168. Rest, Reset, and Keeping Promises to Yourself: September Resolutions

169. We are ready for a Creativity Resurgence

Ask me a question or let me know what you think! [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2199359/fan_mail/new] Are we on the cusp of a creative resurgence? I think we are. In this episode of The Modern Creative Woman, I’m exploring why so many of us feel creatively starved and why I believe this is exactly the moment to bring more art, beauty, aesthetics, reading, and creative expression back into our lives. We’ll look at how our environments, architecture, fashion, phones, social media, and declining engagement with reading and the arts have shaped the way we experience creativity. I’ll also talk about the growing research on the benefits of arts engagement and why creativity matters not only for self-expression, but for our health, emotional well-being, critical thinking, problem-solving, and ability to see the world from different perspectives. Most importantly, this episode is an invitation to stop consuming and start creating. You don’t need to make beautiful art, have professional skills, or come up with the perfect idea. Creativity grows through experimentation, play, brainstorming, and giving yourself permission to make something that is entirely your own. Your creative voice cannot be copied from someone else. It has to be cultivated by you. We are ready for beauty. We are ready for creativity. We are ready to make things again. The question is: What will you create? In this episode: * Why modern life can leave us creatively starved * The relationship between our environments and creativity * How phones and constant consumption affect creative thinking * Why reading and the arts matter for empathy and critical thinking * What research is revealing about the benefits of arts engagement * Why making art is different from simply consuming it * The importance of experimentation and brainstorming * Finding your unique creative voice * Why now may be the perfect time for a creative resurgence * How to begin creating more and consuming less Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2199359/support] Explore the Modern Creative Woman Community https://moderncreativewoman.com [https://arttherapycentersf.com/] Free Goodies and Subscribe to the Monthly Newsletter https://moderncreativewoman.com/subscribe-to-the-creative-woman/ [https://mcusercontent.com/53c5579a5feca0090377003c7/files/b4f5b916-6160-01d5-e760-40b1327eac06/Modern_Creative_Woman_Manifesta.pdf] Connect with Dr. Amy on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/dramybackos/ [https://www.instagram.com/dramybackos/]

168. Rest, Reset, and Keeping Promises to Yourself: September Resolutions

Ask me a question or let me know what you think! [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2199359/fan_mail/new] Rest, Reset, and Keeping Promises to Yourself There is nothing selfish about taking care of yourself. In fact, you're the only person who can do it. In this episode, Dr. Amy Bakos explores why the weeks before September offer the perfect opportunity to pause, reflect, and prepare for meaningful change. Rather than waiting for January's rushed resolutions, Amy explains why September often feels like the true beginning of a new year—and how thoughtful preparation leads to lasting transformation. Drawing from decades of experience as a psychologist and art therapist, she shares research-backed strategies that make change sustainable, along with the deeper inner practices that create genuine well-being. This episode blends practical psychology with compassionate self-reflection to help you make commitments you'll actually keep. Whether you're hoping to establish healthier habits, reconnect with your creativity, or simply care for yourself with greater intention, this conversation offers a roadmap for lasting change. In This Episode You'll learn: * Why September is often a better time than January to begin something new * How preparation increases your chances of lasting success * Why writing down your goals dramatically improves follow-through * The surprising relationship between discipline and motivation * How tiny daily actions create significant long-term results * Why habit stacking makes new routines easier to maintain * The importance of rewarding yourself during change—not just at the finish line * How environment and routine shape lasting habits * Why self-compassion is essential for personal growth * How changing your relationship with your thoughts creates more freedom * The difference between superficial self-care and meaningful restoration Psychology Strategies for Lasting Change * Write your goals down. * Take action before waiting for motivation. * Focus on one meaningful change at a time. * Pair new habits with existing routines. * Reward yourself consistently. * Create a dedicated space for your new habit. * Improve by just 1% each day. * Practice consistently rather than perfectly. Five Inner Commitments 1. Practice self-compassion. 2. Develop a healthier relationship with your thoughts. 3. Create space for joyful action. 4. Commit to lifelong learning and growth. 5. Show up authentically for yourself and others. Memorable Quotes > "There is nothing selfish about taking care of yourself.""Discipline comes before motivation.""Preparation is the absolute key to lasting change.""Small daily progress creates extraordinary results.""Thoughts are not commands. They are simply thoughts.""To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance." — Oscar Wilde Key Takeaway Lasting change isn't built on willpower alone. It grows through preparation, consistency, self-compassion, and small daily actions that honor the promises you make to yourself. As September approaches, give yourself permission to pause, reset, and choose one meaningful commitment that supports the life you truly want to create. Share This Episode If this episode encouraged you, share it with a friend who could use a fresh start. Then start a conversation about the commitment each of you wants to make this season. Sometimes meaningful change begins simply by saying it out loud. Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2199359/support] Explore the Modern Creative Woman Community https://moderncreativewoman.com [https://arttherapycentersf.com/] Free Goodies and Subscribe to the Monthly Newsletter https://moderncreativewoman.com/subscribe-to-the-creative-woman/ [https://mcusercontent.com/53c5579a5feca0090377003c7/files/b4f5b916-6160-01d5-e760-40b1327eac06/Modern_Creative_Woman_Manifesta.pdf] Connect with Dr. Amy on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/dramybackos/ [https://www.instagram.com/dramybackos/]

167. The More You Look, the More you See: Art to Help you Find Solutions to your Most Vexing Problems

Ask me a question or let me know what you think! [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2199359/fan_mail/new] Can looking at art actually make you more creative? Absolutely—but only if you know how to look. Many people feel intimidated walking into an art museum, worrying they won't "get it" or that they need an art history degree to appreciate what's on the walls. In this episode, Dr. Amy Bakos shares five simple ways to experience art that have nothing to do with memorizing artists or reading every wall label. Inspired by a detective novel featuring the work of abstract painter Joan Mitchell, Amy explores how slowing down, noticing color and emotion, and responding creatively to artwork can strengthen observation skills, spark imagination, and improve creative problem-solving in everyday life. Whether you're a museum lover or someone who hasn't stepped into one in years, these practical strategies will help you look differently—and discover more than you expected. In this episode you'll learn: * Why you don't need art history to appreciate great art * How a novel inspired a completely new museum experience * Five simple strategies for looking at artwork more deeply * Why skipping the information label can help you see more * How observation fuels creativity and problem-solving * A simple art therapy exercise you can try after visiting a museum The Five Tips 1. Discover art through stories, books, and everyday encounters. 2. Choose souvenirs that capture the feeling—not just the image. 3. Spend time looking before reading the label. 4. Focus on color, shape, space, and emotion instead of objects. 5. Create response art to deepen your experience. Key Takeaway The more you look, the more you see. Learning to observe artwork with curiosity—not judgment—helps train your brain to notice patterns, expand imagination, and approach life's challenges with greater creativity. MEMORABLE QUOTES * "You don't need an art history degree to have a meaningful experience with art." * "The more you look, the more you see." * "Looking is a creative practice." * "Stop reading the label and start seeing the artwork." * "Art isn't a test—it's an experience." * "When you shift how you look, you shift how you think." CALL TO ACTION If this episode inspired you, share it with a friend who loves creativity, museums, or lifelong learning. Subscribe so you never miss an episode, and connect with Dr. Amy Backos on Instagram @DrAmyBackos to share how these five strategies change the way you experience art. Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2199359/support] Explore the Modern Creative Woman Community https://moderncreativewoman.com [https://arttherapycentersf.com/] Free Goodies and Subscribe to the Monthly Newsletter https://moderncreativewoman.com/subscribe-to-the-creative-woman/ [https://mcusercontent.com/53c5579a5feca0090377003c7/files/b4f5b916-6160-01d5-e760-40b1327eac06/Modern_Creative_Woman_Manifesta.pdf] Connect with Dr. Amy on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/dramybackos/ [https://www.instagram.com/dramybackos/]

166. The Opposite of Procrastination is NOT Productivity—It is Persistence

Ask me a question or let me know what you think! [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2199359/fan_mail/new] Why do we procrastinate on the work that matters most? In this episode, Dr. Amy Bakos explores the psychology behind creative avoidance and why procrastination doesn't mean you're lazy—it often means you're deeply invested in what you're creating. Drawing from behavioral psychology, existential psychology, personal stories, and lessons from artists, she shares practical ways to stop judging yourself, build creative stamina, and learn the two skills every successful artist develops: continuing and not quitting. If you've ever found yourself cleaning the kitchen instead of writing, scrolling social media instead of creating, or abandoning projects just before they're finished, this episode will help you understand why—and how to move forward with more self-compassion and persistence. Key Takeaways * Why avoidance often feels worse than doing the work. * The difference between pausing and quitting. * How procrastination can become part of a healthy creative process. * What existential guilt tells us about our values. * Why persistence is a learnable skill—not a personality trait. * The importance of maintaining momentum after reaching a major goal. * How process-focused goals create more lasting motivation than destination goals. * Why creative thoughts ("I'm not good enough") are just thoughts—not facts. * Practical ways to reduce procrastination without relying on willpower. * How imagination, community, and the right materials support creative work. Memorable Quotes > "Artists don't get down to work until the pain of working is exceeded by the pain of not working.""The people who keep making art aren't necessarily more talented—they've learned how to continue.""Persistence and not quitting are two different skills.""I trust I had a good idea when I started.""The goal isn't to have a show. The goal is to be an artist.""Procrastination is part of my process. Judgment doesn't have to be.""The things we admire were often perilously close to never existing." Discussion Topics * Why procrastination is so common among creative people. * Behavioral psychology and avoiding pain. * Existential guilt and living according to your values. * Creative identity versus achievement. * Maintaining stamina after reaching a milestone. * The "run past the finish line" mindset. * Why artists abandon work near completion. * Building a process-oriented creative life. * Using imagination to stay engaged. * Learning to tolerate uncertainty in creative work. Practical Strategies Mentioned * Allow yourself a limited "circling" period before beginning work. * Set a 20-minute timer for procrastination or warm-up activities. * Reduce judgment around your creative process. * Keep reminders of why you started your project. * Celebrate milestones without treating them as the finish. * Stay connected to people who are a few steps ahead of you. * Invest in tools and materials that support your work. * Focus on becoming the kind of person who creates—not simply reaching one achievement. * Practice tolerating uncertainty rather than waiting to feel confident. Books & References * Art & Fear: Observations on the Perils (and Rewards) of Artmaking by David Bayles & Ted Orland * Thomas Edison's persistence in developing the light bulb * Leo Tolstoy's revisions of War and Peace * Concepts from behavioral psychology * Existential psychology and existential guilt Call to Action What are you avoiding right now? Is it really about procrastination—or is it something you deeply care about? Reflect on a project you've completed successfully and ask yourself: * What helped you keep going? * How did you resist quitting? * What practices helped you persist? Share your thoughts with Dr. Amy Bakos on Instagram and continue the conversation about creativity, persistence, and the art of finishing what matters. Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2199359/support] Explore the Modern Creative Woman Community https://moderncreativewoman.com [https://arttherapycentersf.com/] Free Goodies and Subscribe to the Monthly Newsletter https://moderncreativewoman.com/subscribe-to-the-creative-woman/ [https://mcusercontent.com/53c5579a5feca0090377003c7/files/b4f5b916-6160-01d5-e760-40b1327eac06/Modern_Creative_Woman_Manifesta.pdf] Connect with Dr. Amy on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/dramybackos/ [https://www.instagram.com/dramybackos/]

165. Self Conscious? Try Self CONSCIOUSNESS Instead

Ask me a question or let me know what you think! [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2199359/fan_mail/new] Why does being self-conscious often leave us feeling anxious, while self-consciousness can become one of our greatest strengths? In this episode, Dr. Amy Bakos explores the profound difference between these two experiences. Self-consciousness often begins in adolescence, when we become acutely aware of how others see us. While this developmental stage helps us learn social norms and belonging, many women become stuck in coping strategies shaped by criticism, bullying, trauma, sexism, racism, homophobia, ageism, and other forms of marginalization. What if there were another way? Drawing from psychology, philosophy, developmental science, and art therapy, Dr. Amy introduces self-consciousness as a deeper form of self-awareness—one that helps us reconnect with our values, respond rather than react, and create lives rooted in authenticity rather than fear. You'll also learn a simple art-viewing practice that strengthens self-reflection, emotional awareness, and peace of mind. Whether you visit a museum, journal about a favorite artwork, or simply pause to notice your own thoughts, this episode offers practical ways to cultivate a richer relationship with yourself. In this episode, you'll learn: * The difference between being self-conscious and developing self-consciousness * Why adolescence is such a vulnerable period for identity development * How trauma and social pressures can leave us emotionally "stuck" * What philosophy and psychology teach us about the nature of the self * How self-awareness increases emotional flexibility and resilience * Why imagination and empathy deepen self-consciousness * An art-based exercise for strengthening reflection and self-understanding * How greater self-consciousness can lead to more creativity, patience, and peace of mind Reflection Practice The next time you encounter a work of art, pause and ask yourself: * What do I notice objectively? * What thoughts or feelings arise in me? * What is it like to be the person observing this artwork right now? * What does my response reveal about my values, experiences, or current state of mind? Journal your reflections, then read them aloud. Hearing your own words creates another layer of self-awareness and can deepen your insight. If this episode resonated with you, I'd love to hear your thoughts. Connect with me on Instagram and let me know what you discover as you practice becoming more consciously aware of yourself. Thank you for listening to the Modern Creative Woman Podcast. If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe, leave a review, and consider supporting the show to help keep it ad-free. Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2199359/support] Explore the Modern Creative Woman Community https://moderncreativewoman.com [https://arttherapycentersf.com/] Free Goodies and Subscribe to the Monthly Newsletter https://moderncreativewoman.com/subscribe-to-the-creative-woman/ [https://mcusercontent.com/53c5579a5feca0090377003c7/files/b4f5b916-6160-01d5-e760-40b1327eac06/Modern_Creative_Woman_Manifesta.pdf] Connect with Dr. Amy on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/dramybackos/ [https://www.instagram.com/dramybackos/]