You Can't Shame Yourself Into Who You Want to Be

When The Cool Girl Couldn’t Show Up

[EP 29] Have you ever noticed how lost you feel when you can't be the version of yourself people expect? The strong one who suddenly needs help. The confident one who gets broken up with. The successful one who just got laid off. After getting sick on a camping trip, I found myself unexpectedly confronting my attachment to being the fun, carefree, "down for anything" version of myself. This is about the identities we perform to belong and what's still there when we have to put them down. Spoiler: it's more than you think.

You Can't Shame Yourself Into Who You Want to Be

[EP 28] We've all been there. The bad day that turns into a spiral. The inner critic that won't shut up. The urge to just numb it all out. In this episode I get open up about my own shame cycles, including a very cringey peanut butter moment– and what I've learned about why shame keeps us stuck while compassion actually moves us forward. If you've ever beaten yourself up for not being further along, not doing enough, or not being enough, this one is for you.

Your Intuition Already Knows. Your Fear Just Talks Louder

[EP 27] Your intuition doesn't shout. It just knows. And then fear shows up with a 47 slide presentation on everything that could go wrong. In this episode we talk about how to tell the difference between the two, what to do when you're genuinely not sure, and why trusting yourself isn't about making the right decision— it's about becoming someone you can rely on no matter what.

Why You Can't Seem to Change (Even When You Really Want To)

[EP 26] "That's just the way I am" is BS. The beliefs you have about who you are— not confident enough, not brave enough, not good enough— isn’t actually the truth. Those are just scripts your brain wrote a long time ago. And those stories are holding you back from the confidence, self trust, and sense of purpose you actually want. In this episode we get into what self concept actually is, why it's running every decision you make, and the simple but powerful practice of building new evidence for a new way of seeing yourself. Because you're not who you think you are. You're who you choose to be.

Fear of Finding Out

[EP25] You've heard of FAFO — f** around and find out. This episode is about why most of us are terrified to do exactly that. Not because we can't. Because trying and failing feels more dangerous than never knowing. The most capable people stay stuck, small, quiet, and in constant preparation. Here, we’re getting into the real reason you're holding yourself back, why just pushing harder isn't the solution, and the question that will make you stop and rethink everything.