectionate, reassuring, and deeply invested. The challenges often emerge once true emotional intimacy develops and attachment wounds become activated. In this episode, we discuss: • What dismissive avoidant attachment actually is • Why avoidants can seem loving and emotionally available at first • The connection between love bombing and attachment insecurity • How superficial relationships can be a warning sign • The role of work, hobbies, substances, and other distractions in emotional avoidance • Communication red flags that may indicate avoidant attachment patterns • How attachment wounds impact long-term relationship dynamics Whether you're trying to understand your own attachment style, make sense of a past relationship, or learn how to identify healthy relationship patterns, this episode offers practical insights into one of the most misunderstood attachment styles. 🎧 Subscribe for more conversations on attachment styles, relationships, anxiety, trauma recovery, mental health, and personal growth. 💗 FREE GUIDE: Anxiety or Red Flag? Download here: www.therapykay.com/freebie [http://www.therapykay.com/freebie] Connect with Kaytlyn: YouTube: @KaytlynGilner Website: www.therapykay.com [http://www.therapykay.com/]

S2E21 - How to Build Self-Trust When Life Falls Apart | Sarah Beaver on Healing After Divorce, Cancer & Life's Biggest Challenges

How to Build Self-Trust When Life Falls Apart | Sarah Beaver on Healing After Divorce, Cancer & Life's Biggest Challenges How do you trust yourself when life feels like it's falling apart? In this powerful episode of Not So Dumb Blonde, Kaytlyn sits down with cancer survivor, podcaster, and retreat host Sarah Beaver to explore how self-trust becomes the foundation for healing during life's most difficult seasons. After navigating both divorce and a Stage 3 cancer diagnosis, Sarah shares the mindset shifts, daily practices, and emotional resilience tools that helped her move through uncertainty, grief, fear, and major life transitions with greater confidence and self-compassion. Together, they discuss why self-trust isn't something you magically find—it's something you build. Through journaling, meditation, community support, nervous system regulation, and focusing on what you can control, Sarah learned how to navigate adversity without losing herself in the process. Whether you're facing heartbreak, anxiety, illness, loss, uncertainty, or a major life transition, this conversation offers practical tools and hope for rebuilding trust in yourself, even when life doesn't go according to plan. * How to build self-trust during difficult seasons of life * Healing after divorce and major life transitions * Navigating a cancer diagnosis and recovery * Why focusing on what you can control reduces anxiety * Journaling as a tool for emotional healing and self-awareness * Meditation, resilience, and nervous system regulation * How community support helps us navigate hardship * Trusting your intuition during uncertainty * Holding multiple emotions at the same time * Finding meaning and purpose through adversity ✔ Self-trust is built before the storm—and strengthened during it. ✔ Healing doesn't mean avoiding pain; it means learning how to move through it. ✔ Anxiety often decreases when we focus on what we can control. ✔ Journaling and meditation can help strengthen emotional resilience. ✔ Community and connection are essential during life's hardest moments. ✔ Healing is not a destination—it's an ongoing process. "Divorce prepared me for cancer." "Feelings can be complex and dual in nature." "Healing is an ongoing process." Sarah Beaver is a cancer survivor, podcast host, retreat leader, and advocate for personal growth and emotional healing. Through her work, she helps people cultivate resilience, joy, and self-trust while navigating life's inevitable challenges. Connect with Sarah: Guest Resource Page [https://cold-twilight-c82.notion.site/Guest-Resource-Page-8180a57c518c41658c94411f8bbfd9be] Instagram: https://instagram.com/itssarahbeaver [https://instagram.com/sarahbeaver] Free Resources: Anxiety or a Red Flag? A free DBT-informed guide to understanding relationship anxiety, emotional triggers, attachment wounds, intuition, nervous system dysregulation, and emotional safety. https://therapy-kay-2.kit.com/freebie [https://therapy-kay-2.kit.com/freebie] 00:00 Why Self-Trust Matters When Life Falls Apart 01:20 Cancer Diagnosis & Focusing on What You Can Control 02:45 Journaling as a Tool for Healing and Self-Trust 04:45 Meditation, Anxiety & Managing Uncertainty 06:55 Did Divorce Prepare Her for Cancer? 08:15 Sharing Her Cancer Journey Publicly 10:50 The Most Important Emotional Resilience Tools 11:15 Creating Sunshine: Finding Joy During Hard Times 13:40 The Power of Duality & Holding Two Emotions at Once 16:40 What Cancer Taught Her About Suffering 17:45 Helping Children Navigate Grief and Loss 21:00 Discovering Purpose Through Adversity 24:35 Community, Support & Finding Your People 26:50 Signs You're Building Real Self-Trust 30:05 What Healing Looks Like Today 34:00 Where to Find Sarah Beaver #SelfTrust #HealingAfterDivorce #CancerSurvivor #EmotionalResilience #PersonalGrowth #MentalHealthPodcast #GriefHealing #AnxietySupport #HealingJourney #WomensMentalHealth #LifeTransitions #TrustYourself