How To Communicate Effectively With Difficult People: When to Tell the Truth, When to Push Back, and Why Kindness Isn't the Same as Being Nice | Sharon Salzberg

How To Communicate Effectively With Difficult People: When to Tell the Truth, When to Push Back, and Why Kindness Isn't the Same as Being Nice | Sharon Salzberg

Plus: the four questions the Buddha said you should ask before you speak, the truth about gossip, and what to do when compassion and honesty pull in opposite directions. Sharon Salzberg [https://www.sharonsalzberg.com/] is a meditation pioneer, world-renowned teacher, and New York Times bestselling author. She is among the first to bring mindfulness & lovingkindness meditation to mainstream American culture fifty years ago. In this episode we talk about: * What the Buddha actually said about how to talk to people, and why almost none of us were ever taught it * The four questions to ask yourself before you open your mouth * Whether white lies are ever okay * The difference between being kind and being nice * Is it ever okay to gossip? * Why shame is the enemy of change, and what "right" in right speech actually means * How to remember any of this when you're mid-conversation with a difficult person Get the 10% with Dan Harris app here [https://app.danharris.com/membership] Sign up for Dan's free newsletter here [http://www.danharris.com/] Follow Dan on social: Instagram [https://bit.ly/3tGigG5], TikTok [https://bit.ly/3FOA84J] Subscribe to our YouTube Channel [https://bit.ly/3FybRzD] To advertise on the show, contact sales@advertisecast.com or visit https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris [https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris] Rosetta Stone – Get 20% off your Rosetta Stone Sapphire subscription when you sign up today. Visit rosettastone.com/happier [http://osettastone.com/happier] Square – Get up to $200 off Square hardware when you sign up at square.com/go/happier [http://square.com/go/happier] #squarepod Leesa — Go to leesa.com [http://leesa.com/] for 25% off select mattresses, plus get an extra $50 off with promo code HAPPIER. OneSkin: Get 15% off OneSkin with the code HAPPIER at https://www.oneskin.co/HAPPIER [https://www.oneskin.co/HAPPIER] #oneskinpod

Your Job Is Hijacking Your Life: How to Set Limits, Decrease Work Stress, and Reclaim Your Evenings | Guy Winch

Why ruminating after hours is unpaid overtime — plus, how to handle bad bosses, beat the Sunday scaries, and actually recharge. Dr. Guy Winch is an internationally renowned psychologist and bestselling author who advocates for integrating the science of emotional health into our daily lives. His 3 TED Talks [https://www.ted.com/speakers/guy_winch] have garnered over 35 million views and his science based self-help books [https://www.guywinch.com/books/] have been translated into 30 languages. His newest book is: Mind Over Grind: How to Break Free When Work Hijacks Your Life [https://www.amazon.com/Mind-Over-Grind-Break-Hijacks/dp/1668069334]. In this episode we talk about: * Why work stress is at an all-time high — and what the pandemic permanently broke * How to tell the difference between regular stress and full-blown burnout * Why ruminating about a bad day at the office is unpaid overtime — and how to stop * Techniques for coaching yourself through hard moments without lying to yourself * How to actually recover after work — and why collapsing on the couch isn't the same as recharging * How to set limits with a difficult boss without torching the relationship * A practical tool for mapping the real stress in your job * What to do with the Sunday scaries — and one scheduling trick that actually works * How chronic work stress quietly erodes your ethics over time Get the 10% with Dan Harris app here [https://app.danharris.com/membership] Sign up for Dan's free newsletter here [http://www.danharris.com/] Follow Dan on social: Instagram [https://bit.ly/3tGigG5], TikTok [https://bit.ly/3FOA84J] Subscribe to our YouTube Channel [https://bit.ly/3FybRzD] Additional Resources: * Dear Therapists [https://www.guywinch.com/podcast/] Join Dan, Sebene Selassie, and Jeff Warren for Meditation Party, a 3-day immersive retreat at the Omega Institute in Rhinebeck, NY, October 16–18. Grab your in-person spot here [https://www.eomega.org/workshops/meditation-party], or sign up to livestream here [https://www.eomega.org/workshops/meditation-party-livestream]! This episode is sponsored by: BetterHelp — Online therapy, matched to your needs. Get 10% off your first month at https://www.betterhelp.com/happier [https://www.betterhelp.com/happier] https://www.betterhelp.com/happier Northwest Registered Agent — LLC formation, registered agent service, and free business resources at https://www.northwestregisteredagent.com/Happierfree [https://www.northwestregisteredagent.com/Happierfree] To advertise on the show, contact sales@advertisecast.com or visit https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris [https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris]

In an Age of Techno-Pessimism, Here's the Science-Based Case for Optimism | Rob Marciano

On nuclear fusion, solid-state batteries, driverless cars, and other innovations — and why, for one cynical disaster reporter, meeting the scientists building them changed everything. Rob Marciano is the national weather correspondent for CBS News and a Cornell-trained scientist with more than 30 years in television news. A former co-host of Weekend Good Morning America at ABC News, he's also the co-author, alongside physicist James Trefil, of The Next Big Thing: Innovations for a Better, Smarter, Stronger Tomorrow [https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/770112/the-next-big-thing-by-rob-marciano-james-trefil/]. Get the 10% with Dan Harris app here [https://app.danharris.com/membership] Sign up for Dan's free newsletter here [http://www.danharris.com/] Follow Dan on social: Instagram [https://bit.ly/3tGigG5], TikTok [https://bit.ly/3FOA84J] Subscribe to our YouTube Channel [https://bit.ly/3FybRzD] To advertise on the show, contact sales@advertisecast.com or visit https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris [https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris]

How To Regulate Your Nervous System: Anxiety, Relationships, and the Baggage You Didn't Ask For | Dr. Bruce Perry

Plus: how trauma rewires the brain, why connection is the most powerful regulator, and small practices that actually work. Dr. Bruce Perry [https://www.bdperry.com/about] is the Principal of the Neurosequential Network [https://www.neurosequential.com/] and a Professor at the School of Allied Health, Human Services and Sport, La Trobe University, Melbourne, Victoria Australia. His work on the impact of abuse, neglect and trauma on development has informed clinical practice, programs and policy across the world. Dr. Perry's most recent book, What Happened to You? Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing [https://www.amazon.com/What-Happened-You-Understanding-Resilience/dp/1250223180], co-authored with Oprah Winfrey, has been translated into 26 languages and has been on the New York Times Bestseller list for over 100 weeks after becoming #1 on the list in April of 2021. In this episode we talk about: * EMDR and the importance of moving your body * The hardest type of trauma to deal with * The perks of getting in touch with the fact that, to quote Dr. Perry, everyone is wandering around in a fucking fog...and how this perspective helps us become more generous in our lives.. Both toward ourselves and others. * How it's never too late to heal trauma Get the 10% with Dan Harris app here [https://app.danharris.com/membership] Sign up for Dan's free newsletter here [http://www.danharris.com/] Follow Dan on social: Instagram [https://bit.ly/3tGigG5], TikTok [https://bit.ly/3FOA84J] Subscribe to our YouTube Channel [https://bit.ly/3FybRzD] Additional Resources: * The Boy Who Was Raised As A Dog [https://www.amazon.com/Boy-Who-Raised-Psychiatrists-Notebook-What-ebook/dp/B01MSVMQR1/?_encoding=UTF8&pd_rd_w=EdZct&content-id=amzn1.sym.3a079c4e-f938-40c9-a0ed-01ef0e9528e9&pf_rd_p=3a079c4e-f938-40c9-a0ed-01ef0e9528e9&pf_rd_r=141-9976842-2413604&pd_rd_wg=8nfJb&pd_rd_r=4104f6c5-ace0-4a5f-88bf-453e9319025e] * Born For Love: Why Empathy is Essential and Endangered [https://www.amazon.com/Born-Love-Empathy-Essential-Endangered/dp/0061656798/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0] Join Dan, Sebene Selassie, and Jeff Warren for Meditation Party, a 3-day immersive retreat at the Omega Institute in Rhinebeck, NY, October 16–18. Grab your in-person spot here [https://www.eomega.org/workshops/meditation-party], or sign up to livestream here [https://www.eomega.org/workshops/meditation-party-livestream]! To advertise on the show, contact sales@advertisecast.com or visit https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris [https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris]

That Background Hum of Worry in Every Important Conversation — Here's What It Is and How to Quiet It | Claude M. Steele

Why talking to your boss, your doctor, or anyone with power puts your brain on high alert — and what a Stanford psychologist says to do about it. Claude M. Steele [https://profiles.stanford.edu/claude-steele] is a professor of psychology at Stanford University and the author of a new book, Churn: The Tension That Divides Us and How to Overcome It [https://www.amazon.com/Churn-Tension-That-Divides-Overcome/dp/1324093447]. In this episode we talk about: * Why talking across difference is so stressful, even when nobody's being bigoted * What's actually happening in your brain during an awkward cross-cultural moment * The surprisingly simple thing that makes critical feedback land or fall flat * How to reduce tension when you're the one with power (and what to do when you're not) * A three-part framework for building trust across any divide Get the 10% with Dan Harris app here [https://app.danharris.com/membership] Sign up for Dan's free newsletter here [http://www.danharris.com/] Follow Dan on social: Instagram [https://bit.ly/3tGigG5], TikTok [https://bit.ly/3FOA84J] Subscribe to our YouTube Channel [https://bit.ly/3FybRzD] To advertise on the show, contact sales@advertisecast.com or visit https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris [https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris] This episode is sponsored by: Function Health: Join at functionhealth.com/happier [http://functionhealth.com/] or use the gift code HAPPIER25 for a $25 credit toward your membership. BetterHelp: Online therapy, matched to your needs. Get 10% off your first month at https://www.betterhelp.com/happier [https://www.betterhelp.com/happier] Wix: Build a fully functional website with AI in minutes at https://www.wix.com/harmony [https://www.wix.com/harmony] Cash App: Download Cash App Today: https://click.cash.app/ui6m/oh9jnxlq [https://click.cash.app/ui6m/oh9jnxlq] #CashAppPod Cash App is a financial services platform, not a bank. Banking services provided by Cash App's bank partner(s). Prepaid debit cards issued by Sutton Bank, Member FDIC. Cash App Visa® Debit Flex Cards issued by Sutton Bank, Member FDIC, and The Bancorp Bank, N.A., pursuant to a license from Visa U.S.A. Inc. See terms and conditions for the Sutton prepaid card [https://cash.app/legal/us/en-us/card-agreement], Sutton debit flex card [https://cash.app/legal/us/en-us/debit-flex-card-agreement-sutton], and Bancorp debit flex card [https://cash.app/legal/us/en-us/debit-flex-card-agreement-bancorp]. Discounts and promotions provided by Cash App, a Block, Inc. brand. Visit cash.app/legal/podcast for full disclosures. IQBAR: To get twenty percent off all IQBAR products, including the ultimate sampler pack, plus free shipping, text DAN to 64000. Gusto: Try Gusto today at gusto.com/happier [http://gusto.com/happier] and get three months free when you run your first payroll.