The Wisdom of Waiting: Does It Need To Be Said?

Romanticizing the Drink, Romanticizing the Past

It's easy to look at someone else's life and think they're happier, healthier, or having more fun. It's easy to romanticize drinking while forgetting the loneliness, fear, and consequences that came with it. It's just as easy to romanticize life before a stroke and focus on what has been lost. In this episode, I explore the danger of not playing the tape forward, the freedom that comes from acceptance, and why the Serenity Prayer helps me let go of wanting things to be different. When I play the tape forward, practice gratitude, and accept life on life's terms, I discover that peace is available right where my feet are. Listen and subscribe wherever you get your podcasts and YouTube.  Rather listen on Apple Podcasts? https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recovery-daily-podcast/id1693924779

Freedom From Fear and Want: Trust the Future, Accept the Present

Much of my discomfort comes from fear about the future and that I won't be able to handle it. In recovery sometimes I wish things were different than they are. In both sobriety and stroke recovery, I've discovered that serenity is found by trusting that I have the tools to face whatever comes and accepting life as it is today. In this episode, I explore freedom from fear, freedom from want, the power of "even if" over "what if," and why prayer helps me change my perspective rather than trying to change God's mind. Listen and subscribe wherever you get your podcasts and YouTube.  Rather listen on Apple Podcasts? https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recovery-daily-podcast/id1693924779

Justified vs. Unjustified Anger: The Cost of Holding On

What is the difference between justified and unjustified anger through the lens of emotional sobriety and stroke recovery. Healthy anger alerts us to injustice, boundary violations, and unmet needs. But even justified anger can become resentment when we replay it, nurture it, and allow it to take up permanent residence in our minds. Unjustified anger is fueled by fear, pride, expectations, and the need for control. Step 4 teaches me to look beyond what is happening, examine the real source, learn from it, and release it. The goal is to stop feeding the fire and start tending the light. Listen and subscribe wherever you get your podcasts and YouTube.  Rather listen on Apple Podcasts? https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recovery-daily-podcast/id1693924779

The Wisdom of Waiting: Does It Need To Be Said?

When I was in high school, my drama teacher told me I had good timing. That always stayed with me as an incredible compliment. Communication requires good timing, but it also requires good judgment. Unfortunately, that was not something that I flourished at. I don’t have to react to every thought, emotion, or circumstance. It's hard to settle that emotional urgency and wait for clarity and, in my case, humility that only comes with pausing. If it’s a good idea today, it should be a good idea tomorrow. Three simple questions that have helped me quiet the emotional urgency: Does it need to be said? Does it need to be said now? Does it need to be said by me? Timing matters as much as the action itself. And sometimes the wisest thing to do is nothing. Listen and subscribe wherever you get your podcasts and YouTube.  Rather listen on Apple Podcasts? https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recovery-daily-podcast/id1693924779

Relieve Me of the Bondage of Self: When Pain Turns Into Self-Centeredness

The phrase "relieve me of the bondage of self" appears in the Third Step Prayer, but what does it really mean? Sometimes our self-centered thinking is rooted in pain, fear, and need for comfort. We become consumed with our worries, our problems, our future, and our need for relief. Alcohol may have been one solution, but self-pity, control, and fear can keep us trapped and block emotional sobriety. Unmet emotional needs can lead us to seek comfort in unhealthy ways. Sobriety and stroke recovery taught me that peace comes when I stop trying to control everything and start trusting something greater than myself. Freedom begins when we lift our eyes from ourselves and reconnect with the world around us. Listen and subscribe wherever you get your podcasts and YouTube.  Rather listen on Apple Podcasts? https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recovery-daily-podcast/id1693924779