E. 161 What Bodybuilding Really Costs Women (Hormones, PEDs & Motherhood) With Daraja Weidemoyer

E. 163 Why You Keep “Falling Off” Your Diet (And How to Finally Stay Consistent)

Most people don’t fail fat loss because they lack motivation — they fail because they can’t stay consistent long enough to see results. In this episode, I break down the real psychology behind fat loss adherence, emotional eating, self-sabotage, and why so many people keep “starting over” every Monday. We cover reactive dieting, loose tracking, overeating cycles, motivation dependency, and the hidden behaviors preventing long-term weight loss success. I also explain how to build non-negotiable standards, improve dietary adherence, stop relying on pressure or guilt, and finally create sustainable fat loss habits that actually last. If you feel like you know what to do but can’t stay consistent with dieting, nutrition, or fat loss goals, this episode will help you understand why. Timestamps: - [00:00 – 04:54] – Why fat loss progress keeps falling apart and the hidden reason people lose momentum. - [04:54 – 06:44] – The REAL reason most people can’t stay consistent with dieting. - [06:44 – 11:11] – What dietary adherence actually means and why most people misjudge it. - [11:11 – 14:03] – Why your expectations don’t match your fat loss results. - [14:03 – 20:07] – Emotional dieting, negative motivation, and the toxic fat loss cycle. - [20:07 – 23:41] – Self-image, personal standards, and inconsistent eating behaviors. - [23:41 – 26:00] – Chasing goals vs escaping discomfort during fat loss. - [26:00 – 32:20] – Why your habits are tied to consequences instead of identity. - [32:20 – 34:30] – What real fat loss consistency actually looks like. - [34:30 – 38:49] – Why pressure, urgency, and “starting over” keep you stuck. - [38:49 – 41:00] – Why most people regain weight after dieting phases. - [41:00 – 43:40] – How to actually stay “on track” with nutrition and fat loss. - [43:40 – 48:28] – The biggest fat loss excuses sabotaging your progress. - [48:28 – 51:08] – Why weight loss always works when true adherence is present. - [51:08 – 54:00] – Overtraining, excessive cardio, and hidden self-sabotage behaviors. - [54:00 – 59:23] – How to stop restarting your diet and finally stay consistent. Links & Resources: Purchase The Complete Fat Loss Guide: https://coryfit.com/product/the-complete-fat-loss-guide/ Purchase The Glute Building Blueprint: https://coryfit.com/product/the-complete-glute-building-program/ https://coryfit.com/ ⁠Coaching: Let's Chat⁠https://calendly.com/coryfit-coaching/15min ⁠Consults: Book a Call⁠https://calendly.com/coryfit-coaching/one-time-consultation For more content, follow along:⁠Instagram⁠: https://www.instagram.com/cory_fit/ ⁠Patreon⁠: https://patreon.com/CoryFit?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink

