Grief Coach Edition: You're Not Fine, You're Functional!

Grief Coach Edition: You're Not Fine, You're Functional!

Episode 6: You've been showing up. Going to work. Fixing dinner. Keeping it all together. But are you actually okay? In this episode, I sit down with Shannon Roane, certified grief coach and founder of Highlight Your Healing, and she gives language to something so many of us have been living but never had a name for: functional grief. We talk about what grief actually is, and why it's so much bigger than loss by death. Job loss. Health diagnoses. Identity shifts. Relationships that ended. Shannon breaks it all down and reminds us that if it changed you, it counts. This conversation gets real, fast. Shannon shares her own story of back-to-back losses, including a ruptured ectopic pregnancy, the death of her aunt, and another pregnancy loss-- all within a year. She didn't fall apart. She functioned. And she'll tell you exactly why that wasn't a win. In this episode, we cover: * What a "functional griever" is and why it's not a badge of honor * How to name your grief and uncover its layers * Why grief has no timeline and how to set boundaries with people who think it does * The difference between a grief coach and a therapist * What healing actually looks like (hint: it's not getting over it) * How to support someone who is grieving without saying the wrong thing Shifted on Purpose Move of the Week:  Name your grief. Go one layer deeper than "I'm sad." Then let one person in, just a little. Find Shannon at Highlight Your Healing Instagram: @highlightyourhealing Subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode with someone who needs permission to stop pretending. 💛 www.shiftedonpurpose.com

LAWYER EDITION: YOUR QUESTIONS ANSWERED, PLUS THE BIG 5!

Episode 5: Most people think estate planning means one document. It doesn't. In the first-ever lawyer edition, Bola sits down with Crista Hermance, founder of The Heritance Lawyers, California-licensed estate planning attorney and the voice behind The Estate Planning Mom - to break down what she calls the Big 5: the five documents that actually protect your family, in plain language, with zero legal jargon. Crista answers questions submitted by SOP listeners, shares real cases (including one family who paid $18,000 in fees they didn't have to), and explains the difference between the documents most people confuse, including the one decision that can quietly override your entire will. If you've been putting off planning because you don't know where to start, this is the episode that gives you the map. 🎙️ Subscribe so you never miss an episode 📩 Write to the show: hello@shiftedonpurpose.com 📱 Follow along: @shiftedonpurpose 🌐 shiftedonpurpose.com If you haven't grabbed your copy of the Future Readiness Check yet, head to shiftedonpurpose.com. Scroll to the bottom, enter your name and email, and it'll be in your inbox within minutes.  If you're looking for a California licensed attorney, you can find Crista Hermance and the rest of her practice at www.theheritancelawyers.com. It's not about what you leave behind. It's about what you pass forward. #EstatePlanning #TheBig5 #LivingTrust #PowerOfAttorney #LegacyPlanning #ShiftedOnPurpose

Guest Episode - Stop Saying Let Me Know If You Need Help

Episode 4: On a Tuesday evening in April, Tomi Fanilola got a FaceTime call that changed everything. Her healthy, vibrant mother, her best friend, her prayer warrior, had just suffered sudden cardiac arrest. She was 59 years old. In this raw conversation, Tomi shares what no one tells you about sudden loss. Why "let me know if you need help" is the laziest response. What actually helps when someone is drowning in grief. And why she'll talk about her mom for the rest of her life, whether people are comfortable with it or not. If you've ever wondered what to actually DO (not say) when someone experiences loss, or if you're grieving right now and need permission to do it your own way, this is for you. IN THIS EPISODE: * The reality of sudden loss: operating in shock while still having to function * Why "let me know if you need help" doesn't work, and what does * What grief actually reveals about the people in your life * The worst things people say to someone who's grieving * Why you can't "trigger" someone who's already thinking about their loved one 24/7 * The conversations about legacy and end-of-life planning we avoid (but shouldn't) * How to own your grief journey without letting others dictate your timeline * Living intentionally with the people who matter, while you still can ABOUT TOMI FANILOLA: Tomi Fanilola is a vibrant speaker, Wellness Coach, and MC with over 15 years in the beauty industry. She's a wife, mother, mentor, and self-described student of life who walks and preaches "God-fidence", showing up as your most authentic self and living a well-rounded life beyond the average. SHIFTED ON PURPOSE MOVE OF THE WEEK: Check in on someone who's grieving, without asking permission. Don't text "let me know if you need anything." Instead: * Text: "Thinking of you today. No need to respond." * Order groceries or send a fruit basket * Drop off a meal * Just show up Someone who's drowning doesn't have the capacity to ask you to save them. TAKE ACTION: 1. Have the conversation. Talk to your parents about legacy and how they want to be honored. 2. Show up differently. Stop saying "let me know" and start doing something. 3. Share this episode with someone who needs permission to grieve their own way. SUBSCRIBE & CONNECT: 📧 Get your FREE Future Readiness Check: www.shiftedonpurpose.com Follow Shifted on Purpose: Instagram | Facebook | YouTube | Spotify | Apple Podcasts It's not about what you leave behind. It's about what you pass forward.

15 Things Your Loved Ones Would Wish They Knew (Dust Off The Shelf)

Episode 3: 15 Things Your Loved Ones Would Wish They Knew (Dust Off The Shelf) You know that book on your shelf, the one you fully intend to read but haven't gotten to in three years? Most of us do the exact same thing with planning. In this episode, Bola walks through every single item on the Future Readiness Check, 15 things your loved ones would wish they knew if something happened to you today. Documents. Finances. Logistics. The conversations most families never quite finish. No legal jargon. No overwhelm. Just an honest look at where you stand,  and one clear place to start. If you haven't grabbed your copy of the Future Readiness Check yet, pause this episode and head to  👉 www.shiftedonpurpose.com  👉 Scroll down to the subscribe section  👉 Enter your name and email address  👉 It arrives in your inbox within minutes.  Don't see it? Check your spam folder., and it'll be in your inbox within minutes. You're going to want it in your hands for this one. 🎙️ Subscribe so you never miss an episode 📩 Write to the show: hello@shiftedonpurpose.com 📱 Follow along: @shiftedonpurpose 🌐 shiftedonpurpose.com It's not about what you leave behind. It's about what you pass forward. #GriefAndLegacy #EstatePlanning #FuturePlanning #ShiftedOnPurpose #HardConversations #LegacyMatters #howtoplan #loss #grief

The Conversation We Almost Had

Episode 2: The Conversation We Almost Had I had the chance to ask my mom how she wanted to be buried. We were watching TV. It was just the two of us. Nothing heavy about the moment. I let it go. In this episode, Bola opens up about the conversation she almost had with her mother, and the cost of letting it slip past. But this episode isn't only about the conversations we don't have. It's about what happens to everyone around a loss, not just the person grieving. You'll meet four types of people in this episode. One of them is you. What you'll take away from this episode: The four types of people who exist in every loss, and which one you might be without realizing it. Why "let me know if you need anything" is the lazy way out, and what to do instead. The decision Bola and her four siblings made together that held their family up when nothing else could.  What showing up actually looks like when you don't have the words. Why it's never too late to reach out, even if weeks, months, or years have passed. Whether you've recently lost someone, you're supporting someone who has, or you're simply preparing for a conversation you've been putting off, this episode gives you language for what you're carrying, and permission to put some of it down. Get The Future Readiness Check — Free The Future Readiness Check is a free guide created for the Shifted on Purpose community. It's the tool Bola wishes she had before any of this happened. Here's how to get yours: 1. Go to www.shiftedonpurpose.com [http://www.shiftedonpurpose.com] 2. Scroll to the subscribe section at the bottom of the page 3. Enter your name and email 4. Check the box and hit subscribe 5. Look for it in your inbox within minutes — and check your spam, promotions, or junk folder if you don't see it right away What's Coming Next Episode 3 — Dust Off The Shelf: Start Here. We open the Future Readiness Check together and walk through every single item. Plain language. Real-life examples. One clear step forward for each. Episode 4 — Our first guest episode. An honest, unforgettable conversation about losing a mother suddenly; and what it really means to show up for the people who are grieving. Subscribe wherever you get your podcasts so you never miss an episode>>> Spotify, Apple Podcasts, YouTube, Amazon Music, and everywhere else. Reflect With Us Which of the four types of people are you in this season? Are you the one holding everyone together? The friend who went quiet? The one who showed up and felt lost? The one who didn't come at all? Write to the show. Bola reads everything personally, and your story might be exactly what someone else needs to hear. RESOURCES MENTIONED * Future Readiness Check — free download at www.shiftedonpurpose.com * Write to the show — hello@shiftedonpurpose.com [hello@shiftedonpurpose.com] CONNECT WITH SHIFTED ON PURPOSE 🌐 shiftedonpurpose.com 📧 hello@shiftedonpurpose.com [hello@shiftedonpurpose.com] 🎙️ New episodes every Tuesday (available on all major podcast platforms) SUBSCRIBE If this episode resonated with you, subscribe on whatever platform you're listening on so every new episode lands automatically. Then head to shiftedonpurpose.com and grab your free Future Readiness Check. And if someone came to mind while you were listening, share this episode with them. Sometimes a podcast starts the conversation a phone call never could. ABOUT THE HOST Bola is the founder and host of Shifted on Purpose, a podcast and platform about grief, legacy, and the conversations most families avoid until it's too late. After losing both parents within 100 days of each other she turned the hardest season of her life into a mission, to make sure no family is left unprepared for life's most inevitable moments. The shift starts now.