EP 64: Empathy vs. Sympathy: How to Truly Support Someone in Pain

EP 64: Empathy vs. Sympathy: How to Truly Support Someone in Pain

Do you know the difference between empathy and sympathy — and why it matters in your relationships? In this episode of The Life Coach Lounge, Emily Kolars, Angela Pleune, and Lisa Gates unpack what it really means to show up for someone in pain, without trying to fix, advise, or minimize what they're feeling. Drawing on emotional intelligence research and insights inspired by Brené Brown, the ladies break down the most common empathy pitfalls — like becoming a "minimizer," an "advice-giver," or a "story hijacker" — and share practical, faith-filled ways to offer real support through active listening, presence, and even silence. You'll learn how to sit with someone through rage, panic, or grief without needing to have all the answers, and why saying "I don't know" can be one of the most compassionate things you say. This episode is a judgment-free, honest conversation about building the emotional resilience it takes to truly support the people we love. In this episode, you'll learn: * The real difference between empathy and sympathy * Common empathy mistakes (and how to avoid them) * Practical tools for showing up: touch, attention, and silence * How to support someone through intense emotions like grief or panic * Why empathy takes practice — and grace when we get it wrong If you've ever wondered how to better support a friend, spouse, or coworker in their hardest moments, this episode is for you. Brené Brown Empathy vs. Sympathy 3-minute video link: ⁠https://youtu.be/KZBTYViDPlQ?is=kYlnREAwD10E1y2p⁠ [https://youtu.be/KZBTYViDPlQ?is=kYlnREAwD10E1y2p] You’re invited to hang out with us once a month in our “Virtual Lounge” on Zoom! Join the Life Coach Lounge Facebook Group [https://www.facebook.com/share/g/16Ma1U1EMK/?mibextid=wwXIfr] for details! Connect with us: The Life Coach Lounge on Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/the_life_coach_lounge_?igsh=MTVlc2V2bGViM2tvOA%3D%3D&utm_source=qr] Angela Pleune: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/angelapleune?igsh=MXFzYzc4OTc3bDh6dg==]Website [https://www.angelapleune.com/], Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/angelapleune?igsh=MXFzYzc4OTc3bDh6dg==] Emily Kolars: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Website [https://everythingbeautifulcoaching.com/], Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/emily.kolars?igsh=MnhncW0yanI3NDgy] Lisa Gates: Website [https://www.lisagatescoaching.com/], ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/lisalgates?igsh=MXNiYW1ldzgxaHE2aQ==] Keywords: empathy, sympathy, emotional intelligence, active listening, compassion, Brené Brown, emotional resilience, support strategies

EP 63: Midlife Style Refresh: Confidence, Wardrobe Decluttering & Authentic Style

Rediscovering your personal style in midlife is about more than fashion — it's about confidence, self-expression, and dressing in a way that reflects who you really are. In this episode, Angela, Emily and Lisa explore how to declutter your wardrobe, define your confidence statement, and curate a closet that feels authentically you. Embrace your evolving style as a beautiful reflection of who you are becoming. Remember, your wardrobe can be a daily celebration of confidence and authenticity.  Key Topics: * How shifting body, lifestyle, and role impact style choices * The importance of asking simple, reflective questions about your wardrobe * The concept of a confidence statement and how it guides style decisions * Practical tips to assess and streamline your closet for authenticity * The mental and emotional benefits of dressing in a way that feels genuine * Personal style as a reflection of growth and self-discovery You’re invited to hang out with us once a month in our “Virtual Lounge” on Zoom! Join the Life Coach Lounge Facebook Group [https://www.facebook.com/share/g/16Ma1U1EMK/?mibextid=wwXIfr] for details! Connect with us: The Life Coach Lounge on Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/the_life_coach_lounge_?igsh=MTVlc2V2bGViM2tvOA%3D%3D&utm_source=qr] Angela Pleune: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/angelapleune?igsh=MXFzYzc4OTc3bDh6dg==]Website [https://www.angelapleune.com/], Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/angelapleune?igsh=MXFzYzc4OTc3bDh6dg==] Emily Kolars: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Website [https://everythingbeautifulcoaching.com/], Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/emily.kolars?igsh=MnhncW0yanI3NDgy] Lisa Gates: Website [https://www.lisagatescoaching.com/], ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/lisalgates?igsh=MXNiYW1ldzgxaHE2aQ==] Keywords: personal style, wardrobe, confidence, self-expression, midlife, fashion, wardrobe declutter, style parameters, confidence statement, wardrobe refresh

EP 62: Accountability: Why It Feels Hard & How to Finally Follow Through

Discover why accountability often feels heavy or resistance-inducing, and how embracing it can be the key to achieving your goals. Join Emily, Angela, and Lisa as they share personal stories, real-life examples, and practical insights into how accountability can propel you forward in various areas of life, from spiritual growth to health, relationships, and personal projects. Main topics: * The true meaning of accountability and common perceptions * Why accountability feels uncomfortable or heavy * Personal experiences with accountability in daily life: Bible study, reading goals, certifications, and more * The role of accountability in goal setting and overcoming resistance * How to foster accountability while respecting personal values and boundaries * The importance of consent and flexibility in accountability * Coaching perspectives: guiding clients versus holding them accountable Remember: Accountability isn’t just about pressure—it's a pathway to freedom, growth, and the achievement of your deepest desires. Start small, find your person, and embrace the resistance as part of your journey.  You’re invited to hang out with us once a month in our “Virtual Lounge” on Zoom! Join the Life Coach Lounge Facebook Group [https://www.facebook.com/share/g/16Ma1U1EMK/?mibextid=wwXIfr] for details! Connect with us: The Life Coach Lounge on Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/the_life_coach_lounge_?igsh=MTVlc2V2bGViM2tvOA%3D%3D&utm_source=qr] Angela Pleune: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/angelapleune?igsh=MXFzYzc4OTc3bDh6dg==]Website [https://www.angelapleune.com/], Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/angelapleune?igsh=MXFzYzc4OTc3bDh6dg==] Emily Kolars: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Website [https://everythingbeautifulcoaching.com/], Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/emily.kolars?igsh=MnhncW0yanI3NDgy] Lisa Gates: Website [https://www.lisagatescoaching.com/], ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/lisalgates?igsh=MXNiYW1ldzgxaHE2aQ==] Keywords: accountability, goal setting, self-discipline, motivation, personal growth, coaching, habits, self-control

EP 61: How to Actually Enjoy Summer: Natural Bug Repellents, Sun Protection, Making Memories & More

In this episode, we explore the chaos and magic of summer, sharing nostalgic memories and practical advice for making the most of the season—whether with young children or in quieter times. Our conversation offers insights on staying cool, avoiding sunburn, bug management, and creating joyful summer traditions. From favorite memories to healthy summer hacks, this episode is packed with insights to make your summer memorable and stress-free. Key Topics * Summer traditions and memories * Practical tips for staying cool and hydrated * Managing summer schedules and activities * Healthy and natural insect repellents and sun protection * Balancing relaxation and activity during summer You’re invited to hang out with us once a month in our “Virtual Lounge” on Zoom! Join the Life Coach Lounge Facebook Group [https://www.facebook.com/share/g/16Ma1U1EMK/?mibextid=wwXIfr] for details! The Facebook Group is where you'll find all the recipes mentioned in this episode! We can't wait to see you there! Connect with us: The Life Coach Lounge on Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/the_life_coach_lounge_?igsh=MTVlc2V2bGViM2tvOA%3D%3D&utm_source=qr] Angela Pleune: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/angelapleune?igsh=MXFzYzc4OTc3bDh6dg==]Website [https://www.angelapleune.com/], Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/angelapleune?igsh=MXFzYzc4OTc3bDh6dg==] Emily Kolars: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Website [https://everythingbeautifulcoaching.com/], Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/emily.kolars?igsh=MnhncW0yanI3NDgy] Lisa Gates: Website [https://www.lisagatescoaching.com/], ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/lisalgates?igsh=MXNiYW1ldzgxaHE2aQ==] Keywords: summer, family traditions, summer tips, outdoor activities, healthy living, parenting, summer hacks, relaxation, family time

EP 60: What Does a Life Coach Actually Do? Myths, Misconceptions & the Real Deal

In this episode, the hosts demystify what it truly means to be a life coach. They share different ways to describe their profession, bust common myths, and explain how coaching differs from therapy—highlighting the core focus on results and growth. Perfect for anyone curious about coaching or trying to explain it to others. * The hosts explore various descriptions for what they do, from "mentor" to "personal strategist" * Insights into why coaching is about helping clients win at life, not fixing crises * The importance of recognizing thought patterns and how coaching teaches you to think differently * Clarification on what coaching is not—such as therapy or advice-giving * The flexibility of coaching, including sessions for when you're feeling "off" but have nothing to discuss You’re invited to hang out with us once a month in our “Virtual Lounge” on Zoom! Join the Life Coach Lounge Facebook Group [https://www.facebook.com/share/g/16Ma1U1EMK/?mibextid=wwXIfr] for details! Connect with us: The Life Coach Lounge on Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/the_life_coach_lounge_?igsh=MTVlc2V2bGViM2tvOA%3D%3D&utm_source=qr] Angela Pleune: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/angelapleune?igsh=MXFzYzc4OTc3bDh6dg==]Website [https://www.angelapleune.com/], Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/angelapleune?igsh=MXFzYzc4OTc3bDh6dg==] Emily Kolars: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Website [https://everythingbeautifulcoaching.com/], Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/emily.kolars?igsh=MnhncW0yanI3NDgy] Lisa Gates: Website [https://www.lisagatescoaching.com/], ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/lisalgates?igsh=MXNiYW1ldzgxaHE2aQ==] Keywords: life coach, coaching, personal development, mental clarity, support, results, mental models, coaching benefits