E. 162 Why Your Traps Keep Growing (The Real Problem Isn’t Genetics)

In this episode, I break down why so many people struggle to actually target the muscles they’re trying to grow—and why poor scapular stability is often the real issue behind trap dominance, neck tension, and upper body imbalances. I explain how instability at the scapula changes muscle recruitment patterns, why many rear delt and shoulder exercises unintentionally become trap exercises, and how improving scapular control can completely change your upper body development. We also cover common misconceptions around trap growth, overhead pressing mechanics, warm-up strategies, and why most people are searching for quick fixes instead of addressing the real problem. Timestamps: - [00:00 – 04:49] – Why trap dominance happens and how scapular stability affects upper body training. - [04:50 – 07:10] – Scapular movement explained and why instability changes muscle recruitment. - [07:11 – 09:44] – Trap growth misinformation, PED myths, and why genetics aren’t the full story. - [09:45 – 14:59] – The real issue: scapular instability, elevation vs depression, and compensation patterns. - [15:00 – 17:44] – The biggest mistakes during lateral raises and rear delt flies that overgrow traps. - [17:45 – 23:55] – Overhead pressing, neurotoxins/Botox for traps, injury risks, and muscle recruitment. - [23:56 – 26:44] – Why people want quick fixes instead of improving scapular control and movement quality. - [26:45 – 33:26] – Warm-ups, mobility drills, scapular holds, and stability exercises that actually help. - [33:27 – 38:19] – Windmills, shoulder stability progressions, and exposing upper body weaknesses safely. - [38:20 – 41:20] – Exercise order, movement prep before compounds, and how to improve upper body targeting long term. Links & Resources: Purchase The Complete Fat Loss Guide: https://coryfit.com/product/the-complete-fat-loss-guide/ Purchase The Glute Building Blueprint: https://coryfit.com/product/the-complete-glute-building-program/ https://coryfit.com/ Coaching: Let's Chat⁠https://calendly.com/coryfit-coaching/15min ⁠Consults: Book a Call⁠https://calendly.com/coryfit-coaching/one-time-consultation For more content, follow along:⁠Instagram⁠: https://www.instagram.com/cory_fit/ ⁠Patreon⁠: https://patreon.com/CoryFit?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink

E. 161 What Bodybuilding Really Costs Women (Hormones, PEDs & Motherhood) With Daraja Weidemoyer

In this episode, Daraja Weidemoyer and I dive into the evolving standards of bikini bodybuilding, the increasing density required to stay competitive, and the difficult conversations surrounding PED use, fertility, and long-term health. Daraja shares her perspective on building a pro-level physique naturally, navigating PCOS and endometriosis, and the impact birth control had on her mood, recovery, and overall well-being. We also talk about the identity shift that comes with motherhood, learning to adapt your routine instead of chasing perfection, and why balance and sustainability are critical for longevity in bodybuilding. This episode is a real conversation about competing at a high level while staying aligned with your values, protecting your health, and creating a life outside of the sport. Timestamps: - [00:00 – 03:20] – Daraja Weidemoyer intro, bodybuilding journey, and becoming a mom. - [03:21 – 11:29] – Bikini bodybuilding becoming denser and evolving judging standards. - [11:30 – 17:26] – PED use, genetic potential, patience, and risk tolerance in bodybuilding. - [17:27 – 22:07] – Fertility, virilization concerns, and family planning in bodybuilding. - [22:08 – 30:29] – Birth control, PCOS, PMDD, and hormonal health struggles. - [30:30 – 35:22] – Managing PMS, mindset shifts, and improving self-awareness. - [35:23 – 43:59] – Competing after motherhood and adapting to the new bikini standard. - [44:00 – 48:14] – Finding a new rhythm as a mom while pursuing bodybuilding goals. - [48:15 – 52:59] – Letting go of rigidity and adapting training to real life. - [53:00 – 59:59] – Why balance and flexibility create longevity in bodybuilding. - [01:00:00 – 01:05:59] – Social media comparison, mindset, and staying aligned with your values. - [01:06:00 – 01:17:33] – Building more size, lifting heavier, and Daraja’s future competitive goals. Links & Resources: Follow Daraja on Instagram: @darajaweid Work With Daraja: https://refinedstrengthcoaching.com/services/ Purchase The Complete Fat Loss Guide: https://coryfit.com/product/the-complete-fat-loss-guide/ Purchase The Glute Building Blueprint: https://coryfit.com/product/the-complete-glute-building-program/ https://coryfit.com/ ⁠Coaching: Let's Chat⁠https://calendly.com/coryfit-coaching/15min ⁠Consults: Book a Call⁠https://calendly.com/coryfit-coaching/one-time-consultation For more content, follow along:⁠Instagram⁠: https://www.instagram.com/cory_fit/ ⁠Patreon⁠: https://patreon.com/CoryFit?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink

E. 160 Why You’re Gaining Fat Instead of Muscle (Building Phase Mistakes)

In this episode, I break down why most muscle-building phases fail—and it usually has nothing to do with the plan itself. I explain why building muscle requires a completely different level of discomfort than fat loss, why you need to commit to the process even when you don’t like how you look, and how inconsistent adherence on both training and nutrition is the biggest reason people spin their wheels. We also cover the truth about “lean bulking,” why comparison (especially with enhanced athletes) will mislead you, and how to actually make a build productive by focusing on execution, training intensity, and being coachable. Timestamps: - [00:00 – 03:49] – Why most builds feel unproductive and the gap between expectations vs reality. - [03:50 – 06:49] – Building muscle requires a different kind of “suck” than fat loss. - [06:50 – 10:59] – Tunnel vision, consistency, and why you don’t have to love the building phase to succeed. - [11:00 – 14:59] – Having a clear reason to build (you can always lose fat later). - [15:00 – 18:29] – PED misconceptions, “lean bulk” myths, and committing fully to the process. - [18:30 – 23:56] – The fastest ways to gain fat in a build. - [23:57 – 29:28] – Why most builds fail. - [29:29 – 32:13] – Overcomplicating training (glute bias myths). - [32:14 – 37:13] – Being coachable, accepting feedback, and removing ego from progress. - [37:14 – 40:16] – Stop ignoring weaknesses. - [40:17 – 42:48] – You know if you’re truly adherent. Links & Resources: Purchase The Complete Fat Loss Guide: https://coryfit.com/product/the-complete-fat-loss-guide/ Purchase The Glute Building Blueprint: https://coryfit.com/product/the-complete-glute-building-program/ https://coryfit.com/ ⁠Coaching: Let's Chat⁠https://calendly.com/coryfit-coaching/15min ⁠Consults: Book a Call⁠https://calendly.com/coryfit-coaching/one-time-consultation For more content, follow along:⁠Instagram⁠: https://www.instagram.com/cory_fit/ ⁠Patreon⁠: https://patreon.com/CoryFit?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink

E. 159 Why Your Fat Loss Isn’t Working (It’s Not the Diet)

In this episode, I break down why fat loss often feels inconsistent—and why the real issue usually isn’t the plan, but your level of adherence to it. I explain the different levels of dietary adherence, how to identify intentional vs unintentional deviations, and why not everyone needs to be “perfect” to make progress. We also cover how to match your expectations to your execution, avoid burnout from unnecessary rigidity, and build a sustainable fat loss approach that actually works long term. Timestamps: - [00:00 – 03:36] – Why fat loss feels inconsistent. - [03:37 – 04:44] – Defining adherence. - [04:45 – 05:56] – Level A adherence. - [05:57 – 07:33] – Level B adherence. - [07:34 – 09:38] – Level C adherence. - [09:39 – 12:34] – Level D adherence. - [12:35 – 16:44] – Why most people don’t need perfect adherence to lose fat successfully. - [16:45 – 20:25] – Tight deadlines, aggressive fat loss, and intentional vs accidental non-adherence. - [20:26 – 25:21] – Why your body keeps score even when your tracking doesn’t. - [25:22 – 32:52] – Ranking dietary deviations. - [32:53 – 39:38] – Why loosening adherence can sometimes improve fat loss results. - [39:39 – 43:29] – Find your real bottleneck and build a sustainable dieting system. Links & Resources: Purchase The Complete Fat Loss Guide: https://coryfit.com/product/the-complete-fat-loss-guide/ Purchase The Glute Building Blueprint: https://coryfit.com/product/the-complete-glute-building-program/ https://coryfit.com/ ⁠Coaching: Let's Chat⁠https://calendly.com/coryfit-coaching/15min ⁠Consults: Book a Call⁠https://calendly.com/coryfit-coaching/one-time-consultation For more content, follow along:⁠Instagram⁠: https://www.instagram.com/cory_fit/ ⁠Patreon⁠: https://patreon.com/CoryFit?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink